Heather Moyse
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Humans only take actions if they believe that the outcome is possible. So my parents, without even probably realizing it, and without me realizing it at the time, taught me a couple of very important lessons growing up. And one was about visualization. And one was about breaking down your goal into small manageable pieces and focusing on the process. So focusing on that how piece.
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And the reason they would do that would be if I, when I was young, I probably changed what I wanted to be when I grew up every day. Every day was probably a different thing. Possibly every hour. I don't know. But as soon as I said something like, oh, you know what? I'm going to grow up to become an astronaut. My question, my parents would never, ever squash the possibilities of that. Instead,
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They would say, oh my goodness, that would be so amazing. How do you think, what do you think it would take to get there? Or what are the, what do you think an astronaut would need to know? Or how do you think you could actually become an astronaut? And it starts getting you thinking at the age of four, five, six, seven, eight. you start thinking about how, what are the solutions to get there?
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How could this be possible? What are the different ways to get there? And so it automatically shifts that focus. If it's something like my sister, for example, and I wrote this in my book with her restrained permission, my sister, when she was little, wanted to grow up to become a chickadee. Okay. So she's obviously not going to transform herself into a physical bird.
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But again, my parents, I mean, do they really need to tell her she's not going to do that? There's no point in doing that. There's no point in squashing that dream or that vision or that fantasy. And so all they said was, wow, that would be so cool. What's the first thing that you would do if you were to become a chickabee? All that's doing is filling out your imagination.
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All it's doing is visualization. All it's doing is creating these skills when you're young that you will automatically apply later when you're older. And so a lot of people didn't have that benefit. And I feel almost a huge sense of responsibility for
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to help be that person for other people, to help show them different ways of thinking or different ways of looking at things because they didn't have the benefit of having that automatically growing up when they were younger. And of course, when you're young and you're playing sports all the time, injuries happen, like little injuries and whatever injuries and all that stuff.
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And so it's from early on, it was like, well, what can I do in the meantime? What are the, like, how can I still keep up my strength or my power or my,
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how can I still do all of these things how can I still work on this skill while I can't do these things and so that stuff I it's hard to pinpoint because it just came naturally I think growing up or I wouldn't say naturally but it came from the environment I grew up in and that stuff has now I feel lucky to be passing that on to other people different ways of looking at things or would I mean I started work I worked with people with disabilities for years and part of that was
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well, I also have my master's degree in occupational therapy. So working with clients or with patients, it was, you've just had a stroke. So you can't do those things right now. What can we do in the meantime?
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Or what can we, if this is your ultimate goal, you might not be able to do it the same way you've always done it before, but how can we find a way for you to still get the enjoyment out of what used to bring you joy before? How can we still find that joy in that, just in a different way? I don't, John, that's not a very straightforward answer, but I hope I touched on it a little bit.
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I've never heard of the both end thinking, but that's basically exactly what it is. As soon as you, when you break something down, when you break down a seemingly insurmountable goal into the actual steps, a lot of people say, keep focused on your goal, keep focused on what you really want, whatever.
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But the problem with that is that it can seem so insurmountable that it just brings overwhelm and people just don't know where to start. And it seems so big that it just, why bother trying? It's so out there. But when you break something down, into exactly what it would take, what resources might you need, what is the very starting point, like all of these steps, then it becomes like a checkbox.
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You're just checking off the boxes. And yes, for some people, it might be to achieve the same thing, it might require a longer list than other people because they may already have certain resources in place or they may have certain things or... Maybe they don't have, maybe finances isn't a problem for someone else.
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Part of that checklist is how do I raise that money or how do I get enough money to do that application or to apply for the course that I need to get there? And all it is checking those things off. So it is, it almost simplifies things to the point where people can actually see the path. And then the key with that is that once they see the path,
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then they can decide if it is something that they really want to do or not. They can see actually the effort that's involved. They can see everything that's going to take, and then they can own their choices of saying what, yes, I'm going to do this. I can see how I can do it. Now this is the, I can do it. Now it becomes a choice of, do I want to do it or do I not want to do it?
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And I think part of that is understanding what it's going to take so that they understand also what it's going to sacrifice. And what sacrifices they're going to have to make to take that path. And then it becomes a choice. Instead of just a default feeling like helpless, I can't.
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And I just think we're, I mean, my main thing right now is we are all capable of way more than we give ourselves credit for. And my question to most people is what's stopping you? Like what's really stopping you? Because it's really not this. external thing that's usually stopping us. It's usually the internal thing that's preventing us from even seeing if we can overcome that external thing.
