Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
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Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Yes, thank you for having me. And then when I seen you coming off the elevator, I was like, oh my God! Come here, give me a hug. We were both like, as if we had just like been friends for years. I was like, oh my God. I was like, they want us to do this thing. And then you were just, just so amazing with making it happen and so quick and working with my time and your time. So thank you. Thank you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And you got to learn how to to see in others what you want to see in them and what you want to experience. That has been one of my biggest blessings is what do I want to experience with Crystal? So what lens do I have to see? I have to see that in her because I'm responsible for my experience.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And in a marriage or a relationship, do I want to see my husband as having to be perfect so that I'm always having to find something I can criticize for? Or can I just accept him for being a man and say, that's my husband?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
That's just the stuff, girl, girl. And I take them in dosage sometimes, right? How do we do that? And then the other thing is the Bible says marriage is for disciplined people.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And that's because I have to be disciplined enough to know also how to self-soothe when you're only at 60% of satisfying me. What do I do with that 40%? Do I self-soothe? Do I cheat? Yeah. Do I ridicule you? Do I emasculate you? Does he disempower you? Does he have a side chick for the 40% you can't cover that he knew you couldn't cover when he first met you?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
You knew this when you got with this woman. You knew this. Or when you become the mother of his children, how does he self-soothe while you're transitioning from mommyhood to duality of wife and mommy?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And my first fiance's mom, she was so amazing at this. When we first got engaged, she took me on this ride, girl. And she was like, okay, honey, I got to talk to you. And I'm like, okay. And she's like, you know, I buy you lingerie for birthdays and Christmas. That's for my son, which I loved. I was like, okay.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And she was like, you know, and when y'all have your first kids, I just want you to know. I just want you to know. Now, that hole down there may not work. But as a wife, you have other holes and you have a mouth. His mom said that to you? Let me tell you how genius, though, I thought that was. Because she was looking out for her son.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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She was saying she had been married about 40 years to his father at that time. As a married woman, she's saying, let me just tell you what has worked for us and possibly maybe the mistakes she might have made.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I just thought, wow, if more moms would have that real authentic conversation versus just, you know, honey, just get married and, you know, ride off on a horse in the midnight hours. That doesn't work. It's not that. No. What do we do when I have this baby and he has needs and I can't deliver? What are the alternatives? How do we communicate that?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
How do I make sure that baby and father or husband both feel seen and loved, how do I communicate to him that my hormones are crazy and I need more reassurance?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I'm not insecure. And if I am, so what?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I don't care what title you put to it. Then it's insecure. Then you really need to help me become more secure. I just birthed your baby.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I'm honored to be on your show.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I mean, do you think that's too much for a man to ask for? You had a baby. I mean, I'm not saying the day you come out the hospital, but damn, I mean, a couple of weeks into it, do you think it's too much for him to not demand it, but to say, baby, I'm struggling.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I mean, can I get some head? Yeah. I don't think that's too much. Is that too much? No, it's not. Or is that just adulting? It's adulting. And him being vulnerable enough to say... I got needs. I got needs. And I'm not even thinking about stepping out on you. Hand job, mouth job, something.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
One day they love me. And the next day they hate me. But the cool thing is that every day I love myself.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
While you're doing things, I need to be seen.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Text me when you land. Ask me where I am. Bug me throughout the day. I'm the same woman.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Love me like this. Don't love me like this.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
This is such an unpopular opinion, but when I say it, all the women tend to go, yes, sis, I feel the same way, but he said I was insecure. I always ask, how do you feel about your woman having your password to your phone or to your laptop and having full access? That's the first thing I want to know. Because again, being loved like this means we're orbiting. It means I have access.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I'm not allowing you to access my body if I can't access your shit. I'm not doing it. I have not and I won't. And so that's the first question.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Oh, I've had some men be like, like password to my phone. Like, I just feel like, you know, if you're going to trust me, then you trust me. You don't need to have access. And in my personal experience, I go red flag womanizer. Red flag womanizer. And womanizer just means you got something going on, you're manipulative, you're sneaky, you got something that you're not transparent about.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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I am not into honesty, I'm into transparency. I don't want to have to ask you 15 questions to get you to be honest with me. I like transparency. Baby, I was on my way home and I got an email from my ex-girlfriend and I forwarded it to you, this is what she said. Okay, Daddy, you hungry? I got dinner cooked. That's me. I don't want to have to ask you anything because I'm not the woman that see.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And because I'm not going to sneak and go through your phone, and I don't want to, I'm not going to try to learn your password, I need to make sure that I have full access. Because in my last relationship, I had full access, and I would sit with him in bed and be like, Babe, let me see your phone real quick. And he would just go. Now, sometimes, because I think he knew, like, okay,
