Kash Doll

Even like with my sisters, I pour into them. They help me with my kids. I have two sisters and they got my kids now. You know what I'm saying? So in those ways or ways where you could call me and make my day better or you give me good vibes. I got this one friend named Daniel. Oh my God. Every time I see Daniel, he just makes me happy. I enjoy him so much. And it's like...

just little stuff like that it don't have to be you buying me there's something really expensive or it don't have to be what i do for you it just have to be some type of way you pour into my cup yeah you know what i'm saying because i can't i'm not doing that to myself you're not leaving me empty hello so once i seen him that made me realize like oh no

So I had to keep that trim. I had to keep me trim.

I had cars. Cars.

And then all the doors at night. You want to make sure every door you have is maintenance everywhere.

So everything has to be intact. So now you got, it's just, I said, you know what?

And that view. That light. And it was only like $5,000 a month or something at the time. Now it's probably a little bit more. Atlanta went up. But I'm like, wow. And then I just felt like a bachelorette. I was having the time. I got valet on site. Mm-hmm.

It's already in there and it's sexy and it's grown and it's just rich. It's still the life I said, oh, I'm overdoing it. Overdoing it, yeah. I'm overdoing it. Especially for me not to have no kids or a family. I feel like that's when you have a family. And it's a big family and y'all have a couple dollars. And you need that space in different rooms. I feel like that's what mansions are for.

They not for single people. I didn't have not one kid.

Okay.

You should, especially until you have kids. Yeah, it don't make sense. Like, just wait it out. Like, you don't even need that right now. I mean, it's good. It's not good. It's no way I could see because it's so much money into it. If you spend so much money, you're not even really all the way safe. No, you know, because houses is not like my house got broken.

You know, so by yourself, you're a woman.

It's the home of hustlers and pimps and furs and hair.

We are women. We want to be soft. Yes, please. Don't nobody want to feel like, shoot him up, baby. Don't nobody feel like that.

It just makes you feel like that.

what was that like like was it almost just like second nature because that's all you knew that's all i know yeah you know so like think about second nature to you how people could say how are you so positive that's second nature i can't even explain to you how to just be positive like that's just who i am right so it's like that's detroit that's just who i am and that's all i know but as i traveled the world i noticed that

Because you're like, that really happened?

Like, cause you know, sometimes like, man, I... And it's so funny cause we're like the same time. Like as we kicking it, it's like we're in the same...

Same cloth.

But you know Monique really died in real life. no yeah she really died in real life before he moved to atlanta she died that was his first baby mama and she um passed away yeah so i knew that that was going to happen yeah i just wanted to stay a little bit longer because i was having a good time and every time it aired i was like so excited so good because i didn't watch nothing until the air

So I could be surprised and plus not sitting there critiquing myself and just like nervous and have anxiety and want to change stuff. And I can't. So everything was out of my control. So I was like, I'm just going to let this fly.

And I just watched it with the world.

And I like that role. Like Monique was my girl too. Because Monique was a player. Like you got these two men going crazy over you. I'm not mad at her at all. So I ain't mad at Monique. But it was like, you know, she was kind of wild a little bit. She had her little... But it was acting, and it was fun. But I liked that I could go into being ganged on D.R. I was like, yeah.

No, you was that girl boss. Yeah, I loved that. So now I need to be in a movie where I'm shooting up something.

I need to be shooting. I need to be... I need to be rolling around on the ground. Right. Hiding in the car. It's like, I want to do that. Put it out there. It's going to happen. I want to do that. I want to do that. You know, and one time I want to be a crackhead.

And I'm not mad at that because I be wanting to see the range. The range, honey. And just have it fun. I want to look crazy. I want people to see me in a different light.

And not just glammed up all the time and beautiful. Like, see me looking crazy. Like, that girl really can act.

She's crazy.

I did an acting class with Tasha Smith. Oh, I love Tasha.

I did a couple classes with her, but other than that, I didn't do anything, but I'm about to do some more.

Well, more acting. More acting, yes. I'm getting back to it in March. Finishing the works of this tour.

I'm really getting to products. Because I be wanting to sit at home.

Because I have to make money. So if it's between getting on the road, and not making money, I'm getting on a roll. No matter how tired I am, I'm going to get the money. But if I can sit down and make money, I'm doing it. So as soon as I find my niche, I'm going to take that and I'm running with it.

Because I could be at home with my kids, just have me where I build me a warehouse or something on my land.

every place is not like this, you know what I'm saying? Like, you know, it's easier. In Detroit, it's not a lot of opportunities that just come. People not just traveling to Detroit, I mean now, but you have to go get it. You gotta figure it out. And I got it out the mud. I started from, Nothing. And made it into something.

Because I'm going to get a house again. Right. I have kids.

I'm with you. I don't have it now, but eventually I will. Build me something or something, you know. But in the next five years, by the time my son starts school and getting into them activities, it's time for me. I'm going to them games.

So I need to find my way. Without having to move around so much and make their life all complicated.

I feel like after I had both of my kids, for sure.

Like, even knowing that, you know, giving birth, you could, that's high, that's a risk.

Yes, you could, death, life, or death.

And you create life in the process.

So it's like, you know, just knowing that and, you know, overcoming and, you know, coming out on the positive side of things. It was like,

just grateful yeah and i get closer to god and just knowing how he operates and having and getting closer as being more intuitive with him and he's showing me things and it's and it's happening and i'm like wow that was you you told me that yes and it's like it just brings me closer because i know you're real you know because i mean coming up we don't know for sure no come on

But once you start realizing that on your own and you live in this thing called life and you're seeing how it operates with him and it's spiritual, you start to learn like, okay, I gotta get closer, you know? And I still feel like I can be closer.

Yeah.

And I feel everything was going on in the world. It's too much. It's too much. It's like I was thinking about, like, I'm not about to drive to Memphis. I'm going to get on a plane and I'm going on a plane. This plane flipped over.

And it's crazy because it's like, you know what's so crazy? I think that you can speak things into existence and also think it.

When you have that stuff on your brain all day and every day, and you don't want to have this on your brain all day because sometimes it happens when you're just thinking about it and you manifest in it. Yeah. But it's like you can't help when you get on the internet. This is all you see. In your face.

I'm going to have to take that.

Like, I be moving around so much. Like, when I do get a chance to get on there, I be...

You'd be finding out all the new stuff. Like, dang, they got engaged. Oh, she pregnant? Oh, wow. Them boots fly. Right. Limit any sin and stuff. Mm-hmm.

So I'm going to take that.

How many hours?

And that's why they take our heartbreaks and stuff and make fun of it because they're like, oh, she got her heart broken too. It's like, I'm human just like you.

It's a light at the end of the tunnel. And trust the process because God do not play about his children. And that get back, the God get back is different from the get back you do. So don't even try it.

Just let it be. Pray. Get in your back. Put your energy into yourself and your back. and let God handle the rest.

And you just be sitting there like, look how that unfolded. And by the time it unfolded, you are over it. So you not even living in the, no, You really feel bad for them. Yes, yeah. You know, don't do nothing intentional that's ill. That's so good. Have pure intentions at all times, you know, so that God can take care of it. Don't do nothing with ill intentions.

Let him take care of it because he do it the best, baby. He do it the best. I love God.

You know why I'm gonna say invest in myself? Because the more you invest in yourself, you can invest in real estate.

Property deeds.

I'm gonna go with that. I'm gonna, yeah, because... That's both, but that helps get that. Exactly.

That's a tough one. Wigs or lashes?

Forever in life?

I'll probably say wigs. Just because we can still do bundles and quickweaves and stuff like that.

We can keep our lashes.

You see, they're doing clusters now.

That might be good. That might mean, like, less. And it don't take a lot of time.

Do you like last extensions? I've never done that. I did it one time, and my eyes was bloodshot red. Oh, my goodness. So I never did it again, like pus coming out my eyes. So I only can do strips.

Oh, yeah, nah.

Let me ask you this. Do lashes grow back?

Huh, like of all time?

Early mornings on a business call because it gets the structure right. Yes. You got to get, okay, what I'm doing, what I'm doing.

But it's like a weekend, I want to have a good time. Well, B probably a good time, too.

I'm both, I'm both, I'm both. It depends on how you disrespect me. See, like, it be things going on on the internet right now that I don't say nothing about until you said something about my kid. Uh-oh. Yeah. So now it's on the closet.

Oh, Aaliyah.

But I'm not about to tweet. I'm not about to make a video. I'm going to say something on stage, or I'm going to say it to where it makes sense for me. Right. You know? Because I ain't tolerating no disrespect. Hello. And especially about my kids.

What? That is my number one favorite.

That's my number one favorite artist of all time.

Aaliyah.

Heels.

No ambition. That's good. Because credit, we can fix that.

We'll figure it out. But the no ambition, like, how am I going to get you out? That's tough. How are we going to get you out of the house? Like, you got to have that.

She was so effortless.

What are we talking about? I can't answer that. Yeah. Because I want love and attention, too. I love love and attention. But you got to give me a gift. You have to. That makes me so happy. And we make our own money. So it's not like you're giving me something I can't get myself.

So buy me something. Don't make me feel like I'm the trick. Right.

Swag was just so fire. Yes. Beautiful. She didn't have to do much. She didn't have to show much. She just was herself and just... That's so true. Aaliyah is my favorite of all time.

Once it's over, it's over.

I might wish it could be cool, maybe.

I mean, sometimes it haven't happened. Okay, good.

You said slightly toxic or just toxic?

Like a little bit of toxic?

nothing no like okay he cared is toxic care though like i think what what are they what is toxic like a good time toxic or like cheating and stuff no not cheating and stuff oh toxic and rich okay i am rich i can't deal with it i can't yeah i mean well i'm not rich i do good for myself i don't even like saying that but it's like I do so good for myself.

I just don't want somebody next to me that just can't even do it for themselves like I could do for myself. And I feel bad doing myself because I just have to be myself. And I can't be myself if I'm around someone that just don't have nothing. Like broke is broke. Yeah, yeah. But you're loyal to me because you're broke. Broke. It's like I don't even want nobody feeling comfortable being broke.

Yeah, that's where the ambition comes in. Yeah, like I don't. No, don't be broke around. No, absolutely not. It's not going to work. Don't do it. Do not aim this high.

I better laugh. I want to be laying in the bed screaming. That'll make him fine. That'll make him fine. I want to be in the bed like, ah, ah, ah. I'm too goofy because I'm goofy. Yes. And then you have to be making some power moves. Yeah. Some moves.

And it motivates you too. I want a man that inspire me. Mm-hmm. Motivate me. We do a lot in life on our own. It's like the person that you land with and giving yourself to, you want to be able to look at them like, wow, that's amazing.

Thank you.

So coming up and I'm seeing her, I'm like, I could do that. But I don't know if I could do that.

I'm coming back. Let me know when you get that condo out here. We're going to go outside a little bit. Let's go hang

I had a good time.

Listen, that is my girl. She really helped me just even have that inspiration of coming out of Detroit. Oh, I could be that girl. So Aaliyah of all time. Yes. Rihanna.

Rih is my girl. We be in the DMs talking. Girl, that is my girl. I love it. That's amazing. Who else I like? As far as dreaming. Her. Her.

See, you sound like all these R&B.

Yes, I love R&B. That's what I listen to. Oh, wow.

I can't listen to nobody. I don't, I can't, especially not other female rappers.

And it ain't even that I, I don't like them. I can't listen to them because I get a studio like I got like right now. I like that song, Brokey. Oh, yeah. I mean, it's still like Brokey. I might catch myself wanting to say this. You're like, no, that's not yours. You know what I'm saying? So I don't even listen to them so that I could just stay on track with myself.

But like as far as female rappers, I like Cardi. Love Cardi. Yeah. I like all of them. I like Meg. I love glow. Baby. Come on. Tennessee.

Um, I love lotto. Sex.

