Hayley Quinn
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
The fact I would say to anybody who's having that dialogue with themselves, is it creepy? Am I going to be creepy? How do I not overstep boundaries? The fact you're thinking in those terms, I think inherently means you're not the creepy guy. You're so unlikely to be that guy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
dating strategy and it's also depends i guess at your on your personality and what where you're at in your journey to do things so i would say if you're beginning don't wedge yourself to any particular idea about how you're going to meet women just come back to this very simple idea if i look i'm going to take action yeah i'm going to present myself and i'm going to do that across the board
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I'm going to put myself in the savvy woman bucket there. And I noticed him noticing me. I wouldn't say he was 100% my normal type. But I was kind of in a good frame of mind around dating. And I was like, I'll be open-minded. I walked out of the gym slowly. We also had a bit of serendipity. We got locked.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
We were both late for gym class and we were locked out of this kind of gym class at the same time. We were both there banging on the door at the same time, which gave us an opportunity to get started. What I really loved about, there's a lot of things I loved about how he connected with me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
One of them was when we'd finished that gym session, I came out and I said, oh, you know, I really feel like something fruity. And he said, there is a fruit shop down the road. Let's go. And he took charge. He chose me a few flat peaches, which I'd never tried before. And he just bought me a bag of peaches, which was such like a simple gesture. But I really, really, really liked it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And I think from that moment, he was super clear. Always it was being really forthcoming We lived in opposite directions. He would always say look I'll walk you back from the gym and I'd be like no No, it's out of your way.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
He said look it's ten minutes extra to be in your company I'm happy to do it and he was just I think compared to other guys He just showed up for me in a way that was so solid so clear so kind and self-assured it was just he was a he definitely became the one and
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Thank you for the long introduction. I enjoyed my 30 seconds of flattery there. Now I want to crack on and get the good work done.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Yeah, I think, as I said, you know, taking the chance is the best. In terms of like big levers and little levers, that is the big lever. Take the action. There's like a lot of other little tiny ones like, ah, maybe you could say that a bit differently or just be aware of that on your messages. The big lever is taking action.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
If you do that, especially in person, you are like light years ahead in terms of how you're positioning yourself as a guy. I also really enjoyed that there was that, I guess, from a guy's perspective as well, he just took a little step forwards and I was okay to go along with that next step. Didn't mean we were always perfectly aligned in terms of like,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
where and how we wanted our relationship to go but I was open to it and I think for men out there as well to just approach the world of dating knowing yes there's things that you can do to show up differently as a man but women have a role to play in this too you know and she also has things she needs to bring to the table to make that magic happen and to make that magic work so you can only do your bit right and then you have to you could only open that door and then she has to walk through it
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I think that quote, don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
So I think if you sweat it, and I think a lot of that, think about how dating advice is given. It's like, oh, this is the perfect line. It weighs in heavily on perfection or this idea of performance, or there's this magic stuff that women love to hear.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And in fact, if you allow, as you just said, if you allow that to build up to the point, it actually inhibits you from taking action because you're thinking about all the other stuff you have to do. Instead, you have to be very, very step-by-step, very, very simple. In terms of how you teach it, that's going to be way more effective.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I would say to worry about what to say or thinking about how to, I don't know, notice a woman is eating a plate of oysters. Do that when you're already comfortably regularly meeting women in person. Maybe reflect and think about how you could refine that. At the start, just act. And you know what? You may never need to refine.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
There are many men who have never done an ounce of dating coaching throughout our history as a species who have done this before you. So you also do not need to be... No one needs to be Casanova. No one needs to be Serrano de Bergerac. You need to take a chance. You need to present yourself to a woman. And that is, in fact, in all likelihood, enough.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Okay. You know, I'm going to say something that's maybe a bit controversial. I don't think you should even try. I think reading other people who you don't know very well is really difficult. I think you can look for very obvious indicators. Is she happy to spend time with you? Does she say yes to the date? Does she spend a good amount of, a decent amount of time with you on that date?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
