Jessica Zweig
Appearances
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Well, it's first to recognize that all of the beliefs that you have around your body The negative beliefs, they're not yours. They're programs and projections. based upon a society specifically for women that has curated a made up, totally false story and ideal of what our bodies need to look like.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
So to really just tap out is the best you can objectively to look at those thoughts as just not yours. And that's step one. I think step two is
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
This sounds very tactical and trivial, but it's really powerful, in fact, to stop following certain accounts on social media that trigger you, stop watching certain shows, stop picking up certain magazines, like unhooking yourself from the projection field is really powerful to come home to your body, what you look like in your own vessel, in your own container of awareness is huge. I think
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
as someone that went down the rabbit hole of all the diets and all the different workouts, like start building a relationship with your own body of what feels good to you, how to intuitively nourish your body, how to intuitively move your body.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I say this in my book, I have a whole exercise actually at the back of that chapter where I teach the reader how to have a conversation with your body, like how to ask it questions and how to learn how to listen to the answers and to cultivate a right relationship with your own body.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And that typically requires us to slow down, get still, move at the pace of our own rhythm versus the toxic tech that is constantly bombarding us with go, do, be in action mode constantly to really slow down. Another hot tip that I love and live by if you are a woman is to get a
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
app on your phone that tracks your menstrual cycle and learn about the different phases of that 30-day window and how our body wants us to fuel it and move it and how much rest we need how much energy we have in these four different phases of the infradian rhythm which is connected to the moon cycle and to really become in tune with that feminine nature
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I think is one of the biggest unlocks and permission slips to start to love and honor our bodies at a completely different level. And so that would be my advice and to just tell her she's perfect. She's beautiful. She is divinely designed. And the fact that she doesn't look like anyone else is the greatest miracle and her biggest superpower.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Thank you for asking.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Yes, it is.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Of course. So the synonym for the word light is as I define it throughout my own spiritual studies and research and experience and how I phrase it in the book, the synonym for the word light is information. That's it. So when we are in a dark room, imagine yourself in a pitch black room and you switch on the light. You can see. You can see what is factually, actually, truthfully there.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And so our light that's within us is our truth and the truth of who we really are And I believe, and I don't just believe, I know that we as human beings are limitless, are innately loved, are innately worthy, are innately powerful and quantum and abundant. That's the information, the truth, the information of truth that lives inside of all of us. And darkness isn't evil.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
When we hear the word dark, we're like, ooh, that's something to be afraid of. That's bad. It's not. It's just lack of information. It's actually quite neutral when you think about it. When we're in a dark room, we can't see. And when we can't see and we are in the dark, things do happen. We get scared. There is a vibration of fear in the dark. We are technically ignorant.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
right and what happens in ignorance well we make up stories we project things that simply aren't true and it is in the dark that things do get dangerous if we let the dark stay dark too long i write about this in my book some of the most horrific manifestations of the darkness is hatred and bullying and racism and anti-Semitism and homophobia.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I mean, those are some of the darkest expressions of humanity. Right. And that's coming from our lack of information, truth that we are all love, that we are all connected, that we're all part of one big human family, that we are powerful. Right. But those are the most extreme atrocities. Right. Things I just mentioned.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
The average person festers in their own dark and things like imposter syndrome come up, scarcity comes up, jealousy comes up, lack of worthiness comes up, competition and comparison.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
survival all of these human manifestations of the dark are things i think we're all very familiar with and just to take it a layer deeper i really believe that's why we're here is why we've come here in these human experiences to navigate through that polarity of light and dark because that's where we find our truth we find our power when we're willing to go into the dark meet it face it take responsibility for it be willing to change and grow
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
to accept responsibility for our own projection and co-creation in the dark, which is the hardest part of personal growth, frankly, in my view, is taking that responsibility for our own side of the street. But when we do that, John, when we accept the assignment, we go into the dark, we don't avoid it, bypass it, pretend it's not there, ignore it, shame it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
When we stop doing that and we turn around and we go in and we say out loud, I hate my body when we say out loud. I am terrified. I'm. Going to not pay my bills this month when we go in and we say, yeah, I was a really bad wife yesterday. We can find a whole new level of our authenticity and.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
We can't, and freedom, because when we start to acknowledge the dark that's within us, because that's why the book starts with inner light, it has to start within. It's so much easier to go call out the dark and tell everyone else what they need to fix and change and how they should grow and heal versus ourselves. We become free, right?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