I like to do a whole like collaboration. I love that. I'll do that. Like for sure. But, um, And then the fact that we live in a time where so many female rappers and it never been like this. It's just like, dang, it's like we live in history. Literally. It's a new way. Yeah. And to know that I was at the top of the pyramid when it first started. Yes. It wasn't a lot of girls before I came out.

So it's like, dang, man, it's just to know that I'm a part of a wave like that is crazy.

At my shows, I be looking like, wow.

It's so diverse.

How did you feel to have that reach? Yeah. I don't know. You know what? This tour is really helping me realize who I am.

Because I've been in clubs and just like doing little quick shows. Sometimes I do festivals or whatever the case may be, but they're here to see multiple artists. Yeah. These people are here to see me. So it's like when I'm seeing these people in the crowd and like little young kids and like I said, it's very diverse and people with my shirts on and hats and signs, I'm like.

And it's like, wow.

It's very, it's just mind-blowing. Yeah. It is. I'm not even going to lie. It is.

You know, and then to be off tour, I mean, like, where I'm on tour, and then, like, the days I do have off, I'm just slumped.

And it's like, you know, finding that balance with being a mom. That's why my son is here.

Oh, my God. It's just.

I don't. No. God?

It's nobody else but God. I just let it go and let God just help me. You know, I want to be the best mom I could be. You know, I want to be the best artist I could be. I want to be the best woman I could be for myself.

You know, I want to wake up and remember to take my vitamins. and to do my skin routine and to exfoliate. But when you're on a rush, you're going, going, going, going, going, going, going. Those things fall, by the way. Some things fall short.

And don't have a man.

That's another kid.

That needs that attention, that love, and nurturing that relationship, too. You have to nurture all the relationships in your life. Yeah. And I tell people all the time, like, you have to make sure that you prioritize them all.

Because, you know, like, I feel like some people get in relationships and they just prioritize that. Yeah. And everything goes far short. And then when that relationship don't work, they're searching and looking for people to help. And it's like if you prioritize everything, I mean, of course, when it's over, it's still a hurt. But you still have those same people.

And you've still been nurturing all your relationships. And they're still there. Yeah. You dropped that ball. Now you trying to go find other people. Come back. I need y'all. I'm going through something. Yeah, they're like, no. Come with me when you're going through something. Yeah, right. You forgot about us. You forgot about me when you was all lovey-dovey. Uh-huh. Talk about it.

You know what I'm saying? Like, when you was all head over heels.

No, that's you. That is you. That's us. We matching. We got our leather on.

Forget about it. Y'all will never see me. I'm with my man. Goodbye. See you later. Literally, yes. Girl, and then when he done pissed you off, you calling your friends, they like, nah. Yeah, what you doing? I miss you.

And then...

yeah and then it helped the relationship last longer i feel like yeah yeah it's like when you miss them you know you got other things to do y'all like scheduling and trying to be together it's like when you get together that time just yes it count like you gotta make it count you know You gotta make it count.

The vibrations.

They're high.

Today was supposed to be that day, but then they said you.

Oh, okay. We're making a session today. And to that, I say thank you.

But Cash, I want to go to Chuck E. Cheese, and I haven't took him in a couple weeks.

Oh, it doesn't stop. And then tomorrow, I have to go to New Orleans. And then after New Orleans, I have to go to Memphis. And then after Memphis, I have to go to Dallas. And then after Dallas, I got to go to Houston.

They don't see that. Then in all these places, I have to make sure that my hair and makeup is on point.

I have to make sure my outfit is on point for the stage. I have to make sure that I remember to pack all this stuff. Because if you leave one shoe, that messes up everything. Everything. Right? Because you're moving. You're moving out of this car to this printer to this hotel to this. And then you got kids. My daughter need her diaper changed. She need a bottle right now.

Cash didn't want to get on the airplane. He just fell down the stairs. Now I got to stop everything I'm doing. What happened, Chuck? Then my manager's on the phone. You have to be here in five minutes.

I'm like, yes, we're going to go somewhere positive.

I'm like that tree, like, when it's a storm, that's just still. I sit real quiet, and I just be like. I would sit there and I would just let all the chaos go. And while the chaos is going, I'm already calculating it all.

Then when it's over, I'd be like, all right, so this is how we're going to do this. I need all y'all to get in line. This is how we're going to do this. This is the only way this is going to work. And then it works. That's God.

Listen, you're in a safe place.

My best friend and my big sister. I let it out with people I love. I know eventually I will get a therapist. I don't think nothing's wrong with it.

Because they got a best friend. Hello, girl.

I came in here. Stress the... You should have seen her slumped.

I have my sisterhood.

Sisterhood is so important. for us women.

And I don't know how women do wrong by their girls because I need my friends. I need them. It's not even a want or it's a need to be able to pull up and let it all out. Yes. You know, and then walk away like, oh, I just dropped the load on her. And she couldn't wait, you know, because she is there for you as a recipient. So I love that, you know, that helps.

My kids, you know, just seeing them having a good time. And then when I'm getting dressed and getting fly, I love that type of style.

Mm-hmm.

Eating.

But I was about to say something else, but I'm going to keep it positive.

I did it all the way up until I had my first child. And that's what I said, OK, our bets are off. I have my own responsibility here. Absolutely. You know what I'm saying?

Growing up in Detroit, I mean, it's bittersweet. I don't even remember if it was bad or not because we made it great, me and my siblings. My mom had five of us at 21. I'm the oldest of six right now. Wow. And we had each other. We didn't have much, but we had each other. And I can't complain about my upbringing in Detroit. Detroit is Detroit though.

And then especially when you find yourself pouring, pouring, pouring, pouring into people and it's not reciprocated in no kind of way, you know, because some people might not be able to pour into you the same kind of way or it might not be.

cost right some kind of way and that's okay make it reciprocal like make it make sense you know because then if i'm pouring you can't pour back into me now i'm empty porn i have nothing left i have nothing left and i feel like that's not fair right so i only pour into people and and it's not like intentional but i pour into people that i feel reciprocation from yeah like

It's always calling. Thank you. Y'all, I really take pride in that. I do. So I appreciate that because sometimes I think, well, lately I've been noticing, haven't been going unnoticed, you know, because I'm seeing it way more now. Yeah. But I used to be like, oh, well. You know, that's what they like, you know?

They don't like what I have to bring to the table. It's fine. It's fine, but this is me. This is genuinely me, you know? And like I told y'all, like, from 15, I was buying shoes, you know? I like outfits. I sit there and I put this stuff together all day, every day. I... I know, oh, I want to have this color next week. Or best friend, she'll send me a goddamn load of Mink Brazilian.

Shout out to Mink Brazilian. Yes. She has sent us some hair. I said, finally. Listen. I'm going to have that cashed on. Yes, it really is. It's the best hair.

You just accept things for what it is. Mm-hmm. And you find a way to live through that. Right. You know, because one thing about life, something's always going to be happening. Everything. So once you realize how to live life with things happening all the time, that's when you start living. Yep. Because that shit ain't going to stop. Right. You know what I'm saying? It's always something.

Yeah, you had curly.

I had straight. And we had a really big episode to record. We was recording with Lil Yachty. And y'all waited for that one. Mm-hmm. So I went, I got my hair done. I showed up. Me too, yeah. Yeah, okay. I was like, I can't sell me now.

Okay. Can't talk about me now, bitch. So where did you get it at Quick Weaver? So I ended up, she gave me the bundles, and then I ended up ordering a closure. So I had got like a little unit made. I still got it. I was about to say, them units. Listen, last forever. Hello. Even like the burgundy one I just had on like probably like a week or so ago.

That's an old, I'm talking about like two, three years old. Yes. But I rinsed it, re-rinsed it. Put that boy back on and listen. Fresh. Good as new. Fresh. I know my hairstylist hate to see me come with a picture of Cash Doll. Give me this. This is what I want. The cash doll. Give me this.

Give me the bangs.

Was it the curtain bangs? The curtain bangs. I said, give me this. Right now. Give me that right now. And you know what? It's also like knowing how to keep it up. Yeah, that too. It's a way that you keep your hair up. If you don't have silk pillowcases and silk sheets, beat it. Beat it. That cotton going to dry that hair out. It's going to make it flat when you lay on it.

When you lay on that silk, you won't even get creases in it. You won't get creases in your hair, even if you don't get a chance to put it up. Mm-hmm.

Drea, like y'all remind, because Drea is the same way. She's very like, but you know what? I already had to deal with DC yesterday. Don't come in here with that. I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I'm taking my tips, bitch.

Drea know me.

I'm not mad at that. I'm not mad at that. I'm actually happy.

Yeah, me too.

It's okay. Yeah. But we get to a point where it's always there. It's always there. Because practice make perfect. I'm 10% cash. Give me that. I'm coming for nine. What? She's talking about 10. Because you know what? I think that when I'm on, I'm so on. Yeah. That when I'm off, I'm so off. Yeah. Like, I'm talking about, I might just look like, who is that? Yeah.

I be, it's like homeless to bad bitch. Yeah. It's no in between with me. It's no in between. It's homeless to bad bitch.

It's always pretty much something. Yep. It's always throwing a curveball at you.

Yeah, my homeless is really homeless. Girl, I wonder what your homeless look like. Because if you're homeless, y'all... Because they probably don't look homeless.

Dre, I know what my homeless look like. She like, what my homeless look like. She's like, well, it don't give homeless. I know it don't. I know it don't. Y'all don't understand. Only time it don't give homeless is if my real hair is out and it ain't braided down. Yeah. But when that hair braided down, it's homeless. I don't care what nobody say. I let them lie to me.

When that hair is braided up and the wig breaks, boo-bye. It's giving home love. Y'all know that scene? What scene? It's in Cadillac Records when Beyonce was Etta James and she was crying and she had that little short wig and she was like, that's how I be living. Oh, yeah, yeah, okay.

But that's because you be having, she be having her braid too, but then I don't know what be going on at the front. It just be a whole bunch of hair.

So it's like once you just get jiggy with the fact that, you know, that's what make life creative.

In certain areas. Just know your lane and stay there. Yeah. You know, you can grow with different things. That's one thing about that damn Kendra. That is a perfectionist. Really? I mean, you can tell. Yeah. Her daughter. Let me tell y'all something about this damn Kendra. I used to be like, I'm outside. We're not going to prom. Come on. Oh, yeah.

It's like you just got to look at it like, oh, that's creative. You know, it is what it is. And then just keep on pushing. So I'm fine right now. I'm in a very good space. Good, because you look good. You look amazing.

Now, I'm leaving.

And then, as soon as she come outside, I'm like, I want to be... She be like, you want to see what I got? I don't know. I want to be surprised. No.

I start doing this thing when we be, like, out of town and she be getting dressed, I'll just walk out the hotel, like, I'll stand in the hotel door and just, like, open the door. Let her know, like, come on, come walk out.

She'll still be in the mirror taking her time.

It shows, yeah. We'll get to a point where we just telling each other how good we look. Yeah. You is. You killing it. You did that. Yeah.

Okay, so I have a question real quick. Okay, go ahead. So, of course, I did my research. So, you went to college for a little bit. Yeah, Henry Ford Community College. Yes, I saw that. So, what was your pivotal point that made you be like, okay, you know what? I'm not doing this no more. Like, I want to be a performer. That's my dream. I'm going to chase my dream and my goals. One... You know what?

I leave whatever don't serve me no more. And when I'm there and I'm just, I'm forcing myself. Like, what I tell people, I don't never force myself. I might apply some pressure, but I'm not forcing nothing. If it's just not there, it's not there because I'm not going to give it my all no more. Right. And once that left and I was so into making fast money, I was so into making money.

That's all I knew, y'all. You know what I'm saying? I was like, nah, this ain't it. This ain't it. And I just, you know, I'm paying people that did do it. Right. Because, you know, it's jobs for them. And they're great at what they do. Yeah. It wasn't for me. Like you said, it's a lane for everybody. I know it's for me, and I know it ain't.

