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And I guess I'm just sort of scared of the way this stuff like slowly gets implemented. You know, because things just sort of like start happening. I think as we've seen in like historical rises of fascism and this sort of, you know, everything that this new administration kind of represents.
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And in the first episode, I'm having anal sex with a 45-year-old and cutting myself in the arm, like all this stuff. But my first thought is like, okay, they have to tell their congregation that their kids aren't going to be on TV. And then their congregation who are just...
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little old nice white christian people from the south are gonna watch this tv show and see me getting butt fucked and and it's like it's like oh my god i'm like i so like to a degree i still do like feel bad because that's something that they still have to deal with you know my movie coming out next next in in a couple weeks kinds of kindness which i'm so excited about my one scene in it
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I got my titties out girl. Like it's, it's like, you know, and, and I have no personal problems with it, but it is something where I'm like, some people just don't, aren't going to get it. And you know, that's a whole other thing.
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Yeah. Is it a letter? So I didn't tell them that I was in the in the audition process because I really wasn't sure that I was going to do it because once again, I didn't think acting was my calling or anything. It's not my plan. It wasn't my plan.
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So I didn't tell them until I had actually gotten the job, which kind of left them in a situation because it doesn't really give them room to give their opinions or whatever. But I think they were just worried because... They don't come from this world. And sometimes I get really jealous of my peers in this industry that do have family in it because there's pros and cons.
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And for a lot of reasons, I'm really happy that my family is in this completely separate world. But the guidance part, I think that's what they were worried about. Even though they didn't know a lot about it, I think they know the nature of this industry can be very intense. And they just didn't want me to get fucked up by it.
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OK, thank you. You know, I this is like, well, and we were just talking about this kind of is like I always feel like like the image that I put out into the world, like on Instagram, whatever, is like very much like the drag version of who I am. And it's like an image that I put together to like. Give to the world. And, and like, that is not how I dress and act in real life.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I just had to tell – I had to be, like – it is – I think I used the word risque.
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And cut to them at the premiere, like – I don't think my mom could even watch it. Like, you know, it's insane. It's insane.
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Well, yeah, I think. And it's part of it's just part of my nature, too. And I think part of like the pressure cooker that I sort of placed myself in growing up in a place where I was so unhappy with my surroundings is I I really like devoted my my free time and like my life to like.
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like my art and and at the time it was visual arts where i put all my creative energy but i knew that that that is like my gift is like i'm an artist and and it's still t to this like i know that that's what i was put on this earth to do was to like make stuff but um but uh you know at the time it was visual arts and so i did everything that i could to just kind of like like
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like put all my energy into that and you know it ended up being like my first job like in high school my first job was um contributing to you know making little watercolor comics for an online magazine and stuff you know and so that was like this is what's gonna get me out of here and get me to where I want to be in life you know yeah it's so even hearing you say that it's so
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talk to anyone that you felt like actually understood you well so i mean this is the thing is like when the trans thing started coming up and that that kind of started coming up with the onset of puberty um which i was experiencing severe like levels of anxiety that no like you know middle school or high schoolers should be going through at that time
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for especially around something that's you know quote unquote inevitable and and I realized that this like wasn't normal and then I turned to the internet because I didn't even know what being trans was. I had no idea that there were trans people in the world. And that's the kind of isolating piece of, like, growing up in the South, nobody talks about it.
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There's no people in my line of sight that, like, are this. And then, so, like, I... You know, went to the Internet. I looked on YouTube and found out like, oh, shit, you can this. It isn't my destiny. It doesn't have to be my destiny to become a fucking man and grow a beard, you know, and all that stuff.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And so, but like this, I feel like your podcast is very about like cozy. Let's like give realness. And this is my, I, I picked it up off the floor and put a little stupid outfit together. And that's what it, that's what this is.
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And then but then it's the whole thing of like, OK, now that I know that this is my tea, I have to get everybody else on board because I'm still a fucking kid, you know. So that and that was harder because. I didn't know what it was. My parents didn't know what it was.
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And and that was that was a bit harder as far as like, you know, there were moments of like when I first came out where like I told them like I'm a girl and they were like,
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no you're not like like you know and but it's not it's not because I think they've always known like deep down but like they didn't there's there's when when you don't know like what it is like there's no way to like like realize or I don't know contextualize that right
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Yeah. And I think they started realizing...
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because this when I with the onset of puberty and everything is is where my first I've dealt with mental health you know for a while now but that's when it first started showing up as in depression and anxiety and my grades started fucking up and I became you know kind of I was becoming a shell of a person and I think they could see that and then they were like
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I'm pitching them this insane idea that I want to I want to chop my dick off and become a woman like you know like like uh you know and that's a very crude way of putting it but like just sort of like get my point across like like and and I think no one wants anybody that they love to like endure a harder life than they have to but sometimes that's that's the fucking deal what I I
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traits I don't know if that's the right word but like traits do you think like you gained through like having to really like endure a lot of like turning inward within yourself and like betting on yourself and relying on yourself yeah being trans has been one of the great challenges of my life and it sucks that I had to deal with it so so young and that I live in a world that you know is constantly fighting me on that um
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Yes. And RuPaul also, bitch. Okay. Can I just say that interview? Like,
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And it and it absolutely fucked me up. And I'm still dealing with the ramifications of that today. But at the same time, I would not have it any other way because it has taught me. And it's why I'm so thankful for it. It has taught me that like the power of.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
intuition and kind of like the proof that i have like a soul and you know and like um and that there and that like all the answers are inside of me you know and uh at least for my truth and my life and whatever and and like that is like priceless and um and it's something that i use as you know a grounding force in everything that i do in my life now you know so
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When in reality, deep down and you and you know it's there, but you won't look at it like you're only looking at this thing that you're telling yourself. But deep down, you know, you you always know, always know, you know, you can try to avoid it sometimes.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Yes. And you literally put yourself in your own psychosis of like of like believing in this reality that is not actually real. It's so crazy.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
So I thought about this today. Because I just recently had an interview come out where I fucking – This was the longest interview I've ever done. It was two like four hour sessions. And so I really just was I was hyped up on caffeine. I was yapping. I was talking about whatever I wanted to. And I did. I gabbed about how fucking frustrating it is.
