Jenn Drummond
Appearances
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
If someone would have said, hey, I want you to go climb this mountain in a different setting, I would have been no, unless I knew exactly how to make it happen and to get to the top and to win or to whatever else like that. Like I was I can look back and see like I was very selective on what I would get involved in because it was my brand.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Oh no. And it's crazy because like when I got into this mountaineering stuff, I had never slept in a tent. Okay. So it wasn't like I was this hardcore mountaineer. Let's make this happen. Life is good. Like it was just this, okay, I have this space to allow something different show up. I'm in this place of curiosity. And if someone would have said, Hey, I want you to go climb this mountain.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
In a different setting, I would have been no, unless I knew exactly how to make it happen and to get to the top and to win or to whatever else like that. Like I was, I can look back and see, like, I was very selective on what I would get involved in because it was my brand. It was who I was. Like I had to be number one because that's the only place I felt safe.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And after the accident, I was like, I would rather have the experience failing, trying to climb a Mount Everest than never even trying to climb it. And that like when I had that aha moment and that like thing of success is experience versus success is number one. The doors like flooded open with all kinds of opportunity.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yes, I know. It's great. It's funny because I have seven kids, so I have this crayon box of different colors and ways of doing life. It's funny because some of my kids are hardwired for that external validation. And I have a couple of them that are hardwired. They're like, I don't care what my grade is, mom. It doesn't matter. Like, this is who I am.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And it's so fun because some of them I'm like, oh, this is me. And I'm like, man, I wish I had that knowledge or that view or that way of doing life. It's so fun to watch them bring it forward and me learn from them.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yeah. OK, so we back up and say, OK, I'm going to climb a mountain for my 40th birthday. And I live in Park City. So there's people that are big into mountains all over the place. And I asked some friends that I knew were big into mountaineering. Hey, if you could climb one mountain in the whole world, what would you climb?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And some people said, you know, you should go climb this mountain named Ama Dablam. I'm going to say that again because it's going to come forward. Ama Dablam. I'm like, okay. Like it's the Paramount Pictures logo. I've researched it now. I don't think it really was, but I was sold on that at the moment.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Like, so every time you go to a movie, you can say like, I climbed that mountain and it's in Nepal and all these things. So I'm like, okay, sweet. That's the mountain I'm going to climb. Well, early on in 2020, COVID happened. So I'm not climbing anything or going anywhere. And I'm homeschooling. And my youngest son is struggling with his math homework. So I'm doing that parent pep talk.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Like we do hard things. You've got this. And this little guy looks me straight in the face and he goes, mom, if we do hard things, why are you climbing a mountain called I'm a dumb blonde instead of a real mountain like Mount Everest? And I'm sitting there. I'm a dumb blonde. I'm a dumb blonde. I'm a dumb blonde, honey. Not I'm a dumb blonde, but thank you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And so then I'm like, you finish your homework. We'll look at Everest. So he finishes his homework. We look at Everest. He goes to bed. And I sit there and think, I'm like, why not Everest? If this kid's perception is that Everest is the hardest mountain in the whole world, I'm going to climb it. And I'm going to show him whatever Everest is we're capable of summiting. So I call up a coach.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
The coach is like, yes, I can get you ready. Used to be an athlete. This will be fine. He goes, buy this book about becoming an uphill athlete. So I'm like, okay, fine. So this book comes in the mail and in the front, I'm like reading it. And in the front of it, there's a story of a lady who got a Guinness world record. I don't know.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I must've been having a terrible day or something, but I'm having this call with my coach about training. And I'm like, I could have done that. That lady suffered through something in the Alps. I can suffer. I have seven children right now that hate me because I'm doing this homeschool thing. Like if I got a Guinness world record, I'd be a cool mom.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And my coach is like, okay, I'll think of something. I'm like, okay, fine. And I like just went on with life, kind of letting it go. I didn't even, it wasn't a big point of our conversation, but he calls me a few weeks later and he's all excited. He's like, Jen, I have the perfect world record for you. I'm like, oh, oh yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, what is it?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
He's like, I think you should be the first female to climb the seven second summits. I'm like, okay, I don't know what you're talking about. He's like, you know, the seven second summits. I'm like, no, I don't know the seven second summit. So he's like, you know, it's a second highest point on each of the seven continents. It's actually harder than the first seven. It's only been done by one male.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
So you'd be the first woman to do it. And he goes, if you think about it, seven mountains, seven continents, seven children. It sounds like a jackpot. And I had that full body. Yes, like it does sound like a jackpot. But do you know what I look like? Like, do you know what it takes to run this show? Like, are you kidding me? And he's like, I think you should do it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
