Jesse James West
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Yeah. And I think that's almost – it's really important to do things daily, have daily habits of getting in the gym, doing things that are very difficult. Maybe you join a run club like we talked in our panel. Join a new run club. Start CrossFit or sign up for a marathon or – Like I said, getting in an ice bath is a great example.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's like literally one of the reasons I do it because like every day you look at that thing and you're like, I hate you. This is going to hurt. I'm kind of afraid to get in right now. But doing those little things that you can accomplish and get over fear for add up. And then it's like building habit and building blocks.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So that way when you have these really hard things of like, hey, that relationship's not working. This job isn't working. You at least know the habitual side of it.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
he had a million, he had five rental properties all at once that he was a landlord too. He fixed everything in the house, rebuilt the entire house on top of a normal nine to five that he wakes up at like four in the morning, driving an hour into the city, doing work. So it was like witnessing that firsthand. It was almost like I grew up with no excuse to be made.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So I feel like that really ingrained in my head from a young age, just being relentless and like That's just who I am. And it's like, I can't not be that way.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
how do you overcome the judgment of other if you don't have the support of people around you yeah so i have like so many scenarios in my head of like sort of screwed up things that people would do or say or what they were i'll explain them so when i was let's just say 15 to 17 i don't exactly remember what exactly what age but i started my fitness page which is now my instagram and it was called jesse james fitness
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You know, it has a little ring to it. You know, it's like, it's clearly not my just name. It's like, oh, this brand that I'm trying to do, you know, sell t-shirts, worker programs, whatever it might be. And obviously I said I had aspirations of being a YouTuber and all that stuff. And as you're in high school, at least in my high school,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Back then also, additionally, it was not as normal to try to start a YouTube, but there was no TikTok like Instagram and stuff. And they see this and they see me trying to do it. I have a good physique at this point. Like there's no, it's not even like I have no, no physique, no, no, nothing.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's not even like I'm really just trying to be a wannabe. I genuinely could already be in the, in the industry. In my opinion, I have good genetics. Thank you, mom and dad. Um, And at this point, I have like a few thousand maybe followers. And honestly, a lot of them are probably just from lacrosse. And I go to the pep rally of like freshmen, sophomore, junior, seniors.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Everybody's at their own bleacher. There's doing tug of war, doing challenges, battle of the classes, it was called. And I'm a freshman at this time, I remember right now, or a sophomore, whatever. And the seniors all chant, Jesse James fitness, Jesse James fitness. And I'm standing there and I'm like, shit. Okay. I can do two things here.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I can look down and just like admit defeat and like, let them win. And I'm not like that at all. And, or. you know, I can keep my chin up. I can look at them. I can double bicep flex and say, what do you want? What do you want? So we were going out for tug of war and that's when they were doing it. And I just look at them and I'm like, and I flex in my head, my soul. I'm like, I'm panicking.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I'm uncomfortable. I'm embarrassed. I'm so embarrassed. Like there's the girls behind you that you want to date the friends that you, you know, you're making and all this stuff. And like, I'm trying to be cool and whatnot, but I'm like, I can't let them see that. Like it's a poker face that I got to keep on because at least I can win that. And I feel like I kept doing that for so long.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I really did like partially not give a fuck, but also you'll always give a fuck. I still give a fuck. I get a hate comment now. If I get enough of them, I'm still going to give a fuck. I'm never not going to give a fuck. If you don't care, that's just because you don't have a desire in this anymore. And I remember I do the flex. We do the tug of war, whatever.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And then in the hallways, they'd be like, Jesse and fitness. What's up, man? And I just be like, what's up, bro? What's up? Like, you know what? I'm on phase. I don't care. And I feel like people really started to pick up on that. And like, they're like, damn, this, this, this MFR is like not breaking. And these are like the, the junior or the grade above me or whatever.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Uh, the, the cool kids, uh, I called them the entitled kids. They very much were. No hate against them now. Everyone, no big deal. It made me who I was. But another time was a kid for Halloween. And he might even be watching this. I forgive you. It's okay. He dressed up as me. Hey! No, I'm kidding. He dressed up as me.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I remember seeing this and I was like, this is a new level I have to accept. Like, this is fucked. And honestly, like... I'll get into it more. So he dresses up in me. He has a fucking muscle suit on at a party. We're probably 16, 17. He was one of the kids that like go drink with his friends. I drank a little when I was in high school, whatever. And I wasn't really a partier.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I didn't have time. I was playing lacrosse every day. And I was like, I'm sitting at home, seeing on my Instagram. And I'm like, wow. This fucker is dressing up as me right now. It says Jesse James Fitness. And like those things just like stick with you as like a driving motivation of like why I want to make it even more. It's almost like a trauma reaction. Like I was traumatized.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
My reaction is I'm going to win. You're not going to control me. I'm going to defeat you and everything in front of me. You're just a wall that I have to break through. And if I can't handle this, I don't deserve what I want. Like if you – that was my mindset. And I saw that. I remember.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And, and you know, what's crazy is that now year, probably a few months ago, he messaged, I'm not, I would never name him, but he messaged me about my Michael Chandler collab. And he's like, dude, saw the Chandler collab. So sick. Great job. And I was like, huh? Weren't you? And I was like, honestly, thank you.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's crazy. It definitely stung for a while, but it's also one of the things that, For some reason, and I'm going to assume that it's from my mom, the way she raised me and always hyped me up in a way, she believed in me before I believed in me. And she believed in me so much that I ended up believing in myself in everything.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I weirdly believe in myself for things I shouldn't believe in myself for. I'm like, I could be a musician if I wanted. let's be real, Jesse, you're a little tone deaf, but like, you know what I mean? Like I had that mindset that's ingrained in me and from a young age. So seeing those things happen and then she would kind of be, she'd be like the backbone.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
She'd be like, you can't let this affect you. Like in reality, this is not doing anything. It's really not doing anything. The only thing I could do is hurt you. And then you're just stopping yourself from doing anything. Cause it it's in your head. Like no one else is seeing that and going, you know what? I'm, I'm not going to support Jesse. Cause that kid wore a muscle suit. Like, like,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
that shit doesn't exist. It's all how we perceive it.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So having that like backbone and belief in my body that my mom instilled me from a young age, I feel like is one of the reasons that I am in the position I am where I have so much unconditional belief in myself that I tell people that if you believe in yourself and you actually believe, not just like, oh, I believe in myself because I was told by Chris and Jesse on a podcast too.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like if you genuinely believe in yourself, you are 75% already there. towards your goals. Like you will, you will accomplish them. If you believe yourself, put in the work, it's done.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Oh, that was a very hard time. Honestly, for my whole family, because like me, it's me, my sister, my mom, my dad, and we're all very close. We all communicate a ton in great relationships. And for years, it was all great. But then with my dad being so, and he, cause he thought this was the best for me. He thought this is gonna make Jesse successful. He's gonna have security when he's older.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like this, it was out of love. It was just this love that was, I guess you could say, hurtful in a way and like a little toxic. And so I go through, I'll give you the kind of like the rundown of quitting and like ripping and pulling the pin on the, on the grenade and chucking it. I call my mom, I call my sister. I believe first, I've always kind of gone to her as like, all right, what do I do?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like, she's just kind of like another parent to me. And she's like, you're going to have to like, you just call mom, tell her what's going on. She'll, she'll handle dad. That was kind of always how it went. Like mom's going to handle dad. And I tell my mom and she's like, I'll talk to your father. And basically, my mom tells me the conversation went like this.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