What were you trying to go to school for?

I did business management. Okay, okay. That makes sense. Yep, business management. Yep, I did that. I was in there for like two, three years.

Yeah.

This is so fancy. We got a little budget. We got to work on a little something now. Ah, you different. Mm-hmm. Let me get, let me sip me a sip of this. I need that. We be saying ice, y'all, but we talking about the cubes. We ain't there with the diamonds.

Look, I got my baby ice on. I'm working on it.

We almost there. We almost there. Okay, I was going to ask you that.

Thank you so much, Ty. This is delicious, per usual. Can I get another one? Yes. Another one.

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I don't know if you've seen it, like for the past few weeks, because you did an appearance on Baddies. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Like, was it kind of like, okay, this is not as bad as people think it is? Or was it, like, shocking? To be honest, I didn't know what I was walking into. Okay. But you never watched the show. Yeah. I didn't know what I was walking into. I know the girls, like, some of the girls I like, like Natalie and Tzatziki. Right. You know, I... A few of them. I know a few of them.

I think I do know, because my best friends. Yeah, Kendra gave us some hair. Yeah, she asked me one time to come on here. I'm like, I will be at, but I'm going to wait until it's time for me to come on there. Like when I need something. She was like, okay, I'm going to tell them. I'm like, because I seen Ropey came on payroll. I call him Ropey. But I see he came on here.

So I've seen them on the internet and my sister actually watched the show. So she was like, Keisha, you know that, you know, it go down. And I'm like, I mean, I'm sure I've seen fights. I'm from Detroit. You know what I'm saying? And I used to fight. I haven't fought in I don't know how long. You used to fight? When I had to. Girl, when I had to. You the same. Yeah, I did.

Oh, I ain't gonna tell y'all. I'm gonna just give y'all a look. I went to jail because of Kendra before. Oh. That Kendra? Oh, she a fighter too. So I'm just all I'm going to say, I ain't going to put my girl Ben's stuff there, but that one right there, I had to turn myself in because of her. But we're going to leave that there. We're going to leave that there.

So I wasn't aware of, you know, like the reasoning. Like I know a fight like when you got to. You're going to do what you got to do and protect yourself. But it was just so much. Yeah. It was so much. You know what I'm saying? And I just... It was just us women, us black women on there. Mm-hmm. Just doing that for no reason.

To the girl that didn't do nothing to you. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And that's just the only part. Like, I don't even want to speak on it, you know? I feel you. They gave... They did what they did. Yeah. I appreciate them. Right, right, right, right. And I didn't know I was going to get captured like that. Yes. Because every time you was like this. Yeah. You was like... You was like...

You know... You couldn't hide... So you don't have a poker face. I don't. Because I was like... And that's what all my friends were saying. You do not have a poker face at all. Because you was like... You were clutching that Birkin. You were just like, oh my God, what is going on? I think sometimes it's just going to show on your face automatically even when you think you hiding it. Yeah.

You can't fake it. And it was just like, oh, what the hell?

I seen the clip. She don't belong. When I seen the clip of me, y'all, I was like, oh, wow. Yeah. I look like one of those women that just. Oh, my goodness. Who said that? Who said that? You was definitely clutching your eyes.

Not the pearls, huh? Not the pearls. And then, you know, my girl went on there, Jasmine Renee. She is funny.

No, she's hilarious. That's one of them. I always think about her when she said 42 Doug and his big booty. That damn Jasmine. I'll be like you. Like, I always tell her stuff like, you is disobedient. Like, this is the conversations we have. And she just be like, what, Kyle? What'd I do, Kyle? Like, I ain't do it, Kyle. Like, yes, you did.

I still on the phone with this girl for an hour giving her advice. Great advice. She'll get off the phone with me and go do the total opposite. Yeah. And I'll be like, Jasmine. Why did you just... Don't call me for nothing else. Yeah, and I said, don't call me for nothing else. She called me next week about some shit. But she's on there right now.

So yeah, y'all talking about that time? Yeah. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah. He did the live show.

So, you know, that was the reason why I was like, okay, I'm going to go. You know, it was like a... To support. To support my friend. Yeah. It all worked out because she's on there and shit. And we had a good... It was cool. It was cool. I like that. Okay, that's why I had to ask the people. You know, the people was wondering. People have been asking.

They've been wanting me to respond to that, too. And I'm just like, I'm going to leave it where it's at because I don't look down on nobody.

And the clip, basically, we was talking about baddies, and we was just saying how we don't watch the show.

Because we've been doing this show for a long time. It's been, like, six years. We started off on my—one of the bedrooms in my apartment, we started off recording on the floor. Hmm. No, congratulations to the pop-ups. It started from the bottom, literally.

They dream chasers, too. I was like, y'all be getting a little too... They be invested. It's not they dream chasers, too. I mean, they be... But they are... I guess, for me, like I said, once I seen, like, a clip on Twitter, because they always go viral on Twitter, I seen somebody's tooth fell out. I seen it. I seen it right here. Yeah, I thought... I seen somebody's tooth get knocked out.

I seen somebody's piece of braid get pulled off their scalp. At the audition? Yes. I'm telling you, it's very... It's a difference between, like, fighting, but it's very rough.

It's like hurting each other. It's very, very violent. And don't get me wrong. If a person is defending their self or it's a reason behind it, you kind of look at it different. But when it's, like, just because that's why we here, it's like, damn. But they said Zeus be paying. They ain't paying on no check. That check. That's what, because one of the girls, they went on live and they said $75,000.

For the season? I don't know what she was saying.

She said $75,000. I'm going to tell y'all, shout out to Zeus. They paying.

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Do you feel like sometimes they deserve that and you need to let the world know how he's treating you? Or do y'all believe in just moving on gracefully?

Okay. A little balance. We're going to get, we're going to be a little creative. Yeah. Okay. And this is why I say this. I wouldn't go to the internet. Okay. Telling all my business. Right. That's one thing. But he going to know how I feel. Yeah. You know, because some people need to know how it, how that makes you feel. It need to impact. Mm. You need to leave an impact.

That's how Houston is, too, though. What? Detroit? And every time I come to Houston, it's a time of my life, baby.

Some people, for them to change, even not even for me, for the next bitch. Right. For the next person you get that's of some type of value, you need to know not to do that. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Or for the next woman, you know, your kids or whoever, you need to learn from that. Because I feel like moving on gracefully, people take advantage of that if they're not a good person.

That's true. You know what I'm saying? You're moving on gracefully. They'll take advantage, like, okay, yeah, cool. Next victim. Right.

But there'll still be women that'll be like, oh, I don't care. He used to fuck with Cash, though. I'm finna get on with him. Oh, yeah, okay. Oh, I feel like they not gonna have the same result. Yeah. Oh, he used to fuck with Dre.

I'm a fire sign. But sometimes people be having that fucked up. Yes. I'm not against crashing out. Right. Let's be 100% clear. Yeah. Because when people do crash out, I'll be like, that's how you felt. Yeah. On that shit. It is what it is. You can't take it back. Now moving forward, how would you handle it? You know what I'm saying? You see how that made you feel. You crashed out.

You know, because even when I announced my breakup, you know, some people was like, you don't even do that. You don't come on the internet. And I was like, I felt like that at the time. I don't take it back. And it is what it is. Yeah.

What was going on, you know what I'm saying? I didn't go on there and say, yeah, my baby daddy this and he this, da-da-da-da-da, or this what happened and this is the bitch and da-da-da-da-da. I didn't do all that. Oh, it is. It was just, I'm just going... Get away from me. No. Like, I don't want to get the cash commandments too hard. Cash, like, that's why they filling me up with this champagne.

Yeah, because now I'm about to just tell it off. Fuck it. You know, but no, no, it wasn't. No, I get what you were saying.

I get what you were saying.

It was just, me and my baby dad, we just, you know, I think we just grew apart. Yeah. And that happens. You know, and we really, it's healthy. Mm-hmm. We graceful. I just want him to be a great dad to my kids. That's it. At this point, you know, I don't think we just mentally are in the same.

no really they love her in detroit they do love you in detroit and they be trying to play us they be trying to lowball us with the bookings and some yes girl but oh no you know they they feel like that's home yeah and i think that's what anybody at home they're gonna try out but i know y'all are y'all dope thank you we had a time in detroit i could not

Yeah.

And women need to see that. Yeah. Yeah, and I kept going. I didn't, you know. You didn't skip a beat. Yeah, and I'm not acting like I don't give a fuck. Right. I'm hurt.

I had two kids with somebody. Right. Of course, I thought that that was going to be it. You know what I'm saying? Of course, I didn't want it to go that way. Right. I wouldn't have had the kids. Right. You know what I'm saying? So I'm not about to be the bitch on there and trying to act tough. And no, my heart got broken too. I'm human like you. Yeah. Things happen. It's time to go on, you know?

And it's no hard feelings. Right. I'm not trying to do nothing to tarnish that man. None of that, you know. It is what it is.

It's crazy because I was having a conversation with my friend the other day. And she's going through a breakup or whatever. And she was telling me, she was like, yeah, I'm going out tomorrow. I'm going outside.

I'm not bothered. I'm having fun. I said, this is a problem. Because you shouldn't be going out to show him nothing. If you're trying to move on. If you're trying to heal. Yes. If you're trying to heal. Yes.

And get it out. And be honest. Be vulnerable. It's okay. You know how many other people can relate to that? Everybody's not fake tough. It's okay. You got your heart broken. You got let down. You got cheated on too. You got this. It's okay. It's okay. Life goes on. He'll face the problem. Face it. Don't drink it. Don't get drunk with it. I'm going to be in your section crying.

Don't invite me to the club when I'm saying it. You're going to cry in the section?

Okay, no, when that song come on, all bets are off. All bets are off. Yeah, you gotta turn up. I feel like that. I'm still crying. I ain't got no... And then, oh, and Fuck My Baby Daddy by Sexy Red. Listen, they're my songs right there, but when the slow songs come on, I'm looking at everybody.

See, I'm a real cry.

But then it hit different, too, than in the club, than when you in the car and then come on. Oh, my God.

It just didn't work out.

That ain't got nothing to do with it. That was never the case.

It's the worst when you posting for him and he don't look. And then you got like an hour left before the story. Man, I get so many damn viewers. I wouldn't even, I don't even, man.

Y'all, I be such in a place like, healing for me is really like, and not even talking about my situation with my child's father anymore. Like, you know, that is what it is. Right. I'm this way, right? So, but it's like, even for me, when I'm going through things, I kind of just get it out my way. Yeah. Out of sight, out of mind. I take pictures down. I don't want to follow.

I don't want to see you. I don't want you to see me. I'm not even looking to see. I don't want it. Because it's like, yeah, it's like that's when it's out of sight, out of mind, and I'm focusing on... Healing and facing what did God want to teach me in this situation? Because everything is a lesson. Everything that happens to you, that touches you, that hurts you, or they even make you happy.

Yeah. It was such a good time. And they play a lot. Yeah. They funny.

It's like, it's lessons in every blessing, you know? And I be learning, I be trying to focus on what is God trying to teach me? Why did I go through that? Why am I, why? You know what I'm saying? And trying to focus on, okay, Moving forward, what could I do better?

You know what I'm saying? It's never us.

You know what I'm saying? But just you as a woman, what could I do better as a woman, as a mother, as a boss, as an entrepreneur? It's like, what could I do better to just make myself feel better? And I get in my bag of just bettering myself. I don't go rush to another nigga. I'm not rushing to go be outside. See, my job is being outside, but I get paid to be outside.

She is. I love a girl's girl. That is my heart. I know. I love that girl right there. That girl right there. Has my heart. Yeah. That is my soulmate friend. That's my soul. I love her. That girl. I get emotional sometimes. Really? She's who she is. She's her. She seems like she has good vibes. What? And very genuine.