So I thought about it with my kids. And I'm like, yeah, let's do it. Like, who cares if I fail? This is a pretty epic experience to pursue. And so I started on it and I remember like I climbed one mountain and it wasn't like a big deal. So then I'm like, okay, I'm fine. I climbed the next one. It wasn't a big deal. As in like, I wasn't away from civilization for very long.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
So like I could still keep this going, but it was time to go climb Everest with my son that I had promised that I would climb it. I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm going to be gone forever. For like three or four weeks. And that's the speed version of Everest. Most people are gone like six to eight. And so I'm trying to figure out how this is all going to work. And I had called these climbing companies.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I'm like, hi, I'm like interviewing climbing companies to climb Everest. I have some questions. So I had like all the important questions. And then my last question was. Hey, I have really long blonde hair and I don't want to get sick and not be able to summit. And so I was wondering if I could bring a hairdryer and use the generator to dry my hair.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And the first company was like, you should just cut your hair. Like, no, you're not. I don't even know what you're asking me right now. Like, OK, hung up. Right. The second company I called, they're like, yeah, sure. You know, once a week you could use the generator. I don't think that'd be a big deal. That'd be fine. And then the third company I called was like, do you need a mirror?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I'm like, that's my company, right? Like they're anticipating like not, you know, if you're going to dry your hair, you need to look at when you're doing it. And I'm like, that just shows this company going above and beyond. That's who I'm going to climb with. And so anyways, I go to climb Everest and a company in Utah gave me a solar powered battery that would actually power the hairdryer.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I know it was so much fun. And now I'm sitting there. Okay. Click. How do we do another Miami weekend? Like, let's go. It's happening. Watch out Miami. Yeah. Miami seriously.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
So I wouldn't use the generator and then I could leave the battery for this company to use for other things. And so I bring the solar power battery. I take a shower at base camp and I go to plug in my hair dryer because I think I'm going to dry my hair in my tent. So no one really knows what's going on. And it doesn't work because it has to be on the freaking sun for the battery to work.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I'm like, oh, my gosh, I'm going to have to do this in front of all these people. OK, maybe my hair will dry by itself. So like I literally waited an hour to see if my hair was drying. It was like turning into ice crystals. It was not drying. I'm like, OK, well, I have to dry it because the sun's out. The sun's going to go down. So I finally get enough courage and I try to hide.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
OK, I'm hidden for like five minutes. And then everybody's like, there's a girl blow drying her hair over there. And so like everybody's watching and coming around. I'm like so embarrassed. Whatever. My hair gets dried. I kind of like get over it. We climb Everest. We summit. And then afterwards, everybody collects in Kathmandu before they fly home and kind of have a celebration.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
So I go back to Kathmandu and I'm known as Mountain Barbie because I'm drying my hair. And I was super embarrassed until this woman came up to me and she goes, hey, I just want to thank you. I'm like, thank me? She's like, yeah, I want to thank you for having needs, not apologizing for them and doing what you needed to do.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And she's like, that gave me a whole bunch of courage to ask for what I needed because it wasn't like I was asking for shrimp at base camp. I'm just not a mini male and women have different needs than men do. And we can still do things that they want to do, like climb Everest. And I literally had like four or five women come up to me and give me those same kind of sentiments.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
It was who I was like I had to be number one because that's the only place I felt safe. And after the accident, I was like, I would rather have the experience failing trying to climb a Mount Everest than never even trying to climb it.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And it was one of those things where like, well, if I knew this was going to happen, I would have been like loud and proud drying my hair at Everest. But I think we forget that if we have a need, somebody else probably does too. And so if we have the courage to step into that, just like you talk about, if we have the confidence to do whatever, look what it does for everybody, not just ourselves.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yeah, no, we do. And we forget that we're not just showing up for ourselves. We're showing up for women everywhere. And it's so important to, you know, check in and say, like, if I do this, what kind of impact can I have? Because we impact each other either by not doing something, which then keeps everybody hush hush.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Or if we have the courage to do something, it lets other people tap into their courage and more becomes possible.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yeah, so here's the book, Break Proof, Seven Strategies to Build Resilience and Achieve Your Life Goals. And I live by somebody that writes books, right? So when I was on a walk one day, halfway through this pursuit, they're like, you should write a book. I should have thought about that. But like who the messenger was that you write books for a living. That's easy for you.