Dr. John Delony

I just reject that wholeheartedly.

I've got a pretty nuanced view of it.

I'll talk globally and then we'll get really specific.

We've created the loneliest generation in human history ever.

And we've also pathologized, we've made wrong or a problem to solve any uncomfortable feeling or any quote unquote bad feeling.

And so I often would have students come into my office and say, I'm depressed.

My dad just walked out on my mom and has a whole other life he's had.

And I would say, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

Maybe you're struggling with depression right now, but what you just described to me is sadness.

You're sad.

We have no permission to be sad.

We have no permission for grief.

And the human biological being is not designed to experience grief by itself.

That's why every major religion for all of human history has gatherings that take place.

That's why they have this thing called confession in some shape or fashion.

It's been co-opted into tell us the bad thing you did.

That's not the origin of confession.

The origin of confession is, oh man, you too.

Here's what happened.

And that's all gone.