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So back by popular demand, several of you have reached out to me via email on my dating trap video.
Now, if you haven't seen the Dating Trap video, I'm going to put one on the screen at the very end of this video.
A string of dating advice and dating trap videos. This is mostly structured, you know, for guys in their 50s. and 60s, you know, who are not used to dating, who forget what it's like to date.
Most of us have been in a relationship for years and years and years. And look at that neck. That is cherry red tomato. Yeah, it's bulging. It's cherry red. Unbelievable. Unfortunately, we get thrusted back into the dating scene and... Thrusted.
You forget, you know, you've got to overlook all the excitement of meeting a new woman and pay attention to the details. Her tits, her ass, you know, the important stuff. And in this video... I'm going to give you a few details that you need to watch out for so you don't get caught.
What is going on everybody and welcome to today's video. If this is your first time here, my name is Frank Bernardo and this channel is geared for all guys who want to up their game
...himselves in grooming, fitness, fashion, and lifestyle. And every once in a while, we're going to sprinkle him dating advice. I mean...
to get dating advice from someone who is actually dating. I'm not the kind of guy that's going to read a bunch of material. I'm not a reader, per se.
Stand up in front of this camera and pretend I know what I'm talking about. You're going to get actual life dating experiences. I mean, that's the way it should be. From someone who experienced. That's the way it should be. It's gold. Gold standard. This is it. Day to day. So at any time during this video, you like what you're seeing.
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Appreciate it. Thumbs up because it'll definitely help this channel grow and I would greatly appreciate it. Let's jump right into it I think the first trap and let's jump right into it a minute number seven Need to avoid is when you do meet a girl. Yeah, there's a lot of excitement going on you can go on quite a few dates and You know the excitement
is always going to be there, you know, in their look, maybe their sexiness, sex appeal. I know. Look at him. He's all excited. The way they carry themselves. He's overpowering his Botox. That's beautiful. That's really something to get excited about. You know, you don't run into that type of a woman every day. So when you do, yeah, the adrenaline's pumping.
But... You got your semen X ready to go.
That woman, if her attitude doesn't match... The sex appeal and the beauty of that woman, that's a trap.
That sex appeal is not matching her mouth appeal. You know what I'm saying? Now, if she starts bossing you around, telling you what to do, being the dominant one in the conversation, You're not allowed to overtalk her. You're not allowed to give an opinion. You know, after a time or two, you got to start to wonder, all right? Because, gentlemen... You got to start to wonder.
Trends are trends.
Trends are trends. is going to end that way. I don't want you to get caught in the trap of being caught up in the beauty and the attitude and the personality doesn't equal the beautiness of the woman. The beautiness.
Because ultimately, it's a failure. Failure. So I would give her... Two, maybe three chances. After that, if she's persistent in her dominance and the way she acts, it's gonna stay that way. Do yourself a favor. Get out of that relationship. You don't want to get out of that relationship. Why? Because, oh, my God, now I got to go through the whole.
Hey, take a chill pill. All right. There's plenty of women out there. Don't be afraid. There's plenty of empty vessels. You know, if you have to move on from that relationship, all right, do it. Get back on the dating app. You'll forget about her as soon as the next one comes.
Don't feel sorry for yourself. Move on. Don't dwell on it all day. Carry on with your day. And stop looking on the dating app. Is someone coming after me? Is someone texting me? Does somebody want to contact me? If you do that, it's not going to happen.
Look at that. He is. Okay.
Yeah, can I have a large hot coffee, black?
Large hot coffee, black. Hot and black, like I like my ladies. Nope, that'll do it. All right. He filmed the menu.
I passed up the donuts. I passed up the bagels.
I passed up all the bad stuff. Vacation season's coming. You better be in shape for vacation season. Because when you go on vacation, when you're on these trips, what's everybody doing? Well, they're looking at you. Are they?
I hope I'm in the will, Dad. That's what they say. Say nothing to you, but if you're out of shape or whatever have you, they're probably... I wasn't going to say anything to you, but if you're out of shape... I wasn't going to say anything to you.
You could skip the D&D, if you know what I mean. They're thinking it. Who's thinking it? Dating trap number two.
narcissism.