I'm putting all that energy into my craft. Instead of putting that energy into trying to show a motherfucker anything that they already know. Right, I mean. It's like, I'm going to put. Everybody sees it, everybody. Everybody know what's up, you know. And it's like, I just put my energy where it's going to benefit me in the long run. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. What's up, y'all?

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Whoever heard me. Are you dating? And I was going to ask you. I'm open. You open? I was going to ask you. I'm open to dating. I mean, I'm single. Yeah.

That's what I got yesterday. I came over here and now here you go. Now here she go. And you know who you remind me of? Who? That was this bitch been my friend since 2015. Be Simone. You know what? People tell me that a lot. People say that all the time. They tell me that a lot. That girl right there, me and that girl used to be in the car crying, laughing for no reason.

Like, you are a fucking idiot. That's how I be feeling about her. She's crazy. She's got to be Simone. People tell me that a lot. I love B. B got that energy. And she from Texas, too. Yeah, she's from Dallas. She is from Texas. So, how tall are you?

I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

Well, no, I was going to ask you. So, are you one of those people, when you done with a relationship, you done, like, you absolutely not spinning the block? Or do you be spinning the block? Okay, first off, I'm 5'6". Okay. Do I spend a block? I haven't. You haven't? No, like... She said, I heard that yet under your breath. Do you think it's different now that you got kids? Maybe. You know what?

Because I do like familiar. Okay. I do like familiar... Well, I'm not going to say I ain't spending.

I'm not talking about... I wasn't talking about him. I'm just talking... I'm saying in general, y'all.

I didn't say that neither. I'm saying... She said, hold on, bitch. Both you hold. You know what, God damn it? It's in general.

But she don't let everybody in her space because she's so genuine. It's like, I don't feel like she could spread herself like that.

The block can get spun. It can sometimes. From a certain level of where I was at in my life when I dated you because it's certain quality.

And it's got to be a certain amount of growth, right? Yeah. That happened when we were apart. So I could give you the conversation. It isn't what you do with it.

Nobody. No. I'm just having a good time. Okay. That's fair. She focused on her. She focused on healing. On healing. You know what I think I mean? Well, whatever. I don't know. Like you said, it kind of is what it is.

You know what I'm saying? Everybody is not available. They can't be in Kendra's space.

But I also know, like, my faith is so strong. What's meant for me is not going to miss me. Exactly. And you see how I said, you always learn something.

You learn something for every relationship. Yes. Just learn how to... move forward. You learn how, okay, you learn what you want now. You learn what you don't want. You learn what you can tolerate. Because now you've been through it. And experience is the best teacher. I don't feel like, you know, somebody telling you things, somebody that you really look up to, yeah, that could teach you too.

But when you actually feel that shit, it's a difference. Yeah. So I think that's why I said what you said. Like, you know, you got to go through the process. And that's when you figure out That is a deal breaker. That I can deal with at long ass or he has to be like this. And that's when you get to your husband. It's practice.

But when you in it, it's a time. Yeah. It's a time.

It's like you get to your husband by going through, and it sounds crazy, but we're here. We're human. We have feelings. Feelings are meant to be hurt. People are meant to be date. Money is meant to be spent. Kids is meant to be had. You know what I'm saying? That's life, right? But through that process, you learn what you want in that one. That husband, you're going to be a good wife.

You think so?

At church.

That's it. You show up. Oh. You know what I'm saying?

We met at church. We were young. Mm-hmm. Still young. Coming out of middle school. And she always had her hair done and fly, and I always just fly, but I need her to do my hair. That's who started doing my hair. And we used to, our way of, like, feeling each other, I was like, I like your shoes. And she'll walk past me like, oh, I like your shirt. And I'm like, thank you, thank you.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And that's the thing.

People make relationships their life. Yes. They do. That's not your life. Mm-hmm. That's another part of your life. Right? You have to prioritize everything in your life. Mm-hmm. And, you know, it's like everything, you can't neglect these. Because if I neglected that, my kids would show. It would show. You know what I'm saying? So it's like you have to prioritize everything in your life.

And that wasn't just my life. It was a part of my life, and I did give a lot to it. But, you know, when it's gone, it's not a big void that you have to fill when you prioritize everybody. My best friend relationship, my mother and my sisters and my son and my business – All of it was so prioritized well to where when that void is gone, I'm not just lost.

I'm not lost.

Because I don't have nothing else to do. Everything is important to me. Not just this person because that's who I'm fucking. Because you prioritize all of the relationships. All of the relationships. Like I said earlier, you got to nurture all your relationships because it's important. Yes. Because when this go, now what? Now you running back to everybody that you want. That's how it be.

No, you got to prioritize that. So now it's not, and I'm not acting like I don't care about a relationship because I don't want to give him so much, you know, because it is what it is and it's where it's at. But when, like, you know, you're going through these things, it's so important to just, it is what it is.

And everything else, you know, going to stay nurtured.

You should have you a B-D-B. Apple bit, boy. Okay. Always.

You think they be crashing out over that though? Yes. I always feel like if you get to a level of crash out... You really love that nigga. No, a lot of times people are... Okay, so what is crash out? I crashed out one time on the internet. One time.

The girl, okay. You look like somebody, too. Who do I look like? I know what she gonna say. I wanna see if she gonna say what everybody say. Yeah. Give me... Let's keep talking. Okay. It's always two people, but... Don't say it. Don't say it. I'm not going to say who it is, but mostly one person. Because I think it's Jada. Yeah. That's what everybody says. Yeah. Everybody.

It's like a B. Simone and a Jada, but y'all beautiful. Thank you. Y'all y'all in person. Thank you. Y'all y'all in person. They'll get me wrong, but I'm looking at you and as you're talking, I'm like...

And the next day, we'll see each other, and I'll be like... I like your shoes. She was like, I like your pants. And I'm like, thank you. And then one day I was like, I like your hair. She was like, I did it. I'm like, really? I'm like, can you do my hair? She's like, yeah, come over. I went over to that girl's house. We've been best friends every single time. We were stuck like this.

It's so funny, too, because we just went on Jada and Des' podcast at Normal a few weeks ago.

And girl, the comments, because people already be under our comments saying it all the time. People already be under her comments saying it all the time. But when they finally seen us both on camera at the same time, that's all the comments was saying. Okay, yeah. No, beautiful. Thank you. I'm going there after. Really? Yeah. Okay, that's the stuff. Yeah, they fun. We'll have a good time.

Okay, cool.

And then this girl that he was dating, I thought she was like dirty macking on me. Like, she had got cool with this girl that I knew. Dirty work. Was finding out stuff that I was telling the girl that I thought I was friends with about him. Was going back telling him that he was lying to me about his relationship with her. So, girl, when we first started this podcast, it was probably like 2018.

We did an episode and I talked about the nigga. And I said his name and everything. I said the bitch's name.

I was saying everybody... I was saying everybody ain't shit. Mind you, back then, nobody was listening to the show. We probably had like a thousand listeners, if that. So I obviously ended up going and deleted it. But I really crashed out of it and it good. And I regretted it afterwards because...

Although I accomplished what I wanted to accomplish in the moment because my feelings were hurt and I called everybody out and I made everybody look stupid. That's not even my character, though.

Like, I showed you how much you affect me. And that's why when she asked me that earlier, I said... it's a mixture of crashing out and, but it's like crashing out where that nigga can feel it. Yeah. Fuck the internet. They ain't going to do nothing but spread your business and laugh.

Me talking about it because I be messy. I be on TikTok talking about everybody.

That nigga going to feel it.

Yeah.

Now, if anything got crashed out on a nigga and he take it to the internet, that's you. You did that. Yeah.

Yeah.

You gonna feel it, though, bitch. And that's normally how I was, too, but I don't know. I was just so mad at him. But it was her. I was hurt. Because you got played away with a bitch telling your business that you thought was cool, him, her. You ain't knowing what's going on, you know? You human. And had you ever dated somebody...

Have you ever dated somebody that, like, you was carving them for a little bit? And then you finally get this motherfucker the time of the day. I feel like they be on a... Like, I feel like they got a vendetta against you. Like, they be out for blood. That happened to me.

We used to be in church texting each other on our little Nokias playing snake.

Why is... Why is people so fucked up and intentions are so wrong? I don't know. Like, why would you come to my life if you knew that you were coming to... Get me. Pause chaos. Like, why would you do that?

Because he started applying a little pressure, and I was like... Okay. You can never ignore the pressure. You can. I love when the pressure being applied. Please, anybody that even think coming this way, please apply some pressure. Because other than that, I don't hear it. I don't see it. I don't know. Right. I'm telling you. Uh-huh. Exactly.

Because I was like, okay, let me give him a little shot. And then I did. And then boom. And he played. It's cool. I know he was good. In the long run, how the story ended up, you got the last laugh. Well, yeah, because this is like 60. This was a while ago. This was like six years ago.

What you were saying. You think that's what it is? Yeah, see, you got 50-50, right? But most of the time, in most cases, when that show livelihood, when you can't get them bags, everybody wearing them shoes, everybody wearing keep your hair and nails done, like everybody... Well, you know, a lot of people live for the internet.

A lot of people ain't out here getting out the mud and living how they need to live on their own, you know? They're living for everybody else's approval, right? So when they don't have that no more, that validation no more, they... They feel like they have nothing. Or the nigga that got the bag. Don't let them be somebody that's somebody. Yeah. They're crashing out. They're crashing out.

They ain't bowing out gracefully. Because how are you bowing out gracefully? How? I mean, what do you mean?

I mean, we're seeing women that be in whole relationships with married men. Exactly. We're seeing that. To get these things. To get things. Material things. To give a certain aesthetic. I'm telling you, they are crashing out. A certain aesthetic. And that's why it's so important for women to have their own, no matter what.

Listen, I'm not saying go date a man that don't have nothing because you have your own. No. You know, whatever he do is like plus. It's like the cake and the ice cream, the desserts.

Don't let that be your bread and butter. And don't let that be how you eat. Don't let that be the only thing. You know what I'm saying? Only time that could be the case is if that's your husband. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? If it's your husband and you fell off for a minute or whatever the case may be, because life happens, y'all. We are not always going to have it all.

You know, we might, you know, but... Don't let no man be the reason you're eating because he's going to be the reason you're starving. Oh, come on. That was a word.

I haven't listened with that. That's just flat out. And there's nothing wrong with a man taking care of a woman either because that's another conversation. I would love for a man. I love for a man to take care of me. That made me feel real...

We never had an argument. Really? Are you serious? Only time we had disagreements is when she didn't do my hair. That's crazy. She never did nothing foul to me. And if we ever felt any type of way about anything, it's like a real, like, simple conversation. Yeah. Never raising our voice or like, I'm not talking to you.

I love it there. I love it there.

But I'm not about to stop doing me. Hello. And also, when that man take care of me like that, I want to have my own. So when it's my time to show out for him for his special occasions, I can. You know what I'm saying? You want to reciprocate energy these days.

And I think that's where women go wrong. They look at, they get a man with some money, they get comfortable. Yeah. Now they don't want to work no more. Now they don't have their shit going no more. Whole time, the reason he was attracted to you because you had your shit together too. And he felt like he could build with somebody. And sometimes he want the reciprocated energy too.

Men might not say this, but they want to feel special too. They want to feel good too. And me, I love to spoil the nigga. I ain't going to lie. I like it. A little cute stuff. Especially if you make my life easier. If you making me feel good. You making me feel all girly. You making me want to post these type of pictures with this caption like, my nigga, my nigga, my nigga. My nigga, my nigga.

Like, of course, I want to reciprocate the energy. I want you to feel good. Like, damn, my girl for my birthday, she just... Yeah, she did her best. And I ain't have to give a dime. That's true. You know, but not all the time because men will get it fucked up and now they think they the woman. But, you know... These days, that be the problem. These motherfucking days. That's the problem.