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I do not write books for a living. This was a big undertaking. But I did it because I know the me before the accident. There's a lot of me out there. And so I wrote this book to that version of me. And saying like, listen, if something's inside of you, like you're the only one that can bring it to life. I need you to become break proof in that pursuit.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Because if you do you, you give my daughter permission for her to do her and we all benefit.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I know. I'm so happy. So yay. Yay, internet. Thanks for the connection. We're good.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Gosh, you know, it's crazy. I think a lot like I don't even know how you put a percentage on it. But here's how I know, because when I go on walks with friends or I talk at companies or I meet with people because their companies come in here to do events and I take their group on a hike or whatever that looks like.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
you realize you have these conversations and then they start getting excited because they're excited about what you achieved and they start seeing the possibility in themselves and they start getting curious about what that shift would look like or what single step they could take to do something a little bit different.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I think if they were already on that path, those aha moments wouldn't click like they do. Yeah. And so for me, it's just been this thing of get curious, like lean into yourself. What gets you excited? Like I was so lost in motherhood and that's like a reputable thing to be lost in. Like, let's not be shy about the fact that society commends you for being lost in motherhood, right?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
You could never be too good of a mother that when I started journaling after the accident, I'm like, I don't even know what my favorite color is. And so I bought this pack of pins. It was like 12 different colors. I'm like, I can't write in red because that feels like I'm correcting myself. If I write in yellow, I feel like I can't see what I wrote.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Like I'm like going through these things and I finally decided I'm like, I'm going to write in purple. Purple's playful. It's like all these different things. And when you get curious about yourself and allow yourself to to like just step into these things and try it out and not commit to it forever and let it be a season.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Like life becomes pretty fun again, no matter what you're doing or where you are on your journey.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Here's like a crazy thing. So my story and we all have a story. So the thing is to give yourself space to become aware of your story. My story was I am lucky to have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom, which I truly was. But there was a time where my kids needed me home and I'm glad I was there for it. And then they started doing their thing and they needed a different role model.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And so when I started to step into things that I was doing, they like watched and we would have conversations that were more of the same, right? Like my son didn't want to do his math homework. Hey, I don't feel like training today, but I'm going to go climb Everest. So I have to train. Like sometimes we have to do things we don't like because we want the end result. Like I have to eat healthy.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yeah, you know, so I was that girl that was seeking external validation anywhere she could get it, right? I got into the financial service career out of college, which is fantastic for people seeking external validation because they keep your names on a wall and stats and how much money are you making and bringing in and revenue that you're driving and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I have to do. So we were doing life in parallel and, And so we could compare notes of like, oh, this is what we do. This is how it looks. This is how it works. It wasn't just me preaching like, hey, I don't even really like my life, but here's what you need to do. Kids don't want to take advice from somebody that's not loving their life.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
They want to take advice from like, my mom is slaying it and she's happy. What is she doing? I want to copy that. And I think it's so important for us to realize like we're always on a stage with our friends, with our children, with our peers. Like we got to lean into us.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And that lifestyle. war on me so much to the fact that I'm like, okay, I can't stay here any longer at this company because I will explode. So I started my own company, which is always a ton more work in the beginning until you learn how to hire yourself out of a job, which is a skill that takes a lot of development, a lot of trial and error. But luckily, I had that happen because I became a mom.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
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Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And when I became a mom, I'm like, OK, I'm going to be this wonderful stay at home mom because that's what everybody's dream was in my hometown. And I have these seven amazing children. And all of a sudden they started going to school. I'm like, okay, well, I don't really like this.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I didn't know what to do with not really liking that because I felt shame and guilt about not being ecstatic to have this privilege to be a stay-at-home mom. And I told myself this lie. I said, okay. this is just a season. I'm going to do this stay at home mom thing until my last one goes to college. And so that's like 15 years from now, like we got this girl.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I was going through the motions and I was doing the thing. And I would say that my life was meh, right? Like it wasn't ecstatic. It wasn't terrible. It was just, this is what it was. Plug and play, Groundhog's Day, repeat, repeat, repeat. And then- In 2018, December 18 of 2018, I was in a horrific car crash. That should have taken my life.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
