Ilona Marr
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House of Maher
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A lot of people might think, oh, was Alona mad at me? No, she's just to the point. She's gotten what she, she said what she needed to say and she got out of there. Alona texted, add that to my calendar. Who the hell does she think she is? Of course, I'm going to put it on her calendar. I already did. She needs to be brought down a couple of pegs.
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So I found the Kazakhstan pin, but I wasn't on my pin game as much as the others. Like there are some people who are really loving the pin thing. You actually made me personal pins, which is like what Simone Biles did. It was fun to have.
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I traded with Simone, but I just didn't realize, like, I never knew that about pins. A lot of people make personal pins, but I think that's so special to do, to do like a personal pin and to trade with people because people loved it. And to have that connection between two athletes. Yeah. To just have that face-to-face and that's, I can imagine that's so cool.
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I got a pin from Coco Gauff, Simone Biles, a couple pins from like the other rugby teams around. It's a lot of times you don't know, you don't have the same language, you just kind of go, pin? And then they give you a pin and then you like just kind of connect in that way. It doesn't have to even be through language, through words. Pins are universal. Pins are a universal language.
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That's what I've always said. But you got to let loose a little bit at the very end there, right? It was your birthday. Like, your birthday struck at, like, midnight during the closing ceremony, right? Yes. Yes, it is. My birthday is August 12th. I'm a Leo, a classic Leo SJ. Classic. Classic. And that was the, the closing ceremony started on the, you know, evening of the 11th.
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And then you were there until, you know, midnight. So into the 12th and we were just, you're not supposed to drink in the village, but we were all getting vodka somehow and like bringing it in like water bottles. Cause you're, you've just completed the Olympics. You can finally feel like you can relax and reset.
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And so I was just in my kit drinking and then I was chatting to everybody and, and whoever would recognize me, I'd be like, Hey, what's up? And chat to them. And we got to the, um, Closing ceremony was in a big stadium, actually, that I played in. It was crazy to be back there, like, knowing what happened and the feelings I had been into it.
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And Alona talks a lot online, but she's got more to say. Keep listening. We'll change lives here. Our favorite story is Alona texts very direct. Like she, she, whereas we're exclamation marks and it's everything, but like, no stress if not, like that's how we communicate or how we go present in a professional world. And maybe it's because she's never had a desk job. You've just played sports.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
It struck midnight, so that meant it was my birthday, and I made everybody around me sing. And it was beautiful. There's a video of it, just, like, me standing, like, listening to everybody. And then... They played this song called My Way by Isolde. And I just remember like listening to it and then fireworks. There's also a video of me like watching it.
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Like it's about, you know, the song My Way, which I think is Frank Sinatra. But like I did it my way. And I was like, oh, I really did the Olympics my way. Like my teammates and I did the Olympics our way. And it was just a really like a special moment. I was super drunk, super drunk, but I still remember it. You had a good time.
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But like, and you feel how fun your energy is like in those moments too. But I think the energy I feel in those videos off of everyone around you as well is that like release of, oh my gosh, no matter how this went, like we did this and here we are, we can be together and finally celebrate it. But you've been kind of on the go since.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
You still haven't been able to, like, party with your team that you made this historic moment with, right? Because you also haven't even been home to San Diego before, except for, like, one night I think you spent there. But you've just been on the go since. How has that been? Like, are you – I imagine sad. No, I'm not really sad. I've been on the go since July.
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I think July 14th, I went over to France. And we were there for a week in a village before we went to Paris. And then we were in Paris for a week before we played. And then I stayed there for two weeks after the Olympics. Then for a week, I was kind of like in between.
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I was at home for a week and then I came back to San Diego for two nights, had one full day there, but I was packing up because I had to take my ass on up to LA and do Dancing with the Stars. So I had no time and then haven't been back. I was going to go back before I moved over to England, but it just wasn't matching up. I was going to here and then going back.
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And so we decided to go from England to, I mean, from LA right to England. So I haven't, it's been... more than a half a year since I've been home, and then I think I'm gonna get home for maybe less than a week and be on the road again. I would ask if your plans are dead, but you don't keep plans. I don't keep plans. No.
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And we brought it up to her and she was like, no, I said it like, shoo, add that to my calendar too. We were like. Come on in. Welcome back to House of Mar, a wave original presented by the new Samsung Galaxy S25 Ultra. This is your host, Olivia Mar, creator of Girl Dinner, my manager, and an absolute artist when it comes to a grazing board. Wow, thank you so much.