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Because in interviews for press things when I'm promoting a movie or something, it's oftentimes the first thing an interviewer will ask about because it's what makes me unique and they know that it'll get clicks. But what's frustrating to me about that is I'm here to promote my work in a movie that has...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
nothing to do with that and you are just fishing for things that will get you clicks and that's what's so frustrating to me about that this today when what I love about this podcast is like is that you like we're talking about real shit and life and whatever and I can't really talk about my life in full honesty without talking about it and it is something I do believe because I didn't really fame is something that I'm like I don't
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Thank you. I'm so happy to be here. I just told you, not the vape coming out. Not the vape coming out as you're like, thank you so much. This is how comfortable I'm feeling right now. But this means the world to me. I just have to start off and say, because my sister, who you've
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I knew what I want to do with my life often involves fame to some degree. It's not something that I thoroughly enjoy, but I do feel like I have been put in this position in order to... help progress like the movement.
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All the time. All the time. And that's the thing. I don't like talking about like just like educating people on like the fact like bitch Google is like like literally that's how I learned about it. So you can you can certainly do it too. But as far as like my experience and also helping other young trans people who might watch this or watch some of my other work which
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Rue yeah and this is what like Rue would be wearing like around Rue's house and I was like okay yeah and so I love that you came just like cozy today thank you um you just bought a new house like yes here yes I heard you did too yes okay how is it going girl oh my god girl okay so I like I've been looking for a house for a few years to be to be a hundred percent honest I have like I didn't grow up with it's it's a very surreal thing to be like making a
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sometimes i do incorporate my transits into my work you know that's who i'm doing it for you know yeah i feel like there's a difference between like genuinely and authentically just like speaking about your experience yeah people are like oh like i like what she said there versus being like so hunter yeah in high school and you're like jesus fucking christ i'm promoting the hunger games why are you asking me about what it was like being a tranny growing up in the church like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
did you know i i would smoke weed with my friends and i and now i've learned to i've come to learn i fucking hate weed is not for me i cannot smoke it and i had this really horrible experience with it like when i was like 18 or something where i like i smoked and i literally thought i was in hell and then i've never done it again so i'm like really off of it that's the only thing that i kind of dabbled with and then like you know drinking here and there yeah but i
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never really getting into it that's been more of like a early 20s thing you know you need to be like in your room like by yourself or that could be scary or with one friend that you trust yeah and like ease in yes because that's my thing with weed is is like because some people can just smoke and just like kiki and bitch that is not how like when i
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smoked weed in the past i become non-verbal i'm on the floor and like a creature like that's that's just when i have smoked that's what that's my tea that's what i give terrifying and and you can't do that around especially people you don't know then you're like psych yourself out and like hunter you're like yeah i'm just like no and also they're like it's weed like it's not that deep yeah it is that
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it is that i think weed is one of the most psychedelic drugs on on the fucking planet i mean that's a stretch but like yeah it's it's i think it is very psychedelic um okay let's talk about euphoria
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I was taking gap year. Okay. And modeling in New York at the time. I got scattered over Instagram. I go to model. I'm like, I want to make some money. That's not what happened, by the way. But I left modeling in debt. But... You can dream. That's another story. Anyways, I'm doing, like, my model give. And, you know, right as I'm getting ready to, like, go to college, because that was my plan.
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I was going to save up money, whatever. Go to college. Then...
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this casting call comes about um and i see it floating around on instagram and then my agency tells me that they have asked me to come in and so this happened with there are a handful of trans girls working there's a lot more now there's like a handful of trans girls working in modeling at the time we had all gotten asked to come in for this for this um audition and
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And I was really like, I don't know, because it's like trans and like and it's, you know, not written by a trans. I'm like, I don't know. And then but I go in because they really want me to. And because I'm like, OK, let me let's just like see what this is about. And I went in and by the way, I've no acting experience. I have no idea what I'm doing. So I get in and.
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The great thing is that they essentially just wanted me to play myself. So I got to basically just be myself with lines. And I think that whatever it was, it worked for them. So I keep getting callbacks, callbacks, callbacks. Eventually... They fly me out to L.A. for, like, a final audition in front of all these HBO execs in this crazy room.
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And then I find out later that afternoon that I got the role. And, you know, I was still teetering on, like, do I... This was not my plan. And this changes everything. And I have to be completely honest. Then I saw... the, the paycheck, the, the, the per episode. And I was like, this is more money than I've ever seen in my whole entire life. I, I don't think I can say no to this.