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And I, so I love that. I love the both in the end. I think that's really powerful.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Absolutely. Here's another little mind shift, another little how. Another little part of the how factor here is that when we're actually setting our goals, often set our goals, I phrase this, we set smaller goals, the ones that we think are more likely to be achievable.
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Instead of setting bigger goals, figuring out what you want and actually stretching that further and then just treating it as a challenge to see how close you can get. When you start asking the question, how close can I get? then you actually gamify the process. You're combining how can I, and how close can I get?
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And you're combining those and it gamifies it so that when you are confronted with an obstacle, it is the challenge of, okay, if I want to see how close I can get, like, how can I overcome this? It's the combination of the two that how else can I do this? Like how I know I need to get this, how else can I achieve it? How else can I get around this? How can I get through this? How can, and it is,
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extremely powerful when you're setting your goals as more of a challenge, but also that phrase, how close can I get? It also disempowers the naysayers.
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It also disempowers the naysayer, the doubt that sometimes in your own brain, because every once in a while, whether it's yourself or whether it's someone else, you're going to have that person or that voice that says, why do you really think that you can achieve that? right? Sometimes it's even an eye roll from somebody else or a body language or, well, we all know those people, right?
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Who just want to rain in our parade or who want to try and pretend they're realistic is the same as yours. And so they just, that energy can immediately deflate your belief in the possibilities of achieving someone, something. And so by saying, how close can I get? you have someone even in your voice in your head that says, do you really think you can achieve all that?
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It is very easy to say, you know what? I have no idea. I have no idea, but I just, I sure as hell want to see how close I can get. And that there's nothing else you can say with that.
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If you were enjoying what you're doing, because there's nothing else that interests you as much, or there's nothing else that you're passionate about, or that you're so excited about this journey or that you love, you're excited about that outcome. Then what, Is there something else you would rather be doing in that moment? And if the answer is yes, go do it.
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If the answer is no, then by embracing the challenge, nothing else matters. And so you can say, yeah, I don't know if I'm going to make it. It was the same as when the press release went out the day after my hip surgery, announcing my intentions to represent my country in both rugby and bobsledding on the world stage within the next year. And I had seven interviews within a day.
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And the interviewers, they weren't outright saying I was crazy, not to my face anyway, but they were just questioning. They were questioning whether or not I thought it was like, whether I really thought I was going to be able to do that. And it's very, it's very empowering, disempowering to them, but empowering to it was very empowering for me to be able to say, you know what? I don't know.
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I just had hip surgery, so I might not make it. That's a, there's a high probability that my Lakeland or it's highly unlikely that I'll be able to get back in time. But what I've learned, one of my little quotes is highly unlikely does not mean impossible. And so I just want to challenge myself to see how close I can get. Can I actually get back on the national team?
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Can I qualify for the Olympic team? Can I, Like, how close can I be to being the fastest breakman in the country again? Can I actually get back on the rugby pitch and contribute? And can I actually make a run? Can I score? Can I actually be the leading try scorer again? Like all of these things, sure, you can set these goals up. I just want to see how close I can get to all of those things.
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And so that puts you in the mindset where my rehab is not just about getting pain-free. My rehab is now a challenge. So my rehab, whether I made it or not, is I'm still going to be better off had I just tried to just overcome the surgery. You still are in a better place. You only can discover what you're truly capable of when you reach a point of not being able to go any further.
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So if you're not challenging yourself to see where you fail in that particular... Fail, can't go any further in that particular moment at that particular time, then... You'll never figure out what you're actually capable of in that moment, in that particular time. And so it's a mindset that I've helped my clients adopt and it's liberating. It's a very liberating mindset.
Passion Struck with John R. Miles
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Well, a couple of things. When I first was asked, well, not first, I guess when I was asked again, the recruiter was very, very persistent and very annoyed that I hadn't pursued it four years earlier when he had asked me the first time. I did not agree to do bobsledding. I simply said, fine, I will do the testing camp. I'll go to the testing camp and that's fine.
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Now at 27, I still had never lifted weights before. And so fortunately, rugby nationals overlapped that training camp. So I actually missed the first day of testing with their permission. So I missed that first day of testing and fortunately enough, I did because it was all weightlifting and I had never lifted weights before.
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Sometimes it's just the tiniest little shift in our thinking that can help make big changes in our behavior, but also in our outcomes. One of the shifts I've been talking to people about is this how, live in the how, using this one word, this how word. And oftentimes people aren't even pursuing the things they really want because they're asking the wrong question and they're asking, can I do this?