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I just say, sounds good. She is. I used, I had to tell her, I was like, please stop sending emails. Stop sending professional emails. Like you don't do it right. I actually cringe when I see it. You need to like open and like,
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hesitant of but just knowing like that's you know nerve-wracking you're putting even more of yourself out there on tv every single night to be judged literally um and to do something that you don't do which is dancing but like how did that how did you come around like what When did the kind of, like, the clouds part for you?
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Well, I think it was just having a partner like Alan who knew the power of social media as well. Like, we went into it not knowing, like, okay, well, I'll post my videos. I don't know how he'll be about it. Like, it'll be okay. Because I'd never watched a show I didn't know what he was like. You made me watch the first episode, like, I think the night before I met Alan or something like that.
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And just to get a feel for it. And I remember watching it like, oh, God, I don't know.
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um and so i met alan in the the first right after we were done the cameras were done rolling and we were just kind of like you know catching up he was like we gotta we gotta shoot tick tocks like that's how we're gonna you know make make the the fans love us and really connect with them and so i was like oh okay like this guy actually wants to do it and i wasn't sure if he'd want to collab with me or if he was a certain image he was trying to uphold but what was so great about him is he was so prepared to just be himself like i'm prepared to be myself whether that's look stupid
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look girly whatever it is like he'd put on the skirt and do the dance or whatnot too but he was so secure in himself and the image he was putting out so we worked really well together in that way and i mean he was always like we gotta make a tiktok today we gotta make tiktok today to where i was like shut up um you've pissed me off all training but we've developed like a you know really strong friendship because of that and i think people really love that connecting with us online and
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And I think they loved seeing Alan in that sort of way as well. Because I think he was always known as very like hard coach, a tough coach, which he's tough. But I also, for me, I was like, you're right. I'd be mad at me too for not understanding that. I like, you've told it to me 50 times and I still can't get this dance. So I totally understand. Andrew used to being coached.
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hope you're well like i need you meet you she would get she'd get in there and be like okay brb talk about this later like to a big brand and i'd be like you need to you're cut off actually but she also just texts very direct so a lot of people might think oh was alona mad at me no she's just to the point she's gotten what she said what she needed to say and she got out of there you you the fact that you got a response should be celebrated in the first place so one of our favorite things we are on our sister group chat
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
So for him, it was actually a really great, like the way that he, the way that he coached me, I was like, no, you're right. I can do better. Like he knew I can do better. And that's how I've always been coaches. Like they, they expect me to do better. And so like, no, you're so right. I can do better.
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It was a relationship like any other we were, we were building and learning and posting these fun videos and people just love to see, I think two people really get along in just a fun way and interact and show all the emotions. Like we cried, we were
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sometimes annoyed at each other we were this and that but i think we just kind of were very real in what was going on yeah what are some of the things that maybe weren't shown in like the package before you danced was there a lot more of you being pissed off or him being like do it again or what what did we miss out on no i think like it was a lot of i just got very silent at times because i didn't know what was going on and like or i i just couldn't could not get it right like it was so out of balance for me and and he he knew it as well it was like something trying to trying to learn how to
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get me out of that funk because i could not figure it he'd like tell me to do one thing with my hand and i couldn't do it and then i would like try to do the thing that he was telling with my foot and i could not i would not link up for me and so i would get silently because like i always want to be good at things i've always played sports and i've always been very good at every sport that i've played doesn't matter what sport i pick up i'm usually pretty good at it and so here i am picking up a sport that i just cannot figure out that i've never been good at and it's like
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you're a team, right? Alan and I are a team, but also he's the coach. I'm the player. And when we get out there on the dance floor, yes, they're looking at both of us, but I'm the one who doesn't know what the heck she's doing. So I think they could have actually showed more of like the, the,
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us coaching because i never had a problem with it i loved him like knowing that i i did i you just did it do it now which i was like you're so right and i knew i could and i think i got silent because i knew i could do better for him but we had i mean a great relationship we did get those moments where it was like you know we were both a little annoyed but then we would just be making a tiktok afterwards which i think is almost like a brother sister like friend type we're like but then
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That's the worst person I've ever met. Do you want to go to the sauna? I mean, you were there a lot of practices. You can kind of describe our relationship. It was very much like, yeah, you would get your silent moments because you're like, you want to do amazing. That's how you work. And him being like, she can do amazing, but also, is she okay? He was always so cautious with me. Very cautious.