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significantly more money than like anywhere where I came from like my parent any with anything that I grew up with um you know we're just pretty regular middle class and now I'm like I have a I have a lot of fucking dough and I have no idea how to how to use it and so I and it scares me and and so like at some point I had to be like okay I need to do something with I mean money and uh and so um
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Um, um, and, and frankly, at that point I had also read more of the episodes. I really liked the show, you know? So it's, it's like a combination of those things. Um, and, um, And I really liked the showrunner, Sam. We had had really good meetings and I was like, okay, I feel like, and it's the same thing that keeps happening where I'm being handed this thing. I think I have to take it.
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So I think we all knew it was something special when we were making it. Um, we all like, we loved the first season. It was so magical. Like we, we all loved it so much. Um, and we, I mean, we still like, we look back on it as, as like, wow, like, like we all got to grow up inside of this thing together. It's really special.
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Um, um, but yeah, I didn't, we didn't know that it was going to become what it did. Yeah.
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take me to that moment where you're like realizing like the show's out fame is happening everyone knows your name like yeah it's one of the most surreal things I've ever been through because it's um because you are still the same person so I'm still the same person But then the entire world's relationship to you changes like that. And it was... I'm not going to lie.
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It was really... It threw me for a fucking loop. And thank God we all, the cast and I... came up in this together, and we were able to, like, lean on each other in this just, like, really surreal experience. Because I don't know how I could have fucking handled it if I didn't have them.
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And, you know, like, particularly Z, who's one of my best friends in the world to this day, and she, you know, thankfully, she had had some experience with fame already, and we were really close by the time We really kind of fell in love with each other as friends in the first season. And she was able to help me through all of that too. But it was very surreal.
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And I wouldn't say I had no interest in fame because I knew fame could get me the things that I wanted to do in life. And I knew that could be a tool. But it's not like I had any personal... And I still don't really have any personal... I don't personally gain anything from it. If anything, it's just made existing in public a little harder as a socially anxious person.
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But it's an amazing tool to get what I want and to make what I want happen.
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Because, bitch, if I could walk away from all of this with the money and not have... Oh, life would be...
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right and some people like it like i get that but like yeah some people do and some people are meant for it some people were like like this is what you were supposed to do diva do you have a moment where you were like found yourself like very overwhelmed by it all and you like were shutting down um so i i remember some of the first moments of getting recognized in public happening um like i think me and barbie were at a cafe and
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you know, the first like four episodes or something were out and it hadn't really started. But then... But we're just at a cafe running our own business. And then we have people start coming up to us. And it's the first time this has ever happened to me. And it's just really surreal. And then I think the moment that I really realized things were changing was I was in New York doing press.
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And it's one of those interviews. I forget what it's called, but it's like... It's kind of public because they do the interview in this corner glass thing. Oh, like the Today Show vibe? No, it's not the Today Show. People can see you. People can see you from the inside. So I walk in to do this interview and everything's kind of normal.
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And then by the time I come out from doing the interview, a crowd and paparazzi have amassed. And then... we get followed around. And my, my mom is there with me too. And we get followed around by these paparazzi for the rest of the day. And just coming from what I come like, and it was, I like, I couldn't fucking process it. And it was, it's, it's scary. Cause like getting followed, um,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
and having people scream at you and stuff it's it it puts you in like a like a fight or flight like it's like like because you know you you can understand on a surface level what's happening but your body doesn't know that and you feel like you're in a cage because you're like well i can't open my car door exactly exactly you're just kind of like i'm sad yeah is your mom like what the
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Yeah, I've been looking for a house. I finally found this beautiful house. And yeah, I moved in when? September of last year. Okay. And I've started on the whole like, now I'm going to hire people to make... I tried doing the whole, I'm going to buy furniture by myself... I have no idea what the fuck I'm doing. It's so fucking hard. Are you doing that? Oh my God.
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I think I mean, my mom was great because I think she knew that I was really overwhelmed. She was just there for me. Yeah. But I think we both at the end of that day had were just like, what the fuck? Yeah. And and then, you know, it's kind of never been the same since.
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Yeah. And it's taken a while, but I've created this dichotomy between the Hunter Schaefer that I give to the world and then, like, Hunty, who... That's what my friends call me and everything. Like, those are two different people. And so... She, the famous hunter, is kind of like my drag. And having those be separate is so important for my fucking sanity.
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And it's also... It's one of my greatest gifts in this life is I have wonderful, wonderful friends and family. And... and their people a lot of them have been around before I got famous and so they know me and and you know don't really can't really project my drag onto me like they know me for me um and uh um and so having them there is just
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that causes people to become monsters that they're like do this for me and do this for me and then you're not even a real human you're a robot no you're like yeah it's it's it's psycho and it's sad to watch because it you you know we we do watch it happen to people a lot yeah obviously i have to ask is season three happening like what are we doing girl um you know obviously i like the real tea is i have no idea fucking idea what's going on um and you can ask
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
literally all of the cast um and it's um you know it's i mean here's the real tea is that a lot has happened um but at least for me and knowing where the rest of the cast is at and everything to i mean a lot has happened we have had um and it's hard to talk about but um you know we've had deaths um
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
girl i'm gonna get emotional um and um it's um i think everyone feels a certain um sense of oh girl sorry oh it's okay um anticipation um for like if we are supposed to do this season three of like
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obviously I'm still coming to qualms with what's happened and losing people that we really loved and we're a part of this family and everything you know and and I think season if we do go back it's it's that's gonna be tough
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I mean and I think there's a world in which we can channel that into making it a beautiful season three if it is supposed to happen but I think you know that shit really threw everyone for a loop so on an emotional level and then there's you know all these you know industry whatever political things that are that go into whether or not this is happening but that's
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emotionally i think we're a big part of what's happening yeah too you know um i'm so fucking sorry and like it it
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And we support you. Thank you. And thank you for being real with me and letting me give my emotional tease and whatever. Girl, do your fucking thing. Because it's still...
