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Julia Guglia

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The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Hi, John. Thanks for taking my call.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Yeah. All right. I'm 51. I've been working since I was 24 in a legit career. I have switched careers one time already. I'm kind of at that point again. However, my husband, who is well compensated and really good at what he does, has a very high stress job. We also have what I like to call the golden handcuffs. We're at a point in our life where we have a mortgage and college savings.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

1335.544

So the luxury that I had when I made that first career change is the timing is not the same. I'll put it that way. I have this pattern throughout my life of retreat, hide, push it down. To make way for everyone else's stress and problems, I don't stand up for my own. So here I am at a point in my life where I'm thinking I've got nine, 10 good years left till I want to retire.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

1363.65

I'm in a job that while I love it, I feel it's at odds with its own industry and it's just riddled with politics and it's become rather unfulfilling and lets me lose sleep at night. But coming to my husband right now and saying, hey, this kind of sucks. I'd like to change things up. Feels like an impossibility. And I'm wondering, what's my right next step, as you like to say?

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I hope that made sense.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I can tell him usually how I feel. About most things, right? So we have a pretty solid marriage. This is a big one. And the reason I called in or sent into your show last week was I had a particularly bad day at work. And the message back was, I need you to not get fired or quit right now. I just can't.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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And I went, okay, so that's my usual, like, oh, okay, I'll just retreat, stuff it down, deal with it later.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Yeah, that's very true, yes.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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It is, which is why I'm at this breaking point.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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They're 15 and 11.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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It sure does. It does.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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This is why I haven't just bailed on it and run to the next one because I'm just trading the names on the faces.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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He's got this thing he's trying to survive, I think is fair to say.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

1573.252

Yeah, yeah, okay. So the company he works for, he does really well, but they are being acquired soon. And there has been so much stripping of labor, basic functions in the HR side aren't getting done. So the stress for him and his coworkers has just been, and I don't use this term lightly, astronomical.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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They're understaffed, overbooked, and it's an industrial field, so it's very much a man's world. And so men, they just tend to raz each other and drink and take a lot of Adderall to get through their days.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I'm not saying it's the right thing to do. I'm just telling you that's what he's managing.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

1655.682

Okay. So here's the deal. This actually happened since I contacted your show.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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They have offered him a substantial amount of money to see the acquisition through to the end with no strings attached. Once that happens, he does not have to stay employed. That's the money to keep.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Yes. And so for the first time in a long time, we have a light at the end of the tunnel for this mess.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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But you have a light at the end of the tunnel for his mess.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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No, I think he would be open to that. I just don't know that I could come at it right now and keep my poop together.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I think I would break down.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Why am I in such a raw emotional state?

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I've considered. Okay. So this all started with a career change as an idea to this, to find that target, not moving targets. I could go back to school and get caught up. And I live in the coding world. I could learn to code again. I would enjoy that. I've thought of just quitting entirely and being a stay-at-home mom, which if you told me this five years ago, I would have told you you were crazy.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

1903.476

I've thought about selling our house, getting something smaller, more manageable, so that we wouldn't have the financial needs that we have, like unburdening ourselves a bit.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I've thought about just learning how to deal with the day-to-day work stresses that put me in this position in the first place instead of running from them because there are parts of this job that I do love and I absolutely love my team and the people I'm with. It's not all bad. I'm really stuck.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Oh, yeah. I don't really value myself.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Again, he's reached a tipping point with his own stress.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I don't know the answer then.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Nope, nothing like that.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I feel like I'm going to just become a hermit, just withdraw entirely.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Growing up, I was told constantly that I was selfish.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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It wasn't until I moved out, started university, I kind of had to figure it out. I mean, it's a life skill, right? I was put in situations and I kind of started to figure it out. I ended up in an emotionally abusive relationship that I finally just bailed on. I cut my losses because we own property. I got out of that. Switched careers because I was dying a slow death in it.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I was an engineer and switched over into the e-commerce world. and I found it much more of a creative outlet, and I enjoyed it, and I worked for a great company for years. They were my family. It was acquired and shut down, and now I'm just spinning, spinning my tires.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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It started in 2016, and I was laid off in 2019.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Yeah, I'm not doing that.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I really think what it is, John, is avoiding like I'll go do my hobby instead of organizing my office. I will avoid anything that causes me anxiety. such as organization or getting rid of stuff.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I'm avoiding trying to figure out how to get my kids picked up from school starting in the new year because now we've been called back to work, and I no longer have the option to leave early, pick them up, and rejoin online. That's gone. So I'm avoiding that.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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It's just what I've always done. I know it's not working for me anymore.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Well, that's helpful. Thank you.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I have, oh, I've tried to draw, and I don't even want to write it down. I'm afraid someone else will read it.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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You want me to say that right now?

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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Okay. I am worth the effort that's coming.

The Dr. John Delony Show

Wife Wants to Divorce After I Went to a Strip Club

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I do. Yes and no. I think it just depends on the day. And so the goal here is if I work towards the peace, I'll be reinforcing that message.