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But the second day of testing was all speed work and plyos and power testing and that sort of thing. And still tests I'd never done before, but at least I wasn't going to crush myself with a bar pretending I knew what I was doing. So I ended up doing this testing camp and then I ended up
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I basically just did the testing camp to get this guy off my back, to get the recruiter to stop pestering me about all of these things. But when I did the camp, I actually broke one of their testing records, one of the main testing records with the weighted sled pull through timing lights. And all of a sudden I was standing there and I was like, what do you mean I broke a record? What?
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You mean to tell me I've broken a record amongst all of these athletes who've been training for years and who are supposed to be representing us in the next Olympic games, which are in five months. And then all of a sudden it was just this flip. Can I actually learn a new sport? Can I learn to do it well?
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And can I actually learn to do it well in time to represent my country at the next Olympic games in five months? And so for me, I hadn't even seen a bombsled yet. I hadn't been down a track because there's no ice on the track. in August. So there was no ice going to be ice on the track until October. So I didn't fall in love with the sport of bobsledding.
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I fell in love with this challenge of seeing if I could actually get to the Olympics and qualify and compete for my country. So that is, that was the challenge that I embraced. Now you did mention high stakes. Like how did I take on this high stakes goal? And I think that I would find, flip that and say, I didn't even consider it to be high stakes.
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I considered it to be probably low stakes because nobody was expecting me to do well. Nobody was expecting me to be able to, you know, go to the Olympics and competed five months. It just seemed like a very lofty, ambitious thing to strive for. And as I mentioned earlier, my parents, their love and support of me was not conditional on an out on a, a performance outcome or anything like that.
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So I had, I didn't, I knew that they weren't going to be disappointed in me one way or another. So it was interesting. I didn't have the pressure to go and try and be the best. I just had embraced the challenge of seeing how close I could get. What are the chances as if I'm really going to get to the Olympics in five months, but I wonder how close I can get.
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And as you go, you start realizing as things progressed, I was like, wait, and that's the same with every goal. If you embrace that idea of how close I can get as you go, you're like, wait a second. Maybe this is possible. Like what? Like the closer you get, you're like, wow. Okay. Whoa. I'm getting a lot closer than I thought. And maybe this is possible.
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What do I need to do to take it over the top or how can I make those extra few strides to actually get on the team. What are the things that I need to either learn or develop? Or it's just interesting how, when you start off that mindset, embracing this challenge, and then you challenge yourself to see how close you can get things open up along the way. And it's really remarkable.
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And like I said, I didn't feel like I was risking anything.
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wasn't i wasn't risking i don't know my i wasn't risking a reputation in bobsledding i that comes later when you're defending olympic champion and you go back to try and defend it that's a different story that's that feels higher risk but when you have a a support system who's there for example for that our very first world cup race that holds that whole olympic year happened to be in canada it was in calgary and my parents were like oh my goodness the first
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race in the world for the world cup is actually in Calgary. Well, I think we'll fly out and watch you. And I was like, I don't need mom. I don't even know if I'm going to be racing. I will not even know until two or three days. I'm probably not racing. I won't even know until two or three days before the race, whether I'm actually going to be racing or not.
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And my mom said, Heather, you should know by now, we're not coming to watch you. We're coming to support you. And that is a line that I've shared. That is a line that I've tried to share with a lot of people because that I think is what, and I mean, I was 27 and hearing that at 27 was just as important as hearing that at seven or eight or 12 or 15. And I think that is what kids.
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And I mean, I knew that growing up and I still apparently needed to hear it at 27. But I think that's the most important thing for kids these days is knowing that their family is there to support them in what they're choosing to do.
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For example, can I become the number one podcaster in the world?
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And that doesn't mean throwing money at something and supporting them because they've spent thousands of dollars on a private tutor or private coach or private whatever. That's a different kind of support. That's a support that actually can add pressure to someone. But yeah, that line was pretty powerful for me, even at the age of 27.
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Yes. First, we actually train and practice starts, like practice push starts in this. It's called the Ice House. It's a multimillion dollar indoor course. push training facility that's refrigerated on the inside. So it's actually a track of ice, but just the start. So you can practice timing with your teammates and that sort of thing.
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So we were in there and I was practicing hitting the sled and running behind it and jumping in and that sort of thing. But when you actually get to the top of the track, it is a very different story. And I guess I was, oh my gosh, I was, I don't want to say naive. I was so ignorant. I didn't know anything really about the sport. except just what I, like my job, I was just learning my job.
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And so we got to the top of the track and the very first day. And I remember a few, there are a few things, a few things I remember. So I remember that the media was going to be there at the bottom of the track because it was the first day of racing and it was Olympic season, not racing first day of sliding and the, and it was an Olympic season. So the media was all going to be there at the bottom.