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Always want to make sure you're okay. But it was those things that, you know, we talk about that's like, okay, but if Alona's feeling alone, she needs to get herself out of it. Eventually, you can't do it. But he's very much like... But is she going to be okay? And what do we think? What can I do? Like, how do I help? And he's like texting me. And I'm like, what can we do to help?
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Were you helping him? Like, King, I hear you. I wish I could also instruct you on how to make her feel better. Like, just she'll come around. It's all good. Like, it's all good. But he just cared so much, you know? Because he also didn't want to, like, make you mad. But he also wanted the best, like you say. So it was funny in those moments. And being like, okay, Olivia, like, what do we do?
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Also, do you have a TikTok idea? I'm like, okay, Ellen. No. Him and I still chat a lot. I'm really excited to do tour. I want to do some more stops. I just think that I want to be back with him. We have so much fun together, just kind of hanging out even when we're just practicing. So I am excited for that because it was such a special moment in time. So I hopefully will have a friend for life.
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I don't even know if I can watch next season, though. I'll be so jealous. I'll be like, that's my partner. That's my partner. Oh, my gosh. If he says that his next partner is his favorite partner, I'm blocking him on all socials.
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That's a threat. That's a threat, Alan. She means that. If somebody else becomes your next favorite partner, I'm blocking you. You can never say it again. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Right. You know what? I'm just kidding. She's a really cool, really chill. Really chill girl. No, very aloof. It's fine. It's all good. Love you, Alan.
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I went to a really small university, which was great. Got my education, got out of there, moved to New York City very quickly afterwards because I just knew I wanted. I always knew I wanted to try living in New York City and Los Angeles. I think I was going to love both. And I did. I loved New York City while I was there.
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And I moved to New York City while I'm working for – I'm very lucky to have had incredible female mentors throughout my career. Like I seek out cool, creative, wonderful women and just try to soak up as much as I can from them while like helping like in any way that I can on their journey because I know that I would learn from that a lot. So I moved to the city.
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And I was like, oh, we have this coming up. That's crazy. Like you guys remember, make sure to do that. And Alona texted, add that to my calendar. And Adriana and I were like, who the hell does she think she is? Where does she get off? I get that she's getting out there. She's big time now. Who does she think? Talking to me. Of course, I'm going to put it on our calendar. I already did.
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I worked for an unbelievable creator, actress, author, Roslyn Hart. And I worked on some of her shows and activations around New York City. She has a show called Never Sleep Alone. It's a lot of fun. It's like a dating and sex and kind of a story told like through her character and also just like helps people with confidence and getting out there and being who you are.
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And what a great thing to be a part of at that age.
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City straight out of school. Great for the mental. Absolutely. It was very fun. It was very cool to see those sides of New York and with her and to learn from her and her creative approach. And also then being the girl behind some of the social and like the Excel spreadsheets and whatever.
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So from there, I went and worked on the Apple TV show Dickinson and Apple TV was launching at that time when I was in New York City. And they launched with a couple of shows, one of them being Dickinson. And I worked in post-production there. And I've met some of the most incredible people and editors and producers, some of whom I am still very close to, to this day.
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And again, learned so much from them, which then led me to the creator and showrunner, Elena Smith, who was the next wonderful, powerful, cool, creative woman that I got to learn from and work with. So I got to see like a TV show season get made from the, like the very beginning to the bitter end.
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It was very cool to be a part of these conversations and listening in on these meetings and the stuff I got to learn.
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All the way through. It's like, I got to be a part of these conversations and literally see how the sausage gets made and to see different approaches to the creative process and to have been in that position for so many years is amazing.
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so special did that for john before heading over to los angeles and i continued doing some development work with elena smith and then the strikes happened uh in hollywood it was in that window of time that i leaned more into my social media because i had the time to do it and i was always building it i was always posting what i was doing and getting better at making videos and seeing what i was comfortable saying or showing or my little adventures around new york city um
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I think I was also in New York, like in the peak time of like 2018, 2019, where it was like my good friend and I would be like, we should want to have like a Saturday where we go and take fun pictures for Instagram. It's like, absolutely. That sounds like a dream. Great. And then we'll go watch, you know, we'll listen to Charlie XCX and have a time about it. Absolutely. And so
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leaned way more into that. I got more and more comfortable over the years. And it was pretty soon after the strikes had started that I posted my girl dinner video. And then, so I was doing my content creation stuff. It's when I've always worked for Alona and building her brand and helping on the business side of stuff that... Between Tokyo and Paris, like I was leaning more and more into it.