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I think in his mind, knowing my personality, he was like, either she's doing it to flex her control. I'm just being transparent and being very accountable. Or like, babe, how many times do you need to look at my phone before you're reassured? I'm just speaking real from what I felt a man would think, right? But he would always go right to the game.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And sometimes I would joke and I would be like, nervous? You nervous?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
The wedding is like in two months. And he'd be like, I'll He'd be like, you look in it anyways. I know you do. But he also had access to mine. Did he look at your phone? Well, if I'm in the shower, he'd go, your mama calling. So you looking to see who calls. Or sometimes I say, baby, text her back and tell her this and that. I did that for one of two things. One, I wanted him to text mama back.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
But two, I wanted him to know I'm reassuring you too. And you can text back. You can respond. You have that access. You have that authority. You're my man. You're mine. We're getting married. And I'm transparent. And if there's something you see in there and we need to talk about and I need to shift, I'm willing to shift it. No big deal.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
But luckily, knock on wood, with both of my engagements, with full access, I've never ran into anything, I've never seen, I mean, I've had access to Facebook pages, social media, but for me, that is my reassurance. And I like that type of access. And so, again, on the first date, if a man is like, nah, that ain't me, then I don't just walk off the dinner.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I'm mature, but I do understand that that's not my type of guy. And I've had men follow up like date number two, and I say, look, I don't want to waste your time. I am a woman who's an access woman, and I just would never even be intimate with you if I can't access what's going on. Because if there is a disease or if there is something coming from someone, it's in that phone. It's in that phone.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
i love that um well one having an amazing ecosystem i have best friends uh lola gina kia that just surround me with love when i say they support me sis um these women root for me these are 25 plus year friendships i could be all of myself the loving nurturing catering submissive me the the fussy bratty
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I'm not playing with my body. I'm not playing with my heart. And so I'm good. I love that.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And again, I say this with all the compassion for the women who have been left.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I think if I was the one being left, I probably would be on the other side of the emotion. I probably would maybe feel a little disempowered or kind of like, what am I not doing right or why me? But being that I was the one that was pursued, obviously. Right. And I pursued back once I wanted them and asked.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
right, and chose and chose back, and then I did the leaving and I called off both engagements or both weddings, as crazy as it sounds, it does put, it gives me leverage.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
It puts me in a position of power, not a power where I'm taking advantage of, a power of I did the leaving, so I'm still the woman who was desired, pursued, they still wanted the relationship when I left, and I didn't leave because they weren't great men, I left because they weren't my men forever.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I wasn't gonna continue to be in a relationship, even with my last fiance, where I was fully taken care of. I didn't pay a bill, buy a grape. I made sure he had food, I was cooking, I was definitely fully submissive to whatever he needed, which I loved, by the way. I love that. I love that role, just so you men know. I love that submission role. So you can take care of me any day.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
But I still wasn't gonna stay in a relationship allow him to take full care of me right knowing that I didn't want to be with this man I wasn't staying to use him I wasn't staying to be taken care of he didn't take care of me because I didn't have my own I was a doctor already I have my own money I have my own reserves and I also didn't need him to
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
to support me in the sense of once I left, you know, he was giving me money to leave. No, when we left, we left. And my last text message to him was, I left the house. Thank you for taking such great care of me. I am so grateful for you. Continue blessings. And he texted me back and said, same to you. You know, thank you for everything. Continue blessings. It wasn't bitter.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
But I thanked him because what he... that man took care of us. I mean, like literally was a retired basketball player and was doing okay, but went and got a second regular job, Crystal, to make sure he can fit me into his world. And to me, that is just so just admirable. And when you see a man put in that much effort, my opinion is, I don't care how alpha you are, you peak your submissive.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And that was my first time where I literally, organically, my alpha was like doormat and my submissive was like fully flamed. And I fell in love with me probably more than he did because I was like, oh, this submissive woman is, she's everything. I love this. And yeah, anything he needed, he can come home at 12 from working out. And he's like, I'm hungry. I'm like, what do you want? No problem.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Put my little gospel music on and I'm in that kitchen at 12 a.m. cooking, having a good time. So they do exist. But you just have to make sure that you're choosing what works for you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I actually love myself. So I don't date men with kids. And he knew that when we first started dating. I obviously knew that he had two beautiful young adult daughters, but we still both continued to pursue each other. and ended up in a relationship, ended up loving each other and engaged. And we would sit in bed, Crystal, we'd have the most amazing day, things would be good.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