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And I remember Just getting into the sled and jumping in the very first day. Of course, the first day the drivers are driving. So we're not running full out anyway. We're just getting jumping in this little bit and going so that the drivers can get a feel of the track. But I remember being told that since we're not going as fast that I could keep my head up and look around if I wanted to.
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And so I'm looking up and then we go around the first corner and I was like, oh, gosh, OK, OK, there's another. OK, there are no corners in this indoor facility we used. So we're doing corners and corners. And then all of a sudden we're on the third corner and I'm like, oh my gosh. Okay. We're picking up speed. Okay. I just, okay. Okay. We're not stopping now. Okay. Oh, fourth corner. Okay.
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Oh my gosh. Okay. And my hands, you just see starting to white knuckle. They're just getting white knuckles and I'm holding on and you can't look anymore. You're the pressure of going around corners and the G-forces and the weight of your helmet and everything. It's all pushing you down. So it was all of a sudden the third and fourth corner, you're like, there's no turning back. I'm in it.
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I'm in this right now. And then when you get to the bottom, I had to rip my helmet off really quickly because I honestly thought I was going to be sick. I was, I almost threw up in my helmet. It was. Not a good scene. But I found out from the doctor that I had an ear infection. And so there was fluid in my ear, which made any kind of bending over, all of a sudden, I would just feel super nauseous.
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whatever it is that goal might be if it's a can I that only leaves a binary option of answers yes or no and if it's something that someone really wants and it's just seems just so enormous then they're probably going to be like well if my choices are yes or no then if the answer is going to be probably not so then why bother trying whereas if you don't even ask that question can I but you say how can I it immediately turns shifts your focus into solutions it immediately is
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So of course, in the bobsled, you are bent over the whole time. So as soon as I get out there, of course, ripping off my helmet, ready to throw up, the media, all the cameras right there getting out of the sled. It probably wasn't the smoothest of experiences.
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But to show you how ignorant I was with the sport, we were going down for the, I don't know if it was the second or third run we were doing. And while we're just waiting at the top of the track, my driver turned around and she said, oh, Heather, you forgot to do up your helmet. And I said, oh my gosh, we're supposed to do up our helmets. Like what? And she goes, what?
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So the first couple of runs I had done, I hadn't done up my helmet. And she was like, why would you think you don't have to do up your helmet? And I said, well, everything we had done indoors in the ice house, you just throw on a helmet because you're, it's just rules, but you're not going down a track or you're not picking up speed. So I, I had no idea. That crashes actually happened.
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I thought it was just about figuring out how fast you could go down. I really wasn't thinking about crashing. I wasn't thinking about, yeah, I mean, I'm very lucky that nothing happened on those first couple of runs, but I was, that's how, that's how green I was.
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That's how I knew nothing about the sport and it's yeah, that's a bit, probably something I probably shouldn't admit to people that I didn't have a helmet in that, but I didn't.
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I feel a sense of accomplishment. I find a sense of accomplishment sometimes when I prove people wrong or prove that something can be done that people thought couldn't happen. But I also, I am proud of all of those. The problem with the fourth place finish is not that it was fourth. I was quite happy.
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I'm pleased with what we had done at fourth, but I was very confused because that's the first race that my driver and I had done that season that we did not medal in against the same people. So to me, that wasn't necessarily a sense of accomplishment. I mean, in the big picture, yes, five months of my life training and learning a new sport, fourth at the Olympics is not too shabby.
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And that's what I chalked it up as and whatever. But then three years later, leading into the Vancouver Olympics, like the summer before the Vancouver Olympics, they started airing these commercials, these about Believe, because that was the theme of the Vancouver Olympics, Believe. And so they were having all this
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all these commercials around Believe and getting different athletes and stuff on these commercials. And my driver, I just happened to be sitting in my sister's basement. We were watching a show and all of a sudden this commercial came on and it was my teammate from the last Olympics. And she was being asked about this thing Believe. And she said, yes, I believe. I now believe.
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I believe that I can win a medal at these Olympics. I didn't believe that in Torino. And I was like, what? What, what do you, why, why, why did you not believe we had beaten these same people every. Like we had competed in four races, three, four, four, the rest of the season.
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And we had meddled in every single one of them, including a gold medal against the same people at the last track we were at right before the Olympics. And when I talked to her after she said she grew up watching the Olympics, I did not. She grew up watching and idolizing Olympians at the Olympics.