In fact, you're probably so far over in the other direction that you're not communicating intentions and women just aren't seeing you. And that is a big shame.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Does she ask you questions about yourself? Like there's some basic stuff in there in terms of her contribution, but I wouldn't frame it in terms of, signs that she likes me, because I think that can actually often be quite disempowering. Instead, I'd flip that around. If I was a guy, I would go in there and think, what would I like to have from her? What would I like to see her contribute?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
What would make me more interested in her? What would make me more attracted to her if I got this contribution from her? Because a guy, you can know what you feel about something, right? But Mystically understanding somebody you've only met for a couple of hours is extremely difficult. Also, the best way to get to that answer is through communication.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I think as the guide, choose to state, trust your own sense of what you would like to have happen next in this situation.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
state it and communicate it to her get her response that is harder because you may you may think well if I just got these 10 magical signs I could be more sure about what she wants and then I wouldn't have to face so much fear of rejection I'd feel like on safer territory however I think that can often be misleading instead I think it's better to sort of rip that safety blanket off
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And as provided she is participating and investing to trust your own decision about what you would like to have happen next and to communicate and to state what you'd like to happen with her and listen radically to her.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Exactly. And I think that's a good intention. Nice and easy as well to bring into a day. And I think simple is good as well. Again, simple means less overthinking, less anxiety, more ability to express who you are.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And that's really because I'm concerned that in our quest for love, sometimes it can be the ultimate distraction to fixing ourselves and doing the real work that will actually make us happy. Because don't get me wrong, I think that the desire for attachment, for intimacy, for security, for love, those goals are natural, they're human and they're good.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Well, yeah, it's men, but it's also everybody because I think rejection is a fundamental part of everyday life. It can feel like an emotionally sucky part of everyday life, but it is life. And actually, if we can accept rejection
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
But I think sometimes the way we go about them is a bit weird, whether that's crazy, ridiculous, on-off, destructive relationships, or needing to go out on a date every single night of the week with a different person, you know, like the hip form of dating.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
where you have someone on the back burner, someone on the front burner, someone under the grill, and then someone else over there in the freezer Just in case, God forbid, right, you spend a night by yourself.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Well, I guess for some people will be will identify with what I said at that section of the TED talk, which is dating is a dating is a distraction. Other people and I think this will probably represent the majority of the guys that I would imagine listening to this podcast. Is dating a distraction?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Is it that they're actually just trying to create some movement and some traction in that area of their life? So maybe the idea of, wow, I've had all these crazy relationships and my life is stacked full of dates. That may be a perceived high quality problem that just like simply hasn't happened yet for them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
So I think a good way to think about it is obviously we can, I think society quite neatly sets up that finding a romantic partner is this like,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
and it is it's an amazing achievement but is it a silver bullet for all your life's problems no uh look at how the pickup artist industry though i have some positive things to say about that but they often make a romantic achievement like what do they focus on the number yeah a date having sex with someone and then there's a bit it's like the advice drops off the end of a cliff um as someone who's been married for quite a while i can quite safely say that the work therefore continues so
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
It's not that you meet someone and that's it. You passed go. Congrats. You've won at life. It is an achievement. It's a great thing, but it's a continued and evolving work in process. Commitment particularly is an evolving work in progress. It is as it says on the tin. So before you get to that stage, I often think it's good with where you're at now. I know it can feel difficult.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And as a woman, I probably have not had to get anywhere near confronting the levels of, I think, loneliness that many single men have had to confront and to face. But there is a real value at this period in your life when you are by yourself. You never have such a profound opportunity for personal development, for self-growth, for understanding who you are. So I get it's really, really tough.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
as something that we will all face particularly those of us or those people out there who strive to do things differently you know if you strive to put yourself out there and be compelling and to meet women particularly meeting women in real life that is quite confrontational but through that confrontation I think there's so much scope for great personal development great learning great confidence building