They came to visit me at Lehigh during an alumni game. We were playing a game. And after the game, we went to Target. Me and my mom are going in just getting like college supply stuff because you go early in sports. You don't go and everyone else starts. And I go in there and this has been I've been there for about three weeks and I'm really fucking struggling, like very, very depressed.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I break down crying to her, just like, I can't keep it in. Like, and I'm just walking target, like about to like shot the checkout aisles to my right. And I start tearing up and I'm, and I'm like, oh my God. And I look at her and I'm like, I'm like, something's so fucking wrong.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
like i i i feel like i can't feel anything i have no interest in like women right now and not that i was pursuing anything else but just like my emotion of who jesse was like i always wanted to go out and like talk to the girls didn't care at all none of that social media still doing it but i was just like fuck man like my desire of everything is gone like
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The only thing I had that kept me sort of sane was lifting and music. And those are like two things that I like combined together. And it was my only safe space. And I remember leaving that, uh, target. My mom then dropped my mom and dad are in the car. My dad doesn't know. I just cried. I'm like, fucking suck it up. Like you're fine. Like get in the car. Like I'm, I'm the good boy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
That's fucking completing this mission of ours. And when she drops me off, she told me, tell me the conversation. She looked at my dad and was like, you're not saying a word. He's leaving. You have no say. So shout out Karen to this fucking legend. And she's like, you have to accept this. And that's how it is. Period. End of conversation. And I feel like he kind of knew for a while.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like I know we're skipping parts in the story of like my, my darkness and stuff, but like he kind of caught the idea a little bit, like my son struggling, but I feel like he kind of didn't want to admit it. And, but what that did was it broke down this massive barrier of, of how my dad thought I should go about life and also broke down a massive barrier for myself that
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
as i have gotten older as i played sports my entire life and obviously not now but from 11 years old all the way until 18 years old playing sports i discovered the whole like non-stop continuously grinding and the more work you put in the more you get out and i feel like that sort of defined who i am and i feel that that's something that i've always aspired to be is to be the hardest worker in the room
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You know, it was very... It's very difficult to comprehend as a kid. Looking back, it all makes sense. And I'm like, I have no regrets on my relationship with my dad, my relationship with coaches and sports. But playing lacrosse, I was fortunately very good at it right away. And I feel like whenever I was good at something...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
maybe I don't have to listen to everyone telling me to do things. And maybe I should just listen to myself and actually like pursue things that I want to. And I haven't, I haven't been able to in six years of my life. I've been playing across every day, every weekend, missing homecoming, late to prom, leaving prom weekend because I had to go play in an all-star game. Like the shit never ended.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And like, it made me like relentless and it definitely was like dedication and relentless right there. But that shit stuck with me for so long of like, I didn't get anything for a while of like experience that normal people have. And I feel like it just hit a big breaking point when I got to college. And once that happened, like,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It was, uh, it was then now, like my mom tells my dad, Jesse's out accepted or, you know, you're not gonna have a relationship with your son. Basically. I then, you know, I come home for the weekend. Um, I talked to my dad and stuff and he's like, he's very understanding.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He's like, honestly, I, I would, I, I don't want to speak for him, but I think it's one of his biggest regrets is pushing me that far.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
that far to my limits where as a father you never want to push your son into depression or anything not that he pushed me there but like his actions added up the setup yeah and I know like we have a great relationship now we did throughout years it was up and down good bad sometimes now it's a great relationship but during that time it definitely like changed his mindset of like
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
just everything and really like john had to become a new man and accept things and i had to become a new man and learn that i have to say what i want in life do what i want and like you said hold yourself i have to advocate for myself at all times because i this is a saying that i stuck with Do what you're meant to, not what you're supposed to. Everyone is always supposed to be doing something.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But if you're not meant to be doing that, why the fuck are you doing it? Like, seriously.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Yeah. And it's like one of my main missions on social media. Yes, I want to do big things, make cool videos. But like the the true why of like the core of why I started, why I do all this was because I went through that. And I feel like I went through such a dark phase of my life with such a bright awakening. I was like, people need to know this shit.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like people need to just not not be told it, but shown it. Yeah. I'd advocate for myself that on my channel, it's me living my best life. Doing cool things that I have desires, that I'm interested in. I'm interested in Vikings. I'm going to go freaking Norway, jump off a cliff of Vikings and eat and drink mead and do these cool things because that's something I've always wanted to do.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I have a lot of fascination and stuff like that. And I always wanted to leave a subconscious message with my videos. Like if you're not living life to the fullest, like you are missing out on so much. And I hope that people can watch this and realize that you are worth that meant to life rather than that supposed to life. And I hope people can, pursue they're meant to eventually.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Definitely, my family was like, we got to push him the most we possibly can. And specifically, my mom pushed me a lot, but my dad definitely pushed me a lot. It was like, you see those dads on documentary shows about a football player or something. Classic sports dad. Classic sports dad that's just like, my son's going to be the best. He's going to be the greatest.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Yeah, I think it comes down to like how I said about believing in yourself. I think a lot of people... Weren't raised the way to have that where they need to learn that in their 20s, 30s, 40s, whatever. And that's way harder than growing up thinking that. So I'm definitely like very blessed to have that intuitional belief in myself from like day one.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I think for those that may not relate to that, how I have that belief, it's one of those things that that's where I think you need to realize there's things like the nine to five and there's things like the entrepreneurial route. And I think it's really important for people to realize that It isn't always grass is greener on the other side.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I think people need to realize also that there is just as much, in some scenarios, struggle in, oh, I'm going to do everything on my own. I'm going to be an entrepreneur. You're working 24 hours, brother. Good luck. It's hard. Nine to five. Good luck. If I had to go to that, good luck. It's hard. It's hard on both ends of life. It's just a matter of almost like...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