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So when she got there, all of a sudden she felt this sense of imposter syndrome, like she didn't deserve to be there. And her belief, like how much is belief worth? We missed after four runs down the track, which is 5.7 kilometers, 3.54 miles, anyone out there who uses miles, 3.54 miles. And we missed standing on the Olympic podium by only five hundredths of a second. So how much is belief in the,
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how much is belief worth? Is it, does your belief, lack of belief create a mild hesitation that, that maybe takes off a little bit of that oomph that like that it's to me, it's not about, it's not about believing in the guarantees. It's about just believing in the possibilities of something happening and then challenging yourself to see if you can get there. But sometimes the,
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we have elevated the enormity of an event or we aggrandize these events or we aggrandize certain people or we do these things which affects our adrenaline levels and therefore affects our performances.
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Whether that's doing a pitch to a client, a really huge client that your company needs or whether it's just doing a presentation in front of your team, whether it's running in a race, a physical race, whatever it is, if there's a performance component to it, It affects that. So I have mixed emotions about that first Olympics. Yes, I'm proud that we got there. I'm proud of what we did.
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We broke the start record at the Games, broke it, and then we broke it again. So all of that's awesome. But it really taught me a lesson on the power of belief and almost the importance of downplaying the importance of events or figuring out each individual person, having to figure out how or what they need to think
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or how they need to change their thinking or shift their perspective in order to get their adrenaline levels at the ideal level for the optimal level of performance. And that's individual for every person. And for her, she just didn't do that. So it's, I mean, I guess it's given me an anecdote to work with to help people through.
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But the gold medals themselves, I mean, my goal was never just to say I was the best in the world. The goal was just to challenge myself to see what I was capable of. And I know there's a very, maybe a hair of a difference Some people might not even see the difference there, but it is quite different.
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And so when I talk to people about accomplishments and achievements and the things that they're most proud of, I actually shift it and ask them what choices they're most proud of.
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So part of the things about my whole journey are actually the things I'm most proud of are the choices that I made along the way that kept my integrity, that were aligned with my values, where I wasn't swayed by coach saying, if you're serious about winning the Olympics, you'll move to Calgary.
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And, or these different things, I'm probably the only athlete in all the sliding sports who never moved to Calgary. And yes, sometimes taking risks, but realizing that risking that outcome, but being where I actually really wanted to be, I was okay with that. If I wasn't going to be good, like owning, I guess it's not about just owning our choices.
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It's owning our consequences, owning the consequences of those choices and being okay with those. So I think that's what I try to get people to think about. What choices are you most proud of? And those are usually the ones that are the hardest to make.
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I haven't. Performance psychologist?
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And it's for some people, it's very hard to tease that out, to tease that difference out, but it's very different. It's a different feeling. It's a different sense of fulfillment instead of success. It's all these different things, but yeah, that would be a great introduction. I would love that.
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Well, the cycling, I need to just make a specification. It's track cycling in the velodrome. I'm not a distance. I probably can safely say I will most likely not excel at things that require a lot of endurance. And some people might think, well, rugby's endurance. But for me, it was just a whole bunch of sprint intervals, one after another. So it's a little bit different.
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My whole aerobic system or anaerobic system or a lactic system actually is very different than most. But that being said, there is the thread that goes through them is my explosive power. So even in bobsledding, I might not have been the fastest in bobsledding and I might not have been the strongest, but I did have the ideal combination
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between strength and speed and it was my nervous system like my nervous system and how fast and firing it was probably the thing that translated over all three sports to help me excel in all of them but all of them it was just I mean rugby I just absolutely love rugby rugby was from high school it's a community like I said and it's probably my it's my true love for sports
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And with bobsledding and with cycling, I only did for one winter, and it was to rehab an ankle injury. And someone suggested cycling, track cycling, as a way to still keep up my speed and power. So again, how can I keep up my speed and my power while I can't have any impact on my feet, on my ankles? So that's what I did. But instead of just using it as a rehab tool,
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I thought if I want to get the most out of this, if I want to get the most rehab and get everything back to where it can be, how can I challenge myself even more? And so I challenged myself to see if I could also represent Canada in cycling and track cycling, which I did at the Pan Am track cycling championships. So just making that my third sport for Canada.
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So really it came down to bobsledding and Cycling, we're similar in the sense of what can I do? How can I shave hundredths of a second off of my start time or off of my sprint time or off my whatever? So how can I do that? How can I, okay, if it means getting stronger, how can I get myself stronger? How can I get myself more powerful? How can I
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get my nervous system firing as fast as I can get it before I'm stepping up for competition. So there was a lot of translatable, there were a lot of translatable things between bobsledding, my training for bobsledding and my training for track cycling.