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
It's tough for men, it's tough for women, it's tough for everybody, but there is a value in that time that isn't to be underestimated.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
By taking the risk and pulling the big lever. Because when you start taking risks, when you put yourself in a space of action, you know what you get? Feedback.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Feedback is tough. Because you're going to find out things about yourself. You're going to hear an echo of what some of those vulnerabilities are. For some people, not so much others. There may be communication skills there or points of self-awareness. They're going to come to the surface. But again, that can be challenging.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
It's a lot easier, isn't it, just to sit at your home and watch Netflix or scroll the internet and just think, oh, you know... It'll just, it'll happen or it won't happen. But actually by doing the work and putting yourself out there, you face up to a lot of this stuff. But that's, that's, as I said, I think feedback is the breakfast of champions. I think that's how you, that's how you learn.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
That's how you grow. And I said, it's not just the, the, the feedback isn't just there for men either. It's, it's a, it's a human thing. You know, women, women also have vulnerabilities. Women also have limiting beliefs. Women also have, you know, not so helpful narratives. around dating that they also get feedback on in different ways.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Well, I think, as you said, a profound one for everyone is I'm just not the kind of person that people find attractive, that there's this one kind of person, and it's certainly not me, that people like. So I think that could be just not identifying as the romantic hero, feeling like instead I'm the funny person or I'm the nice person, but I'm not that guy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And also, I guess, seeing, again, this is a kind of a negative side of some of the pick-up lines, world and industry is I think it very much presents that there is one way, or maybe there's a couple of different ways that you can be successful and romantically attractive as a man. And I think if you don't neatly fit into either of those boxes, that can be very, very challenging.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
So I'd say like, just again, lack of self-belief, I'm not that guy, is gonna be huge. I think another big one is just feeling that they do not have permission to present themselves as a sexual masculine man, that they're not allowed. Again, and like, again, we could probably do a whole podcast episode on reasons why men feel that they're not allowed to express themselves sexually.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I mean, it's a very logical conclusion for men to draw looking and taking feedback from the world around them. So again, I think if a guy is at that space where he's struggling to find a healthy way to express sexual and romantic interest in a woman, there's a thousand good reasons why he's arrived in that place. However, the big stick point there is Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And I just would say as well, to acknowledge the guys who are out there fighting the good fight, doing that right now, that's a brave and courageous thing that you're doing. And by facing up to rejection and trying to find new strategies of how to think about it, you place yourself in this remarkably better position to obtain success and get the things that you want out of life.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
aha that's my favorite topic i love i i do minimal i and i still i don't know if you know this but to this day or for a really long time now like over 15 years i do real world dating boot camps i still coach that i'm on the front lines so with men and women we're taking them out there to meet people in the real world there's no workshops there's no notepads
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
we are doing it and because of that i obviously i'm completely biased but i see it not only as the best way to meet people but also just a fantastic form of personal development let me play devil's advocate okay i'm gonna play the part of the guy listening to this podcast
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Well, I think maybe off, you know, not to throw names around, but often you'll have to tell me more about your stories because I think I was very deep into the pickup industry, London 2010, with all the big, you know, all the old great companies of that time. And as I said, I feel that there was some good, some bad, there was definitely some ugly.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
But for guys now, I would say like, I know dating advice can feel like an area that you're like, oh, do I have to do that? Is that a right thing for me to do? Again, it's like it is, I think, approached in the right way. It can be an amazing form of personal development. It can be incredibly confidence building, incredibly empowering. And also it's your life.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