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No shade to Euphoria makeup. No, of course. I just am a no-makeup girl. Love it. You're gorgeous. Thank you.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
That's insane, Alex Cooper. That's such a fucking crazy question. I would... Well, it depends on who's getting the nude. Because my friends and I, they see me naked. It's no big deal. Maybe you send it to an extra. But what if I fucking send it to my mom? Then that might just be as bad as the sex. Um... You know, I think, you know, my mom has seen me get butt fucked on television.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I think she can handle an accidental sext and we can recover from that.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Thank you. This is so much about you and your mom. What would you do?
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I wrote it. I'm like, what is wrong with me? I pray for both of us that we never have to deal with that. Me too. Me too. What is your opinion on sexting? It's like, I've tried. I've had cute moments with it.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
never it's never ideal i would say it's exhausting it's exhausting for me personally i personally i hate texting in general done um i if we need to if we're gonna talk facetime me you know i'm a facetime girl uh so the texting have you ever reused a nude absolutely
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um so okay actually you know what no like i so i my friendships um especially a lot of my i come from a lot of lesbians in my circle um and i don't know how many lesbians you've talked to but most of everybody has already had sex with each other and probably will again um And that is very much the case for me and my, like, lesbian friend group.
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So that would probably be no problem if that happened. Easier.
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Mmm. Mmm. I don't know. I don't really regret too much. Okay. No, I mean, I've definitely, like, drunkenly done things where I'm like, ooh, girl, like, that didn't need to happen. But it's not – no shade, no nothing. Okay, okay, fair.
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Are we dating? No, we are – I'm – single as fuck okay um are you loving it I am loving it so yeah so I mean you know like I think it is perfect for where I'm at in life right now. Because especially given this past week's stuff where I am about to undertake this enormous project. And the last time I did it, you know, I was in my first relationship when I first started Euphoria.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Good for you. If you want, he'll come over and help you. I wish I had a husband that had amazing taste. That is not my fucking case, Diva. I, like... Yeah, so I went through the exact same spiral of, like, okay, wait, I, like, you know, I look at couches, and then I'm like, wait, but, like... And this is so... I hate... It's so, like...
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And I didn't know going into it how much of... me it takes and I really live in that world when I'm doing it and uh and you know like that relationship didn't end up working out because I just had no capacity to like do a relationship so I think it is
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
so perfect that i am single as a pringle right now um because i get to just dive head first into this um but um but um yeah my last relationship was like i don't know it's where we've we hit the year mark a little bit ago um since we broke up so yeah do you prefer someone in the industry or not in the industry Um, it's not really a, I mean, this is, it's still tough and I still like don't,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
totally no but you know because i've done both um and uh they both are really nice for their own reasons because obviously and i have this with my friendships too where like i my job and my life that i live requires me to be on standby all the time i found out that i'm spending the like, not even a week ago. And, you know, it's, like, it's hard to maintain relationships.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And so the people that have stuck around in my life know that I operate on this level where, like, you know...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
and it's all like my best friendships are like this where like we can go a month or however long and not talk and then when I when I come back or when they come back we can pick right back up where we left off that's how I operate in my relationships I like it's just how it is right now um
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
and uh and so yeah like with the relationships too it's it's like it's it's nice dating other people in the industry because they also work like that right so they get it like they're like they're not going to be annoyed that you're like leaving for a certain amount of time because i've had friendships end because they're just like girl like you like where are you going where are you yeah um i have work yes yeah okay what is the best first date you've ever been on
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Best first date I've ever... So the date... Dates is like... not, I'm just now getting into like the era of my life where like I'm an adult and I feel like more like the, the idea of someone asking me on a date or me asking someone on a date, like a first date where you go to dinner and you like get to know each other.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Like I haven't done a whole lot, like a lot of like my previous stuff is like we start out as friends or random hookup, blah, blah, blah, blah. Um, and then it turns into whatever it,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
could go first world whatever uh you know like i look at this amazing couch but then like if i spend a bunch of money on this couch and then i but then the carpet right changes everything like huh girl i'm i'm like i i tried i really tried and then i was like no so i um i hired um a designer i yeah so so have you seen choice of bonds um ad video insane insane so i hit try up
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Oh, God. Let's see. Who is non-offensive to say that you won't have to run into next week? Oh, no. Let's see. Okay.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
i don't know i can't like actor i'm trying to think musician no well i have a type okay oh what's your type i i love a musician i've dated a couple now i think i've seen that yeah i think i've seen that i've dated a few now um i love a musician one with like long hair one with like short hair um
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
know it's like the little sucker in me that's just like oh my god you are so charismatic and you will play the guitar whatever and i'm like goo goo gaga has anyone ever written you a song yeah
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