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It's just the specific techniques that are very different, the specific technical things that you have to learn in each sport that makes the biggest difference. And you're right, like rugby is very different from those two. But the strength and the speed and power work for those ones, for track cycling and for bobsledding, very helpful for rugby.
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The only difference is when I'm coming off the bobsled tour and I'm going to rugby, endurance, like we talked about earlier, is the biggest thing that I have to change and switch over. And it's never really endurance. It's Shortening my recovery time is what that means. So that's the biggest transition when going over to the rugby pitch after a bobsled season.
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But in terms of the speed and the power, the training for those things are pretty transferable between those sports. And to me, the challenge just goes across all of them.
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Thanks. Thanks for having me.
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So I want to say, I don't know that it's necessarily always a limiting belief. I believe that we're limiting what we're seeing as possibilities for our lives. Basically, we want to believe that we're autonomous and that we can make our own choices and that we direct where our lives are.
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And we are, but we are making those choices and we are autonomous and making those choices within the boundaries that are set by us. partly by society, but partly by our direct exposures and experiences. So whatever your parents are as a career or whatever, you automatically know that's a possibility. Whatever your people in your neighborhood generally are, that's a possibility.
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What is happening in your community, generally you can believe whether that's a possibility for you or not. And that's where we make our decisions of what we choose to pursue or what we don't choose to pursue. So even for sports, for me, it's never that I ever thought I could never do go to the Olympics when I was growing up.
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I just never, I never dreamed about going to the Olympics because I just, it never occurred to me because Olympians were TV people. They weren't everyday normal people. Like I considered myself to be as athletically gifted as I can now look back and say that I was, I just never, considered that as a possibility because it wasn't in my lane.
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There weren't people around me who were training to go to the Olympics or training to represent us at some big, represent our country at some big international event. So sometimes it's not overt limiting beliefs. Sometimes it is a limiting or limited exposure or limited vision of what those possibilities can be. And anytime we're thinking we do have a limiting belief or
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any of those things where it becomes one of those can I questions and the answer is no, we just need to think about what those challenging questions are. Like, are you sure? We just need to learn to doubt our doubt. So doubt your doubt is another one of my mind shifts.
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Just doubt the doubt of your colleagues, doubt the doubt of your teammates, doubt the doubt of your stepfather, doubt the doubt of your neighbor. If we can doubt, then we can certainly doubt our doubt. So why are we assuming our doubt is true? And the easiest way to do that is just by asking, are you sure? Now the initial response is usually, yes, I'm sure. But have you checked?
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Are you really sure? Sure means 100% certain. And can you do something? No, I can't do that. Are you sure? Have you even tried? Have you even thought about it? Like why? Who says who? Are you sure? And I think that we just need to get in the habit of doing that for the people around us, but also for ourselves or have people around us that can help
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challenge our own doubts and our own limiting beliefs and our own assumptions. Oh my gosh, assumptions. That's another one. Assumptions is actually a really big one that stops us before we even get started. We assume way too many things. We assume we're not qualified enough. Maybe you don't even know what they're looking for. You assume it's something sold out.
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You assume that person's going to say no. You assume the job's probably already filled. You assume, we assume way too many things. We stop ourselves before we even get started. So if we can actually start challenging ourselves and asking, are you sure? Look for the evidence to prove it. Then we will get so much further if we just started questioning our assumptions.
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I think it would be to tell her that she is capable of more than she thinks she is. I think it would be embrace the challenge. You're capable of way more than you think you are. And I think sometimes just instilling that belief and that, and almost that desire to figure out what you are capable of can help go a long way.
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So when I was in grade 11, 12, maybe grade 12, after our high school athletic banquet, I went into my the coach's office and the athletic, he was the same athletic director, coach, whatever. And I walked in there with an arm full of trophies for all the sports that I was playing. And I thought, I was like, thought that he'd be impressed. And he just shook his head.
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And I was like, well, that's a weird thing to say. And he just said, Heather, you have so much potential, but not in a, like, it wasn't in a uplifting way. It was like, you have so much potential. I was like, okay, weird. I'm just going to leave. So I turned around to leave and he said, but I just want you to remember that potential is just talent that you don't have yet.
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That didn't sink in with me then in that moment, but for whatever reason that came flooding back to me when I was 27, starting bobsledding and having broken that testing record and being asked by a couple of drivers, if I would come and be part of their team that year and trying to figure out if I was going to put my master's degree on hold and do this challenge and all of these different things.