We can't, no one can call us out on our own ish because we already know it. No one can call us out on something we don't already know about ourselves. That's power. That's empowerment. And so the dance between the light and the dark is the whole point of what we've come here as human beings to evolve our souls through this timeline called your own unique life.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I write very intentionally in the book. I go into, welcome to the light work. I make the joke I could have called the book the dark work because I talk so much about my own painful experiences throughout various areas of my life. But I have a chapter right before the whole book starts that says, but first a word about the dark.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Because our darkness is our gift our darkness is our teacher our darkness is our way shower back into the light and you can't fully live in your embodied state of joy of bliss of abundance of freedom of connection. Unless you've met yourself in the darkest of the dark moments of your own human experience.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And so that's really what the book is an invitation into is the darkness because it's there we truly find our brightest light.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I have chills right now going down my whole body.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Wow. It's funny, John, as you were even picking up the book, I started getting chills. I'm like something really powerful is about to come through. And then you read that and my body kept waving with chills. That's, that's so profound. So timely. Wow.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Gosh, this is such a beautiful question and such a big one. I say this in my book because I do tell that story about how, and I did walk away from that publisher and I decided to go with a different publisher because they were The other publisher was fighting me on my title and they called the word light problematic. And I couldn't wrap my brain around that.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I was like, how can something so universal and available to all of us and the truth of who we are be a problem? And then it clicked. And I wrote this in the book. I'm like, people aren't afraid of the light that you are. People are afraid of the light that is within them that is often unexpressed and repressed.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And so you living your light and being so embodied in your truth and your joy and your authenticity has to be wrong. Like they have to put a label that's bad as a way to protect themselves from shining that brightly too. And this is typically subconscious, right? So to answer your question, it's such a beautiful question.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I think it's really, I say this all throughout the book, and I believe this to be true. I mean, there is power in numbers. And when you step out and start to shine your light, quantum science, this isn't woo-woo, like light attracts light. It's science. Like attracts like. And when you are embodied in a vibration, because everything is energy, right? This is Albert Einstein. This is Joe Dispenza.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
This is science. we are doing one of two things. We're attracting that same like energy to us and we are repelling any unlike energy away from us. And I think it's a very understandable and I hold a lot of compassion for people who are afraid to shine their light, to be themselves, to stand in their truth, to share their message because they're afraid they're gonna be rejected.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And this is not only rejected, but abandoned. die. This is really woven into our psyche and our DNA, our ancestral lineage, because there was a time specifically for women where if we shine too bright and we took up too much space and we spoke our truth, we would be burned.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
For hundreds and hundreds of years, millions of women were cast as witches and tortured because we were attuned to nature and we had a magical understanding of planet and our beautiful sexuality to create life. I mean, that became dangerous, right? It was called wicked. And so this is so deep, this question, it weaves its way back into our psyche on a subcutaneous level.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And so today, here we are in 2024, technically safe, right? I mean, we might get some people hating on us on social media. Maybe we'll lose our jobs. Maybe we'll, someone will break up with us if we, I mean, these are, I want to acknowledge there are extremes in today's society and how it's evolved and what's relevant today.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
But at the end of the day, there is a greater cost to you, not living your light, not living your truth. than there is to fully express it. It's like that Ananias Nin quote that I love so much. It says, and the day came, I'm going to botch it a little bit, but she's somewhat, this is paraphrasing it.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And the day came when the risk it was to stay tightly wound up in a bud was greater than the risk it was to bloom. And when we bloom, back to that power numbers comment, We do start to attract like quantum science, people who are of that same energy and frequency. And it creates a sense of affirmation and confirmation and safety once more that we can be the light.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And yeah, people are going to repel. Those aren't your people. That partner probably wasn't meant to be your partner. That job wasn't probably the right fit. Those social media followers were never going to buy your stuff or listen to your podcast anyway. So to really trust that your light is needed and that you are safe to shine in and that there might be some losses along the way.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
But what that is, the universe just reorienting and reorganizing what's meant for you. And to really trust that. And it's easier to trust that when we're surrounded by the people who see it and feel it too, but you can't find those people unless you step out and shine a light in the first place.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
The synonym for the word light is information. That's it. Imagine yourself in a pitch black room and you switch on the light. You can see. You can see what is factually, actually, truthfully there. Our light that's within us is our truth and the truth of who we really are. I don't just believe I know that we as human beings are limitless, are innately loved and
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Oh, John, you just basically told the story of the first 38 years of my life. I mean, I think. feel like you named it i mean it's the the core human yearning is to belong we really are meant to live in community it's how we were designed from the dawn of civilization before the modern world we lived in tribes and to belong is to matter and to matter is to belong and
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
A lot of our collective trauma is unfortunately, and I say this with all the love in the world based upon, I think our parents and their parents and their parents that had this. deeply seated program to survive and to clench into grip and to not trust life and not to trust themselves and their own power and to put themselves out into the light.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
That was not an option because we came up through centuries of survival, really. And the fittest always won. And I look back at my own childhood and my parents are incredible people. I'm obsessed with my family, but they were imperfect at the same time and doing the best they could with what they knew. And my dad was really hard on me. And in order to matter, I had to succeed, right?
