Ken Honda

Once again, we experience life according to our beliefs. And some people have better luck than others. And some people work so hard, but they're getting minimum wages. So you have to find your place, your seat, your reserved seat is what I call. A lot of people try to sit on other people's seat. which is wrong because your seat is reserved somewhere else.

And if you don't sit on other people's seat, what happens is that you get so depressed. And then you feel so meaningless, you know, and all that, because you cannot really feel life. But once you sit on your seat, you are so deeply connected with your life purpose, then your magnetism gets turned on.

Yeah, so the only thing is ask your heart. what your heart tells you. If you're excited about it, you're going closer. It's like hot or cold, right? So if you feel more excited about doing this, this is it, this is it, this is it. So you have to have your heart guide you where you're supposed to be. So always listen to your heart. And then if your heart gets excited about certain thing,

you're just getting closer to his seat.

Yeah, so I always try to have a few minutes, say you're waiting for a car, you know, Uber or just waiting for something. I find a few moments and then just try to find my center, you know, and then just go deeper and figure out where I want to go. and just listen to my heart. What does my heart say? Am I excited about this or not? Am I trying to get money?

So I'm not excited, but I have to do this to bring money, food on the table. So I always check what my heart tells me. You're always listening to it.

So I want to be a nice person. So once I said yes, I'll do it. But I try to be very careful with what I say when I say yes. So I have a great team. So they'll just check. They'll check. Because I want to be nice to everybody. So I'm likely to say yes too many times. So my secretary on my team says, Ken, are you sure about this? Yeah, probably not. So can you come up with something?

Well, I'm glad you're here. You didn't reschedule this interview. Yeah. But in general, I'm trying to listen to my heart. That's good. And that led me here.

What would you say to them? So even if you don't believe it, you must be saying something to yourself. This is a terrible day. It's so hot. I don't like this. So subconsciously, you're saying something about your life or about yourself, about your friends or about your clients. Oh, I hate working with this person. Something like that. So I think it's an affirmation by itself.

So just write down what are the things that you say to yourself subconsciously, you can probably figure out. And is that a happy thought? And then unfortunately, a lot of the things that we talk to ourselves are negative. So do you want to feed negative thoughts like this? Or do you want to pour more positive thoughts? You have a choice. But unless you write them down, You never know it.

And then you may find that the reason why you get depressed, because I keep telling you about life. No wonder I feel depressed. So if all the things you talked about you, positive and loving, It's what you get. Yeah, exactly.

What happens? So I have seen so many interesting things. Like when you, if you hoard your money, a few things happen. You get sick and then you have to pay for the medical bills. Really? Yeah. Or like your kids do something bad and then you have to pay for the damage. So money needs outlet. So it's so interesting how money flows.

And if you don't let out your money energies outlet, it's gonna get bad. It's like a pond. If there's no flow, the water gets bad. It's like, think about your health. If you eat, eat, eat, and don't go to the bathroom, what's gonna happen? So to stay healthy, you have to eat right, you have to release right. So for hoarding money, I want to ask them, you're eating so much, but what if you refuse?

I'm not going to go to the bathroom for the rest of my life. Oh my gosh. You'd be sick and explode. And you cannot eat well. So you have to let your money flow and then the next flow comes in. So here comes money EQ, the trust part. Trust is the hardest part of money EQ. You have to have the trust that once you let go of money, it comes back. So you don't have the trust.

That's why you start worrying. That's why you have doubts about yourself. So instead of attaching to your money, you can say, thank you for staying with me, just go bless the world and come back with your friends as soon as possible.

Right, so it's kind of fun, right? Sure. So it's a metaphor. So in your mind, letting go, if you let go fast, it's going to come back fast. So I'm trying to let go of money. Really? Yes.

So that's why I'm so fascinated with couple counseling and sometimes family counseling. We're trying to have balance. That's what's so beautiful about humankind. Somehow the spender gets married with moneymaker. Right. Someone's making all the money and someone loves to spend it all. Right. And so they come in and this person is spending so much money. No, no, you're making too much money.

So you have no time for me. That's why I'm trying to get the stress out by spending money. So you have to have the balance. That's where Zen comes in. Interesting. If you're spending too much, you have to start saving. If you're saving too much, you have to start spending. So the prescription I give to each client is different.

For some people, the savers, I said, withdraw $1,000 and spend it for nothing in 24 hours. They probably freak out like, ah. No, they are okay to the withdrawing part. And so the next few days, a week later, they came back and said, can I withdraw $1,000? I didn't spend it. But I spent like $20. Oh, man. Because they cannot waste their money. It's against their constitution.

I know, so like a moneymaker. Moneymakers, they think, is this a good investment? Yes, yes. So don't think about it because just enjoy the money flow. You can give it to people. You can just, you can throw it right on the floor because somebody's going to pick it up and make somebody very happy. So you can be creative with money.

But we are taught from a young child, that childhood, that you have to take care of money well. Just what if you just throw your $100 bills on the street, what would your mother say? Right. Right? So, but for exercises, I tell people, can you throw away your money? And they show me the expression as if I'm saying, you're going to die in 10 minutes. Wow.

They're going like, you know, so I enjoy it so much.

So they realize how much attachment they had toward money. And it's in here. And by the way, my finding shows that the saver type, the people who have attachment for money tend to have this problem physically. they get constipated. So there is that. So they have a hard time letting go of money, and their waste, their food. Because they're attached to it.

What happens when we are attached to money? I think the flow of energy gets stopped. So if you let go of money easily, the more opportunities come easily. But because you cannot let go of money, you cannot receive. So if you let go easily, the more to come. So those people are losing out opportunities. So say I had a friend in my 20s when I asked him to go out and have some fun.

And he said, no, no, no, I don't want to do that because it's going to cost something. Say, you know, $50 or $100 for a party, right? But just look at what he's missing. He's missing out the opportunity of meeting new people. I met many great mentors by attending very expensive seminars. I attended a $200 seminar. At the time, it felt like a million dollars.

But since I was the only student at the time to attend a business seminar, everybody loved me. So $200. It's so cool that you're here with all these older people and you decided to show up. Let's mentor you. Yeah, yeah. So I was like a little toy. Okay, I want to just play with you. So that was a great investment, for example. So if you let go of money easily, you get so much.

So why don't you think of letting go of money and also as almost like a shopping for your memories? Shopping for memories. Yeah, because I didn't have to fly. I'm going around the world this time. I'm just meeting up a lot of people. It costs some money, right? But by spending so much money on hotels and airplanes, Look what I'm having. I'm having such a great time. Yes.

Yes. So when I'm in a senior home sometime in the future, I think of having this conversation with you and meeting a lot of great people in the world. So I'm full of memories. So if you just have...