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It was those words that made me wonder what potential do I have? If I have so much, what am I really capable of? And I've never actually probably pushed that really before. I've never challenged myself to see what I'm capable of before. And that came back to me, like having potential is not necessarily a compliment. unless you choose to dive in and see what you're capable of. It's like knowledge.
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Knowledge is, people say knowledge is power, but it's the application of knowledge that's power. So it's, I think I would have to say it was probably that. And when, and something my sister told me, it's these little pieces of advice, something my sister told me that she says, when nothing is sure, everything is still possible.
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So if it's not finished yet, if it's not done, the possibilities are still up for grabs. Like the possibilities are still there. And so for me, that's the, yeah, those are a few of the things that have just kept me going and kept the desire to embrace challenges has been to see what, to just see what I'm actually capable of.
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I think my purpose, I actually think that my athletic gifts were almost a means to an end, almost like a, I think they just afforded me a platform from which I can now empower other people. And I think that's what I was meant to do is help others see the possibilities in their lives, regardless of whatever challenges they're facing.
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And I think that is my purpose, helping other people see the possibilities and empowering them. And what's interesting is that that actually didn't just come after my sports that actually came in the middle with bobsledding. I almost stopped competing because I was tired of the small P politics and the mind games and all of these things happening behind the scenes that
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I just didn't, I didn't agree with, and I didn't enjoy. And it was just very frustrating to be in the middle of all of that stuff. And so I just, at one point I said, you know what? I was, my dad had a meeting in Toronto and he was, we were going out for dinner, picked me up and I was pretty emotional. And I just received an email from someone, not a great email.
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Well, it makes me happy that you were part of that kind of community because I feel like rugby, I've played a lot of sports growing up and rugby is is probably the only sport that I feel like has an entire culture around it and an entire community around it anywhere you go in the world.
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And I just, I was just like, you know what? Winning a medal is not worth dealing with all this stuff. I don't care. It's not worth it. I'm done. Like I'm, it's not worth it. And my dad who would support me in any of my decisions at all with respect to sports, he just said, Oh, well, I mean, if that's the best thing for you, then absolutely. We'll support you a hundred percent.
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But it's funny that you said it's winning a medal is not worth it. I said, what do you mean? He goes, well, I guess I just never thought it was about winning a medal with you. I just always thought about the amount of people you'd be able to inspire and empower just by doing what you're doing, just by being part of this.
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And he right in that moment just switched my, he basically changed my why from winning a medal to further down the spectrum, which was empowering other people and inspiring other people. And so this is the importance of your why. Simon Sinek talks about your why mostly in business, but when you're talking about it for your personal self,
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In my book, I talk about your root why, and that's asking the question of why do you do it? Okay, well, why is that important? And why is that important? And why is that important? And it gets you further along. And the whole point of that is that the further down you can go to getting out what your actual reason is, the further along the spectrum you can go, your breaking point spectrum.
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So at first, winning a medal was not worth it. My breaking point was right here. But as soon as I realized... what another why was, and something which was much more profound for me, all of a sudden my breaking point got further and further along. So I was able to handle all those other things.
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I was able to become a bit more resilient to that stuff because I knew what was waiting on the other end, or I knew what was possible on the other end. So I think that's where I discovered what my purpose was. Now, after sports was done, finding out for sure my means of delivering that purpose and continuing that on, that's,
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I mean, that was a different experience or a different adventure on its own, but empowering people from the stage, empowering people or organizations with coaching through my book, all of those things that can help people take things to the next level, whether it's their life, their business, that is what I truly feel like is my purpose.
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The best place to do all of that stuff would just be on my website, heathermoist.com. They can always reach out. I mean, I do have a presence on LinkedIn and also on Instagram and Facebook. But sometimes if there's an influx of messages, it's hard to get something. If someone really wants to specifically work with me, the best place would be through my website.
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I speak on stages all over the place, and I always, without a doubt, have at least one or two rugby players who come up to me afterwards, and they'll be like, oh, man, I played back in whatever day, and they'll try and guess what position I was. There's always some kind of connection, and I absolutely love that. I absolutely love it. I'm glad you're a part of that.
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Oh, John, thank you for having me. This has been lovely. It's been wonderful. Thank you.
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It's also one of the most inclusive sports I've ever been a part of. When I first started in high school, it was every body type, every body shape, every body size. There was a position for everybody. I mean, in high school and university or college and club teams, I always played fullback. But with the national team, I played a little bit of fullback, but mostly winger.
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But that back three combination, the power of the back threes. Yeah, it's pretty great.
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Yeah, it's pretty great. It really is great. They talk about how soccer is a game of forge.
