Jay Duplass
Appearances
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Someone was asking me the other day, like, how naked are you in this? And I'm like, very naked. And they were like, yay. And I was like, not my best work.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Was shepherding Molly's death something that made you more scared of dying or less scared of dying?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I was like just fully grounded in this, I think very naive, but very believing place that like, I know how to keep this woman alive better than anybody here. And me, Jay Duplass actually thinks he's right.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Hi, buddy. Hi. I want to hug you. Are you across town?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah. A year and a half ago, I was on the floor just looking for something to do. Now, I can barely breathe, but I'm not going to complain about it because... I know.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I'm happy to be doing stuff. Doing stuff is super underrated.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, this was, I think, a straight offer.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
From Liz Merriweather. The co-creator. So that was enormous. I had heard of your podcast and there was lore, definitely, because, you know, the ladies in our friend groups and stuff, most of them had listened to it. And I have to say, you know, that was just the beginning.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Everything that I stepped into and every time I came closer to this job and got to New York and met you and, you know, everything was just adding on to this feeling of like, wow, this is actually something. This show is actually about something. This is what you're supposed to be doing. It just, everything snowballed.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Well, I definitely had some judgment. You know, in the early days, you're reading the script and you're reading the story as an audience member would, and I have judgment and also laugh at him. Right, right. I mean, he's more of a laugh at versus a laugh with. You know what I mean?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
There's a big difference, but I can still love people that I laugh at. I think for me too, it's just like the closer that I get to shooting the thing, it moves away from like this external judgment and the internal locus of like, Who is this guy and what is he trying to do? It's very easy for me to lock into a place where I love Michelle Williams and am trying to keep her alive.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
It starts with love, you know, it starts with like loving someone deeply and, you know, connecting to that love and connecting to that deep desire of wanting to keep someone alive that you love. And then just like fully activating inside of the story, which is like the actions that he does to love her are super fucked up sometimes. But I love everything about it.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I love that like he's fucking good at it. He actually is fucking good at it. I mean, there's a good chance that she's alive because of... what a fucking nerd he is and how, you know, what a... Frankly, I know you're not supposed to use it, but he's kind of like a health Nazi. You know what I mean? And that's super funny, you know?
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And my motivation in terms of like being super bold and pushy was very much based in this fucking works and I know what I'm talking about. And of course, that is completely disregarding her spirit and her sense of self and her sense of... joy with whatever years she has remaining, whether they are two or 20, you know? That's not... What?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Okay, I think we're still reeling from stage four of it all. Stop it.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Okay. So I was like just fully grounded in this like, I think very naive, but very believing place that like, I know how to keep this woman alive better than anybody here. And me, Jay Duplass, actually thinks he's right. He's right about this one little fact is that if everybody just did what Steve said...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Including Nikki, including Molly, including, you know, nurses who, you know, we all have had those experience where you have a nurse and you're just like, I'm sorry, but this nurse will not do.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, there's a ton of scenarios where we just hate Steve's guts the whole time. And I wanted everybody to hate Steve's guts and be crying for him at the same time because they understand that he so desperately is trying to keep his wife alive.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
It was pretty wonderful. She's just very dropped in and very present and very the thing, you know. What do you mean by that? Well, what I would say is that for people who don't work on movie sets is they seem fun, but they're actually the most stressful environments in the world because you have a very limited amount of time. to make lightning strike in a room and capture it on camera.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
It's weird. It's actually like living under imaginary circumstances in the most artificial environment you could possibly imagine. You know, because it's not just there's shit everywhere. It's literally like outside of the shot that you see is fucking chaos. There's like grown men under couches with like a microphone sticking up like a hard penis at your face. You know what I mean?