So putting yourself out there to take the risks and build towards getting the relationships with women you want. I mean, it's a great journey and it's 100% worth it. So if you're here and you're curious about coaching, go for it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I say it's not where, it's how. How. That's important. You can be creepy on an app and you can be creepy in real life. But I think the fact I would say to anybody who's having that dialogue with themselves, is it creepy? Am I going to be creepy? How do I not overstep boundaries? The fact you're thinking in those terms, I think inherently means you're not the creepy guy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Hmm.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I love that story. I think I love that story. I want to say I think I know exactly who you mean. He was quite famous in London at that period in time. And for the guys out there, I said meeting women in real life. It's the great equalizer.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I can feel a little unequal, but let's talk about life.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Yeah, I just said, you know, on dating apps, I can feel like some odds are skewed against guys in terms of how those apps are set up and populated. But in real life, it's a great, great, great equalizer if you can pull that lever and present yourself.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Okay, absolutely. So you can find me at hayleyquinn.com. Thanks for pointing out it's got two Y's, English spelling. So I have two main programs. I've got virtual masterclass, which you can join from anywhere in the world. It is a live program, like I am actively there. Live on Zoom calls coaching you. Nothing I do is a random mass market, I don't know, QA. Everything I do is highly personal.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I've been coaching for over 15 years. I have, I think, a very, very sharp and well-tuned step-by-step process to get you from a stage of perhaps just being a bit discouraged on dating apps to actually meeting the women you want, maybe somewhat online, but meeting them in real life, dating them, presenting yourself as the amazing man that you are. It's a six week long progress program.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
It's super comprehensive. We have a fantastic online learning area. We do WhatsApp discussion groups. You get on the spot advice. It's highly personal. For most, and it runs across four time zones. So for most guys, especially guys in the States, that's gonna be a great shout for you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
However, if you really wanna step it up, and I always say this, if you wanna become, if you're really focused on meeting women in real life, that really excites you. That's where you see the future of your dating life. You're ready for that personal development.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
In addition to doing the six-week online virtual masterclass program, you can bolt on a four-day in-person boot camp with me, mostly in London, but sometimes in New York as well. And I said there's nothing like it for actually getting out there and developing the tool, for putting your notepad down, getting out there in real life, and actually going through my tried and tested training exercises.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
You're so unlikely to be that guy. In fact, you're probably so far over in the other direction that you're not communicating intentions and women just aren't seeing you. And that is a big shame because I work with women too. And women are often convinced. There's no good guys out there. They've just run out. They missed the sale. They're gone.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And that's Real Academy. To find out anything, you can just hit the Let's Chat button on my website, fill in the form, and I will personally get back to you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Oh, my pleasure. Thanks so much for having me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And in fact, I see that there's tons of amazing guys every day. But there's that communication gap where because they don't want to be the creepy guy, they don't want to press on boundaries, that they're simply not communicating with women in a way that is recognizable to women for a whole bunch of bad social reasons as being romantic. And therefore, they're not being discovered.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And there's less romance all around for everybody.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Well, I think when I do real world coaching and you do a practical bootcamp, you are never sure what's going to happen. That's part of the wonder of meeting people in real life. And that's the personal development. That's why myself, I always coach on the events. I wouldn't personally feel comfortable with saying, hey, come take my program. And then I'm not even there. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I've outsourced it to a bunch of people. I take great pride in the coaching, the work that me and my team do. And I love the transformation. I think there's nothing like it. You can start with... And it's just...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Sometimes for guys, it's as simple as just giving them permission that they are allowed to do something and inhabit a certain part of their personality could be really, really transformational. So to think about one of the last sessions, I had a lovely guy. He was actually from the north of England.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
We have guys from all over the world, but he was a Geordie, if you guys in the States know what that is. He was 49 years old. And he really wanted to go out there and meet women in real life and actually find someone. And he was terribly shy, was walking down the street in Soho, our Soho in London, not too different to NYC Soho.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
And he saw a woman who was sat by herself, drinking a glass of wine and eating a plate of oysters. Now, the dating coach in me saw this and I thought, that is an unusual, not typical thing for someone to be doing. He was very able to think on his feet. He walked over to her and he said, and I think he cracked, again, these were his own words, He made a joke about how he preferred Chinese food.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
He earned up sat down next to her. They ended up trying an oyster. They were there for like, I had, he was there for over an hour, swap numbers, started going on dates with this woman. So it's like, It's a magical moment of serendipity and trusting yourself and also just choosing to notice things. I think people communicate who they are all the time.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I think people actually communicate that in some ways that they'd like to be spoken to. And when you can tap into that and when you see reciprocation.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