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i'm just hungry it's that time of the month you know i want a burger from mcdonald's me they just get me and it's reciprocal um my best friend travels with me everywhere she's my assistant as well lola yeah she's very protective over me and so that gives me cushion my mom who is my only living parent now she cooks cleans she lives with me
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And I would just lay in bed and I say, babe, and I'm like, baby, he's like, yup. I'm like, I'm having those feels again. And he's like, what? And I'm like, I love that we're a family, because we were. The girls would come and we'd have dinner. I'd cook. But I'm like, I love our family unit. It's not your girls at all. They did nothing derogatory to the relationship. I mean, he made it a breeze.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
There was no baby mama drama. I never even met their mamas. The oldest daughter would talk to me about her mom and some concerns they would have. And I would totally facilitate it, be open. I would work out what his girls eat. I mean, it was never them. And even after we broke up, me and his daughter, she still kept in contact. But I say that to say, I would say, it's not you. It's not them.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
It's me. My spirit isn't letting me go against... my values of what I don't want. I come from a father who has six of us by five different women. And since I can remember speaking and thinking, I used to say, daddy, I love all my siblings, but I don't like that you did this with five women. And I don't want that. And my ex fiance had two beautiful girls by two different women.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
So you said you were seeing my dad was my baby And I and I know you think he's different cuz it's too he's not why he's not He's not so I told you You know, we had this agreement and I was like, but daddy he takes care of me and he loves me and we're good And my dad was like baby. Wow, I'm telling you hold off on the wedding hold off and so would have these conversations.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And when I learned that there was nothing he could do to shift how I felt in here, and it wasn't his responsibility to shift me, I had to be authentic and really show my love for him and say, I can't be married and have kids. And it's continued to be this burden on us. And you try to facilitate it. And through a lot of those spaces, it will cause some conflict.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And he wasn't always able to have the emotional intelligence needed to totally facilitate us through certain things. And so I started saying, you know, well, what have I become when I am pregnant, we're married and are pregnant and I'm having these, these moments and he's not able to facilitate me. He's shutting down for four or five days and we're in the house together.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And mind you, he was 14 years older than me. And so in my mind, I'm thinking,
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
which most of us think older man the maturity is going to be there yeah he can facilitate this that's not an age thing that's just an experience and wisdom thing yeah and and and to his defense you know i believe he tried his best to but when it came to us having friction the second part of it was he was still very into that unemotional intelligence where girl we go five days without talking in the same house oh no and i said baby i can't be married like that don't
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
So two things, it was duality of you have these beautiful girls who have nothing to do with my decision. It's all my values and what I want. And the other thing is you're not able to problem solve and bring resolve quick enough in this house.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
um and she treats me like i'm four years old and as crazy as that sounds i feel like it's important for all of us to be somebody's baby no matter how old we are and still being her baby um it just it it it's my it's like it helps me be vertical and it gives me a lot to stand on so no matter where i'm at in the world no matter what the blogs or the people are saying in that moment in that space
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I think no. I think God would have found a gentle way like he did in this relationship to sever it because God knows my heart. And like you said, I know the plans that I have for you, plans to prosper you and give you a good life. And I know that he knows a good life for me is me, my husband, and our babies. And God built me, so he knows how he built my little territorial self.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And he knows that I don't want to look across the room and see my husband... As selfish as it may sound for others, for me, it's not selfish. It's me. I don't want to look across the room and see my husband engaging, interacting with someone else's child. That's not mine. The second thing is I'm a type of woman that if I'm with a man with kids, I'm fully invested.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Those kids will be treated no different than my kids. I will love and invest in them, like their minds. And just like when him and I, when I called off the wedding, I left. He got to keep the family. I left as a single woman having to go create my own family.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
So that's an investment a lot of women and men make where they're coming in and being step-mom or step-daddy, and if that relationship ends, those kids are not yours. It's very rare that those kids roll with you. When mom or dad gets another relationship, guess what? It's the next step-mommy or daddy. So where did the return on your investment go?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And if my friendships aren't on that foundation, guess what? I don't want them.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
is more the relationship for me, regardless. And so through my experiences, I know the no kid guy, that's my guy. I'm able to be fully open, fully present with him. There's just, that's my thing. I just have to have that. That's a non-negotiable. The second thing is,
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
you know faith is an action word and you know I was a little girl in the inner city a product of two parents who were teenagers my mom was addicted to the drug that my father sold and she's now sober thank God and she's killing the game VP of my company got her own business she's doing her thing and my father
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