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Because in his mind, if you are successful, you're safe, right? And he was just trying to keep me protected in the way that he raised me. And that caused a lot of strife between us because I was a young rebel that came out of the womb, like ready to do life on my terms. And we butted heads for a lot of my life. And I found myself in my late thirties at the peak of my success,
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
quote unquote mattering, right? All of a sudden I was the successful entrepreneur, built a business, written a book, had a podcast, had a community, won the awards, hit the press hits check, right? But why inside did I not feel like I mattered? That was what I had to reconcile. Like I said, I made the joke.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
He basically described my first 38 years of my life to remember the key word is remembering that I didn't have to do any of those things to matter. And
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
that is the collective amnesia that we have in the collective consciousness that i think a lot of people are awakening to that we are born worthy we are born loved we are born perfect going back to the body dysmorphia part of our conversation and that is unfortunately and also fortunately because it's part of the gift of the human experience is a lifelong journey of unlearning and
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I just feel that there is such an opportunity given podcasts like yours and mine and books and coaching and therapy and everything that sort of become mainstream that our parents certainly didn't have for us to heal that and to come home to. are innate mattering. And so I think that's really at the end of the day, what we're all doing here, John, like in the space, right?
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Like we all do it in a different way. We have different gifts. We have a different purpose, but I feel like it's one same end goal to help people remember how much they matter.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Thank you for sharing that. I feel that in my body as you share it. I had started this one woman consultancy called Simply Be Agency inspired by this little tattoo on my wrist. I had no money. I had no strategy. I didn't even have a website. I was just like, I'm going to help people with their personal brands, call it an agency. That sounds cute, but it's just me and I'm just consulting.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And it just took off within 18 months, I had made a million dollars. And then a few years later I made multimillions. And then I wrote my number one bestselling book for my first book B and that exploded in my business and doubled my revenue, doubled my team in less than 11 months. So here I was on this rocket ship, right?
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Mountain mountain ascent, like just bolting sprinting 100 hour work weeks, literally. on airplanes, being the podcast host, being the speaker, being the lead generator, being the team manager, being the firefighter, whenever there were problems, which was all the time. When you scale that quickly, everything breaks, people process systems. So 2022 is the year that like
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I said I was at the peak of my career, crushing life, quote unquote. And inside, I wanted to die. I mean, I was that's not an exaggeration. I was diagnosed with depression and couldn't leave my house for months at a time. I didn't have the energy to shower, socialize.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And the world on Instagram thought I was like the bright yellow, sunny branding girl that was always so positive and high vibes and killing it. And so that was a real reckoning, right? Like I was so out of alignment. I wanted to close my whole business down at a certain point. And I was in that state of mind when I got on that plane to Egypt. And I remember feeling like a bag of bones.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I remember getting on that airplane. It's a long flight. We had a connection. through Germany and we're going from Germany to Cairo and we're coming down into the city on the airplane. When you can start to see all the city lights of Cairo, it looks like one big grid. And I just remember feeling nothing. I remember feeling so empty, like black.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I just, I was like, I have nothing to give to this trip. In fact, we land and we get to the baggage claim and it's me and my best friend. We went together and we were getting picked up by our driver. And there was another woman who was on this trip with us. It was like a 17 person spiritual retreat pilgrimage for these two weeks.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And this girl was flying in from LA and she was meeting the driver too. So he was picking up all three of us. And I remember her, her name is Vanessa and she was at baggage claim. And we were like, oh, you're coming on this trip too. And she started talking to me and I looked at her and I said it as kindly as I said it to her.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I said, I just, I need you to know this is not personal, but I am so burnt out and tired and exhausted. I just don't really have the energy to talk to anybody right now. She became one of my closest friends, by the way, she's one of my girls. And we took, we remember that moment very thoroughly together, but that I was just like, I got nothing.