from the woman it creates these kind of magical meet cute moments and yeah you know whether it turns into a relationship or not i think it can feel incredibly confidence building incredibly fun for both people you know what it can even even if you get the the quote-unquote nightmare scenario where it turns out she's got a boyfriend or something It can still be an amazing moment.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
It can still be a great interaction. So I think there's, I cannot encourage men enough, particularly if they feel a little bit slammed on the dating apps, which I think for men are harder grift than they are for women to be able to build themselves up to the point about going out there and meeting women in person.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
organic or as you said serendipitous way which i love and also i'd like to add to that totally agree i think observations when you when you find them are great sometimes you don't get the observation what you get is an intuitive feeling of i just want to go and talk to this person and if that's what comes up for you that's the truth lead with that that's right that's the authentic thing so i think as well for guys learning how to meet women in real life continually kind of
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
lowering this threshold and getting away from this idea of like a pitch perfect performance and recognizing actually they are enough. And actually if they just send the invitation, they create the opportunity. If the woman is in the reciprocal space that she also needs to be into to make this magic happen, then great things can happen.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Yeah. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Yeah. And I, and I think that's kind of a, obviously happy relationships do come out of dating apps and I don't want to completely naysay them because I think it's good to be open-minded to all options.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
However, I think that's an inherent problem kind of baked into the DNA of an app is you meet on an app and for women, serendipity, romance, bold moves, like so much of this is how women view romance and an app is inherently unromantic. So I feel that it can take quite a lot for both people to show up to a dating app date in like the optimum frame of mind for something magical to happen.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Whilst I think in real life, you overcome a lot of those initial hurdles.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Sometimes. And I would say Jess certainly seems to have her wits about her in terms of how to meet a guy, which is probably why she's ended up as being your girlfriend. Look, some women are smart and they're tapped into this. But to put this to men as well, I think part of what makes it so difficult, and I know this working with women as well, is just how a man may not intuitively understand
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
How do I start a conversation? How do I break the ice and connect with this woman? Lots of women also do not intuitively understand how to send the right signals to men. So I work with women who would love to meet men. They actually, especially in real life, they desire to get off the apps and meet men. But they're like, I feel I don't know what signals to send. Am I coming off as desperate?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I don't want the world to know I'm single. What if someone talks to me and I don't like them? There's like this whole pile on of reasons which also inhibit women from interacting really freely. So, yes, I would say some socially savvy and confident women will understand that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Look, if I just give create space by myself, I'm not going to come and say hello to you, but I'll give you a clear opportunity. I'll give you a clear shot to say hello to me. Many, many other women won't. But if approached in the in, I'm not going to say the right way because there isn't a right way, a good enough way that they will be receptive to making that connection.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
Absolutely.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I think I can't speak on behalf of all women. I would say enough women are interested in meeting men in real life. You're right. The daytime presents, I would say the negatives of that are there's no context. So, you know, if you're at a bar or a singles event, there is context. You will probably find it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
I would say for guys that are really just starting out on this, that could be a good way to build confidence. The benefit of meeting people in the daytime is they're sober. I think that's great. We do all our coaching sober. I think in the daytime, I think it's one-to-one.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
So for the guys that are more introverted, don't like crowds, don't love loud music volumes, there's some really good wins there. It was a little while ago now, but I also met my husband at the gym, which I think is another one of those...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
How to Read Women, Know What to Say, and Get Her Asking YOU Out: Hayley Quinn’s Secrets to Attraction
environments where you perhaps think i'm not allowed to am i allowed to do that is that just really immediately in in the the creepy bracket so i would say learning to meet women in whole foods it's not the easiest yards for someone who's a complete beginner without coaching or a community or some some kind of support to go alongside it is it possible yes can it be amazing absolutely and i would think about how you can do that as part of i guess a really well-balanced