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But then once the strikes happened, I put my whole self into it and really, really ran with it. And we got to build a very solid foundation going into Paris. So to be a part of that and to have taken everything that I've learned from my journey to that point. and to help in the everyday and the flow and how this happens and how this works. And, oh, we should go about it this way.
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And, oh, we're working with brands like this. It's all been for a reason. My direction was correct. I was putting my energy where it felt good, women. And now I get to do what I love. And it's my dream job, working here, working with you and, you know, being all together on this gorgeous couch and making my content, making my silly little videos.
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But like, what the hell, man? Like, put that on my calendar. I was like, we had like a side conversation. We were chatting about this. I was like, she needs to be brought down a couple pegs. We got to talk to her. But actually, we brought it up to her. And she was like, no, I said it like... Shoo, add that to my calendar too. I wouldn't remember it, so make sure you add that to my calendar.
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There's that thing that's like, everything happens in your favor, but even if you don't know what it is and like the burnt toast theory and, The butterfly effect, which I think is a big thing we talk about a lot, is the butterfly effect and how much it changes... You're a big believer in the butterfly. You're a big believer in the butterfly effect. She loves that.
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I think the butterfly effect is like that. Thousands of millions of years ago, the flap of a butterfly's wings could have moved one...
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one seed to this place and this happened here and then that so it's like the littlest movement can shift the whole world because then you would have had a tree planted there then maybe a a river would have formed around or whatever it was i could be wrong somebody could totally let us know but it's just that like one little change can
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you might not realize it completely changed a whole trajectory of your life.
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So I think my butterfly effect was when I decided not to play, stop playing softball and just went to the local neighboring high school to play rugby and my whole life changed. Your butterfly effect has been, you know... Jobs that I've decided weren't a fit for me and it was tough and it seemed, you know, unprofessional, but I made the hard decision and now here I am.
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And it didn't feel good then, but, you know... it all worked out. What's been yours?
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Well, you were at a crossroads recently and I think we talked about it, but you just quit your job. Yes. Which I think was also like, depending on that, how that could probably now change whatever's going to happen and like coming to that decision.
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You've got to work on your punctuation. I was just being funny about it. She was being funny, but we were like, too big for our britches.
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But that is good though. You guys are ready to like, not humbled me in a way, but like bring me down to earth because I think even with all the fame or whatever it is that's happened and all of this, I haven't changed too much. And I think that's a testament to... You guys let me know who I am. I'm just your sister. I'm just this girl. I'm not getting too big for my britches.
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And when that does happen, because there's moments when that does happen, but they always bring me back. Remember who you are. You're getting good at it. She recently sent an email that I was like, did I write that? in my sleep, did I send an email? And I was like, Alona, did you send this email? She was like, I did. I tried to make it sound like you. I literally bodied Olivia.
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I was going to say, sorry for delay. We can't do this. And then like, thanks. And then I was like, wait a second. What would Olivia write? I said, hello. Apologies for delay. Thank you so much for your interest. Alona is currently unavailable. And I was like, goodness me. Oh, you wrote it as if it was me or just like in general. Or maybe this is why I wrote first person. I don't remember.
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But like I wrote it so well because I was pretending to be Olivia. I thought I was possessed in my sleep and I must have written. Like I woke up and I was like, I need to chill.
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that's crazy i'm learning a lot from her as well because she so olivia we can get into it more but was like a personal assistant for a big showrunner in in hollywood so she learned so much and she's somebody who you can rely on for everything and she knows how things are done she knows how it's best going to be perceived so like for me somebody who's just like i just want to do it i'm an athlete i do this she's like no here's the best way to do something yeah
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And so it comes across even better to brands, to people, when I have somebody like that being my voice there.
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Many a time, our dad, Olivia, will read an email, and our dad will be like, That was, that's really good. Yeah, that's good. That was really nice. He's very complimentative of my professional writing.
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Yeah. I was like, you're coming across like a little accusatory. I think we need to like rein that in. But there's a good way to get to that. Absolutely. We need to.
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I am accusing them of something. That's good.
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And I mean, as we said, math isn't my thing. But if you want me to compose an email to your boss, like a message to an ex, I'm here. I'm taking clients, actually. So I'm open. So we haven't really lived in the same place for a while. Adriana has been living in New York City for a couple of years. I've been living in San Diego for the past six years. Olivia in New York City and then LA.