Usually get the bad rap for being a narcissist. But can a woman be a narcissist? Absolutely, 100% they can. My name isn't Dr. Frankie. How can you tell if they're a narcissist? I'm going to give you a few signs right now.
is if you question them, if you question a narcissist, and they get all excited, angered, puffy, and puffy, and start yelling and screaming at you, how dare you question me? Just in that content, you know, what would a narcissist... In that content.
They will talk over you. They will give you or they will try. They will try to give you the fear that how dare you question them.
Match you hard so you don't ask that question or you don't assume something. That's what narcissists do. They strike the fear. Narcissist. Is he putting an extra five S's in there? Narcissist. God in you. They make you afraid to say something because what does a narcissist do? They blow up. There's that same fucking building.
Crazy. They make you feel that you're wrong. That's in their best idea. That's in their best idea. Right in their best idea, they make you wrong.
...like confrontation. Some narcissists are hiding things. They're hiding things behind your back.
They come at you strong and hard. Again, it's all in repetition of how they come at you. They're going to over-talk you. They're going to strike the fear of God in you. They're just going to be dominant. And again, it's all... They're going to beat you up while you're sleeping.
All about them striking the fear of God in you. So if you're in a relationship where that woman is just as dominant as hell, and you're not allowed to have an opinion, listen, we should all be able to have opinions.
And we should all be able to talk through that. But a narcissist, there's no talking. They yell right off the bat. They come at you right off the bat. So pay attention to that woman if she's very strong-willed and dominant and aggressive and they don't let you get a word in edgewise.
Right. Sure. Telltale sign. They're a narcissist. And guess what? Narcissists don't change. Get out of that relationship.
Eating trap number three. And before I get into this, I just want to make a disclaimer over here, all right? I don't want anybody taking this wrong.
Of course it does. And I'm a believer that the man pays for everything. When I go on a date, I pay for everything. I would never, ever ask a woman to pay. But I just think every once in a while. It's his grievances.
Five, six, seven, eight, nine months, whatever have you.
Yeah, was it nine or was it 12? Eight. Let me get this round of drinks. Or hey, let me get dinner. You just bought the last 150 dinners.
vacations concerts boating we we have so much fun boating does boating cost money you mean you want her to pay for your boat let me show you my appreciation for you and let me get this dinner that's you run into a woman or you have a girlfriend like that.
That's something that I don't quite understand why they can't do. If they don't do it, what's that telling us? That they could be taking advantage of you? They don't have a lot of interest, I mean, in spending money on you.
Guys, we have to have the interest. And a woman, I don't want you guys to be caught in that trap, okay? A woman who cares for you will make that gesture.
I know, I would love that.
Now, me as a man, I've had women offer me that all the time. And you know what I tell them? Absolutely not. Keep your money in your pocket.
Love the fact that they at least offer because it shows me something. So dating trap. Number three, if that woman never even offers to buy you a round of drinks, something's up. Again, this is not a trap.
So that's going to conclude.
I remember that now. The Dating Traps for today. Dating Traps Part 2. Don't forget to subscribe because Dating Traps Part 3 is coming next week. And I got some good ones for you.
So take advantage of these videos. My other ones should be linked up about right now. Go back about right now. While I'm driving down the highway, I'm going to link all these videos.
And yeah, look at this video. It's dating trap number one. When you run into trouble, watch these videos. My name is Frank Bernardo. He says Frank Bernardo. He does not say Bernardo.
Bernardo. Fair enough.
I just heard it. See everybody in the next video.
Oh my god, I love that song so much.
How's that? Yes, absolutely.
Das Yacht-Material ist definitiv auf Frankies Alley zu posten.
Er hat einen kleinen Ponytail.
Oh, Frankie getting wild. The girls are on the back of the speedboat.
They're a little bit more subdued now. They kind of went crazy for a minute, but now they're like, okay, that's enough filming, Frankie.
I wonder if he's gonna break with his diet.
It's going to be interesting. Frankie seems drunk.
Ich weiß. Er sieht so aus, als wäre er ein Gangster. Und diese Schale, wow.
Er muss ein paar Sonnenblumen machen.
Na, ich meine, die Tomatensauce kann ein bisschen Wasser auf den Topf geben, aber ja, es sieht nicht so gut aus.