what evil do you want to put your energy into?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like they see Goggins and they think, oh, suffer, suffer, suffer. Let's go. Let's go. I'm going to fucking get through this job. I don't care. And that makes them, maybe they get dopamine off of that. But you also could just input that same exact suffering energy into maybe something that you have passion and drive for.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He's going to work harder than everybody. And it was very much that. But I did enjoy it. I loved lacrosse. So I didn't see it as a problem. So it was sort of like... He's inducing that sort of relentless vibe to my life and practice. And then my love for the sport also coming together. It worked very well from a young age. So I saw no problem with it. My mom saw no problem with it.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's still going to maybe have its moments of difficulty and suck, but at least it's towards something that like your inner soul, it's different feeling of outcome of just internal feeling of your, like your soul's, dopamine hits. You know what I mean?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's been like five things that I've kind of like said I'm out. I left that normal teenage life. That's one. Left Lehigh. That's two. Went to Montclair State University, D3 school, very close to home, sort of like a more expensive community college you can live at and played lacrosse there and played there, did very well, had the most goals in the team and stuff like that.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So again, people are like, keep doing it, bro. Keep doing it. You're doing amazing. Oh my God.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I'm like, is this what I'm supposed to be doing though? So then that got to a point where, I went straight into my coach and was like, hey, I don't want to do this anymore. That was the third time. He luckily, I appreciate what he did. He was like, I want you to shift your perspective. I don't want you to look at this I was waiting for the beeping.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I don't want you to look at this as, ah, you have to be here. Just go out. Hang out with the guys. Do your thing. Stop putting pressure on yourself. Stop putting pressure on yourself. And that lightened it up for a while. It really did. And kind of like, almost like an internal anxiety that we all put on ourselves of like, I have to be here. I have to do this. oh, I got to wake up at 6 a.m.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
tomorrow rather than just being like, you know what? It's happening. Let's accept this rather than fight it in that internal fight. That internal fight is where anxiety is painful because in your head, you're basically living through it multiple times and you're forcing yourself to feel the anxiety that's happening in real life. But if you just take a second, this helps me a lot with anxiety.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It met well and the synergy was there of his ideation and my love for the sport. And then as time went on and I got older, I discovered the gym. I really fell in love with bodybuilding. I saw, I watched people like Christian Guzman on YouTube, an OG YouTuber in the fitness world. And I was like, you know, I love lacrosse. I wanna play pro right now.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I take a step back. I go, I have anxiety right now. And I'm feeling it. And I allow myself to feel this anxiety and my body almost like releases the tension and I kind of relax into it. And yes, there's still anxiety, but it's like, it's like when you're in the ice bath and you're, Oh fuck. Oh my God, I'm dying. This is killing me. And then you're like, you know what? Oh,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And you just let it, yeah, it still hurts. There's some days that you get in that.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I also want to say, and I don't think a lot of people know this about me. which I'm totally fine being open about. But I'm on an antidepressant since I was 15. I experienced a ton of anxiety when I was like 15. I had no idea how to handle it. So I kind of like acted out in anger because I just didn't know what this feeling was. And it was just straight up anxiety.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And it came a lot from the pressure of sports. And I only scored two goals today. I performed better last week. What do I do? I just dropped the ball. Everyone's looking at me. The coaches are mad, whatever it might be. And I went on to Zoloft, my like 50 milligrams for literally nine years. Pretty crazy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The one time I came off and the reason I'm bringing this up because I want to almost normalize like, hey, if you're on this stuff, like I used to feel ashamed that I was on it and not tell anybody, like maybe my two best friends knew for like five years and no one else knew. But I went on it for from 15 to 18 when I went to Lehigh is the only time I ever came off.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The time I made the most important decision in my life and also felt the most pain in my life. Did I feel more pain because I was off? I have no idea. 50 milligrams is not a lot. It's small. But I then went back on, felt regulated. Does it work? I honestly have no idea. I can't really tell you.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I've never not been on it.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
it's a good question i've had these conversations um one thing that i'm afraid of is altering my mind from where it's at right now i think eventually i think it comes from a lot of internal work and daily practices to be able to shift off of it like you know i get on breath work i don't do that now i gotta i gotta maybe go in the sauna and the ice bath on a little things like that that i need to take an account if i'm coming off of it the only thing i fear is
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I could be like, just like a trauma thing is in 2018, just being that depressed and having that, I think that me stopping registers in my brain as that's going to happen again. It might not, you know, it probably doesn't, but in my head, I'm scared.
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Or in the future, I wanna play pro and I have the aspirations to be the best in the country. But part of me, like my inner soul isn't being fulfilled. And as you get older, I feel like you discover that more and more. And as I approached 15, 16, 17, I realized like, maybe lacrosse isn't going to be my end goal. Maybe there's something more for me, like fitness or doing YouTube.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Well, yeah, it's- Or maybe imagine if I was out without it, I'd be like, whoa.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
People, I've heard on the MOG cast, it's like Sush and James English years ago, they were like, I think Jesse's brain automatically produces Adderall in his head. And I was like, that makes a lot of sense. I don't do any drugs whatsoever. I drink maybe one drink a month. And it's like...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The way I'm operated is almost like I am on these performance enhancing drugs, I feel like, but just naturally something's in my body and drive and passion. So luckily the SSRIs haven't affected me in any negative way. Maybe that's why I'm like able to work so much. I don't know.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The relentless part, that comes from my father, 100%, where he definitely ingrained in my head being relentless. I feel like without saying stay relentless to me, just sort of by his actions throughout life. And I believe that
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Like I really didn't have that desire from a young age. Let me add this. I made YouTube videos since I was 12. You look up Spartan Strings online right now. And I am on the internet. I'm like, hi, I'm Jesse James. I'm like little boy on the internet. But I had aspirations outside of lacrosse that just kept getting bigger and bigger. And the problem was that
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The... What do you mean?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
About an hour and a half ago, I was like, why am I so fucking dizzy? And then I looked at my fiance and I was like, I didn't take my fucking pill last night. So I'll turn a corner and my brain will be like, ew. Wow. So it's happening... So it's about delayed by like, it's like 36 hours I got hit and I was like, whoa.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I guess not. So it's happening pretty quick. That's interesting. I've always had that. Like if I miss it one day, I get, I get dizzy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It gave me a lot of respect for runners, especially hybrid runners. I don't say all runners. Any new challenge or workout is tough, but doing it every day, it was like... new and fun and you're sore in the beginning and it's really hard, but I feel like running is a different sort of reward where I see a very quick result where I run three miles on day one, horrible time. I'm dying. I'm cramping.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I feel terrible. I'm like, bro, I'm running a marathon in 30 days. How is this going to happen? By day seven, I'm like, I can run three miles. Then when you go to six, you know, it's hard again. You got to taper up. I did a very rapid prep. No one really does this. Nick Bear sort of coached me. He's like, hey, this is the best case scenario. You're going to run this many miles each day. Good luck.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
No one should do this.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Sub four, baby. How did that feel? The marathon excruciating. It wasn't the most painful thing I've ever done. And I'll segue into what it is because you want to hear that. The marathon, the first 13 miles were pretty chill. And I was like, oh, we're halfway. Like, this is going to be pretty easy. Like, not easy, but like, I'll be OK. And then I get to my mouth.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