yeah oh and and trust me they know what they're doing too they know what they're doing with that and but it it works oh my god like on the guitar just like sitting on the bed you know yeah or or like you know send it to you you know like you know yeah it's uh it works uh i have fear for anyone
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I mean, no. So, like, the thing that's tough with musicians, or at least in, like, my line, or, like, with successful musicians who are, like, doing tours and stuff is, like, it's, I mean, and I guess it's the same thing with actors where they have to go... Off for however many months and tour. And and then I'm working for how it's like it's very hard.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
So I don't know if that is like in my path again because I've done it and I've tried it and really tried to make it work. And it's just very hard. And I don't have at least at this point in my life, I don't have the capacity to like figure out.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
how that works maybe someday though we'll see do you like how I like let you off the hook I'm like okay you don't have to answer I'm like I really wanted to give an answer you'll tell me after like you'll tell me after yeah do you fall in love easily so I'm like falling in love is like so like it's I'm still like figuring out like what it means because I've been in love with people who are like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
still some of my best friends to this day and um and like we were definitely like in love at that point but it's changed in its nature and i still love the shit out of this person but it's not like that infatuation.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
So I feel, there's a part of me that's like, is being in love like just a deep infatuation and then like that sort of subsides and then it just becomes like, you just love this person. I don't know. It's sort of funny, but I also, I know what being in love, it's like a,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
With my past relationships, I've been like if we were in love, in love, like I know what that is. Yeah. It's confusing. You know what I'm saying? Well, because it feels different with every partner. Yeah. And I also don't believe in like one true love.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
like public opinion on your like romantic relationships that is something that I have learned um so my last relationship was my first public relationship um I don't know if I'll ever do it again at some point when you're doing it it gets just too hard to yeah to like I mean, you can try to hide it, but, like, whatever.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And and he was very gracious in connecting me to those people. So they're doing it for me. God bless. And we are just getting started. Everything in my house right now is completely covered in sawdust because the roof just got done and it all came through the ceiling. It's.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
But I've also come to this point, just with fame in general, where, like, people are going to say what they're going to say, and I really don't give a shit. Because, like, you know, I get called a man often. Hundreds of times on the internet every single day. It's, like, I'm so used to, like, the just fucking idiots just, like, saying bullshit all the time.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
So, like, it's, you know, on one hand, it's, like, I don't care. And then on another hand, it's, like, if you don't, like, obviously...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
relationship is is like personal and private and and like you should not be you need to eliminate as many factors that are going to make it facts more complicated than it needs to be if you can so i don't know i'm it's something when i start dating again or something i'll well i think it's interesting too like you said like this was your first like public relationship and i think there's pros and cons where you're like finally we can just like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
be yeah and like we can go into an event together like as we would want to naturally do but then you're like people are taking pictures and then people are staring yes and then when you break up someone like me is asking you about it and then you're like alex don't ask well no i'm excited to be talking about okay love and everything like it's not like it's not like things that i don't want to talk about necessarily right like i've i've learned a lot and something that i really love about all my relationships is i like you know even if like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
bad shit has happened in them or whatever or they have like fucked me up to some degree or something that they've all I feel like all of my relationships I've come out knowing that it taught me something about myself and about people and that's like I feel really thankful for that you know
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
blindsided or like were you okay like yeah so so like he he said that um and but that that breakup um was uh it was like a mutually like yeah it was a mutually agreed upon and it was it's one of the cleaner breaks of breakups i've had of like we both recognize that this is not working and we can't do this we gotta go our own separate ways and uh it was
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
So so hot because we really we really loved each other, you know, and he's he's a really special person and I love his soul and everything and it
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
by no means was that really that was it was messy you know but but um but uh it was a clean it was a clean parting and um and he has a lot to work on and I also have a lot to work on like and and like and so I think that's also why I'm in this like era of like I'm going to I got to figure my shit out because that was we had a really good thing.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And but there there were things in our own selves that had nothing to do with each other that kept coming up in the way of the relationship, you know.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Yeah. What are you like in a relationship? I think it's different for everyone. Like it's really different with every kind of person, too, because I've been I used to
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
exclusively date not men um and uh and this this last relationship was my first relationship with a man a cis man you know um and uh um and so in and it's it's different it's very different than that like uh dating i've dated trans women i've dated uh trans men i've dated cis women and and all of you know i've kind of been around the block and it changes it like it
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
The transness is really interesting because everyone interacts with it differently. Everyone has their own way of approaching it. And I have my own way of approaching that relationship with that kind of person. It's interesting. Do you mind sharing a little?