Yeah. He has been drinking and he has changed his tune from his very measured eating of the tuna and what? Tuna deviled eggs? I don't know what it was, but it was gross.
It's also the angle that he's showing himself at.
Ja, für ihn sogar Karbs zu essen, ist mir überraschend.
Ich bin froh, dass ich sehe, dass er uns das Haar runterlässt.
In the car, the classic car moment.
And I think Frankie might have been admiring how buff he was.
Did he have to do it in the parking lot?
Said Chrissy. Well, she just didn't look like she was that into it.
Das ist Episode Nummer... Es gibt nur einen Frankie.
I think that was maybe the Thanksgiving right before COVID.
You came back with the lightsaber.
And I really wanted to play with that thing and it had broken.
I'm a huge Star Wars fan, yeah.
So in today's video, guys, we're going to go over nine simple things that guys over 50 can do to look better. Guarantee it won't be nine.
What's up, everybody? I've been up since yesterday at 4 o'clock. If this is your first time here, my name is Frank Bernardo, and this channel is geared for all guys out there 50 and above who want to up their game, look, and feel better about themselves. But hold on, dudes. If you're a guy in your mid-30s or if you're even in your 40s, don't turn this video on. But hold on, dudes. Hey.
Video off because it's going to contain some super valuable information that's going to catapult your ass all the way up to the 50 and above club. It's going to catapult you just like Katy Perry on the dick ship. In style. My take on this is far too many guys, once they enter into their 50s, you get complacent. Everything's beautiful. I do get complacent all the time, Chrissy.
Well into my 40s and I'm complacent. I got a wife that I've had for 25 years. I got an old bag. It's getting fat and ugly. I've had the same job now for 25 years too. Everything is perfect. I don't have to worry. My wife's not going to replace me. My work, they're never going to get rid of me. I'm too good for them. Shame on you.
If you are the image of a company, let's just say you're in sales, and you have let yourself go now for years and years and years, you're probably overweight. Your hygiene is terrible. You probably dress like shit. What the fuck does that have to do with your job?
How long do you think your company is going to want that image, okay? And when you finally realize that you're in trouble, it's probably going to be too late. So guys, in today's video, I put together nine things that guys over 50 need to do daily, weekly, monthly in order to not let... In order...
Give it one of these and hit the subscribe bell so you don't miss any of my upcoming videos. All right, Cowboys, so the first thing we're going to talk about is grooming. And this is a known fact that guys in their 50s completely forget about this. That is not a known fact. That is not a known fact.
Your hair in your nose, your ears in your eyebrows grows at almost twice a clip.
20s and your 30s. And before you know it, you got this monster face going on. There's nothing... I'm over 50 and I forgot how to groom. That bugs me more is when I'm talking to a guy, okay, and all I can see are his nose hairs or his... Hey, Frankie.
your hairs or let's go with these giant eyebrows okay it's like what's he talking about because i'm so focused on what the hell is going on with this guy's face it's like the only thing going through my mind is does he groom and if you are an older guy and you're going out on a date
frankie can't hold a conversation because he's too worried about your skincare routine yeah he's going over the terms of his will the terms and conditions and you're not paying attention to this trust me she's looking at it so really pay attention to your grooming so the second thing we're going to talk about is so so far yeah hook them horns second thing it's second thing Your hairstyle.
So guys, if you've had that same haircut year after year, cut by the same stylist year after year, maybe it's time for a new stylist. If that girl or your barber has not suggested something new to you.
And they're not doing their job. And you guys are all together collectively in a rut. I think you maybe need to change it up a little bit. Why don't you get yourself a magazine? Look through some hairstyles. Get yourself a magazine.
One, you change up your music style. Two, watch some videos for haircuts and styles for guys over 50. I guarantee you, you will find something in there that you're going to see and you're going to go, holy shit.
Shit. That's going to look good on me. But guys, you won't know until you try. So definitely change up your hairstyle. The third thing we're going to talk about is skincare. I venture to say that 99% of you guys don't even give a rat's ass about your skin. A rat's ass about your skin. I like the way he said that.