15, and I was like, bro, my legs are just not cooperating now. Mile 16, I entered the wall, which they call it. It's like a wall. The wall means... The wall in running is where you hit this block, a period of time, many miles. One mile could be 10. Everyone's different. And it's the biggest hurdle that you have to get over. It's the same... You're running at the same pace. There's no difference.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
My dad, his aspiration was to push me in lacrosse and push me to my absolute limits, waking up early for workouts, chugging mass gainer shakes. You got to gain weight. You got to get bigger. You got to be stronger than everybody else. Out there in the rain, the snow, the hail, throwing the ball to me. Where was home for you? Home was New Jersey.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Nothing has changed. It's just your body has... And your body and mind has created this wall that you have to literally get through. And for me, it was mile 16 to 24. For many people, everyone's like, dude, when you hit mile 20, you're going to hit a wall. You'll get through it. You'll get through it. 20, 20, you'll hit it. 20, you'll hit it. Bro, 16.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And it kept getting drastically worse and worse. And I was like, I have to be leaving the wall soon. I have to be leaving the wall soon.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
now 22 why am i still in the wall what is happening am i am i gonna die longest wall in history so and it's probably because i had a very rapid training for it um and at this point i'm like my hip flexors feel like they're gonna tear off the bone and i'm very underprepared 30 days is nowhere near enough no one should ever do that unless you're stupid making a youtube video Uh, we get to mile 24.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I meet an angel of a man. I think his name was Matt. I believe it was Matt. It was like literally like a, like an angel that someone just put right there. And I was like, Hey, Hey you. And he's like, Hey, Oh, you're that YouTube guy. He's like, I've seen you. And I was, I was like, Oh, can I, can I run with you please? Cause we're running, we're through the woods also.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So it's kind of like a difficult, uh, marathon. They're all hard. And I catch up with him and I look at him. I go, do not slow down. Don't slow down. I'm going to keep up with you. And then we start getting this pace. And I'm just like, I want to cry already. It's happening. But I stick with him. And then he starts slowing down. And then I pick him up. And I'm like, come on, bro. Come on.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And then a third dude joins us. And we're all dying together. And it's like, we've never met each other in our lives. We're all like, you got this, bro. What's your name? Nice to meet you. And we're dying. And we finally make it. And honestly, if I didn't meet Matt at mile 24-ish... I genuinely, I kept like walking, running, walking, running the last few miles before I met him.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I was like, dude, if I have to walk this, like I have failed so miserable. I'm so mad at myself because I know I can, I can handle the pain. And I kept reminding myself, this is not the hardest thing you've done.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The hardest thing I've done, by the way, when I finished the marathon, my fiance was at the end, euphoric feeling, gave her a hug, saw my mom, had my team there, laid on the ground, couldn't get up, couldn't train hamstrings for like six weeks.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Oh my God, the pain was so bad. I was limping for multiple days. Like could barely lift my leg. And for about six weeks, my, the tendon behind your knee, there's like those two like stringy tendons. I could not do a hamstring curl for the life of me. I could do like squats and stuff, but I could not curl anything. Like not even like five pounds felt like I probably tore something.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And then my hip, I could not raise my right leg. And then for a while, there's a lot of crunching going on. I was like, this was a bad idea. And video did great. 3.3 million views probably and growing.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
My favorite part about that video was the storytelling and ending at the end was so like pure and it really moved people and got people so like the comments on that video was different than anything else.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Which the sub three. Yes. I saw how it took him like years.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Decades. I ran mine 353. And I was super happy with that. I was like, what the hell did I do? I'm not going to lie. I'm an athlete. I played dealing lacrosse. I was very good at sports and stuff. Like being athletic doesn't, doesn't, isn't hard for me, but running a marathon is wildly different. Athletic doesn't really matter there. It's just a matter of like willpower.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And it was around the, we're in the boondocks in the fricking woods. He's tossing the ball. It's pouring, it's snowing. Doesn't matter what the weather is. And we're getting the reps in because like, I do have this love. So I don't see it as a too much of a problem, but then there's just a little bit too much force from him to do it where it almost kind of pushed that love away from the sport.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But let me tell you about the hardest thing that I've done. Oh God, I have trauma from this one. You can thank a guy named Brian Johnson, aka Liver King. Okay, this guy, psychopath. Love him. Great guy to be around. Extremely successful businessman. Very motivating. He does this thing called the barbarian.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You have 15 pound on ankle weights on each leg, 15 pound or 70 pound backpack, 150, 140 pound sled and holding 70 pound kettlebells. And it's 112 degrees outside in Texas and it's August or July or something. And you have to go through the sand. So like sand gives resistance as you pull, it's digging, it's digging itself into the ground. So it's torturous.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So it's like, if you add to the math, it's like 315 pounds you're carrying. So like, and you have to go a mile. I've done it once with him. The first time I met him, uh, and we did on flat gravel. I did it in an hour in 20 something minutes. I beat him by an hour. I was like, what the hell just happened, bro? That was like, okay. That was one of the, one of the hardest things I've done.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Not the hardest. Then I do the second challenge a year later. He invites me back. He's like, I want you to do the barbarian crucible. I'm like, this sounds terrible, but I'm in, I'm all for stupid things that I'm gonna have to put myself through.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
that's why i literally have like scars from this and we do this about quarter mile in i was like already having a first heat stroke and i was like what i was like bro this is next level because it's through sand it's through dirt it's through uh it's the same thing same exact thing same mile just the course is 10 times harder and he last time he did it was a competition so you kind of have that like let me chase you feeling this time he's just chilling he's smoking a cigar drinking his whiskey and
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
calling the walkie talkie guy next to me talking shit. And I'm like, I told him, I said, I will finish this. And this goes back to my like almost stupid belief in myself to where I do things that hurt myself because I'm like, I'm not going to fail. I'm not going to stop. So I psychotically do this for like, let's say three quarters of the mile. And I get to the sand.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I was like, I just want to, I just want to bodybuild. I want to lift. I want to do these things. And you know, it, it developed into what it is today. So I'm like super grateful of every aspect of where my life went and, But it kind of, we had our struggles and stuff of our relationship because of the love of the sport dying and his push becoming more. So it was like a pendulum.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's like first half, just gravel and dirt and stuff hard, but not the worst sand at like last 0.4 miles. And I, uh, I get to this point where I am now full on having a heat stroke. I'm freezing. It's 112 degrees outside. It makes no sense. I've sweat all water out. Now I'm covered in white because like my, uh, like electrolytes are just on me and I'm like, I'm like, I'm dying.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I look at their producers and stuff. I'm like, bro, I'm done. Were you allowed water? I was allowed to drink water. They were pouring a ton of water on me, but like nothing was working. And I look at their producer and I'm like, I'm done. I'm going to... They said, if you unclip, you're done. I'm about to unclip and they're like, don't do it. And I'm like, I'm stupid.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I'm good at being told what to do and still doing it. And I'm like... Okay. You said don't do it. I'm not going to do it. I'm going to keep going. I go, I go next heat stroke on the ground, laying there for 30 minutes. I'm like, my soul has left my body. I know I don't have sweat left in my body. I'm covered. I lick my lips. It's salty. Like I needed some of this stuff. great plug. Yep.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But I get to a point where I'm like, I'm like, dude, I have 0.15 left of a mile. Like I have to just finish this same thing in the marathon. Like if I don't, I'm just gonna be pissed. Once I feel better, I'll be pissed. Yep. And I, I somehow slug my way to the end. Five steps, drop five steps, drop five steps, drop. I'm like dead in the face. I get there.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I cross the finish line, just collapse on the ground. And he's like,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