But it's like on those special occasions, make it real masculine for them. You know what I'm saying? Where they can... live in a masculine energy and you live in your feminine. Yes. Get your bag, ladies. That's what we always say. Get your motherfucking bag. You got to get your own money. You got to be able to take care of yourself. But do you know what?

The crash house. Yeah. They like to be like, man, I got this bitch for a break. I got this bitch losing her mind.

And you don't want them anyway. Yeah. But what did we call that earlier when we were talking about that type of abuse? Reproductive abuse. Oh, yeah. Because we were talking about how a lot of times men... Another one, thank you. No, no, no, no, no.

Yeah. He wants to have access to you. Yeah. He want to have access to you for the rest of his life. Mm-hmm. And a lot of women be like, oh, girl, he want to get me pregnant. He love me.

You know what I'm saying? That's what a real man does. Man want to do because he know that. you know, when you get up and do things on your own outside of your, like, and like we said, what I was saying earlier, having all these different relationships, nurturing all these different relationships and not just that one.

When you have your own thing that you're putting your all into every day, it makes you feel good. Like, this is mine. You know, let me go. This is my craft. This is what I'm working on outside of my husband's because, you know, us women, we're super women. We got to help everything. But it's like, I have my own. And a man that's of any type of value understand that You need that.

You need your own thing that you are putting your all into every day, that you, you know, blood, sweat, and tears into and nurturing every day when it's growing. You like, damn, she's really doing her thing. You know what I'm saying? I think that real men of value, though... Quality men understand that. And it's such a big difference. A man that have money, that don't make him valuable.

I feel you. The fact that y'all were young.

What? Now, that is a super turn on. The man tell you, I prayed for you. Or y'all pray together. We pray together.

That'd be like a, y'all know that's like a green flag for me. Like if we're on the first date and they bring out the food and like he starts. He prays? Because I'm going to pray. I always, you know, pray over my food. So that's like a big green flag for me. Like especially if it's the first date. Because, you know, you're not 100% comfortable. It's y'all's first time hanging out.

But if you're like. That kind of like. Yeah. Like, okay, he prays. Yeah, he prays. Like that goes to show like you're serious. Because I know a lot of times people feel uncomfortable praying in front of other people or whatever the case may be.

So that'd be like a big green flag. I'd be like, okay. Yeah. And it's like, even after they pray, it's like, okay, I can loosen up a little bit. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It make you feel like I could be a little comfortable. Yeah. Yeah. Like he pray. Big green. Okay. Big green. You want to bring in the next topic?

Do you feel like that's a logical fear or good fear to have? You can't have no fear of having kids. I agree. You don't have to have, you don't supposed to have fear. Fearing kids is not the same thing. Mm-hmm. They don't supposed to be in the same sentence. Okay. That is a blessing. Yes. A kid is a blessing regardless if you going to be with a man or not. That is a blessing.

So the fact that y'all went through growing up and becoming women, And never have. Never. She'll tell you never. And I think it's the reason why is because, you know, like you said, some people do grow through things. Yeah. Right? But I think that it's because me and her is really the same person, but we're not. It's the craziest shit ever. But we're the same person.

Because whether that man is there or not, you're going to always be that kid's mom. Right. No matter what. So I would never, ever, I couldn't even say fear in my kid's name in the same sentence. I was never scared. Of course, you know, I thought about, oh, am I going to be with him? Am I just going to be a baby mama? Of course, you know, because you want to get married.

You want all of your kids and your man and you to have the same last name. Of course, y'all are one. You know, that's a thought. No, I don't think you should ever go into a situation because whether you a wife, you can get a divorce. Whether you're just a baby mama, whether you're just a single mom, you're going to be a mom. Yep. Regardless. Like, take all those titles away, you're that kid's mom.

I agree. That's what I was going to say. I agree with you 100%. Everything you said is literally... how I feel about it. I feel like as a woman, you should have a kid for no other reason than wanting to be a mother.

You going to be okay with your decision. Listen, I wake up and I see Clarity smile. First off, she's so damn goofy. And she looks like her dad. Yeah. And I still be like...

This is my little doll.

And it's like, no, those are my babies. Those are my babies. I don't give a fuck what happened in this world. Whatever.

Or like, oh, he's not going to be around. It's more so of the fear of, can I do it?

Yeah. You know what's so crazy? With them kids, boo. Yeah. They give you a whole nother level of goddamn superwoman. Yeah. Like, them kids, you like, I can't. Yeah. I can't let them down. Like, when you lay eyes on that first child of yours... Mm-hmm. It's like you get a whole new set of eyes. Yeah. It's like now you just, like, you become this woman that can do everything. Yeah.

For real? Really? I know that's right.

Oh, my God. That is hilarious. Never was in the kitchen until I had me some cash.

And it's so easy to treat a person how you want to be treated. And it never stopped.

Yes. I'm telling you, like, you feel like you could do anything.

It is. You know what I'm saying? Trust me. You are a woman of God.

It is. He got you.

Like, she's going to be a farmer.

You think so? Don't put that on me. When I was younger, if people go back to old episodes of the show, I used to always say all I wanted was boys. But now as I get older, I just want to have a healthy baby. That's what I said. When I first got pregnant, I was like, I want a healthy

It never stopped. It's just always been like, I wouldn't do that. I'm not going to post that because she wouldn't like it. Or even if I think she'll think or whatever. Even though that's never the case, neither. Right. Right, right, right. It just never been no bullshit. Never talked about me behind my back. It's just like I genuinely love me some motherfucking Kendra. I love that.

You did.

You're going to.

Oh, 45?

I mean, I do have time. The next five years.

But, you know, after, what, is it 34?

Yeah, after 35 is a giatric pregnancy.

Geriatric, yeah.

Geriatric, sorry.

What that mean? It means old. Yeah. My societal standards, my medical standards, yeah, at 35, once you hit 35, you're old. Like, considered old when you get pregnant. Yeah. It's more risky. It's more risky. Yeah. Yeah. My doctor's like, what you going to do? Barbecue a mildew, girl? You better get out. I knocked both of mine off. I said, boop, boop.

And that's what I was going to ask you.

Well, that's why I did. Like, because, you know, once I met my child's father, and I got pregnant, I was like, I'm not— I'm having my baby. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I am getting of age. Yeah. And I'm getting up through there. Up through there. I ain't going back. I'm going up. Yeah, so let me go ahead. I'm having it. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?

And then it happened again and I was like, okay. Yeah. You know, here we go.

Are you done having kids or you want more?

I'm done.

Okay.

I'm done. I don't want any more. I got a boy and a girl. I don't want any more. I asked my mom after I had my girl, I said, why you keep going? Mm-hmm. Because my mom had me first. I'm a girl. Then my brother right after me. He's a boy. Yeah. And we're 11 months apart. Like, me and my brother.

My mom went crazy.

Damn. Mom, why did you keep going? You had a boy, you had a girl. Why? She was like, I just, I enjoyed my kids and I wanted to continue. And I was just like, you're crazy. Because once I got my, once I had my son, I was like, I want a girl. And when I found out Clarity was a girl, I was ecstatic because I said, listen, I'm never pushing nothing.

I love that, too. I feel like I have a friend like that, too. Her name Lynn, and she is Sagittarius, too. Okay, what is it?

Older, yeah. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. You got it good. I got it good. God don't play about me. He really don't. He do not play about me.

I think it's God and my dad. My dad been with me through this whole journey. He's always been there. He died on my first birthday. So I always feel like since then, he's always been one of my spiritual angels. And he takes very good care of me. That's how I feel, too. I feel that way about my dad, too. Like, I always feel like I feel his presence around me. He always up there doing his big one.

My dad be doing his biggest one. He be doing his big one. Dang, I love him. Yes. That's like our guardian angel.

And that's crazy because it's like, you know, you can have your dad here. Of course, I would love to be with my dad here. But it's like my dad is spiritual and he protects me spiritually. And that's like a...

Taurus oh you a Taurus okay okay okay but my best friend is a Sagittarius too like Kendra and like I feel like we have a relationship like that as well like we never had an argument we never gotten into it but we became friends when I was like 26 so okay it's been in adulthood it's been like eight years now but we're adults so I'm like okay we never had an argument but like Lex said coming from

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Because I know a lot of times women be saying they don't even feel sexy afterwards. They don't be in the mood. There's something about me that I feel like I'm that bitch at all times. I don't know where I get this from. I don't know. Even when I'm big and pregnant, y'all be feeling like I'm her. Like, I don't care. Because you is, period. I be feeling like that. So it's like... It's always great.

Knowing each other in middle school and y'all never had an issue. Never had a not talking. We always talked. We always, or like if she ain't hit me and she like, I remember when she went on her senior trip and she didn't talk to me for like two days. Right. And I'm a Pisces. I'm a little spoiled. A little emotional. Yeah.

It's always good. Like, it's always good. Now, did you wait the six weeks, though? I didn't even... Man, y'all know what? I ain't even really did much. Like, I... My baby daddy wants... No, I ain't gonna lie. It wasn't even that. Yeah. Okay. This time around, it wasn't even that.

That's fair enough. That's fair enough.

Why are you like this?

Why is you like this? I'm afraid. The fact that she put herself up.

What's wrong with you? Cut him out. Cut him out. Hey. Cut him out. Let's go ahead. I do surgery.

I do not want to rip and go through that. But then I also heard... That after you had the bitch, she's so silly, what? What's the excuse? I feel a little scared, too. That they can sew you back up and then make it tighter. That's what I heard, too. To be honest. I don't know, because I ain't going to tell y'all how I had my kids. Right, right, right. I don't know. That's not our business.

Oh.

Or... Not type me out. Type me out. Not type me out.

Tuck it. They can't do that. Tuck it. You gotta go.

They can never give you a tummy tuck at the same time. You gotta tuck it. It's the same decision.

What is wrong with you? You can't tuck it. Yeah, you gotta heal, man. Everything in the inside's been moved by the baby. You can't go get a tuck right after that. And I hate when people go around playing like celebrities be doing that. Stop. You gotta heal, man. Them insides is pushed. Clarity was eight pounds and four ounces. That little girl pushed everything away. Yeah. Okay? Well, I feel you.

It's already pushing, pushing the rest of it out.

Take a little real. Why are you this way? I'm just saying, like... Let's just do it all at one time.

Two birds, one stone. Do you work out? Yes, I do. I am a workout girl. Working out is the best. Shout out to the king of fitness. Yes. Working out is the best thing to do. Like, especially when you're going through postpartum. Yeah, yeah. It's not even just for the physical. For the mental, y'all. I'm not going to lie.

That has helped my mental so much, working out.

And they just always think of the physical. Like, go work out and see how that really makes you feel, like, in the inside. You know what I'm saying? Especially when you're dealing with postpartum, like... It's not easy. Yeah. It's not easy.

And just to be able to cope with life, coping with your kids and having to be there 24-hour, all day, every day, and coping with shit, your career and everything, things that come with men and whatever the case may be, being social media, your podcast, you have to get in that gym, eating right. Like, that shit makes you feel better, genuinely, in the inside, not just look better.

We have the one, the only, the beautiful rapper, actress, mom, hair queen. Yes.

You know, and I get spoiled, y'all. I'm used to getting things when I want it, how I want it. So it's like, I can't get my hair done. You ain't answer the phone. I'm trying to ask you which shirt. You know what I'm saying? Which shirt to wear with this and you ain't saying nothing. But when she came back, she just knew how to make me feel better.

See, people go for the physical. Yeah. Yeah. It's way deeper than that. It's a mental thing. It is. It's way deeper.

Like how did you feel when you looked at yourself in the mirror? Because I know a lot of women struggle after pregnancy looking at themselves. That second, I ain't going to lie, Clarity did me dirty. Yeah. I'm whooping her ass when I get home. But no, Clarity, she did me in. She did me in. But I don't know. It's a mental thing. I don't know if it's my dad. I don't know if it's God. Mm-hmm.