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I remember, we show up at the hotel and we get our itinerary and I'm looking and I'm like seeing that there's four, 5 AM, sometimes 3 AM wake up calls throughout this trip, because we're going to these temples really early before they open to the public. That was part of the magic of this trip actually was we got all this private access. But we had to get up at dawn to do it.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I remember having a mini nervous breakdown because I was so tired. I think when we're really, truly burnt out, we resort to that two-year-old child that needs a nap, that is so hungry and so exhausted. I see, you ever see a child have a tantrum at a restaurant? I look at that today. I'm like, I understand how that feels. You just want to lose your mind because you're so tired.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And that's where I was on that plane when I started that trip. And because I had nothing left to give, I only was able then to receive, to totally surrender and allow that experience to unfold. And that trip was by far, I mean, it's the inspiration and through line for the entire book and impetus for this whole new platform and business and message and podcast that I have now created.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
It was from Egypt that I like to say that version of me, thank God, but I also bless her. She died. She did not come home with me. I came home a different person. That trip was a full on identity death that happened in a crescendo of temple visit after temple visit where I recall recollected and reclaimed and re membered re dash membered myself. And I couldn't be more grateful for the dark.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
because it really was what brought me home to the light. And thank you for asking this question. I have never really recounted it that way, but thank you. Forgive me now.
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I'm getting emotional, like tears in my eyes as you read that quote back, because that's a Brian Andreas quote, who's an artist I love. And I commissioned a piece of art from him and he wrote that. It's in my bathroom, that art. And it's so profound. Like when you step into the thing you are, the world does not burn.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
We think it might, but in fact, glows more brightly with the light that you bring.
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And limitless potential. So much potential. You can't even see it. It's so good. But the world is waiting for you to step into the thing that you are so that you can see it too. And thank you for really outlining the book because in the first section it's inner light.
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It's like loving our bodies, finding our personal power, getting in touch with our emotions, really remembering that we are fully responsible for our own choices in life. And then we can cultivate all that inner light.
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And then we go to Thanksgiving dinner with our families or then we get into a fight with our partner or then the client doesn't want to pay us or our friend is talking gossip about it. Right. We get triggered in. the outer realm beyond our own inner world. And so I start that section with family, soul family.
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are innately worthy are innately powerful and quantum and abundant that's the information the information of truth that lives inside of all of us and darkness isn't evil we hear the word dark we're like oh that's something to be afraid of that's bad it's not it's just lack of information It's actually quite neutral when you think about it. When we're in a dark room, we can't see.
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And we've probably, maybe some of your listeners have or have not heard the term soul family. I certainly have. And it's usually credited to the family that you choose, like your circle of friends, your community, your neighbors, your tribe that we choose in our conscious lives. That's what soul family has in certain circles been defined as. I don't think that's true.
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I think our soul family is literally the people that our souls as a cosmic level came into this life and chose, we didn't choose it in our own conscious 3d identities. Our souls did. And we typically, therefore not typically always choose the perfect parents, the perfect siblings, the perfect aunts and uncles for us. And that word perfect
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I know is loaded because no one had a perfect family and that's because no person is perfect. And yet they were designed that our souls designed these nuclear soul families for our highest evolution, for our highest growth and potential.
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And when we look at it through that lens, from I'm offering the reader a more conscious, healed, or at least on the path to healing, what that was, no matter how dysfunctional and imperfect and traumatic it was, that we can see that we became who we became because of it. We weren't defined by our parents. We were refined by our parents. We were refined like a diamond.
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And I make that metaphor in the chapter that a diamond to become a diamond has to go through 2000 degrees Fahrenheit of heat and like over a billion pounds of pressure to become a diamond. And we had tons of heat and pressure, proverbially speaking, in our family systems. Again, nobody has a perfect family because our parents were not perfect people.