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what is it gentlemen who play like hooligans and then the other one is for hooligans who play like gentlemen or something like with rugby and soccer having that it's just there's so much respect on the field and so much respect for the referees and a rugby player couldn't dream i mean i know there are going to be soccer fans listening to your podcast a rugby player couldn't even dream about faking an injury or something it would be their their status points or their pride points would just be right down it's pretty it's a pretty cool sport to be part of pretty cool community
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You're not even thinking about whether you can or not. You're just thinking, how would I be able to do this?
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That's awesome. So good.
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I think it worked in a few different ways. I might not be able to even identify them all right now, but I think that there were exceptions, of course, if there was a tournament that overlapped over the weekends, because my family was most likely going to be there supporting me. But the fact that I grew up with parents who were unwavering in their values. They weren't raising an athlete.
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They were raising hopefully a successful contributor to society. And the most important thing to my parents was keeping the connection with our family and keeping our family as close as possible. And to them, they didn't like, not that they didn't care that I wasn't happy doing what I was doing, But sports was not a priority for them.
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Sports was not something that was going to dictate what the... And this was not just sports. This was sports. This was dancing. This was music. This was whatever, anything that was going on on Sunday. This was me not being able to go to the local hockey games that were on Sundays with my friends because it was family day. And then we could have friends come in and join us.
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We often hung out with another family who would come in and spend time with us. We'd all hang out together. But they just... as long as we work all together.
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And it's really powerful to know that, to have that example, that living example of what it actually means to live your values, to be uncompromising in those, but also, I guess, to grow up as an athlete and know that for my parents, their love and support and wanting to spend time with me was not ever contingent on my performance in sport. Because they didn't care about that stuff.
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That wasn't important to them. And I think that in and of itself made it easier to try new things. To all of a sudden try bobsledding at the age of 27 with the Olympics only five months away. People are like, well, weren't you scared? How did you know? Weren't you going to fail? Well, yeah, but my parents weren't going to care if I didn't make it. My family didn't care about that stuff.
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So for me, knowing that they didn't care about those results or those outcomes, that was a safety net that in and of itself was just knowing that wasn't going anywhere. The fact that they loved me and wanted to spend time with me and my siblings, that was never going to change. And that was all reinforced by their desire to want to spend time with us no matter what, when we were kids.
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So it's something that's picked up quite a bit by people after they read my book, hearing about some of these lessons that I shared that my parents, I guess, instilled in me.
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But all of that led to me making more value based decisions, even within my sports career, not being swayed by what other people wanted and, but just choosing the decisions and making the choices that were that aligned with me, what I wanted for my life that aligned with my values and that sort of thing. And that's actually a lot of what I work with clients with now.
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Some of them feel lost, like they're extremely successful, but for whatever reason, aren't happy because they somehow lost their way along the way and started making the decisions and choices for their lives and their careers that were based on what other people thought was successful in other people's opinions and other people's values and expectations.
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And they got lost along the way and forgot what they actually really truly wanted. So it's been a really remarkable, I feel very privileged that I had parents who were that solid in their values.
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I'm sure there are. I think that... My parents, I talk a lot about mind shifts now and how like we're in a world of extremes these days. Everything is extreme fasting. Okay. You can't eat for 22 days. I like, I don't know. Everything just seems so extreme and it's trying to make people feel like if they're not doing all of those things and they're just not doing enough or they don't care enough.
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And sometimes it's just the tiniest little shift in our thinking that can help make big changes in our behavior, but also in our outcomes. So one of the shifts I've been talking. to people about is this how, live in the how, using this one word, this how word.
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And oftentimes people aren't even pursuing the things they really want because they're asking the wrong question and they're asking, can I do this? Can I, for example, can I become the number one podcaster in the world? If some people started with that question, they might just say, or the number one business podcaster or the number one motivational pod, whatever it is that goal might be.
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If it's a can I, that only leaves a binary option. of answers yes or no. And if it's something that someone really wants and it just seems so big and just so enormous, then they're probably going to be like, well, if my choices are yes or no, then the answer is going to be probably not. So then why bother trying? Whereas if you don't even ask that question, can I, but you say, how can I?
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It immediately shifts your focus into solutions. It immediately is, you're not even thinking about whether you can or not. You're just thinking, How would I be able to do this? What would be the steps that I could do? So you're automatically shifted over into solution mindset.
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So this how this word, this one word can make a massive difference in ultimately where whether you choose to pursue something or not and how far you go. Now, I'm saying that trying to tie that back into my parents, because for them, the whole idea of whether we pursue something or not, whether we believe in the possibilities of achieving those things or not.