yeah there you go brother and he's like yeah yeah boy he says that so he's like uh he's like let it the fuck he's all these sayings they're just psychotic and i'm laying there and safe to say it took me four hours four hours to go a mile and that was the most painful thing i've ever done in my life so when i did the marathon i just kept thinking about that and i was like that was four hours of way more pain
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
This is four hours of a different pain. My legs have never had so much lactic acid in my body, but my upper body is perfectly fine. My mind can push through this. But with liver king, it's like your arms are tired. Your legs are tired. Your soul, you can't even feel your soul because you're so dehydrated. It was a crazy experience.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I've learned that you can push your body so much farther than you'd ever think. Something that I learned at Lehigh, we had a Navy SEAL course come to us
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
and so i hated everything about lehigh school uh the guys were cool the coaches were always nice to me but like the program didn't want to do it all that stuff sucked when they brought in navy seals and made us stay up 50 hours favorite thing i was i was depressed at the time loved it way better than whatever the hell we were doing before so it was like this weird everyone else hated it i was like i don't know why that was the best part of my month
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
and we do this oh dude I'm like remembering this shit it's crazy okay I'm like 18 I'm like 180 pounds right now I was probably almost 200 just meat stick bro fucking 4500 calories a day and they make us do perfect jumping jacks perfect sit ups perfect push ups one person messes up everyone is required to call that one person out basically make them feel like shit and then everyone runs because of it we do that for 4 hours straight they say go home get 1 hour of sleep we go home we fucking lay down we get right back up
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
We're in a pool at 3am. They say, put your sweatsuits on full crew neck, full sweatpants. These sweatpants are like double XL that we're wearing. And they're like, jump in the pool. And I'm like, what the fuck? And they're like, if you can't swim, go to the shallow end. Like dead ass. They said this to us. And I was like, someone's gonna die.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
We go in and they're like, okay, we're going to do the pushups, the sit-ups, the everything on the outside of the pool. We're soaking wet. We're doing them. We're calling out people for not doing it right. And you're held accountable. If they see you see someone and you don't go, hey, Johnny over here didn't do his pushup right. Now you're fucked. Now you get called out.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He feels you pulling away.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So it's everybody's calling out each other and just saying like, you suck. You're horrible.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
very traumatizing for some people you should see that the faces on these people were i'm gonna die and then we go in the pool and we're like okay now we're going to do basically like a deep end simulation thing where you have to take off your sweatshirt you have to switch with somebody and then put it on it's a it's some navy seal training um i don't know the name of it but
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And honestly, even coaches started feeling me pull away. And then I got the pressure from them too. So it was like this very odd thing to grow up with. When I was 15 years old, I committed to Lehigh University, which is like a very prestigious academic university. And I committed when I was 15. They were like, you're going to be on a 90% scholarship in four years from now.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
wild experience that you tread you're treading and you're in like picture like so much resistance on your legs and you're like 40 pounds 20 pounds heavier with this like weighted clothes on you and you're trying to swim and everyone's like everyone you're trying to like hey you got this you got this you're talking each other up and they're like all right everyone take off your sweatshirt and you have to go on a ready ready attack call so like
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everyone's on the exact same page and you take it off and you're treading you're treading at one arm you have to hold it up with one arm until everybody is ready you know and it takes two minutes at least to get these things off it's like stuck to you kids don't know what they're doing some kids literally are being held up by other people i shouldn't say kids we're like adults at this time and we're treading we're treading and then it's like ready ready attack switch with somebody you switch now ready ready attack put it on so think of like a wet rag like stuck together and you're like trying to like find the opening and you're treading still for like we're at like minute eight of treading
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And then we put it on and we're like all just dying. Some kids are near drowning, like genuinely just two people holding their arms up and their head is barely above the water. And if they don't complete it, restart. We did like four rounds of this thing. And they look at the team captain and go, how quick can you do it? And they wanted to push the hell out of us.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
They're like, all right, 130. You didn't 125. How quick are you doing? All right, 120. We do it. We get all the way down to like 115, 120. And we're all, we've been training water for like 40 fricking minutes. Cause in between, maybe you get like a quick, put the shoulder on something, but you're back. Crazy experience. And that, is pre YouTube challenge.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So like doing that, uh, definitely showed me like you're capable of so much. Those seals that day were like, listen, when you think you're done, when you think you're done, not just like, Oh, I'm tired. I'm done. When you think you're truly done, you have 40% left in the tank.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And you need to tell yourself that every single time when you're on the field, when you think you're done 40% left, keep pushing. And I was like, damn, I'm going to live by that. And obviously, I'm not a Navy SEAL by any means or anything, but that stuck with me. And when I get in those moments, I think there's still 40. That still sticks with me, 40% left.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
When I'm on my marathon and I'm at mile 24, still 40% left, sadly.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So I'm like 15 years old. I'm going on college visits. I went to Loyola, Rutgers. I was looking at Virginia. I was looking at...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Doing something that you're almost not prepared for to torture yourself so much that you will gain a much more valuable lesson than if you prepared for it. Yeah, of course. Which is crazy. Yes. And going through that, I'm very great.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
This is where the moments where I then look back at my dad setting me up in these situations where I'm like, thank you so much for, even though it was rocky at times, thank you so much for making me go do this because there's a reason I'm in the position I am. There's a reason I can handle so much and there's a reason that I can push myself so much.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And it all falls back to being in the rain, the hail, the snow, him throwing the ball a million times. And I'm like, why are we doing this? It all makes sense now. And the way Liver King is, is why I respect him so much. And yes, he has had his scandals, but as a man, and you could argue this because he lied, whatever.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
As a man that I know, as he's like a friend of mine, I see his sons and then I see the way he is with them and how it was similar to my father. And the way that he pushes them and the way that my dad pushed me and I'm, and I look at, I looked, I told them and I said, I said, I know it might not make sense now what your dad is doing and how you got to do the barbarian.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
lehigh obviously i went to udell i like i'm like pitching myself to these coaches as a 15 year old my mom's driving me they're like this is so cool and i'm like this is awesome but like also i'm negotiating with a 45 year old coach at 15 it's a very odd are you quite mature