I don't know what it is, but it's mentally me like, all right, let me get myself back to where I would like to be. It's motivation. It's motivation. As I'm sitting there looking at myself, you know, I'm like, okay, I don't have stretch marks. Thank God. That's hereditary, though. You know how they say that. Yeah, but my mom, I don't know. Oh, your mom had one? Yeah, she do.

She going to be like, why you talking about business? My mom got them, too. That's why I be a little nervous. Yeah, but I think it's all about how active you are. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? I stayed working. But I do say that, like, I was just looking at myself, and it was motivation. It was motivation. It was like, let me just get myself together. And it's a mental thing.

Some people, mental is just not as strong. It's like, you know, mental health is real.

It's very real. You have to... It got to put it in there first. Like, I don't know how to explain how blessed I am as having a mental of knowing that, all right, I got to get myself together. I'm not happy there. You know what I'm saying? And I just got in the gym.

Yeah.

You know what I'm saying? And even when I couldn't get in the gym, I put my body shapers on, put my five highs on, you know, like just prepare myself to be back her. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? It's like you kind of got to, you kind of manifest it. You have to manifest it. Mm-hmm. If your body not looking right, you have things to make your body look right.

She brought me a souvenir and it was a, I had just got my belly button pierced. She bought me a belly button ring. It was like, I missed you. And I was like...

And probably just getting out the house, too.

Give yourself a few weeks. The six weeks is pushing it. But me, I don't know about everybody else. Because they was all like, you're already outside. You just had a baby. Shut the fuck up. Mind your own business. For me, them two, three weeks I sat, I was in a crib. I was in a crib. I had my feet up, and I bonded with my child.

And bonded with my other child to get used to, all right, this is us now. This is you no more. That was important to me. And when I felt like it, it's like, okay, every now and then I'll get out and go get me a little drink. You know, because I haven't had one in nine months. I'll go shop a little bit for things. I'll buy some shit I know I can't fit. Like, I'm getting that. Motivation.

And I'll hang that bitch up. I will hang that bitch up outside my closet so I can see it every day. I'm going to get it. I like that. That's a good idea. You know what I'm saying? That is a good idea. I'm going to get it in the dress I bought this time. It was like $3,500, y'all. I'm like, get it. I'm not wasting my money. I ain't stay that shit about it. I'm going to be at Target.

A fashion no verb.

I ordered the dress and I'm going to wear it. That's good motivation. But I ordered the dress and I spent that type of money on it because I'm like, I'm going to get in there. And guess what? Because guess what? If I don't ever get in there, I wasted my fucking money.

Like a house of CB. I can't do it. I can do a little house of CB. A little house of CB, a little bandage. Okay, I can do a little bandage. Like the one that cost, though. You know, the one that got the studs and stuff. Hold on, hold on, hold on. I said $250 now. Do people still be wearing Herve? Like $500. Yeah. Herve? Mm-hmm. You know what? Since House of CB is no purpose. I know.

It never been. Yeah. You know, and it's just like, it's still a relationship.

And it's a little cheaper. That's a good material. I like a little House of CB. Yeah, so get one that costs like $500. So you can feel like it's really a lot. Get one of the loot ones, yeah. Y'all got to hurry up and go ahead and pop some babies out. Girl, I think it's time. Hold on, so let me get in y'all business. Y'all been asking me all my business. Y'all in relationships?

What's going on with y'all? Who getting pregnant? What? What's going on between y'all niggas? What's up? Yeah.

Like friendships are relationships. They really are. People think like their significant other is like the only relationship that they prioritize. Mm-hmm. You know, you have to prioritize every relationship in your life. I agree. Your business. You got to nurture every relationship in your life.

Don't worry about that. Don't worry about that. Don't worry about that. Because guess what? If you get pregnant, you better just have that baby. But I will say this. Now, I will say this about him, that it gives me peace.

The same time. The same day.

What's wrong with you? That's a good one, man. That's your name, Keisha. Because I told her, I said what I tell you. She said y'all friends.

No, you is not about to get no tummy tuck on no bed. Okay, okay, okay. But I'll say this. No, you are not. You can't, leg. Maybe if you go to Columbia. No, she did not. I already mean it. They know me there. They know me in Columbia. They know me in Columbia. What about you? Okay, so I was in a relationship.

Girl, be for real. Like what? They be together a damn minute every day. But we not together no more. Oh, man. When was the last time you seen him, bro? Last night. Today. I'm about to go. I'm just saying for me. No. But we're not in a relationship. And let me say this. We broke up in May and then we did like a little sabbatical. We didn't have sex for like two, three months. Okay.

Are we just... A cleanse. Yes. Like a detox.

Yes.

I thought I told you that. So are y'all like, like, re-dating? Like... I think so. I think we're trying to figure out if we want to get back in a relationship. But we only date each other. But we not in a relationship. I'm going to let you have it. I'm going to let her have it. But long story short, though, if I get pregnant in the next year. You going to? It's going to be with him. Okay.

Your business relationships, your kids, your kids relationship, your man, your friends, your mother, your sisters. All those relationships have to be nurtured in some type of way to keep it healthy. Yeah, I believe, you know, you can't neglect nothing in your life.

I'm sure. I'm sure. But y'all is not broken up. He's perfect. I've never heard somebody say that about their person. Perfect person. She said he's perfect.

I probably didn't say it right. Okay. Because he ain't perfect. No, but he's probably perfect for you. That's probably your guy. We'll see. We're going to play it by ear. Okay. We're going to see what happens. But one thing that I do know is if I did have a child with him because he's already an amazing dad. He already has one son. He would be a great dad.

And I know even if things don't work out between us. he would still do what he needs to do and take care of our kid.

I did not want them people where you feel like you just have to beef with and be mad and not talk to me. No, and it wouldn't be no drama. Like, we would do what we need to do to take care of our child. And that's what matters.

It's important to have a good father, I think, or somebody that displays that or shows you that. Because I'm finna be a dead meat mom.

Okay, so I'm going to just go back over here. I'm not even looking over there. I'm fucking done with you. Be done. Yeah, I'm done. She don't have to say absolutely nothing else to me. Cash, you know what she called me. We be getting comfortable. People be like, Cash.

This bitch told me if she have a baby and it don't work out with her man, she leaving the baby with him.

You agree?

I'm about to go. I don't like this one. She said your problem. She's a problem. No, she's crazy. You are a fucking problem. She's crazy. Why would you say that? Something is wrong. I'm just saying. You can get a little discount.

You a problem, too.

Why are you... You for real? I don't know.

No, once you see this baby, y'all, listen, there's no way you don't want... Once you see that baby, all bets are off. I just feel like... You're going to be like, this baby coming with me. I don't care what you're talking about. Give me my motherfucking baby. You're going to get ready to fight. No, I am just kidding. I feel like... I carry a baby for nine months. You staying with me. Yeah.

You ain't going with him. See, I'm having this conversation with y'all, and y'all don't have kids. That's the only reason this conversation is like this. Once y'all have them kids, y'all going to be in here like, Cash, you was telling the truth. I love this baby. You too. All y'all going to be in here like, you know what? I changed my mind.

No, because you ain't got nowhere to stay because you was not about to let a man be everything. You right. Okay, we talked about this. You right. We did. We did. Didn't we talk about this? All right. True that. True that. Okay. So now it's time to get into the bop.

The bop. Oh. The bop. Bow. Bow. Bow, bow, bow. So now we finna talk about the music that we've been jamming this week. What you been listening to, Cash? I'm not gonna yai. I'm not gonna yai. She said it all the time.

Before they crumble, bitch.

My song right now is Dej Lo featuring Cash Doll. Okay. Okay. Ladies, leave your man at home. I love it. Y'all need to listen to that. And that's some good advice. The next song is Tink featuring Cash Doll. Oh, I love me some Tink. Comfortable. Okay. Because never get too comfortable.

I bought Kendra a Birkin before I got myself one. I thought it was you that went viral first. Yeah, yeah. I bought her a Birkin before I bought myself one because every time it's time to gift her, I think of things that I will want because we like the same shit. Right. So I'll be like, what do I want that I haven't gotten yet or that's cost too much that I'm not spending it or something?

You can't. Okay.

I'm going to say nothing, but I'm going to let you have that.

Don't get too comfortable.

Yeah, it's time to go.

I always ask the rap girls when they come on this show, how do you feel about female rap right now and everything that's going on? We rush it.

Yeah. This is what it is. I love where it's at. I'm glad to be a part of it. Okay. I'm happy to be here. Yes. I love it. I think the girls are taking over and the boys been mad about it.

Thank you.

that's just where I'm at in life you know um and that's where I'm at in life that even where how old I am like I just that's where I'm at it's like my music gotta speak to me too yeah you know I'm saying I ain't just always outside I want some shit that's gonna teach me some shit you know I'm saying or something to make me feel empowered something to motivate me in the morning something to keep get me keep me going you know right yeah you know so that's just I make music for me and women like me yeah

You know, if they don't like me, that's fine. We just don't... They love you, girl.

Let me ask you this. You know I'm a little messy now.

Get messy, girl. Go ahead.

So, did you and Asian Doll ever talk and work that whole situation out that was going on between, like, about the song that y'all did the same song and she was upset and stuff or anything like that?

No, we never even talked about it. I was just like, I was kind of disappointed because we was cool.

But then I seen her at the baddies thing. She wasn't on that. And I was like, all right, whatever. I'm just grown, y'all. I don't have time for all that. I don't like that catty stuff. I don't want to go back and forth on the internet. But I just feel like, man, you cool. Yeah, we know each other in real life. We really got cordial at one point, you know what I'm saying?

Even before all the other stuff. So, it didn't happen on my son's birthday. I'm at my son's party. I'm viral because you saying I'm stealing your song. You know I ain't even know that. Yeah. Like, let's be, if we going to be any motherfucking thing, let's be for real. Yeah.

Like, for real. You know what I'm saying? I love to say that. I say that all the time. For real. It should be for real if you're going to be anything. Anything. And it's like, you know, but when I seen her at the Batty's thing, it wasn't no smoke or nothing. It was like, you know, the vibes was there. So I don't know. She probably just was like, oh, I was probably tripping.

Or it was just never nothing. Yeah. You know, so I just leave it where it's at. It's nothing. It's no beef. It's no... It's no beef. It's no... Friendship is no nothing. It's like, we just cool. Y'all just exist. Yeah, we just exist. And then when I see her, there ain't no disrespect because there ain't no disrespect. Right, right. But it's like... Okay, that's fair. You know I had to ask.

I don't mind you asking. Some stuff, if I want to clear it up, I clear it up. But if I don't, I'll be like, I ain't answering that. When I like somebody, I'm not the person. Y'all will never catch me in the comments.

Let me just break the ice.

Every now and then, I might leave a joke, say something funny. But I ain't going to lie. I was a comment warrior that day. I would. What'd you say? I did. I'm not going to say it on the show, but I was just like.

You feel me? And I was like a Birkin. And that year I gave her a Chanel first. So she opened the box and seen the white Chanel. She was so excited about that. Yeah. I'm like, nah, bitch, that's mine. Here you go. Oh. Bring that orange box out here. And they brought that orange box out there. She said, no, you didn't. I said, yes, I did.

You really do. You don't be bothering nobody. And I'm not copying nobody. That's the part. I don't really got to do that. I don't have to do that. Girl, be for real.

And I'm not trying to do it to. To make nobody feel no type of way or to show off or to stun on nobody. I genuinely like these things, y'all. I go to the mall with my jogging suit on, with a scarf on, no makeup, a hoodie on to buy these luxury things. And a wig braid. In my wig brace. In my wig brace. I swear to God, my salespeople, if they're looking at this, they'll say she's not lying.

I come in there and I sit there and I'll have on like the shoes I even have on that I put on before these are like some shoes I bought on Amazon. And I will go in there and I buy these luxury things, these things that cost $10,000, $15,000. I just bought a purse that cost $25,000. And I get these things. Because this is what I like.