Listen to both. Because if you have old, weathered, dried, cracky skin, you're just looking older than you already are.
If you keep letting it go, the older you get, the harder it's going to be to reverse it. And before you know it, it's going to be way too late. But if you attack it now, you can still save yourself. And it all starts with drinking water. That's the number one thing in having gorgeous, good-looking skin.
Yeah, drink a lot of water. Right. Gorgeous, good looking skin. And there's nothing wrong with it. Do your avocado eggs. Man, having great skin. Like I said, it all starts with drinking eight to 10 bottles of water a day. Eight to 10 bottles of water a day.
That's the first and foremost important thing. Then it goes with having a great skincare routine. That's face moisturizers. That's eye creams. It's wrinkle-reducing creams. There's a lot of different products out there. Do your own.
I'm like, Vaseline.
morning and do it at night and soon guys you will notice a very wonderful change in the appearance of your skin so the fourth thing we're going to talk about guys it's your body most of you are probably i love talking about my body frankie and you know what i'm just not happy with it i could do better but you know what i'm in my 50s why am i gonna start now what where am i going with this
No one cares. My wife, she's happy. I work. They don't give a shit. Me, you know, if you're hemming and hawing.
Do you hemming and hawing? It's time to take action and change your body type. It's not. Take action now. Emergency. Pull the ripcord.
Too late. All right. If you are in your. Divorce is imminent. And you've never done a workout routine. It's not too late to start because you're going to kick yourself right in your balls or you're going to kick yourself in your. Ha ha. Right in the balls.
If you waited another two years and then you decide to do it, because at that point you would have already changed your body. It's taken initiative. It's getting off of your dead ass and getting out of your bullshit body.
It's taking that first step. And once you do it, it'll become habit forming. And then you're not going to want to stop because you're going to start seeing changes in your body. Your clothes are going to fit you better. People are going to notice. People are going to say stuff. Your wife is going to be going, oh, my God, chacharita. You look fantastic. Chacharita. That's not a word. Chacharita.
Guys, take the first step. So the fifth thing we're going to talk about, guys, is what you put in your mouth. Now, if you did decide that you are going to go in the gym, you did decide you're going to break your ass. You did decide that you're going to build a killer.
Beautiful body. Then kudos to you. But guess what? You could totally blow that. You could blow it in a New York second when you go home. Blow what? What are we putting in our mouth, Frankie?
You eat like shit. All right. It's time to start changing your eating habits. And we're not going to call it a diet because diets you'll never, ever going to hold to them. Everybody breaks a diet. So let's just call it simply changing the way we eat. And it all starts with eliminating all sugars, all sugars, all sugars, all sugars.
Your number one poison. That's your number one demon. That's your number one evil. Get rid of all sugars. It's the number one thing your body craves for energy, sugar.
Go through withdrawals. You're going to go through convulsions. You're going to be going, ah! I got to have my sugar. You'll get over it, all right? He needs to be a drug counselor. You'll get over it.
Okay, you'll get over it. You need to start limiting your carb intake, okay? You need to start upping your proteins. You need to start more vegetables, lean meats, lean chickens, and drink lean chickens. Where are the fatty chickens? Lean chickens. I didn't know they grew them fatty. Plenty of water a day.
So if you start eating good, wholesome foods that are below your maintenance levels and you need to find out what your chlorotic maintenance level is, it may be 2,500 calories. I don't think it's chlorotic. Chlorotic, yeah.
Because you need to be below that. You need to be below that every day. And if you are, you will continue to lose weight. And the good thing about it, guys, is you are in a gym and you're building muscle. So while you're losing weight, you're building muscle. It's all harmony. You are going to look good. Ebony. and ivory together in perfect harmony. One without the other.
If you just go on a diet without building muscle, you are going to look creepy. You're going to look saggy. And once you get that creepy, saggy skin, you're never going to get rid of it. So you need to do both, guys. So the sixth thing we're going to talk about.
It's conquering your weak points. Now, I'm not going to get into mine. I certainly have them. And we're not going to get into yours because you certainly have them. But let me tell you something, gentlemen. If you have weak points that went from one...
to six on everything that i just talked about every item from the first thing i talked about all the way down to the bottom then gentlemen you are in a world of hurt and there's probably if you have a weak point you're weak he's not going to talk about his and he's not going to talk about yours but let's talk about yours yeah No hope for you.