In fact, they've rebuilt the accident 50 different times and could not build a scenario where I lived, let alone walked away. And that accident made me realize I don't get to choose when I die, but I sure get to choose how I live and how I'm living is a choice. And is this the choice I want to be making? And that just woke me up to the fact that like my life could end at any moment.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And if it ended right now, I would be devastated of all the things I didn't take a chance to see, do, experience, try, like all of it. So 2019 became like the year of the reckoning. And I had this huge bucket list and everything under the sun went on it from I want to taste pasta in Italy to swim in the ocean at the Great Barrier Reef and like whatever. Right.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I just allowed myself to be playful and curious and explore who I was. And on that list was climb a mountain. And then I'm like, OK, I'm going to climb a mountain for my 40th birthday, which happened in 2020. And that got escalated into this world record pursuit and like life's history. But that's kind of like me in a nutshell from the beginning.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Yeah. You know, I think it's funny because two months prior to that accident. So in October, somebody gave me that book called The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer. And prior to that point in my life, like surrender was a weakness. Like you do not surrender ever. And someone's like, just read this book. I think you'll like it. So I read the book and I journaled on that word for like a month.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And finally, I'm like, oh, OK, I get this. I understand how this is actually a superpower, not a weakness. And I think the universe has this way of saying, OK, you get it, but do you live it? And so when that car accident happened, I remember seeing the semi truck. coming up onto my passenger side headlight. I'm like, I'm going to, we're colliding.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I remember like saying, you know, you negotiate with death in those moments. Like, okay, I promise I'll do something significant with my life if you just let me live. And when that collision actually happened, like I had this download of like, I am not going to be able to force through this.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Like everything else in my life where I would double knuckle and try harder and push more and make it happen. Like the only way I'm going to survive this accident is if I let go and totally surrender and just roll with the car because the car is stronger than me and I can't beat it. And it was that surrender experiment in real life. So I put my hands on the steering wheel, my head on the headrest.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I just counted the rolls. I'm like, okay, I have enough momentum. I'm going to go again. I'm going to go again. And I went like three forward flips. And then I started doing the sideways rolls. And then I ended up upside down in the median. And the interesting thing about that spot was someone came running and I could hear them. They're like, are you okay? Are you okay? Are you okay?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
But I wasn't registering that they were talking to me until that person peeled back the windshield. And when they peeled back the windshield, we caught eyes. And this guy looking at me goes, are you okay? And I looked back at him and I'm like, based on his facial expression, I am not OK. And so I'm like, what do I do? What do I do?
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And so instead of I didn't have the courage to look at my body at this moment because I felt all these warm feelings everywhere. And I'm like, I'm sure I'm bleeding out. I don't even know what just happened. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I closed my eyes and I wiggled my fingers and toes. I'm like, oh my gosh, I can feel my fingers and toes. Like I can feel my fingers and toes.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And I said that out loud a couple of times. He goes, if you can feel your fingers and toes, you're going to be okay. I just need to leave you here until the ambulance comes. Cause I don't know what's going on. I'm like, okay, fine. And I share that story because I think it's so important for us to recognize we're the only ones that can tell the world we're okay.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
Because the world's going to tell you you're not. Like that guy's face was telling me I'm not okay. But that's not a truth I have to believe. I have to listen to my internal story and come up with whatever that truth is for myself.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
For me, I think it's like I learned how to surf during COVID. Like one of the fun things about COVID is like we had all this time and I took my kids to Hawaii because I'm like, if we're going to blow up, like let's blow up at the beach. And so we did COVID in Hawaii. And I remember learning how to surf and how you had to like paddle so hard to get into the wave.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
And then once you got into the wave, like you just you relaxed and you just let go and you just like flowed with the wave. And I think so much of us are used to just that paddling of so hard and just giving it all that we got that we forget the other part of that circle is to let go and ride the momentum that you've generated. And so for me with that car accident, it was like, okay,
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
I can't beat this car. The only thing I can do is try to move with it because if I move with it, then I'm not resisting it. And that resistance is what causes injury. And so when we're looking at our own lives, like, yeah, the bus pulls up. You got to freaking hustle to get on that bus to go wherever you're going.
Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: Bust Through Limiting Beliefs & Harness Your Highest Potential with Jenn Drummond, Motivational Keynote Speaker, World Record Holder, Author
But once you're on that bus, like that's your chance to like take the ride and get off at the next stop.