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So we've always been apart. But one thing that we always do prioritize is coming together.
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Well, I spent a lot of time in Olivia's place, so I knew that she would cook for me. and she helped me out and make me coffee so i i wasn't too worried about it like knowing that i have spent so much time with her so we've been doing fine honestly i think we thought we would be getting like
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uh more visitors we're like what are we gonna do if somebody has a visitor we gotta set up a system i'll put it all should i put a sock on the door what do you think yeah like what sort of system have we got going on across town nothing nothing it's been her and i in there nobody's running through those doors yeah we really like that's gonna be interesting like sister like what are we gonna do as adult women as adult women we live together for 18 years of our lives growing up and now here we are it's just us it's just then this is the visitor
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
that's our only visitor that's the one there so no we get together we get along really well i mean she's somebody who's also a homemaker she loves to cook and like make people feel really comfort comfortable and and and welcome so it works out for me i come home and she's got pasta for me and i say i want a smash burger and she'll make you know a smash burger so that's just how she shows love i think there is times where i do need like a break we both need breaks at times but that she goes on long walks i i go to practice so there's all sorts of moments where we can take that pause and it's also
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
And this is your host, Adriana Mar, a New York City girl, humanitarian, and pimple-popping video etiquette police. Okay.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
about being more honest with somebody who was like, hey, I need you to get out of my face. Yeah. And we have that. I think we've learned over the years. But it has been special. It's been cool to do. And I like taking care of people and making a home. But you were quite good at it as well. When I want to be. But then I'll revert back to being like, I'm a child. I don't know anything.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I don't need to do anything. No, but you're good when you apply yourself. Same thing, like gift giving. She thinks she's a terrible gift giver. She's actually unbelievable at it when she applies herself. The stuff where you're like, wow, how did you know? How did you look into my soul like that? They all say that. You're a good caregiver. It's true, though. But she is also a very good caregiver.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
She is a nurse. Your bedside care is impeccable. I had violent food poisoning recently. And she was right there with the British form of Gatorade, which is delicious, the blue one. I love it. Look that up. And taking care of me, making tea, getting food ready for me. It was really great. Good on you. Thank you.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I might have talked about this, but she once gave us the necklace that started our mom giving us all the jewelry. You bought at some boutique in Australia when you were there on the Sevens tour, little plated gold.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
A, O, and I. Little tiny initials that our mom then was like, oh, because they started tarnishing really quickly. Mm-hmm.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
um cheap uh no and so our mom got a made in gold and so that started the whole jewelry kind of trend and that was you like you did that you saw them and you thought that was cute she doesn't even remember it she doesn't even remember it to this day like it meant nothing to her unbelievable but we kept joking though like because i do obviously work for her now and we work together that any gift is like an employee
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
gotta keep my employee satisfaction package yeah yeah employee satisfaction end of the year bonus yeah she got me a purse this year which was really really fun because i don't i don't spend money on stuff like that for myself um and so that was kind of a nice like touch to i don't know where we're at what we're building and moving towards yeah what'd you get you
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
You're going to see it. Or I'll leave it at the cardboard box it came in. Yeah.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I keep a running note in my phone of if somebody says something even a little bit, I'm like, oh.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
and i'll write it down it's like a potential idea and then they sometimes come to fruition actually so like when mom came to town i think from two years ago i had written on my notepad for her discovery of witches tour because she loves that those books and the tv show and i was like gosh we're ever in england together i would love like to bring her to some of those filming locations
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
And then I ended up doing that because I'd always had that. I wrote it down. I saw it. I would see it occasionally when I would go through this notepad and be like, oh my gosh, we're going to be in England. Let's go see Discovery of Witches places because I know my mom would love that. So it wasn't a gift. It was just like something we did, but it was nice to do it with her.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
You reread that like not once a year, but maybe once every two years? I just read it. Almost every year, I feel like. That says a lot. It does. Vampire Academy is in my veins, yes. It is. I'm very passionate about it. I think I should have been in that room when they were creating that movie and that show because I know it. Like the back of my hand. Anyway, no, don't get me started.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
So we went to Oxford and we toured some places because I remembered that that would be something to cool, like an idea I had two years ago.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
You took it, yeah.
House of Maher
Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
What's that thing that's like to be loved is to be known or to be known is to be loved or something? To be seen?