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You got to, you know, be strict with your diet or whatever. I'm like, it's going to make, give it 10 years. You're going to thank him. And I promise, I promise they will. I won't say I promise, but 99%, there might be 1% chance that they will. And that's like one of those things where doing hard things is so necessary.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I think even if you're 45, I mean, what age did Warren Buffett become a billionaire or a millionaire? It wasn't like 40 or 50 years. It took a long time. Oh, let's make fun of his...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
freaking self for why weren't you a millionaire younger bro like no he's a billionaire now like it doesn't matter what time you start what age you start i think the fact is that not everyone has the opportunity to go to a d1 lacrosse program on a scholarship and have a dad push them and care for them that much with that he wants to put him in that scenario where you end up going do those things and learn those lessons at 18 so it's unrealistic some people do have to learn lessons in adulthood that they should have learned in childhood and we all do there's a million lessons to learn
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You called me a fat person before? I'm kidding.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
i feel like i had to be because like i i literally would be going into business meetings one-on-one with a coach in a button up at 15 years old basically saying like why i'm trying to hold together and try to understand i'm like what the hell is going on but i'm trying to pitch myself to this coach of why i should be on his team in four years from now they got rid of that rule like ncaa came in and was like this is ridiculous don't scout you can't scout children literally it's like
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Terrible. So I'll explain. Once again, this is sort of a scenario where it's, I tend to do things in a much shorter period of time than you're supposed to. One, because it's like a new challenge that I think is different than everyone else's challenge that maybe I just am drawn to. But then secondly, I think it's, It's more interesting for videos and real life and more realistic for me.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I can't devote a year to training. I could, but realistically, I got three other 30-day videos I want to make this year. So I can't devote a year to training for a marathon. I only got 30 days. And then when that's done, I got the next 30-day challenge. I wake up at 5 a.m. and you can't do multiple at once unless you want to be shit. So restate the question, sorry.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
What does it feel like to be that lean?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So you look at like a bodybuilding prep, it's 16 weeks. I did mine in let's say eight. I'm always pretty lean. I never really bulk past like 15% body fat. The first week or two is, you know, like you're like, all right, it's tough. You're doing your cardio, whatever. Maybe you're tired. But the last like three weeks,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
were so, so tiring and like emotionally stealing in a way where I literally felt nothing. Like I was a corpse. You could look at me in the eyes and you could be like, you're thinking nothing right now. You have no emotion and everyone experiences prep different. Some people look at it in a very beautiful way and they love seeing the changes in their body. For me, It was tough seeing the changes.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like, looking back at photos, damn, I was shredded. But then in the moment, it's very odd because you look at yourself and you pinch the side of your body and I'm like, I'm not even that lean.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I'm so skinny right now. Like, I don't look like C-bum. I look stupid. Fat bum. Yeah, I'm posing and my legs aren't even touching. They're so skinny, you know? It's like you start really picking at all these negative things in your head. And if I wasn't making content around it, I think that definitely helped keep my mind off that sort of,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
dysmorphic thought and it was like okay we have a mission here we're making awesome videos at the same time i can focus on that more but it definitely it took a huge toll my relationship uh i literally like every single emotion i just didn't have like i couldn't feel happy i couldn't feel sad presumably
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
honestly I don't really deal with too much hunger which is like a gift it's just lack of energy I feel like lethargic of I feel like I know my blood sugar is low what is it hypoglycemic I feel very hypoglycemic all the time and I was like this is just brutal just get to the end date the show is a very fun experience it's very rewarding it's awesome being on stage you know yelling most muscular posing against people awesome experience highly recommend everybody do it maybe once or at least
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I think everybody should get pretty lean once to experience what it's like to one, look at your best and to really see the different type of hard work it takes to get to the next level of body conditioning. Because my level and then there's even so much farther that Sebum goes and every other competitor out there. I just named him because I feel like.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Greg Doucette said 6%. Okay. So even let's say six and a half to be friendly. Yep. Pretty lean. Pretty lean. And as a natural, my hormones were tanked, like 200 nanograms test, 200 free. Like, oh my God, dude. Thankfully, still works. Come back. Still works. Don't worry. But the feeling of 200 tests is absolutely horrible.
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And to do that, you need to be relentless. I mean, like, you look at the dictionary definition, I'm sort of explaining it. And it really stuck with me. And I was like, I feel like this is something that I embody and also can sort of motivate others to become, hopefully. What's your dad got to do with that? My dad... So my dad, he's a blue collar guy. He is, his name's John.
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And that's like one reason why I just like don't have a desire to compete anymore slash for a very long time. What was the hardest part of it? I feel like accepting, you know what it is? The hardest part is that same anxiety fight where these, you're like, I'm so uncomfortable and your body like wants to tense internally and fight this uncomfortability feeling.
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Yeah, rather than just like, I've talked to Chris about this recently and he was like, you have to just know that this is your choice. You can stop if you want. And it almost, I feel like he has that like, where he can turn that, that internal battle against it. And a lot of other successful bodybuilders have that ability. I haven't learned it yet.
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too it's just too far now they have to wait till their their uh september of their junior year to even talk to them what age is that 17 right so a good i feel like there's a big difference between 15 oh dude yeah so like that was a very interesting aspect of my life where it definitely looking back now helps me drastically in business meetings now like i have no discomfort in the business for the best part of a decade literally so i'm only 24.
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Dude, we got to take my teams behind there. We got to take notes and that's going to help ideas.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Because if you think about it, it's like I did an elite normal thing, the marathon. Elite normal thing, wake up at 5 a.m. for 30 days. It's not really that much elite. That's more normal. Colt plunge every day.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Yeah. Or, or we had a puppy in the same thing. Yep. But yeah, I think, I think another experience that really stands out to me, this is kind of tangent, but an experience that I want to talk about that truly changed my life was with Wim Hof. And that was, oh my God, that was such a magical experience doing that in person. Cause we know what the Wim Hof method does. I'm sure.
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Have you ever done the, the breathing? Yeah, of course. So we know how good that breathwork feels. The ice bath, you get endorphins. But imagine doing it with a dude that's like the creator of it almost. You know what I mean? And he's the kindest person. Really, I felt so safe with him. And I come in. First thing we do, he's like, let's... What is this?
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Netherlands. They're all the same. I'm like, where have I been?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He, he did it. I didn't. I was like, that's a little extreme. That water is gotta be like 31 and 0.9 degrees Fahrenheit. Um, but yeah, we, first thing he does dive in the cold water. I'm like, Oh my God. And I'm like, I'm a little familiar. I've been taking cold showers to prepare for this video. And I'm like, all right, we're in it. Let's go. And then we do, we do some abs.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
We do some breath work. And when I want to talk about the breath work, because that was the most like spiritual awakening moment I've ever had in my life. He does four, three, four rounds of breath work, one minute, one and a half, two, two and a half, three. And you hold your breath for those lengths of period, the time period that I just mentioned.
