Dr. Ethan Cross

So this was a real turning point for Lori where she realized she had to do something different. A student emails her with this benign question. He or she is looking for dental resources. They need a dentist. She is by very nature someone who likes to help others. She took this position as being the head of a college because she liked to help others. And this request comes in for some help.

And rather than instantly trying to share resources with the student and get them the information that they need, Instead, she immediately experiences irritation and anger and frustration. One more thing I have to deal with. I don't have time to deal with this. Those thoughts and the accompanying feelings were elicited automatically.

And rather than instantly trying to share resources with the student and get them the information that they need, Instead, she immediately experiences irritation and anger and frustration. One more thing I have to deal with. I don't have time to deal with this. Those thoughts and the accompanying feelings were elicited automatically.

And rather than instantly trying to share resources with the student and get them the information that they need, Instead, she immediately experiences irritation and anger and frustration. One more thing I have to deal with. I don't have time to deal with this. Those thoughts and the accompanying feelings were elicited automatically.

And actually, she was embarrassed that she had even entertained those thoughts. But it was that experience that really signaled to Lori that she had to do something.

And actually, she was embarrassed that she had even entertained those thoughts. But it was that experience that really signaled to Lori that she had to do something.

And actually, she was embarrassed that she had even entertained those thoughts. But it was that experience that really signaled to Lori that she had to do something.

She left. So she put in for an unpaid leave, and she essentially took a sabbatical. She moved to another college town. And she settled there and the moment she changed her space, she found that she was overcome with a sense of emotional relief.

She left. So she put in for an unpaid leave, and she essentially took a sabbatical. She moved to another college town. And she settled there and the moment she changed her space, she found that she was overcome with a sense of emotional relief.

She left. So she put in for an unpaid leave, and she essentially took a sabbatical. She moved to another college town. And she settled there and the moment she changed her space, she found that she was overcome with a sense of emotional relief.

I find this really interesting because I think it's easy to underestimate the role that our environment, our physical environment plays in our emotional life. And in fact, our environment contains resources that we can use to manage our emotions if we understand where to find them. So we often talk about attachment.

I find this really interesting because I think it's easy to underestimate the role that our environment, our physical environment plays in our emotional life. And in fact, our environment contains resources that we can use to manage our emotions if we understand where to find them. So we often talk about attachment.

I find this really interesting because I think it's easy to underestimate the role that our environment, our physical environment plays in our emotional life. And in fact, our environment contains resources that we can use to manage our emotions if we understand where to find them. So we often talk about attachment.

I'm sure you've had many scholars on this show talking about the attachments we form to other people and the role they play in our emotional lives. people that we are securely attached with, positively attached to, they can provide a real source of resilience during stressful times. Research shows that we also develop attachments to places.

I'm sure you've had many scholars on this show talking about the attachments we form to other people and the role they play in our emotional lives. people that we are securely attached with, positively attached to, they can provide a real source of resilience during stressful times. Research shows that we also develop attachments to places.

I'm sure you've had many scholars on this show talking about the attachments we form to other people and the role they play in our emotional lives. people that we are securely attached with, positively attached to, they can provide a real source of resilience during stressful times. Research shows that we also develop attachments to places.

So there are places that we are positively connected with. And when we visit those spaces, they elicit a positive emotional response. I used to see this a lot with my daughters when they were little. I remember this was very striking. Whenever they would get really upset about something, either a fight they had with someone at school or maybe if...

So there are places that we are positively connected with. And when we visit those spaces, they elicit a positive emotional response. I used to see this a lot with my daughters when they were little. I remember this was very striking. Whenever they would get really upset about something, either a fight they had with someone at school or maybe if...

So there are places that we are positively connected with. And when we visit those spaces, they elicit a positive emotional response. I used to see this a lot with my daughters when they were little. I remember this was very striking. Whenever they would get really upset about something, either a fight they had with someone at school or maybe if...

they got in trouble with me or my wife, they would instantly say, I just wanna go home. I wanna go to my room. I wanna go to my room. Their room was a place that was a safe place for them, a sense of security. And they intuited this, and when feeling down, wanted to visit it to regain that sense of security.