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
Something like that. Coming up on today's episode of House of Mar, our tea time, we wanted it to have a bit of a theme. So we were thinking crossroads. Alona can give us a peek behind the curtain into what really goes down at the Olympics. Adriana will talk navigating an identity shift, and I can talk maybe a bit about my time and what I did before. coming to work for Alona full time.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
And then with our wind down, we will receive a special message from one of our favorite people, an unofficial 4th Marr sister.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I think the first day in the village, I had a full day off. So I posted about seven videos a day. Like I knew that this was a way that I could keep getting messages out there. I think it started in Tokyo with like, I knew Olympics is where people are made. You know, Michael Phelps, Simone Biles, they're made because they're the best in their sport and they're objectively the best, right?
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
Like it's not just subjective. It's a numbers game where they're the best. I knew that I probably wouldn't be that in a sport like rugby. I was not just going to be the best. But I knew I had like a personality that was a little different. So even in Tokyo, I'd kind of decided like, oh, this app is, you know, social media is really powerful and can really take you places. So I did it in Tokyo.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
Then I kept doing it after Tokyo because I, we always talk about like sponsorships. Like girls are always like, we want to get more sponsors. I want to be able to make more money, but there's no clear way to do it. And I saw like, okay, social media is how you do it. Cause you make yourself, you know, look good to a brand. They want to have a return of investment on you.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
So if you can be giving them something that'll help them. And I thought building my profile on social media was just the way to do it. Is it stressful to share a lot of myself? I think there was a crossroads when it came to like How much am I willing to share? What's the sort of persona I want to give out there?
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
But I've just found like sharing more and being relatable is what really people connect to. So I think my thing is all about relatability. Like if I'm having a bad body image day, there's so many other people who are having that same thing. So I've just tried to be relatable. And I think at the Tokyo Olympics did the same thing.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
um, or at the Paris Olympics, I did the same thing, just being relatable and having fun with it too. Like, I'm not afraid to, you know, have a joke about with myself. Uh, I think the big thing was like being single in the village. Cause people always talk about, you know, the singleness, the athletes going crazy, dating each other. And I just like,
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I'm going to get angry thinking about the adaptations. Well, thank you for tuning back in. Episode two, very exciting.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
played on that because I knew people love to see it. They love watching Love Island. They love watching all these shows where single people are going crazy. And I just knew there was there was something to be done there. Did I get any action in the Olympic Village? No. Right. No. I also because at that point, everyone was knowing me.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
So if I talked to even one person, people would be like, what's happening? But I was so focused on the village of like kind of making a name for myself in a way and posting these videos. And afterwards, we were so busy after our games are done. I was barely in the village. I barely got to meet people. But it's like it was such an amazing time for me.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
It really changed, I guess, the trajectory I was going on. But I was never surprised with the change. Like I knew that this is what I wanted to do. And I everyone always asked me, like, oh, was it crazy? Has your life completely changed? I was like, no, this was what I was aiming for for three years now. Absolutely. And I feel like because you put out that content being like.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
dating single life the village like people then assume like oh you're putting it out there it must be happening for you so everyone just expected that you were having all of these dates and these crazy experiences and I remember you being like yeah but these are also like the world's best athletes are focused on what they're doing yeah there's not really time for that until the end
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
If you made it back here from episode one, I just want to say how happy we are to have you and to be welcoming you into our home in this way and opening this up and really giving a closer peek into what we have to say, what goes on in our brains, what we talk about with each other on our group video calls. I think it's going to be really special.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I imagine that there are for sure people who are, you know, getting their rocks off, I guess it's called, having fun in there. But also, we're here to get a medal. Like, we're not here to really mess around too much. We're here to, you know, compete for our country. It's something that we've been dreaming about our whole lives.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
So there is that, you know, you are in a village with the hottest people in the world, the hottest people in the world. Of course, things like that are going to happen. But also, some people are still competing. Some people have just competed. They're doing this and that. So it's definitely a cool village. It's amazing that all these countries come together. Some are at war. Some are this.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
And yet sport brings us all in under one thing that just unites us. And it's really a cool time. I mean, I've met people from all over the world and got pins from all over. I think it's like... really a special thing because not many people get to experience an Olympic village.
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Olympic Village Tea, The Butterfly Effect & How We’re Really Doing
I mean, only Olympians and coaches or whatnot, but that's something that is really a place where we can all come together. What was the nichest pin you got, like country? I got, well, I saw a video of a girl who was like, I see you all trading pins, but I haven't seen my pin from my country, which is Kazakhstan. And so I was like, I'm going to find this pin.