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And I like to say my parents were doing the best with what they had, with what they knew. And there was trauma in my upbringing. And when we do this work, the subline of that chapter is soul family. Healing yourself heals the world. We look around the planet. We turn on the news. There is war. There is divisiveness. There is sickness. There is poverty. There is polarity everywhere.
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And we can't go out as good intentioned as we are and fix any of that. Because I know we all want to make a better world without starting right here. Because all of that is being played out by people who are unhealed because of their own trauma. And so if we want to heal the world, we have to start by healing ourselves.
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And I think that our deepest pain on the source of our unhealed nature started with our family systems. And so that's where I begin that section with outer light It's that first invitation to find that light within that dark. And that is a very heavy chapter, but I think it's also a really hopeful chapter.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I cried writing that entire chapter and I got to shout out my father in particular and my mom for giving me the grace to write about our family the way that I did. And it was that, that in and of itself was its own journey.
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Yeah.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Absolutely. You really read my book, John. I love you. Thank you for all these questions. It's always such a gift when I get to be on a podcast with someone who's really truly read it. It's amazing. So before I get into the creation calling cause triangle, I'll be brief and explain where that was inspired by back to Egypt.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
We got to go to the temple of Karnak, massive structure, very significant place in Luxor. And our guides tell us that The approach of the temple, like this is the temple of purpose. You're going to go into Karnak and people walk out knowing their purpose. I'm sitting there on the bus about to pop off like a totally smug a-hole being like, I don't, I already know my purpose.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I'm not going to find anything new here. Look at my life. Look at my agency. Look at my book. Look at my podcast. I'm on purpose. I'm changing lives. I'm not going to find anything new here. And I nonetheless go to the temple, walk into one of the structures and get a little bit of energetic shift. Something happened to me in one of those buildings.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I walk out the second I'm walking out this tiny little white feather floats in front of my face. Feathers are my totem. I have feathers everywhere. They're like my sign from the universe always. And this tiny little white feather floats in front of my face. I lean out my palm, it lands in my palm. And I heard the universe chuckle like hardcore actually laugh at me.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I got the message like your purpose isn't at all what you thought it was. Your purpose is to learn how to live as light as a feather. And to teach other women that you can be powerful and free at the same time. That's what you are actually here to do. That's your mission. And so that really inspired that chapter in the book, which is one of my actually favorite chapters of them all.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Where I really go deep on like the cosmic reason we are all really here and it is bigger than what we do. It's bigger than how we make money. It's bigger than like our impact on social media. it might even be bigger than your own unique family system. Like we're here to play a much bigger game than we've given ourselves credit for and how powerful our own unique lives need to really be.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And that inspired what's called the Lightworkers Anatomy, the mission of a Lightworkers Anatomy, I should say, that is a triangle that is comprised of your creation, which is for most of us typically what we do for a living, the thing that only we could create because there is only one us. Then there's our calling, which is what our soul came here to do.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
It's the thing we would do every single day of our lives. whether or not we got paid for it. And for some people, our creation and our calling is connected and that's a gorgeous thing. But in the book, I really offer a permission slip.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
If that's not that connected, your calling might be golf and you're where you find the most joy, but your creation is your one of a kind finance career or your creation and your calling could be intertwined and you're an entrepreneur and that's beautiful. And then the final piece is your cause, which is really what are you leaving behind? Why it, Is this world better because you existed?