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I'm excited to talk about it. Yeah, this is interesting. Yeah. So I'm so thankful for my first relationship. Okay. And I've talked about this before, too. It was with a trans woman and and it was my entrance into sex, romance, all of that stuff. All of those were first in that relationship. And it was with another trans woman. Thank God. Thank God.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And I'm so... And we're still friends to this day, too. That, you know, she kind of, like, showed me the ropes because, you know, dating as a trans person is... It's complicated, let me tell you. It's not...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
easy um and to know in my first relationship and in my first like really being in this mutual love thing um you know first time having sex that i got to do it with somebody who completely understands my gender it's incredible and it's like oh i'm so thankful for it um and and that's and so i'm really thankful that i started out with other trans people because i
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
There's there's sort of being trans or having trans people in your life. There's a lens that you sort of acquire. And it's something that like ignorant people who have no idea how to how to. engage with trans people or think about trans people, they don't have the lens that allows them to see whatever person as the gender that they are presenting as or whatever.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And this is a lens that you acquire as you spend more time with trans people and everything. And so knowing that that lens is there with whoever I was with,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
amazing and then it's interesting branching out from there into like cis people um cis women or cis men where i'm not sure that they have the lens even with hookups or whatever this is a constant anxiety i've had with hooking up with like cis women or something is that i'm worried especially also because i'm pre-op that maybe are they seeing something in me that i don't
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
that is not part of what I give or something. And they might want, and I've had hookups before with like cis women where they wanted me to like, fuck them or something like a, like a guy. And it's because I have a dick and like, that's like, and then like that coming up in a hookup and being like, Oh God, like, It's tough. But then you will find cis people who do know and just get it.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
For this interview, a very... I've had a fucking week. My sister knows this. I've had a fucking crazy week. So I got this... It wasn't necessarily an offer, but casting people for this TV show came to me a little over a month ago and asked if I was interested. And I initially... And this is something we'll get into too.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And that's what was so amazing about my ex-boyfriend was from the get-go, never, never a fucking... He saw me exactly for...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Love that. Love that. Amazing. It's it's when they don't and they don't know what they want or they want something like I am not capable of giving. Then it's like sticky and gross. So your first relationship with a guy like just like a guy that was also my first monogamous relationship. Everything else had been polyamorous because that's what I came up in. That's how I learned relationships.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And it kind of touched on it before. I had built up a complex against men. Understandable. Because most, if not all, of my deeply painful experiences I've had in life have been with men. And so I really came into this complex of I never want to let a man that close to me in my life. I don't see a world in which it's possible. Yeah.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Really, I was kind of like, it was, you know, I put up walls and kind of had been denying the fact that I am attracted to men and I do want to date and whatever men and that that's okay and I need to let my walls down. And so that's what was so amazing about my last relationship too is also, and that's kind of what was cool about the public aspect is,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
This is a straight guy who is in the music scene, too. And we are in a public relationship. He's dating a trans woman. And he's completely straight. He's only dated cis women before. And he's toting me around. happy to be my boyfriend in front of the world. And people are saying horrible, nasty shit because it's like, oh, you know, oh, you're so gay. He didn't care at all.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And that was something that really showed me too where I'm like, okay, you really...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
yeah you see me for you know and you love me for that did you guys have conversations before going out in public together like were you anxious at all I was anxious but I was also just head over heels in love and happy to be doing it and you know it conversations absolutely should have been happening but also I was like 22 23 I didn't you know I was just like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
i'm in love right i look this person is so much fun you know whatever um so it should have been a thing but it was but i think also just to and listen like i like i've said all these amazing things with him he was not perfect and it's no secret it's out there in the world um you know and it's part of why the relationship ended is is i um i got cheated on for the first time
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And he said he's talked about this, too, like in his song. You know, he writes about it. So it's it's it's fine to be talking about it today. And it's like part of my truth. But that like fundamentally changed me as a person. And it was this whole process of like realizing that cheating has nothing to do with you at all.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And and and it has everything to do with that person and whatever kind of pain they're in or whatever they're dealing with. It's it's all that. But it's so hard.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And then as a trans woman also. with a man who has never dated that before, then it's, you're my, my mind, you know, and I knew it wasn't the truth. And, and we both know that I've no doubt. But you can't help, but your brain goes there. But my brain, because of the way I've been socialized as a trans woman, like, and, and it's been this like crux in my life of like, why I,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I don't think... I feel like I did TV and that was such a great intro to acting. But since moving into films, I realized I love...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
life has been so hard sometimes I'm like oh my god like is this it like am I can I just not like like you know yeah but so it's cuckoo bananas how did you find out um so I I kind of knew you know you always you always kind of the gut yeah the gut um um and because I kind of knew I went into the phone you know yeah
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
which I'm not I'm not proud of I'm not proud of either I've done it before but the amount of people that have sat here and been like it's it's fucking normal yeah when your intuition is like hitting you in the face you're like okay fine I'll look yeah and the reason you're looking is because you fucking kind of know something yeah yeah and this stuff it makes me so nervous to talk about this stuff because I really I have no interest in letting the public into what happened and everything I absolutely don't
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I want to make this very clear. I have absolutely no fucking desire to like... Because what happened with that was between me and him. And I want to keep it and I want to protect that. But at the same time, I'm also like... I'm here to talk about my truth and whatever, you know?
