Jason Redman
Appearances
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
self-medicate drink too much and start pushing Erica and my family away and she tried to allow me to figure that out which is so funny almost all of us do the same thing it's the opposite of what you should be doing you should be asking for help but that's hard for us we've always been We're the ones that go save other people.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
So when we're the ones struggling, it's very difficult to be vulnerable and say, hey, I'm really struggling. And I think Erica recognized that. We had built a strong enough foundation. And she tried to give me time, but she recognized I was kind of – I was getting ready to drive off a cliff and she needed to do something and she was really smart in how she approached it.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
And I think the way we had built ourselves that she knew how to approach it so that I would listen.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
It was such a shock. And I know, babe, I'll let you go in a second, but I think people need to understand. Number one, the most dangerous battlefield we'll ever walk on is right here. And number two, uh, I think people often say to us like, hey, you guys are so lucky. Not everybody has what you have. But we were very intentional. It took years of building ourselves to get to that point.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
And we had established a rule right from the very beginning. It was part of our rules of engagement that we talk about in the book. You never bring up divorce or the end. I mean, for us, the end was death. That was it. So when Erica said that in that car, I felt like I'd been blown up mentally.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
It so shocked me that that came out of her mouth that it and it wasn't accusatory like, hey, you need to figure your beep out or I'm going to divorce you. I mean, it was it was so. It was like a surgeon with a scalpel. who made this tiny little surgical cut that penetrated my brain to say, you got to do something here. And I'll turn it over to her, what she was thinking.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
Yeah. You can never, never say divorce or no ultimatums. Yeah. No name calling. No, no bringing up the past.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
Yeah, I mean, man, the mental health crisis that's happening within not only our country, but within the veteran law enforcement and fire community is a problem. And it's only exacerbated by, in my opinion, a little bit of the victim mindset. So there's a balance that we need to have. It's OK to say, hey, I'm struggling. But number two, it's on you.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
You have to take action, you know, and I meet I talk about this oftentimes when I speak to organizations about mental health, you know, linking everything back to different stories related to the military. Number one, we call it a failed breach. So when we're going into a building and we need to breach a door. we'll use explosives or mechanical tools or whatever it is.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
And if we don't succeed the first time, it's called a failed breach. Well, no one stops and suddenly goes, oh, we got a failed breach. Let's just quit and run away. We have to continue to find the things that will work for you. And that's what I try and encourage. Any guy out there that's really struggling is You have to figure out what works for you, what worked for me.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
This is why when Erica said that to me, I kind of went on a journey of, man, I did counselors, I did chaplains, I did all kinds of different therapies to figure out how to heal myself and navigate through that. And I meet other guys that will say, well, I tried what you tried and that didn't work for me. Well, and I'd be like, well, how many other things did you try? And they'd be like, that's it.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
And I'm like, well, why would you I mean, you train your entire career on how to problem solve and create contingencies and attack things from five different angles if the first four didn't work. So why are you approaching this in the same way? So it's just you got to communicate. And number two, you got to figure out what works for you.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
And if it doesn't work the first time, you got to attack it from different angles.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
Yeah, humor is the best medicine. I mean, don't take yourself too seriously. I feel like America has gotten too sensitive. It's like you have to be offended by everything. And man, just take a breath. I mean, have a little joke, have some fun. I mean, Erica and I have always done it from the very beginning.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
I think there was one time we were dating and I think we sat in an empty bathtub with our clothes on. I don't know how this ended up happening, but I sat in there and I told her every stupid joke I could think of. And I thought I was like the wittiest guy on the planet, but I figured out later she was just laughing at me. She wasn't laughing at any of my terrible jokes.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
but it was yeah it was the start of our relationship that is built um you know there there are hard times in this life there's a lot of stress in this life um yeah try and break it with a little bit of humor and a little bit of fun you know and the immortal words from the movie hey lighten up francis like let's you know let's laugh a little bit
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
Yeah, Megan, thank you. I mean, it's never too late. I mean, I think there's a lot of people that say, oh, you know, our marriage is OK or I'm not married. But there's so many tools in there, whether you're someday you're going to get married, you're in a marriage or maybe you feel like it's too late. I don't think it's ever too late to go back.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
There's a lot of tools that you can get realigned and get back on course and celebrate in the goals and dreams, which is something Eric and I have always done. Look into the future and where are we going to go? So that's what this book will help you with.
The Megyn Kelly Show
American Freed by Trump, John Oliver's Outrageous Segment, and Saving Your Marriage, with Stu Burguiere, and Jason and Erica Redman | Ep. 1046
Yeah. Megan, thanks so much for having us on.