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Because we're all gonna die and one day they're gonna talk about us. And is it the fact that you made a lot of money and helped a lot of clients? Is it that you were a really good golfer? Is it because raised a really great family? Maybe that's it. But like to look more broadly at the world and to not play small and to take your responsibility in making this world better
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
seriously and to expand the aperture of your true mission is what that chapter and that experience really is all about and why I left it in the future because we're really creating a future earth today based on how we show up.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Gaia. That's right.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Thank you so much for having me. This was such a treat. I was looking forward to this so much, John. So thank you for over exceeding my expectations of this conversation with your incredible. You can come find me on my website, jessicasweig.com. teach a certification coaching program, group coaching certification program on feminine leadership. It's called the Feminine Frequency Business School.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I'm launching that next, next year, early next year. Come find me on Instagram at Jessica Zweig. You can buy the book anywhere books are sold. Amazon, Target, Barnes and Noble, all the places. And come find me on my podcast, The Spiritual Hustler, where John dipped in too. And I would love to meet anyone from your community. Come say hi. I'm very accessible.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Oh, amazing.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Thank you, Amy. Thank you, John. This was a gift to be with you. You're a beautiful soul. I'm so in awe of what you've built, and it's an honor to be here today.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Wonderful, John. I'm amazing. I'm so happy to be here with you. Thank you for having me.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Oh, I love this question. I got to give some credit to my publicist who was helping me with my book about a year and a half ago. She looks at me, she's like, Jessica, you're a spiritual hustler. And I was like, ding, ding. That is accurate. That encapsulates me. And I'll explain more why. But that term just really felt relevant, I think, to a lot of women. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm ambitious.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I've been serving a community of ambitious entrepreneurs for a long time, and I really want to celebrate our love of working and our ambition. And yet at the same time, there's a sort of a toxic frame around that word that it can be negative. It's what burns us out. It's not always in alignment to how we're supposed to do this thing called build our dreams. And I've always been spiritual.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
My spiritual message is pretty out of the closet at this point. And I'm very unapologetically woo.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
If you want to, I don't love that word, but I use that word just to make sense of conscious awake people at this time and with my show and really with my platform and all the things that I'm doing today, my business, I'm really here to help women come home to their true nature and their feminine identities to really
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
look at spirituality and business as intrinsically connected, the more we're in tune with our mission, our why, our true purpose in this life. As a spiritual being having a human experience, I think the more impactful we can be in our work. And I say this on my podcast, like we're really here on that show and in my work at large,
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
to hustle from a different vibration, to hustle not from fear and scarcity and gripping and grinding, but to hustle for love and to hustle for humanity and to hustle from a place of trust and allowance. And when we spiritually hustle, I think we actually make a bigger impact. We make more money, but we don't kill ourselves on the way to do it. And I think that's what a lot of, excuse me,
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I think that's what a lot of women are really craving and coming home to. So that's what a spiritual hustler means to me.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And when we can't see and we are in the dark, things do happen. We get scared. There is a vibration of fear in the dark. We are technically ignorant. And what happens in ignorance? Well, we make up stories. We project things that simply aren't true. And it is in the dark that things do get dangerous if we let the dark stay dark too long.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Thank you. Thank you so much.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I'm like emotional just hearing you reflect that. It's amazing how raw we can remain when we think back on those pivotal moments so i too grew up and i was really little and like angular until i got my period at 13 and then all of a sudden i had curves and i was plump and chubby and I grew up in a community where everyone was so thin.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And then I went to college and I gained not the freshmen 15, but the freshmen 30 and kept that weight on until I graduated. And yet I went to school for theater. I was a well-trained actress. By the time I graduated college, I went to a very competitive conservatory program. And so I entered the acting world, talented, but 30 pounds overweight.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I got this incredibly coveted meeting with one of the biggest commercial directors in the city of Chicago. And it was a preliminary audition for a huge campaign. And I walked into his office. I was 22. I was probably about six months out of college. And I walk into his office. I sit down in his chair about to begin the conversation. I hadn't even told him my name.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I hadn't even formally introduced myself. I hadn't said a word. And he goes, stand back up, turn around, looks me up and down. And he asks me while I'm standing there, how much do you weigh? And I didn't know. I wasn't weighing myself a regular basis. I said, I don't know my weight. He said, well, do you know what size you are? I said, I'm probably a size eight, maybe a size six.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And he just looked at me, matter of fact, straight as possible. He said, well, if you ever want to be an actress, you're going to need to lose about 35 pounds. And if you don't do that, you least need to get your size down to a two and a zero. If you want to ever be on camera, you can sit down now and tell me your name. That was not only the beginning.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And I say this in the book of my acting career, but that was really the beginning of my adult life in the world as a woman. And that one conversation set me on a 10 year spiral of disordered eating overworking out.