But all kidding aside, guys, if your weak point is getting to the gym, make that step. If your weak point is eating right, well, make that step. Is it something that you're going to conquer right away? No. Is it something that you're going to conquer completely? No. Are you going to fail?
You have to have the upper hand on it. You got to have control of your weak points or you're going to continue to cave. It's probably safe to say that your weak points are always going to be your weak points. And it's probably never going to go away. It's just basically all about control. I don't understand a word that he just said.
Number 50, need to do in order to look better, it's go through your wardrobe. You know, if you're a guy that's shuffling through the closet and you grab a shirt and you look at it and you have to give that shirt a second thought, throw it in the Goodwill bag. Go to the next shirt, grab it, look at it. If you go, hmm, throw it in the Goodwill bag because you know what's going to happen?
You are going to grab that shirt and you are going to wear it. And that's what most of the...
pluses out there are doing it. They are wearing their old stale wardrobe and that's just total taboo and it shows that you don't give a crap. I mean, guys, in order to make a statement at our age, I believe it all starts with the way a man dresses. It all starts with your shoes. You work that outfit from the shoes up.
All about being in style. Don't be afraid to step outside the box. Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone because that's ultimately going to look better than the crap.
If you've had...
in your closet for the past several years this is the only way that you're gonna make a statement and one thing that holds true to form guys is when you do go shopping for clothes it's all about the fit if you are a thinner man okay don't wear big baggy clothes to hide your skinniness okay because it actually makes you look worse because if you got short sleeves on and the sleeves are way bigger than your arms and they're swimming and
It actually makes you look worse, okay?
Get those sleeves tailored. Have them tuck in. It'll actually... Tailor the sleeves on your short sleeve shirt.
Make your arms look better. And if you are a larger man, an overweight man, a lot of you guys will try to camouflage your weight with big drapey baggy clothes.
applies they actually look a little better if they're closer to your body you will look much more structured don't don't don't be fooled by thinking you whether you're skinny or whether you're big you can camouflage behind your clothes just get the clothes that fit and the right style for you all right man almost there the Oh, thank God.
The thing that guys need to do over 50 to look better is to definitely look at your posture. Posture makes a man. Posture says.
You know, if you are a guy that's constantly slumped over with your shoulders and you're like me like this, you know, hey, I'm Frank Bernardo. I'm going to do a video on how guys over 50 can look better. And, you know, you're not looking in the camera. How does that look, guys? Why would you be looking in the camera?
You're also assuming everybody's trying to be an influencer versus your shoulders back, getting your head up, showing confidence. Well, that's the way it works in every day life. If you walk in a room and you've got great posture, you're going to command attention. People are going to notice that.
But if you walk in a room and you're lazy and you're moxie and stuff like that, people aren't even going to get moxie.
Do is moxie the time of day. So I would definitely check your posture. Go in the mirror. Look at yourself from all angles. You know, if you are slumped, get your get your shoulders back. OK, it's just a matter of.
And when you walk, keep your head up. Never down. It looks like you're embarrassed. Looks like you're hiding something. But when you walk in your. He's the Emily. He's the Emily post of YouTube for over 60. Your head is up, you're showing confidence, and you're showing power. Work on your posture, guys.
All right, we are finally at tip number nine, and this is the most powerful tip that I could possibly have.
And that, gentlemen, is confidence. How do I get confidence? Everything's fixed. My life is better. I have confidence. Does it just grow? I mean, I'm going to tell you how you get confidence. If you start doing everything.
From steps one to eight, guess what, guys? Confidence will automatically follow because you've got great hygiene. You've got great skincare. You've got a badass haircut. You've got a killer body.
Planet Fitness, $30,000. Like a king. And when you eat like a king, you look good and you feel good. You are dressing like a total rock star, badass. And most of all, your posture is totally killer. So what does all that breed? It breeds confidence. Because confidence is skin deep.
That's the end of the video, guys. I hope you enjoyed it.
Frankie Valli here. Checking in with you guys to see if everybody's okay. Just hope that everybody's staying in and doing everything they're supposed to.