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
There's like people running in the background like chickens with their heads cut off. There's like somebody's like walking in with like a birthday cake and hiding in the corner. You know what I mean? That is what is going on outside of the one shot that you have and every minute costs thousands and thousands of dollars and everyone is aware of it. Everybody's aware of it.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And so when I say dropped in about Michelle is like she is able to like 100% maintain this character and maintain herself and tune out the fury of 120 people running in and out of this room and desperate to get their jobs right, desperate not to fuck shit up, desperate to move as fast as we can. And so...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
You know, when you create a company of actors who are fully committed to that moment and committed to just like staying inside this reality, you know, it's just you walk in the room and you're with Michelle and she's just there 100%. And so that's the first impression that I had of working with her. And it was immediately just like very, very comfortable. Shorthand.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I've been with you for a long ass time and we have not done rehearsals. I love this.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
It's really, really beautiful. Yeah, that was so important to me because they've been together for a while. So there has to be love there and there has to be functionality there, you know. And that's what makes her departure that much more heartbreaking. I know.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Me standing up totally naked? How'd you know?
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
It might be the first cinematic crying mid-blowjob scene of all time.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
You got to go full trauma when you play this scene. You have to go full personal devastation.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
you know and this is the thing about sex scenes that people don't realize is like they're choreographed like a stunt like a fight scene and a stunt so when you have to not to put myself in the same category as michelle williams but the stylistically we are very naturalistic actors we are very work on instinct and intuition we don't like to talk about things a lot we really like to just do it and feel it out
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
But when I'm totally naked and she is, her face is in my crotch. You really have to talk about stuff because it didn't look realistic at first because I think it was just we were probably being a little too like careful with each other, you know?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I'm nervous, you know? It's like someone was asking me the other day, like, how naked are you in this? And I'm like, very naked. And they were like, yay. And I was like, not my best work. You know, I'm a 50-year-old man. You know, like, I'm not, like, thrilled with where my body's at right now. I'm just like, the whole thing is very, very tense.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And then, you know, I got to have the biggest emotional moment ever. of the whole show for me. Absolutely.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
So very, I'm just being really honest, like nervous as shit. Nervous as shit leading up to it. You know, just like hoping I don't fart with like Michelle's head around me. Just logistical shit like that. You know, like just, I mean, just super, super nervous. And I really want to get this moment right because it's such a funny moment, but it's beautiful too. Yeah. And, It's all of it.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And, you know, really the trick for great intimacy coordinators are people who... can be really clear and firm and clear about like, Michelle, your head needs to be two inches to the left because we can see that Jay has a weird fig leaf over his junk. You know what I mean? Stuff like that, but not over-talking it. Yeah.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, you guys did us right. In the way that most male filmmakers do women wrong. And yeah, I mean, just the parts for me and for Rob, I thought were just so... They were complicated and complex and a lot of sides to them. Rob's character just could have been a nut job. And my character just could have been an arch overbearing husband. And...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
You know, the fact that he was, my character was a soft boy, which is a term I learned in the UK a while back. A soft boy. Yeah, a soft boy. You know, the performatively soft, but like really actually just a bulldozer, but like wants to be soft, really wants to be a feminist.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
and claims he's a feminist, but doesn't know the fucking first thing about it, including first rule of male feminism is don't brag about your feminism.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yes, he does. Yes. Not your call, bro.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
You know, you and I were like fast friends, like, from the first minute that we met.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah. And what's super interesting is... You know, Jenny Slate plays you, your character in the movie. And Jenny and I had the exact same sort of trajectory. And we have this like super fun buddy energy that's just like our energy where we can like...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
switch from fart jokes to just like crying on the floor you know what I mean like I don't know there's just something it's so cool to me that Jenny plays you and I I just I have a very tight kinship with her that feels very similar to how I feel about you
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
That's so nice. Thank you. I know I'm going to cry now too. I just adore you. Can I ask you a question? Yeah, I would love to have you ask me something. What was your hardest moment? I'm just going straight to it.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I love that scene from the script and that's part of what made me want to do the show. I mean, I just feel honored to be included in this piece of art and, you know, you making sense of what you guys went through and being able to share it with everybody, you know.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
