Dr. Julie Smith

so the sergeant said go and do that rather than sitting at home twiddling your thumbs waiting yeah just go and you know enjoy the distraction and then we'll we'll do the operation when you get back and so while we were away we're actually on our way to a theme park and we said oh you know disney universal all of that oh both of them yeah and it's also cute how you guys say holiday i love that

so the sergeant said go and do that rather than sitting at home twiddling your thumbs waiting yeah just go and you know enjoy the distraction and then we'll we'll do the operation when you get back and so while we were away we're actually on our way to a theme park and we said oh you know disney universal all of that oh both of them yeah and it's also cute how you guys say holiday i love that

so the sergeant said go and do that rather than sitting at home twiddling your thumbs waiting yeah just go and you know enjoy the distraction and then we'll we'll do the operation when you get back and so while we were away we're actually on our way to a theme park and we said oh you know disney universal all of that oh both of them yeah and it's also cute how you guys say holiday i love that

We love Florida. And we've done it a few times. And so we were there and we were on our way to a theme park in the car. And we just said, you know, mommy's got to have this operation when we get home. But it's not as bad as the operation that Luke had. And so my son and Luke's fine now. So, you know, I'll be fine. And that comparison that it wasn't going to be about as bad as what he had.

We love Florida. And we've done it a few times. And so we were there and we were on our way to a theme park in the car. And we just said, you know, mommy's got to have this operation when we get home. But it's not as bad as the operation that Luke had. And so my son and Luke's fine now. So, you know, I'll be fine. And that comparison that it wasn't going to be about as bad as what he had.

We love Florida. And we've done it a few times. And so we were there and we were on our way to a theme park in the car. And we just said, you know, mommy's got to have this operation when we get home. But it's not as bad as the operation that Luke had. And so my son and Luke's fine now. So, you know, I'll be fine. And that comparison that it wasn't going to be about as bad as what he had.

Well, they can see that he's okay. So that seemed to be really reassuring for them to have that comparison. And so they were kind of, oh, okay. And, you know, my youngest was like, okay, pass the Lego, let's crack on with our day. And my eldest, she's 12, she later on, in a quiet moment, asked a couple more questions. And then a few days later, she would think of a different question.

Well, they can see that he's okay. So that seemed to be really reassuring for them to have that comparison. And so they were kind of, oh, okay. And, you know, my youngest was like, okay, pass the Lego, let's crack on with our day. And my eldest, she's 12, she later on, in a quiet moment, asked a couple more questions. And then a few days later, she would think of a different question.

Well, they can see that he's okay. So that seemed to be really reassuring for them to have that comparison. And so they were kind of, oh, okay. And, you know, my youngest was like, okay, pass the Lego, let's crack on with our day. And my eldest, she's 12, she later on, in a quiet moment, asked a couple more questions. And then a few days later, she would think of a different question.

And we would just ask the questions, answer the questions as they came up and tried to, you know, be honest, but also...

And we would just ask the questions, answer the questions as they came up and tried to, you know, be honest, but also...

And we would just ask the questions, answer the questions as they came up and tried to, you know, be honest, but also...

Yeah, I think, you know, saying to people, don't compare yourself. It's like saying don't breathe, right? We are social beings. We live in groups. And if you didn't have the ability to compare yourself to other people, you'd be terrible in relationships.

Yeah, I think, you know, saying to people, don't compare yourself. It's like saying don't breathe, right? We are social beings. We live in groups. And if you didn't have the ability to compare yourself to other people, you'd be terrible in relationships.

Yeah, I think, you know, saying to people, don't compare yourself. It's like saying don't breathe, right? We are social beings. We live in groups. And if you didn't have the ability to compare yourself to other people, you'd be terrible in relationships.

You'd be a terrible neighbor, you know, a terrible community member because, you know, essentially we have the ability to be in a group of people and measure ourselves against you know, their moral behavior, their choices, what they're doing for each other, how much work they're putting in for each other.

You'd be a terrible neighbor, you know, a terrible community member because, you know, essentially we have the ability to be in a group of people and measure ourselves against you know, their moral behavior, their choices, what they're doing for each other, how much work they're putting in for each other.

You'd be a terrible neighbor, you know, a terrible community member because, you know, essentially we have the ability to be in a group of people and measure ourselves against you know, their moral behavior, their choices, what they're doing for each other, how much work they're putting in for each other.

You know, all of those things enable us to ensure that we're being a decent human being in that group. So our ability to compare is actually a real strength and really important. But I think what happens is when it goes wrong, we're making the wrong comparisons. We're either comparing ourselves to the wrong people or the wrong thing, or we're doing it intensively.

You know, all of those things enable us to ensure that we're being a decent human being in that group. So our ability to compare is actually a real strength and really important. But I think what happens is when it goes wrong, we're making the wrong comparisons. We're either comparing ourselves to the wrong people or the wrong thing, or we're doing it intensively.