Harriet
Appearances
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
And I could babysit. I don't know what you're talking about.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
Now I just bump into them awkwardly and say, where's the treadmill? Okay, I do that too sometimes, but like.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
With panache, you know, with ease, you know, like, hey, where's the bathroom? You know, can you walk me over there? Thank you. I'll get it fixed. I'll do it better next time, you know, whatever. But don't you see? It's like we're unwilling to be vulnerable. Everybody is. Well, not here yet. I have no problem. I'll stand up in the subway and say, hey, anybody getting off at X spot?
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
I have to cross over from, you know, from the A line to the West 4th Street, you know, whatever.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
No, not at you. I'm just laughing at the discomfort and awfulness of it, you know?
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
How much you're basing all of your perceptions, at least from where I'm sitting with this, on the sighted world. The sighted world is the world, Harriet. It is, but it hasn't been a problem. I still feel that my world has total integrity.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
I think the hardest thing in life, whether you're sighted or anything, is a deeper self-acceptance, really. And that doesn't matter what the hell other people react to or what they think or whatever.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
Yes. Okay, why? Because you have a lens, you have a filter, right? that is constantly on high, that says, they're not going to get me, they're going to put me down, they're going to ignore me, they're going to pity me. And if that is sort of in the emotional undercurrent within you, then it'll amplify everything.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
Just see if they want to go out and have coffee or tea.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
Treat it as friendship. It's just a thought.
This American Life
856: You’ve Come to the Right Person
The fact that he asked you the three times is already not saying I want to be your husband, but it is saying I would like to do that. So it's authentic. I think he's asking from just my sense about it, from a very authentic place. And so build on it. Just get to know him.