It's not like, oh, I'm going to have to get all the way done up so I can get content of me buying this. Right, right. Man, I go in that shit and put it in my closet and wait for her to come unbox it. Yeah. I don't even unbox my own stuff. I don't even care. As long as I know I got it.

As long as I know I got it, I be like, all right, whatever. Okay, I got my piece I wanted. You know what I'm saying? It's genuinely what I like. I don't do it for them. Yeah, it's just projecting. You know, people be projecting. I know people just wanted to have a problem with anything. When I seen on the internet, people was being nasty towards you about your baby shower at Louis Vuitton.

Because I was just in there buying shit casually.

But that's what they don't know. Because they don't know. It was their idea. My profile paid for that. My sales associate said, we should have you a baby shower here. And it was so crazy because I spent so much money on Cassian's baby shower that I threw at the Detroit Pistons facility. I remember that.

I said, next year, well, when I got pregnant with Clarity, I said, I'm not paying for no more baby shower. Yeah. To the point where my best friend and Jasmine, my friend Jasmine, they threw me a tea party for Clarity. Mm-hmm. My Clarity, her guy grandparents, they threw me one at their house. They have this beautiful home. And then I was like, okay, well, that's it. I'm not having one in Atlanta.

Open that thing right on up right now. And she was so happy. And we had a good time. But y'all always go viral for giving each other gifts. Y'all always give each other the best gifts. Y'all relationship is really, really good. That's my dog. Yeah. That's my motherfucking dog.

And then I went to go buy her some blankets, little outfits. I'm just in there shopping normal. This is what I do, y'all. You know, I'm not stunned. It's just your life. This is my life. And I'm buying a blanket and all this. And they was like, you know what? We should throw you a baby shower. I said, okay, where is it going to be at?

She's like, over there in that little room that we have you change in and out. I was like, oh, here at the store? I was like, I like that. I was like, yeah, do it. I was like, do it. Because I might have her any day because I was huge. And they put it together in a week. And they just told me to come in. And I invited all the people that I love. And they came. And it was a great time.

But see, the crazy part is... next year, in 2025, all of a sudden, people are going to be having baby showers at Louis Vuitton. Right.

Yeah, this is my time to go. I'm done with you. You're done. What? You're absolutely done. Now, see, I was just supporting you. And if you say one more thing, if you say one more thing, you are... If you say one more thing, you're going to get up off the couch. I'm getting up, and I'm leaving. I'm leaving this couch.

All right. Did you hear I say rainbow? He said overlay. I don't. Because people talk about something. I think Target. I thought we was bobbing. No, no, you're done. You're absolutely fucking done. Rainbow is diabolical. I'm just saying, though. I'll be dropping a bag in there. The fuck? Because now people are going to be inside these stores like, do y'all throw baby showers since I spent so much?

How much have I spent a year in the store? They going to think she for real. Oh, okay, Dre. What's your bop of the week, man? Okay, so I've been listening to Glow Really album. Okay. Glorious. Okay, Glow. It's so good. What's your favorite song on there? I like the Rain Down On Me song with Kirk Franklin. I love a good gospel rap fusion. Okay.

I do. So you're not into that? That's sacrilegious, right? No, it's not. Did you see Ray Charles doing that shit? So you know they have a whole genre of Christian rap. I'm done with her. That's fine. You don't listen to Christian rap? No, I don't.

I like, you know how I like my church music.

You a little bit of a heathen though.

That's what I listen to in the car on Sundays.

You don't even listen to that. Why you not? I like my church. You don't even listen to that. I just like my. You don't even be listening to that. I'm going home. Both y'all. Y'all done.

It shows that women can coexist, especially two beautiful, successful women can coexist and have a healthy relationship with no drama. With no drama. Because people always love to believe that black women, we can't be friends without any drama or jealousy. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah, and it always been like that. You know, and it takes two. It takes two. I can't take all the credit for that.

You just made that up. You just made that up. You know what the hell I mean. I told you you had one more time. I need my album separated. You done gave her two more times. I did, because I can't help it. It's toxic. It's a toxic love. It's a type of relationship.

But you're right, though, because I also like Procedure with Lotto. Exactly. Okay. Ballet. Ballet. It's a ballad.

I love Glorilla.

Let me just say that, first of all. I think the album is amazing. I'm glad she took her time, because I feel like it was a point in time where they were rushing artists that had a good single to drop an album.

So, I think the fact that she took her time with this album and you can tell it was really a labor of love. And that's what I can appreciate from an artist. Yeah. I am amused. I mean, the album itself, like, the whole album is good. I like those two songs. I have heard a couple songs, but I haven't had the chance to just ride to the whole thing just yet. But I am. I am. I love Glo.

Yeah, I'm happy to see her. Even though she always want to argue.

Yeah. Nah, Cass, like, when we all, you don't want to drink with me, like... And I'm looking down at her like, girl, why you want to argue with me? But no, that's my boo right there. I love Glo. Shout out to Glo. Yeah, shout out to Glo.

And I saw her in concert over the summer when she was opening up for Meg, and she ate down.

Yeah. I love that song. I haven't seen her in concert yet. Yes, you did. I haven't seen her in concert yet. She's good. Yeah. I haven't seen her in concert, but we saw her perform at the awards, and she was really good.

Yes. And she can really rock a crowd. Megan, stage performance. I don't know. Firewood. I like an eight count. You like an eight count? That's fine. But you from Houston, and Beyonce is the eight count queen. Eight count queen. She is. Megan is a dancer, too. Yeah, Megan. Megan gonna do an eight count, bruh. So, yeah, I like, but I like a little bit of both. But I told y'all.

You was really good at that.

My cousin danced with Megan. Yes. Yeah, my cousin danced with her. For real? Yeah, my cousin be fucking it up. She was dancing with me, too. She's one of them dancers, like, y'all remember how MC Hammer, his dancers used to say they would pass out because they was dancing so hard?

And Beyonce.

Beyonce ain't playing, baby. But I told y'all. I mean, May be fucking it up, too.

Shout out to Glo. Yeah. Okay, y'all know how to mix it up for my bop of the week. Y'all know I love me some Tanner Adele. She is a black country music artist right now that's killing it. And she dropped a new song called Silverado. And I just love the fact that her voice is so country, but you can still hear that soul.

She is a very great friend. Yeah. She's a very great friend. Even though sometimes I be like, what you doing? Like, I've been texting your phone. Life is happening. So you're the needy one. It's a balance. Okay. Yeah, but see, I'm the one who's going to see. She's going to start some stuff with me in person. Okay. You know, I'm seeing it right when I feel it.

Right. When you hear Adele, you know it's her. I feel like Tanner Adele has that voice where it's like, okay, this is Tanner Adele singing.

Okay. So I'm listening to both of them. Yes. Today, yeah. Tanner Adele. Tanner Adele is good. She's fire. She's fire. So yeah, shout out to Tanner Adele, Silverado. That's my vibe of the week. What's up, y'all? It's your girl, XP. And it's your girl, Drayna Cole. And y'all do not forget to call our shot line. I know you've heard of a hot line, but this is the Poor Minds shot line.

Yeah, we love to hear from y'all. Y'all need to call in, y'all. And this is not necessarily for questioning. You know, we just want to hear from y'all. Like, we want to know y'all feedback, y'all thoughts on the show, or just what's going on in your life. So you can always call 678-827-1826.

So just call, give us a little feedback, what you want to see on the show, any suggestions, what you think about the show. If you just want to simply give us our flowers, you know, or any, it could be anything. What's bothering you this week? What got on your nerves this week?

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Bucking y'all life up a little bit. Do you give good advice? I think you do. I don't know. I feel like you'll give good advice.

I took some good advice today. I know now, like, I'm not giving my child up twice a month. I'm not doing that.

I'm done with her. I'm done. It's a wrap. It's over. It's a wrap.

Yeah, you took it there. All right. Yep.

Okay.

Hey, girlies. To start off, I love the show. I started watching you guys at a time when I was at my lowest and I've been tuned in since.

If you know, you know. If you know, you know. She said it was going good, so I thought. On the fourth time I came over to his house, I found some lashes in the bathroom. I brought this to his attention, but he claims it's old. I'm usually the type to keep it hard on a go. On a what? Hard on a go. Hard on a hoe. She probably did a misstep. Or maybe that's what they say where she from. Okay.

Where she from? Hard on a go. And I was really liking him, so I just ignored it. The next week after that, we went to his crib, and I woke up to his dog chewing up a pretty little thing tag. Not mine, obviously. Okay. Hey, what's wrong with pretty little things? It wasn't hers. So it was another girl that was there. Yeah, I don't think she was saying that. Oh, okay.

She's going to wait until she sees me and now she's about to lay all this shit out on me.

Okay.

Months later, I still think about him because we was really hitting it off until that happened. I haven't found a vibe since then. I know I should stand on business, but weirdly, he comes across my mind too often. Mind you, I don't really do the situationships. I'm more of a long-term relationship girlie.

We were on the phone and I was like, one thing that I learned is stop trying to be the cool girl and not telling a man what you want. Cause you want to be like, oh, I don't want to say I want a relationship, but yeah, I think that you should tell your intentions. I'm not dating for a situation ship. I'm not dating for friends with benefits. I am a woman who is looking for a relationship.

Not you. Oh, so you were jealous? Yeah. She be waiting for the right time. Right, she be waiting for the right time. Look, she get her evidence. She get it big, too. And then as soon as I say, well, you was having too much fun when you was with.

I usually do more serious, committed things.

Yeah.

He could have told you, hey, I'm not looking to settle down. I got other people I'm dating and I'm just trying to figure it out right now and you wouldn't have got your feelings hurt. So I think to prevent that, have conversations in the beginning, but you obviously already gotten past that point.

But if he's open to having a conversation, have the conversation. I'm just not a prideful person anymore when it comes to, oh, I ticked him last. If I want to talk about something and get something off my chest, that's what I'm going to do. I'm mature about it. If you want to feel some type of way, whatever, you're not the person for me.

So that's how I feel about it.

Yeah. I ain't mad at that. I know, that's why. See, I was being good. Girl. That was a good advice.

Something was coming. Something was coming. Yeah. All right, all right, okay. Hello, Drea and Lex.

I adore you guys, and your podcast is my go-to source of comfort.

What should I do?

I'm 20, by the way. Drop that, nigga. It's like a mixtape. Yeah. If a man tells you go find somebody else, please listen to him. Because he's telling you. Because he's telling you he don't have nothing else to provide. And you're 20. If that man don't want to change, change the man. Hey. Come on now. Word. Change... I did good. You did good? Okay. Change the man. That was good advice. I agree.

I feel like if a... The worst thing... She's a problem. A big one.

Please listen to him. Please listen. That man do not like you. And I know that's probably going to be hard for you to hear in harsh words. I guarantee you, six months from now, you're not even going to be thinking about him. You're 20 years old. That's first of all.

Let's start here. Yeah. First and foremost. If you don't even stop writing us about that, you got other stuff to be worried about. Girl, you in this. You need to be worried about something. Don't write us about nothing about no man. I don't want to hear nothing. Did you? Yep. That was it. I had a great time. What? I had a great time. No, you said you wasn't going to do it and you took it there.

Okay, you're right. You reeled me back in when you gave that great advice. Okay. And now here you go. I tricked you. What did you say?

What did she say about Rainbow? I said she's only 20. That was probably my cashier at Rainbow. You see? You ain't have to say that.

Cash Doll, where can we find you at? She said she know you by the proper name.

I'm leaving after this. Follow me.

Where can they find you?

Me too. Y'all know the lady I played really died. I know. Is that really how she died? No, that's not how she passed. Oh, okay. But she really passed. That is crazy. And you did a good job. You did. Thank you so much. I love you. Next time you do a Detroit movie, tell them you know her. I don't want to hear nothing you have to say after that. I don't even want you to take it.