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And we get to the second to last round and I'm at two, two and a half. I'm feeling so safe with him. And I'm like, you know, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna like not fight it. And you could have that anxiety about this, but I'm here. Let's make it happen. Hold my breath. Two and a half minutes go by. that man on the dot, my sister was there timing the two and a half on the dot. He goes, and time.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And my sister's like, She didn't even say anything. It was 229.9. And it was like, this dude, another level. And then we do the three minute and I hold my breath for three minutes straight. It feels like 30 seconds. It flies by. I open my eyes and I have just this insane euphoric feeling. I don't know if I was dying and maybe that's what you're supposed to feel when you die.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I have this insane euphoric feeling. I open my eyes. I see my sister. I have my cameraman. I have Wim. And like this feeling of just...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
purity of love and i'm just like gratitude and nothing else mattered it was like it was almost like i was like born into this exact moment and i knew nothing about the universe and it was just how you're supposed to feel it's crazy and that was a very life-changing moment i've done the breathing a few times since then i probably need to get back into it um but that and the ice bath like
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So like for nine years, I'm pitching myself to companies saying, oh, why? Why should you give me a higher scholarship than the next than the next place? And so I landed a scholarship at 15 for, let's say, about two hundred thousand dollars ish for a four year period. Like it's a verbal commitment. You're not actually signed. You can leave. But like you're shunned if you leave.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The man's onto something. And I don't know what happened inside my brain, but that was the most content and like happy feeling, like a different type of happy. It was just, I had to share that. It was a crazy experience.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
No, I've seen people.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
That's the DMT being released in your brain, bro.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I haven't. Oh, I did. That's Connor Murphy right there. Yeah, exactly. Drinking semen. So. haven't tried that yet. So psychedelics, I have friends that have done it. Um, I have people that are close to my life that I've done it and no judgment whatsoever. Cool. Do whatever you want for me. I feel that I almost have, uh,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
A little bit of an enlightened mindset as is that I feel like I've awakened from reaching a point of peace when I left Lehigh in 2018 when I was 18 years old and I quit. I had this like super spiritual awakening moment where I could not describe it, but I could like sense your energy and in like the most pure way. I'm like, you are full.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like, I don't, I couldn't just, I don't know what language I needed to speak it, but I'm like, you're full, you're half, you're like, I sound, I thought I was fucking crazy, dude. I probably was. And I feel like that sort of opened my mind and like, well, maybe, maybe the mind is, is capable of just naturally experiencing all these crazy phenomenon things and,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I feel like I also have this undoubtedly belief in myself that maybe a psychedelic would open up for somebody else and like gratitude, like they'd open up. And I feel like I have a good base of that and I don't want to fuck with it. So that's like my mindset of- Same with the SSRIs in some ways. Exactly. It's like my mind, I'm happy. I love my life. Like- Beautiful fiance, family's healthy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Got a dog, got a house. Like my life is awesome. I truly am grateful. My fans are amazing. They support me, all that stuff. So it's like one of those things where it's like, if I do this, there's a chance that it goes there. There's always, I've heard you hear the horror stories of it going South. And I'm like, why would I mess this up? Everything's good.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
If I, if I find a need where I need an awakening, uh, I don't know, maybe, but like, I also like, I've literally never done anything stronger than smoking pot when I was like a teenager, like once. And I've never done any, any brain type of, I've never touched Adderall, never done cocaine, nothing at all. I probably will die never doing it, which I'm fine with.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Like, why would you leave this opportunity? Especially given that you're getting education essentially for free. Literally. And like my parents, you know, they're middle class, middle upper class by now. And this was something like, you're either going to community or you're going to get a scholarship, which is nothing wrong with community college, but like they wanted me to go play sports.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But I just I'm very like protective of where my mind is and the trajectory of how my mind develops naturally and stuff where I'm like, I don't need I don't need something to alter. I don't need more. I'm already I'm on that ride on my own. I don't need that kick anymore. Maybe I'd be a billionaire if I took some of the crazy shit.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I think it's very stupid because... And if YouTube's watching, I love you guys as a platform, but this is dumb because... Think about it like this. Okay, fitness might influence a teenager to do steroids, let's say. I have a video coming out on that. But the music videos that are dudes swinging guns or...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I don't know, idolizing weird things that like... There's always conspiracy behind like crazy, you know, music videos and stuff. And I don't care what it looks like, but that can just as well influence a teenager to go try smoking pot or go... Hang out with the wrong crowd or something like that. You can be influenced by literally anything.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And also, I think this is why I don't think it's going to happen because the amount of money that fitness CPMs in fitness are well, they're not the best, but they're probably one of the top.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
They're not tech or finance, but they're right there, dude, like right below it on the next year.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Exactly. So. YouTube will be shooting themselves in the foot because there's so much content that's just good healthy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
That's a good point. Or everyone's just going to lie about their age and nothing's going to change and they're going to make new accounts. I do think you're right that I think the advertising is way too, they're way too lucrative on advertising on these videos. I mean, dude, I'm getting like 5 million views, 1 million to 5 million views on every video. You're going to cut my ads? Good for you.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So they were like, kind of like dangling in front of me, like you need to go do this. And I thought that was the best path for me. And obviously things changed as I'm sure we'll get into, but things were very interesting from like 15 to 17, 18. I feel like I grew up 10 years in those two years and obviously it led me here, but very unique.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You're going to make no money. I'm going to go freaking start a Patreon. Yeah.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
The weird thing is, is that one, I've asked my YouTube rep, like, I'm like, please tell me this is false. And he's like- Oh, so you brought this up? I straight up sent it to YouTube, one of the employees, and I was like, there's no way this is true, right? Like, I'm like, and if it becomes true, you need to tell me ASAP. He didn't think it's like real.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He was like, he said, first thing he said was cap. And then I was like, okay, what color hat? I'm kidding. That's stupid joke. And so he says like, he thinks that. And then I sent him that article that you just read. And I'm like, are you sure? And he's like, I just, I don't know. He's like, it just sounds like it wouldn't be like plausible. But hypothetically, let's say it does.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
This is what's going to happen in the fitness industry. There's going to be a huge divide of people that, I don't want to say that they're not intelligent enough, but they're not, let's say, social networking aware enough to adapt. To be able to bypass it. They're going to be like, oh, fuck this. I'm going to keep doing what I want. And it's just going to hurt themselves.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's a really dumb mindset. How many people that are 13 to 17 are watching your videos? Dude, as I get bigger, it's getting more and more. Interesting. There's like kids, I'll be at the grocery store and they're like, I see you on TikTok and stuff. And I'm like, all right, I'm watching. I'm like, what videos are you watching, bro?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But it's like one of those things where, one, I find it hard to believe that'll happen. And if it does, I have the believability in myself that it's like, I'm good. I'll pivot, bro. Come at me.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
What are you going to do like Jeff Nippard? Is Jeff Nippard going to be censored?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
it's like okay then in every video I'm just gonna feature I'm gonna call a doctor and say this is evidence right yes thank you there check send in for review again there's gonna be there's a rule there's a way around it that's how I see it what you've done a million videos with Ronnie Coleman yes
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Yeah. You know, is it tough being around him? It was something definitely like to get used to at first, because I've shot five videos with him total. So I'm with him, you know, and I, I was a young LA before Jim shark and I would be at events with him. I always loved seeing him. Um, there's been a few times where it's been like genuinely, like I felt, I felt very bad.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Um, and the few times where it's like, I complete forget. And I think almost he's forgetting. He's just like having, he's just Ronnie, you know, he's very authentic, which is awesome. I have a blast with him every time I see him. Uh, the one time where I was like, damn bro, this is like kind of brutal, like to see, because I mean, he's a legend.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He was obviously not cripple at one point and fully thriving. And, uh, It was when we were at his gym in Texas, in Dallas, Metroflex Arlington. And the equipment is so damn congested there. And he trains there all the time, so clearly he does not mind. But his inability to maneuver from just one area to the next, and everybody's like...