I think the scene that was like most memorable for me to shoot was when she comes home to me, you know, she's got the diagnosis. It's on. The cancer is on again. And Steve is like full on Superman mode. He's chopping broccoli. He's chopping broccoli. She's drinking. What was the cola that we made that she's drinking? Yeah, it was like squirt, but not. the most atrocious thing you can drink.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Like, there's no actual food.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And I was so mad at her, but I was letting her drink it, but I was just like, when that thing gets finished, everything changes, you know? I was like, I'm gonna fill her belly with vegetables, the organic kind. So I'm just like going into mode. I'm chopping broccoli and she's like high on squirt soda. And she basically, it's a seduction scene.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And to me, that scene contains all of the elements of their relationship. Like it's the whole arc of their relationship is in that scene where... I'm going into activation mode. I'm going to save her life. She's drinking something very inappropriate and trying to seduce me and I'm fighting her to the death.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And I was like, this scene contains all the elements of the love that they have, what they want from each other, the struggle that they have, and the failure that they're facing.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, that scene's one of the most, I think, electric scenes I've ever... And that's what leads to the blowjob. Yes, the trauma.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, I think the blowjob scene was super hard to get right. There were just so many freaking logistics about it. Not only was the blowjob really hard to shoot and coordinate, but it was like I was leading up to this huge emotional moment. Like I had tears for days. I was like, it was all there. And, you know...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Due to the logistics, like there was a moment where the scene was going on for a while. And I was just, you know, sometimes you kind of just like start losing your mind. But like before we shot, Michelle just let me like hold on to her. And I mean, you know, I'm going to cry thinking about it. I know. But she let me hold on to her. And then I just thought about you guys.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And it was like immediately I would go again. And we did so many takes like that. And it just kept coming and kept coming. And Michelle was really, you know, I mean, she was really generous because like, you know, we're at odds in this scene. But like she, Michelle gave me, Jay, lots of love in between to recharge my battery so that I could come undone every time. I'm going to cry. I know. I know.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And that's the other thing about like when I say Michelle being dropped in. That wasn't a question. That wasn't something I had to ask for. Like her generosity towards me and, you know, helping me get through it. But, you know, I think I can't speak for her, but like I think we all felt it in different ways.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
You know, it's just like a very big team effort because everybody on this show is doing major fucking heavy lifting, you know. So, you know, just for all of us to be there for each other is just like, yeah, whatever you need, you know, let's make this work. Because, I mean, that's the thing is like, the show's actually fucking about something. And that is incredibly rare.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
And so we're all in service of... you know, your story, you and Molly's story and what we believe this story can do for other people. You know, it's just wild. It's interesting because one of our friends just died of cancer and she's, you know, 50.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
My wife's really close with her and she's not going to be able to watch the show for a while, you know, but I know that in like six months, the show's going to be church for her, you know. It's going to be like...
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
exactly what she needs so I I do I just fucking deeply fundamentally believe in what we created and um it's just an honor to be a part of something that actually fucking matters in this world you know yeah I know I know I get it I so get it yeah
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah. And fucking fun church.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Fucking fun, cool church. What was your favorite moment of the whole shoot?
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, that's so beautiful. I can't wait. And I think you're right. I think that is, in terms of the largest culture changing moment of this show, I think that is fundamentally it, which is like dying is actually a thing to do. It's not something that's happening to you. If you can do it and if you can have the love and the support around you and make your own choices and, you know, it just, yeah.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Can I ask you a question? Another big one. Yes. Was shepherding Molly's death something that made you more scared of dying or less scared of dying?
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah. This is a fucking chuckle fest. You're welcome, everybody. It made me less afraid.
Dying For Sex
Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Yeah, it's fucking cool. It's super, super cool.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Me too. This is church. I'm having a great time. I mean, are you kidding? This is like the island of like connection and spirituality and giggles that I needed in the middle of this week.
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Rob Delaney and Jay Duplass: The Men of Dying for Sex | 10
Thank you for having me be a part of this. I'm beyond honored.