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
the film format so much more because it's so it just tv is so it's a beast it's a beast and so i was really like under the impression with myself that i was not gonna do tv again after euphoria is over okay but um and and so i initially i i said no i don't think i can't i mean this sounds really cool but i i just don't think i can do it again and then um and then uh you know and then so they went off and they went into they tried you know
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Yeah. And he's and he's the same way about it because he's the same kind of way like where I don't think he has any interest in letting the public in either. But but we both are yappers at the end of the day. And we're going to talk about like it's hard doing like the bullshit like.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And like really, I mean, like I said, it like fundamentally changed me and it's still something that I am working through.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Just in that I don't think I understood because I had never been in a monogamous relationship before. So I really my understanding of relationships and love and everything really was rooted in like polyamory and queerness and sort of the way that that world works, which is very open.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And I don't I think I honestly I kind of looked at people in monogamy and be like, oh, like you're you're cheating on yourself. Which is which is also what RuPaul said in that interview. And you were like, no, I just got married. Yeah, I know. And she was like, sorry, bitch. It was like, sorry. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And, you know, I so I don't know where I totally land on it now because I've done both. Yeah. And and, you know, and I think there's validity in both. And it's really a choice. And it comes down to each individual thing. But coming from that as my background and the way I learned love, I really looked at monogamy as like a like you're shorting yourself and whatever.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And then I got into a monogamous relationship. Oh, bitch. I get it. I get it. It's so nice. Yes, I know. Oh, I loved it. Oh, my gosh. But then it opens up the door for that kind of betrayal, which is a different world of pain.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Oh, no. I was open to it because, you know, that's what I'm coming from. Right, right, right. So, you know, I even, like, at the beginning, you know, like, we talked about it. But, you know, that's not... that's not what we either of us i don't think really wanted with with that and uh and um yeah and um you know i think uh i mean yeah yeah are you open to monogamy ever again
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
absolutely i really feel like you know i've done given up i've done both now and and like i i know i can be in either of those positions but i really liked monogamy it's fucking powerful it's really cool and it's your own way you're like fuck i hate this back to poly No, but now I see the fault in polyamory because poly is so much work. It's so much work.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Monogamy is so easy because it's very simple. I mean, you have to communicate a lot in either way, but with polyamory... you bring other people into that and other people's relationships and whatever. And it's fine.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
But then you have to communicate not only about your own relationship, but about if, if that's in the contract for you about the other relationships that are happening and how that weighs and how to balance that with the person, your primary partner's feelings, all that. It's like so much work.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I'm too busy right now, which is what, you know what I said, polyamory. I'm too busy right now. Okay.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Um, yeah, right. That's what I'm, that's why I'm here to promote my fucking movie. I'm like, Oh my God. Okay. Like monogamy.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
has come out but right uh it's the first movie i ever filmed and it's my first lead role um and are you so excited i'm so excited i love this movie and it really feels like a baby like like and it was my first you know first movie
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
they tried casting people and then they came back a little over a week ago and were like hey we just want to gauge your interest again because we really think you could be really right for this and so I was like okay I need a meeting with y'all to like show me really what you're trying to accomplish here it was an amazing meeting and I was like fuck I feel like the universe is like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Okay, I grew up loving horror. Um, and I also think it's so fun stylistically, particularly with this director to it was less about the genre. And even the script and the story, I just, I watched this director's, who's Toman Singer, his first film. And it's his only other...
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
piece of work i think that's like out in the world that you can like go buy on amazon and watch um but it's called loose and i saw loose and i was like oh my god i have to work with this person on whatever capacity and um and in that audition process i i like i fought for that role um and i got it and it's amazing yeah and um i love this movie um i know this is probably like a dumb question to ask but like the process of filming like a horror film like i
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Well, yeah, no, like, well, no, because there were some scary parts because we were filming in the, bitch, in an abandoned. No. Yeah, here we go. An abandoned, like, 20-acre post-World War II military base.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
like module that had been abandoned for 50 years we're shooting at night in these abandoned buildings that have just been sitting there for years that was scary but thankfully the casting crew and every oh such a big family I loved making this movie with them
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
um and so you know we were it was so familial you know it was only like when you're like oh you have to go walk to your trailer alone and you're like in the woods in the middle of Germany and it's like bitch what the fuck it's kind of scary um but um otherwise no I mean I'm you know
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
i'm literally so afraid of like or like on disney shows if it was like the like halloween episode oh yeah no those were scary they were twitches did you twitches twitches and the dark cloud that literally oh my god that's so scary you remember that Yeah, girl. So good.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
my career whatever I'm making money this is great but I don't know if I like if this is what I'm supposed to do and now I'm in this place where I've because I've been doing it and I get it now because also you have to like I'm learning how to act on the spot with the first two seasons of Euphoria and everything you're so fucking good thank you you wouldn't even know thank you but like I'm learning like I didn't understand the craft I had no idea what I was doing and
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I finally in that process and in this process of like, just like, like letting this career happen to me, I have fallen in love with the craft. And now I'm at this place where I'm like, okay, maybe this isn't what I thought that I was put on this art to do, but this is just another form. I get to put all my creative energy that I used to put into my journals and in my art and everything into this.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Handing me this thing right now. It's not what I thought I was going to give, but I feel like I have to do this. And can I say what it is? It's Blade Runner 2099. So so there's, you know, the initial Blade Runner from the 80s and 2049 from 2019. And so this is the continuation 2099 in TV show format. It's very cool.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And I understand how that works now. And I've fallen in love with it. So now it's at this great,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