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orthorexia at times anorexia at times bulimia obsession with diet culture i this was at the dawn of the atkins no carb movement weight watchers master cleanse mediterranean diet raw vegan i literally only read those books for 10 years and they would sit on my shelf and i would obsess every second of every single day for most of my 20s about my weight And I actually got myself down to a size zero.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
I was so thin during a chapter in my twenties that I didn't get my period for two years. For two whole years, I didn't have a cycle because I was so underweight and malnourished and overworking out. I would track everything that I ate in a diary. I'd work out for two hours a day. What was really, I think, more prolific was my feelings around my own confidence.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
No matter how thin I got, I never felt thin enough. I wouldn't leave my house at certain days because I felt so fat in my own jeans. I didn't want to leave my own house. I would cancel plans, events, business meetings, date nights. I would stare at myself in the mirror and cry. I was really alone in that experience for a large part of my twenties.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And it was really becoming an entrepreneur that allowed me to focus my energy elsewhere. Being an actress is a very beautiful journey and I credit those that do it for the rest of their lives. It's an art and an artistry and a very noble career. But if I'm going to be honest, at least how it was for me, it was extremely narcissistic. And it perpetuates insecurity.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
Like I have, as I got thinner, I had a, I guess a pretty enough face to go out on castings for commercial gigs and photo shoots. And I would be like the five foot four girl with a curvy body, pretty face standing next to legitimate models who were like five 11 and wave thin. And I was comparing myself every single day against these models.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
women and it just created an obsession that I didn't break out of until I left the industry and became an entrepreneur. And then in my 30s, I contracted an autoimmune disorder. And I talk about that in the book. I say in my 20s was body dysmorphia and my 30s was autoimmune. And it was really my spiritual journey that led me to truly understand how to honor my body as a sacred temple.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
And that has nothing to do with my gene size and everything to do with the magnificence of this human machine that we all get to walk through life within, which is a amazing technology. I mean, our body does trillions of functions for us every second of the day without it asking us to. It is the home of our souls. And so now, flash forward to my 40s, I have a much better relationship with my body.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
But there are days, of course, where I still look in the mirror and criticize it. I think I'll always be healing from that trauma because that's really what it was. And I know you can relate. John, you talked about eight, nine years old. And you mentioned that your fiance struggles. I mean, it is a perpetual epidemic in our conscious collective mind to not love our bodies unconditionally.
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Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World | EP 544
We are often very abusive and critical and mean and neglecting our bodies. And I hope my book and my story, especially the chapter in my book about body is a invitation back to really what our bodies are and they are sacred. They are way more than a gene size. They're more than flesh and bone. They're quantum.
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Kim Scott on How to Foster Honest Feedback and Build Trust | EP 542
The synonym for the word light is information. That's it. Imagine yourself in a pitch black room and you switch on the light. You can see. You can see what is factually, actually, truthfully there. Our light that's within us is our truth and the truth of who we really are. I don't just believe I know that we as human beings are limitless, are innately loved.
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Kim Scott on How to Foster Honest Feedback and Build Trust | EP 542
are innately worthy, are innately powerful and quantum and abundant. That's the information, the information of truth that lives inside of all of us. And darkness isn't evil. When we hear the word dark, we're like, ooh, that's something to be afraid of. That's bad. It's not. It's just lack of information. It's actually quite neutral when you think about it.
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Kim Scott on How to Foster Honest Feedback and Build Trust | EP 542
When we're in a dark room, we can't see. And when we can't see and we are in the dark, things do happen. We get scared. there is a vibration of fear in the dark we are technically ignorant and what happens in ignorance well we make up stories we project things that simply aren't true and it is in the dark that things do get dangerous if we let the dark stay dark too long
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4 Inspiring Ways to Bridge the Gap Between Theory and Action | EP 543
The synonym for the word light is information. That's it. Imagine yourself in a pitch black room and you switch on the light. You can see. You can see what is factually, actually, truthfully there. Our light that's within us is our truth and the truth of who we really are.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
4 Inspiring Ways to Bridge the Gap Between Theory and Action | EP 543
I don't just believe I know that we as human beings are limitless, are innately loved, are innately worthy, are innately powerful and quantum and abundant. That's the information, the information of truth that lives inside of all of us. And darkness isn't evil. When we hear the word dark, we're like, ooh, that's something to be afraid of. That's bad. It's not. It's just lack of information.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
4 Inspiring Ways to Bridge the Gap Between Theory and Action | EP 543
It's actually quite neutral when you think about it. When we're in a dark room, we can't see. And when we can't see and we are in the dark, things do happen. We get scared. There is a vibration of fear in the dark. We are technically ignorant. And what happens in ignorance? Well, we make up stories. We project things that simply aren't true.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
4 Inspiring Ways to Bridge the Gap Between Theory and Action | EP 543
And it is in the dark that things do get dangerous if we let the dark stay dark too long.