No, for real though, Cass. No. You need to get her in the... Come on, we can play a movie while we best friends. If you know somebody that be producing... We best friends and we gotta travel across country so I can pick up my kids. Yeah. Detroit be having all the good Tubi movies though. It's going to be in every picture. And we're going to pick Drake up on the way. Oh, no.

It's like Girls Trip Detroit version. Oh, yeah.

I got my accent down. What up, though? That is not.

What up, though? She said her accent because she said, what up, though?

Okay. What up? All right. What up, dog? Then be like, oh, you got dog shit on. You got dog. Because y'all be saying dog. What up, dog? You fresh as dog shit. You fresh as dog shit. Fresh as dog shit. Yeah, that mean you fresh as fuck. I feel like I still sound like I'm country dog. I like that. When they say you got that dog shit, that mean you got that. That shit on. Yeah.

Okay, y'all can follow me at Cash Doll. K-A-S-H-D-O-L-L. Album coming November the 15th. Go get that. I got a single out right now with Tink. It's called Comfy. And don't ever, ever get too comfortable. Lex is fucking crazy. And I'm done.

You don't ever have to worry about me again. Come on.

No, you're not. Yes, I am. And she said you're going to get her in a movie movie. We know you know some producers in Detroit. And you asked, she asked the shit on y'all. I'm not, you're not getting a pass. You asked this shit on and then be sitting here laughing like, what, she crazy, no? I'm weak, but no, but no. All jokes aside, this was an amazing episode. I had a good time, but I got to go.

Y'all's been waiting on you, and we had so much fun today. I had a good time. Thank you. I let y'all in my business a little bit. You know what I'm saying? I told my business. A little bit, yes. You know what I mean? A little bit. Ain't nothing wrong with that. You know, I'm human. Period. You know, y'all get, yeah. We like to see the human side. We do. Yeah. I've been trying lately.

I've been doing vlogs, and I've been, you know, expressing myself a little more instead of just like, I'm not going to Aaron. with that shit. Yeah. And you know what? It's helping me. So, you know. We love it.

You know, like, I know women love to see that because you're so multifaceted. Like, you do so many different things. You a businesswoman. You a boss. And you a mother. And you always well put together. Like, I feel like that's something that women really struggle with after they have kids. I know. I remember I watched a vlog of you a long time ago.

Because I grew up, like I said, in the country. In the country. Riding horses. Okay.

This is when I had $3 in my bank account. And you was doing a vlog. $3? That's another story.

This is why I'm leaving her. But wait.

Are you talking about when I stayed off the water? Yes. And it was beautiful. Thank you. That bathroom. I miss that house.

It was delightful.

Into three million. But I think it's good to see because it's an inspiration. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So honestly... I've been getting back into that. Yeah. You know, like even Jazz. She's my social media manager. And that's why y'all... She would tell y'all. She's here. I used to buy stuff and just put it up. And she'll come in my closet and she'll see it like...

So I always like to get people's experience. Like, how was it, like, growing up in Detroit? You know, I had a good time. Yeah. I'm not even about to sit up here and cat. Flat out. I had a great time in Detroit. It wasn't all gravy, though. Yeah. But, you know, I used to have... I used to fight. Yeah. You know, I had dance contests. You know, I always was like a dreamer.

you didn't do an unboxing? And I'd be like, no. She'd be like, you got to start posting that stuff. You know what I'm saying? It's motivational for a lot of people. It's motivational. I got to a point where I was like, I don't want to put it in people's face no more. I started feeling bad. My birthday post she made of me, I spent a whole bunch of money on a whole bunch of stuff.

She made a little post and she said what she said on there and I was like, I took it off my profile.

Because I was like, I feel like it's just making people feel bad. I ain't going to lie to you. But that's the hate. Like, it's the haters that's feeling bad. The people who need to be motivated and the people who like you appreciate it. Appreciate it. And I learned that. She was teaching me that because she fly herself. She was teaching me that. Like, no, we want to see that shit.

That's what she'll say. You look crazy ass. You had this picture a long time ago.

I can't remember exactly the outfit you had on, but I know you had Louis Vuitton on from head to toe, everything.

Oh, my God.

Okay, Louis Vuitton. Because I love Louis Vuitton. I do. I do. Yeah. I love Louis Vuitton. I always, they see me in the airport, they be like, okay, Nadon.

It inspired me. I'm like, bro, we can really go out here and get this stuff on our own. Okay, so y'all motivated me some more too. So I'm going to start showing a little bit more. I appreciate that. I said, I need to spend some more money in Louis Vuitton because I need to have a baby shower there too. Exactly. I got to a point because I used to do it so much.

And you know, Detroit, we are like stunners. We like to stunt. We like to show off and all that stuff. And then the other part of the world was not really familiar with that. And they thought that it was more bragging and boasting and stuff like that. And I never want to try to make people feel small. I'm really a sweetheart in the inside. Yes. So I bagged off of it.

My regular life was just my regular life. I was never just posting it. Like how people, they're shopping, they're showing. I stopped. And then once I, you know, she's 25. So she like, no, you're going to post this. I'm posting it. I don't care. She'll say, I'm pushing posts. I'm sending it now. And I was like, go ahead, whatever. And then once I see it, it made me cringe.

I'll take it off my profile. It'll be like, no. It'll be on my real side. It's not like you're getting it from somebody else. And it's mine.

Because I feel like if you are a person who is passionate about being a boss, you can look at your page and we can see what you do.

But they'll say, I'm a nurse. I'm a doctor. But you'll know on their profile what they do. You'll know what they do by being on their profile. I say that. I say that. When you go to Girls Page and you see all these luxury things and you don't know what they do. They doing something. You don't need to know what they do. You don't need to know what they do.

Because it's so obvious what they do because this they bread and butter. Yeah. Yeah. And I'm not shading that, but I'm saying for you. Either they're a prostitute. You a scammer, maybe. You a scammer. A scammer, yes. You a rich nigga baby mama. Right, something, something. You wanting them.

You ain't wanting somebody to have their own thing that's going, that they're actually, you know, nurturing and it's feeding them and their family. That's not, no. And I think that's important for especially black women to see. Bosses and people like, we know what you do. We see you out here working. Because it ain't that much private.

I always dreamed of this cash doll girl. I always dreamed of her. You know, I used to draw a lot and... They stayed outside. For Christmas, I used to always get big... My mom used to buy me big plain posters and pencils and paintbrushes. So I did a lot of that stuff. I always listened to music. So I always got CD player, iPads, and all that stuff.

No, because when you're a woman and you're proud, because first of all, when you really built some shit brick by brick... Look, you be proud of what you did.

I'm like, shit, I got me some plaques. I'm doing my thing. You know what I'm saying? It's not easy to get. Yeah, and y'all, every time I do something... Advice me, I'll steal double platinum in my home. Okay, no, for real. I'm serious. And for everybody, I know for everybody got to be platinum in a lot of cars. Hell yeah.

So good.

November 15th. November 15th.

One Twitter, one TikTok. It is P-O-U-R underscore M-I-N-D-S. All right? And we got a hell of a fake Facebook page. Oh, the Facebook page. It's the one. Our Facebook. The crazy thing is our Facebook page actually have the least amount of followers. So if you on Facebook. The one that's ours. Got the least amount of followers. The one that. That's not us. It's got like 250,000 followers.

Blah, blah. Booyah, booyah, booyah. Like, that's literally what the caption is. I was like, you want that DDG? Bamba Claude. Bamba Claude.

I don't think they can handle this. Woo! Barely move. We've arrived. Looking sexy. Looking fly.

Don't you want to dance with me? Can you handle me? You got to do much better if you're going to dance with me tonight. You got to work your jet. If you're going to dance with me tonight, squeeze my hips. If you like what you see, do you groove? You can hang with me by your looks. I got you shook up and scared of me. I don't think you're ready for this jelly.

I don't think you're ready for this jelly. Cause my body too bootylicious for you, babe. I don't think you're ready for this jelly. I don't think you're ready for this jelly. I don't think you're ready for this. Cause my body too bootylicious for you, babe. Can you handle this?

I don't think you're ready for this jelly. I don't think you're ready. Because my body too booty is just for you, baby. Pull your body up and down. Make your booty touch the ground. I can't help but wonder why. My vibe's too far relations for you, baby. I shake my jelly. When my hips are spinning to the train. I hope you just handle all this jelly that I got.

And sometimes I would be by myself, but I was always popular, y'all. That's the crazy part. Yeah. I was the girl, that girl in the neighborhood. I was that girl at school. You know, before I even got on social media, it was like I was always like one of those girls.

Trying to love while I sketch this cat. Woo!

Hey. I don't think you're ready for this yet. I need my fan. I need my fan. I don't think you're ready for this yet. I don't think you're ready for this. Because my body's too bootylicious for you, babe. I don't think you're ready for this yet. Hey. I don't think you're ready for this yet. I don't think you're ready for this. Because my body too bootylicious for you, baby.

I don't think you're ready for this, daddy. I don't think you're ready for this, daddy. I don't think you're ready for this. Because my body too bootylicious for you, baby. Yeah! Woo! Yeah. Period. I think you're ready. Yeah. Cause your body too bootylicious for you, baby. Come on, Cash. For this shit. I don't think you're ready for this shit. I don't think you're ready for this.

Cause my body too bootylicious for you, baby.

Shout out to Destiny's Kids.

We the kids.

And I used to have a good, I made the best of it. I grew up in a household with six of us. You know what I'm saying? I'm the oldest of six. So it wasn't as flashy as I would have liked it. But as soon as I turned 15, I got a job. I know that's right. That's how I was. I got a job at Mr. Allen's shoe factory and I worked and I was buying myself shoes every day.

Like, I like to be like, I've always been like that.

Something that I, it's in me. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And, I grew up and, you know, I was into this. I was this girl, y'all. I had this vision in my head. But I think that shows in a lot of people, too.

It's always been something.

How are you doing? You know what? I'm good. Yeah. I'm good. You know, I just got to a point where I just accept things for what it is. And it makes my life way more. Yeah. You know, like it is what it is. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And that's just lately, that's just all I say. It is what it is. You know what I'm saying? And I accept it and I try to change it because I don't like it.

always sticking out. You know what I'm saying? It's always something. It's always something. Like, you could tell when you, like, you always wanted to do that.

You know what I'm saying? And I always did. Like, even, like, when I was younger, my mom said, you know, I used to be standing on the couch with my comb and my brush singing Anita Baker. I know, that's right. When I used to come to my parties at my, like, my family parties, they used to be, like, Yeah, come on. It's a little girl in here thinking she know how to dance.

She thinks she know how to dance. Keisha, come show her how to do it. And I used to come in there like, who? Like, who's right now?

Man, I just always been like this. I got to a point where I had like three jobs. I worked at Little Caesars, Better Made Chip Factory, Best Buy, all at one time. You was getting to the money. Okay. I liked Coach at this time was my favorite. Yeah. Coach done made a little move back though.

Girl, I had all the parts. And then I wanted to keep my hair done. You know what I'm saying?

I never got into doing any of Burt's. It was big in Houston. Yeah, it was. I had a little everybody. But you know, in certain areas, it's a different thing that's popular. So yeah, yeah. Do you be feeling like pressure to like always have your hair laid? No. You don't? No, I told somebody the other day when they said, listen, cashed out is never, nothing is never out of place.

And I said, let me tell you something. You might catch me outside with the head scarf on because my wig braids is And I'm hydrating my hair. Listen, y'all better stop thinking that I don't be looking. I got my time. And I like my time when I'm ugly. Let me enjoy myself. No makeup, no lashes, no weave. I like to have my time. Well, I'll say this, what I mean, though. I feel like

So you got your mom in. You got your mom in. She ain't perfect. Make people surprised when I'm polished. She girl pie.