thank you so much thank you for giving me the it's it's i'm i'm nervous about like you know showing the world like you know my real tea you know i'm that you shouldn't scares me but but to do it with you thank you for making the space and everything and and like just being here and kicking with me that's what this felt like you're amazing i literally could keep going but like i know we have to stop but i love you thank you i love you too this was great
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Well, yeah. So like I, the acting thing, this all, like I was, I was not looking to be an actor. It's not what I thought I was going to do with my life. I still question whether it is. So this week has been this whole process of being like,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
shit i have i am being handed these incredible opportunities on a silver fucking platter and while it might not be why i thought i was put on this earth to do like this is this is what i'm being fucking called to do right now right and and so that's been like a big processing moment and um and i think it's really allowing me to like head into this project and just like fully yeah like like just dive in head first and like give myself to it you know
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Yeah. So, well, so it's, your sister is laughing. Why is she laughing? What's so funny? Well, you know, so I've, I, I really, I'm gonna be honest. I've, I fucking hated North Carolina. Okay. Um, and, uh, growing up there, um,
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
being queer being queer in the south anybody who's queer in the south knows it's not fucking easy it's really culturally it's um in a completely different place than like the bubbles in the cities that we live in um and i always knew that i didn't belong there and that i belonged in these spaces where i can like be myself and like not feel like there's a target on my fucking back all the time i really hated it and like i i'm not gonna lie like growing growing up there like
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Like, fuck me up. I have now come to love it because I can return there and all my bad butchery and like know that I'm fierce and I don't feel like a fucking nuisance for existing in North Carolina. So I love it now. But going up there, it was it was tough. I did not like it. Yeah.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
One of my like, I guess, afflictions with life is I have never been able to really help but be who I am. And and, you know, so even before I transitioned and I transitioned in my first couple of years of high school, but before I transitioned, you know, I'm just like, can I say it? bad words. I mean, like, yeah, like, so I'm just like this little faggot.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Like I, you know, I am like an extremely high femme boy in this, you know, space of like, you know, boys are like very one way, especially in the South. Like it's just culturally what it is. Um, and, but I mean, it's one of, I'm so thankful that I have not really been given a choice to be anyone, um, But who I am. So I always stuck out like a sore thumb.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
But I was I loved like extremely artistic, pretty happy. I've always had like a like a pretty easy access to like joy, I think. So like despite my circumstances. Yeah. You know, I look back on my childhood and despite being in a certain amount of pain just for being who I am, I was a pretty happy kid. You know, that's amazing.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
I mean, like me and me and Hannah, like we because we are so close in age. So we were in the same schools. And and because nobody really understood like what I was doing, I think, you know, we had our trials and tribulations as siblings. And we but we we've taught, you know, we've moved far, far beyond that now. And, you know, my siblings are some of the closest people in my life now.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
weird or like moment where i'm like fangirling that's totally how i feel about people to like that i gag over it's like if i know that we are gonna because you have that feeling about people sometime where you're like i know i'm gonna kick you with this purse i'm like i don't want to fuck it up but i'm so happy you're here
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
But at the time, yeah, I think it was a little tough for everybody because no one, not even me, understood what, like, I was going through and why I stuck out like a sore thumb and, you know, whatever.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Middle school was probably the hardest, actually. You know, young teenage boys are... are pretty gnarly, especially when they are confronted with like a, like a kid who they just don't know what to do with, like with, they don't, they have no grasp of like queerness, whatever it is. So it's like, it's like, Oh, like, look at this fact, like, look at this gay kid.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
Like they just don't know what to do with it. And so there'll be mean, you know? Um, and, uh, and you know, so that was like, that was always tough just dealing with
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
boys who don't of course get it um but I found my cute little nerdy friend group and you know and that was like my first experience of like okay if I find my circle I can be myself and I'll be okay so so that was that was cool but middle school is also when I realized I was gay or like at that time I thought I was a gay boy so came out who did you come out to first
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
um my friends my friends so like and that's the thing of like okay i have this this network of support where even if i had my parents and don't accept okay these people will will get me so they were the first people i told and then i would you know tell my parents tell my family whatever
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
your parents so your dad was a pastor growing up my parents are still pastors yeah so my dad is a pastor and my mom is you know she's ordained to be a pastor she works in the children ministry ministry in the church okay talk to me about that because just like thinking of like what you were going through as a young kid being in the south and having your dad like a part of the church yeah
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
How did that work out? It's like another layer to it all. And thankfully, you know, I didn't grow up in Catholicism or anything. And I hear about, you know, people in my community who grew up in that.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
And it's like, oh, girl, I'm so fucking lucky that I got to grow up in a normal, even though my parents are pastors and I'm very involved in the church, in like a, on the chiller side of Christianity, Presbyterian church.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
insane like you're gonna burn alive yeah like I am yeah so there was never like this oh you're going to hell but then I would see things about just Christianity in general where there are churches that like believe you're going to hell and and so there was that was this whole complex that I had to get through too um and then but thankfully when I came out It's gay to my parents.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
You know, I think they I mean, I think anybody could have fucking told you by looking at me that I was was gay at the time. So that was easier than the trans thing came on later on. That was a bit harder, but.
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Hunter Schafer: Polyamory, Cheating & Fame (FBF)
like like reputation almost i think it was there um and this is something that i definitely dealt with later on too in life of like of like you know because there's this whole like pastor's daughter like trope you know and it gets kind of tough because obviously like what i do now is very like i mean my first job when i had to tell my parents that i was doing a tv show