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
pausing it's not exactly disabled access yeah oh not at all it was like horrible setup for him but like obviously he is his home base where he likes to be so he feels good but it was like it's like like do you do you want to help him do you want to like hey you need help get it but is it patronizing exactly i don't want i don't want to feel i always my biggest thing with anybody i'm ever with i don't care if you're fucking dwayne the rock johnson or
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Joe Schmo down the street I always go into my shoots or like meeting people with just like what's up bro like there's no like no difference cause I I don't I don't want anyone to ever feel like I look at them in a certain way or I'm I'm idolizing over idolizing them and that bothers them everyone idolizes me whatever like you know what I mean so I was just he's Ronnie he's a dude you know whatever so I didn't want to push boundaries too far and then one time another time we were on a boat and stuff we were on a yacht it was Ronnie's fucking yacht in Dubai
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And he was just chilling downstairs and he was very content. And I was like, Ronnie, you want anything? Very chill, chilling. And I'm obviously, I don't know what's going through his head. And it's one of those things like, you know, back in the day, maybe he'd be up there fucking fist pumping and shit. He was always like a very extroverted person, still is to a degree.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But I think it's one of those things where when you talk to him and you talk to him about, I asked him, do you have any regrets? Any regrets in like what you've done? And he's like, no, no regrets. Do you think that's true? I mean, he tells me his only regret is that he didn't go for seven or eight reps on his 800 pound squat. And then he says, yeah, buddy.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And I'm like, I believe it, but I think maybe you never know. You know, I think you should have mine.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I've heard many things. I just, I don't know.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He's doing a lot of stem cells. Okay. And he says with every treatment, it gets better and better and better. That's good. So.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
In it, I'm not able to squat. Not, I could, if I like gun to my head, but like shouldn't squat, shouldn't deadlift all that stuff. Yeah. Uh, but it's those type of things where, you know, when people say like careful squatting, careful deadlifting, you're going to mess up your knees. You're gonna mess up your back. And you're like, no, I'm fine. I'm fine. I'm invincible.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
Until you wake up and you're like, shit, I just, I broke something. You gotta be careful.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
What did you do to fix it? Just stop doing things like that?
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I discovered a lot once I actually got to college. Through those years from 15 to 18, it was like growing up quick. And then by the time I was 18, it was very much in your face. This is reality now. And now instead of this idea of I want to go do this thing, but I'm contracted by a lacrosse team to go perform, that didn't exist beforehand, but now it's in place. I am at practice.
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Construction workers. Right. Dude. I mean, I found the strongest ones that exist, basically. Where do you find strong construction workers? You hire a really good producer. Right. And on Instagram. Um, they were, they do construction and they were freaks of nature. Definitely, uh, on some sauce. Definitely not Natty. Okay. I'd say another one would be the ex-convicts.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I mean, that's like stereotypical. They work out a ton. They were very, they're, they're more just jacked. Big hands on the construction workers, I imagine. Monstrous hands. You know, it's really, you know, it's really, uh, who has really good strength is like arm wrestlers. At least their arms, like instinct of the, the sheer strength of Devin layers hands.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I tried to, and even David laid one against him, like two hands. You go, dude, you're never getting anywhere. Arm wrestlers are built differently. Like their tendons have just like,
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
calcified probably yeah from all the scar tissue i did one arm wrestling competition i could i was walking like a t-rex for like a week because i could not move my arms and for them to do hours and hours and hours i can't imagine what their tendons look like dude that's so cool jesse james west ladies and gentlemen dude i appreciate the heck out of you where should people go don't keep up today guys check out the youtube channel jesse james west and uh stay relentless heck yeah thanks man thank you bro thank you for having me seriously
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I am in front of the coach. He's telling me that I need to do these things. I'm in front of a tutor because I'm failing out of a class that I can't handle. And with all that on my plate, which many people can relate to, everyone's busy, everyone's schedules hard, everyone's trying their best, but maybe not succeeding yet. They want to be there.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And then you have this love for something else like bodybuilding, like content. And I'm in this situation and I'm young and I'm figuring out that it is only on me that To make these decisions. And as much as my, I've listened, I'm very good at listening to what I, I'm very good at being told what to do and listening and doing it great.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And that has gotten me places, but also hurt my own personal like soul at the same time, because if I don't have that desire to go do it, I could still do it and I'll do it great. And I'll do a fantastic job.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So John is a blue collar man. He has worked many jobs. He's cut wood in the winter and made me load it next to him and stuff. So he has always had a lot on his plate and just never really complained or anything. He just always did it, did it, did it, get it done, get it done, get it done. And never had an excuse either. And I was like, sort of growing up around him was very much
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
You're like speaking my language right now for so long. I, You know, my dad and coaches and stuff. And I love my dad. I don't want people to think otherwise. We have a great relationship now, but there was definitely rocky times with him and being on the lacrosse team where I was so good at just freaking being uncomfortable. I was like, this is my life. I've accepted this.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I honestly just like, and this might shock a lot of people, I genuinely thought I was just a depressed person. Like for years, I was like, I'm just depressed. Like, I don't think I'm ever gonna escape this. And that's just, I have anxiety and depression, that's me. But then when I was about 18, I realized that, I am the only one like, like let's say it's David Goggins.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I'm the only one that can carry the damn boat. Okay. And that boat is going to crush me if I don't decide to do something with it. So I, I remember, I'll never forget. I remember calling my mom and I was like, mom, and she's a very like opposite of my dad where my dad's like tough love. She's very like soft, nurturing love. And I was like, I can't handle this. I'm making the decision. I'm quitting.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
I know this is going to, this is going to shock the entire family. It's going to shock the coaches. I'm going to have to, do a bunch of stuff. I paperwork, find a new college. We just got here like a month and a half ago at Lehigh. And I'm like, how long did you last? I did one full semester, but it was like, we got in on like mid August.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
And by October I was like, this is the worst feeling I've ever felt in my life. I have to be done or this is going to end badly in like a year. And I consciously picked up that fucking boat and was like, I'm out. And it was a very empowering and like, it was a very strong spiritual awakening of inner peace of making this decision for yourself.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So for anyone that's like listening and trying to understand in their scenario, it's, you're the only one that can pull yourself out and like save yourself. Like truly, there might be people that can help you. You can lean on, you can, you know, you can count on them always, you know, talking you off the ledge or whatever it might be helping you.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But at the end of the day, there's one person that can truly make a decision and do things for you. And it's yourself. And you have no choice, but to make those decisions as uncomfortable as they are and scary as they are. You have, like you have to do these things and make those decisions that are tough.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
He believed that that's how I should be as well. So one, by showing me and two, by always like telling me like, if there's something that needs to get done, you don't wait, you do it now. If you are trying to be great at something, you go practice, you get better and you will be great. Like it was very like tough love and stuff, but he always was patient.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's so important. I've learned this in the past, like, I mean, decade for sure. But the past few months, I have really thought to myself about not having fear because I think- You've got fearless tattoo. I have a fearless tattoo right here. I have many words on my body that I try to just live by.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
So I'd be like relentless, fearless, empathy, which always trying to work on being more empathetic, caring as much as possible. I think surrounding people, your surrounding core can also support those meaningful things to yourself. But being fearless- It's not just going and doing something. Oh, I'm going to jump off a cliff because I'm scared of it.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
It's doing the things that like quitting your job because you're so passionate in this other thing. And you're like, I'm going to make this happen. I think being so fearless in my decision of leaving a scholarship, it was something that I didn't even realize I was doing. But I think it's where I make mistakes in life and have to learn the most, which is always good to learn from your mistakes.
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#866 - Jesse James West - How To Stay Disciplined When Times Get Tough
But when I make the most mistakes is when I'm in fear. when I have fear and I, and it alters my decision or like puts these glasses on my face that I, that I, I don't even know they're on and I'm doing things and I'm, I'm, I'm acting a certain way. And I'm like, wow, I messed up pretty bad here.