has transitioned last year, he passed away, but before he passed away, he was a family man, he was a longshoreman, he was working, so he transitioned out that lifestyle. I say that to say that God took a little girl in the inner city with abandonment issues and took my broken pieces and made peace from it. He took a little girl in the inner city and took me from the hood to the hills.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I have these people that I stand on. And so it feels really good. And in addition, I meditate every day for 20 minutes. I've been doing that for 10 years. I'm big on Abraham Hicks, Bishop Jakes. I'm always listening to my audio books. I'm not a TV person, although I don't watch TV, but I did love your, as a team, a show.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And there hasn't been one promise he hasn't one kept or doubled down on. And so when I had that conversation with God, he checks me and he says, I'm confused. How much more do I need to do for you to trust that what you want will prevail? How much more do I need to do for you to understand that maybe it's your career that I need you to do right now?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Because if you have that husband, the type of woman that you are that loves the way you love, you might just put this career aside. And I know how you are. And so let me do what I do if you're going to be in my will.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And because of my faith in him and the way he shows up every day, I will be completely dishonoring him and myself, completely disrespecting God and myself to believe or disbelieve that the desires of my heart won't come to pass. And so I'm that woman. I understand Abraham and Sarah. You know, I'm not saying I want to wait till I'm 80, but what happened with Sarah?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
She wanted a baby and she wasn't barren, right? And Abraham was 80. And she said, we're going to have a baby with the maid. And as soon as he got the maid pregnant, Sarah ended up pregnant. And God said, you just couldn't wait a little longer. And then when the maid got pregnant, Sarah said, get rid of this, excuse my language, but she got to go. Because now I'm bearing your child.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And Abraham was such a G and such a good man. And Sarah, he told the maid, good day. God had a conversation with the maid in the desert and said, listen, you go back because you don't know who you're carrying.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
baby, I'm not, listen, ain't no maid finna be pregnant with my blessing. I refuse. And I believe and trust that when it's right, it'll happen. And I really know that that is what allows me not to react or be in despair when I'm dating. That's what gives me the verticalness of being able to stand vertical in what I want and not waver in it. Because God's like, what you wanna do?
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Because you're gonna get your blessing either way. You're either gonna get it after the maid gets it, or you gonna wait and have what you want.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I used to go in there and be like, I'm gonna binge watch this even though I don't watch TV. But so I do all those things and that helps keep the outside chatter completely outside. A ship sails as long as the outside water doesn't get inside. And the ship that, the material that the ship is built with, I would say is your friends, your family, the people who support you, who love you.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I would say the big home for feeling homeless.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
i wonder what it would have been like it wouldn't have been like this right you know because there's amount of energy that you have to put into your career to get to the level that you want to get to so i'm with you on that that's good yeah and i'm awake god blesses the bold and he blesses at the level of our belief he does yeah anything that we want i feel like once we pray and every thought every words of prayer prayer is not just this i feel like it goes out to the download system
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
and it sits there waiting for our belief to align with it. When our belief aligns with it, it downloads. And I used to, I was poking at God more like, I think maybe about 10 years ago or so. And I was like, why are you taking so long? You know, and I was, I'm not gonna lie. I was actually mad at him. I was mad. And I said, I'm mad at you. And he's like, well, let's talk about it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
And so we had this conversation and he said, what have I told you to trust me? That I know where I'm going with this. And that I just, I know your heart. I know the plans. And I said, I commit to trusting you. And he said, listen, you've always said that you didn't want to be, I always use Kobe Bryant because I love him. One of my favorite players, rest in peace.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
You always said you didn't want to be Kobe Bryant's wife. You wanted to be, Cheyenne Bryant, who's married to Kobe Bryant. He says, so let me establish you. And you know what it says, right? It says, those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength. He said, I will establish you and make you perfect. You'll mount up on wings like eagles. You'll walk and not get weary.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
If you got folks who are solid and who are built, that ship is going to sail no matter what. And their job is to make sure that the outside chatter stays out. And then my job is to do that as well with them. And we do a damn good job over here.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
You'll run and not faint. Baby, I'm doing all those things. I'm doing all those things. And I'm more vertical and more healthy than I've ever been. I told my best friend about a month ago, I said, girl, I'm the healthiest I've ever been. And I'm not just talking about because I got money and confidence. This is before even all this viral shit even happened.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I was like, girl, I'm the healthiest I've ever been. I've never felt so full. And I want to tell the women, my prayer was, God, okay, if you're going to have me wait, no problem. But can we negotiate? And he said, what? Because he knows how I am. He's like, what, woman? I said, can you just fill me up? Top me off.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
as though I already have the husband as though I already have the kids so that the despair and in the turmoil doesn't cause a conflict where I can't show up in your will I want to show up full for you and he said bet you got a deal and I'm not playing I have been filled up and topped off as though the husband and the kids I've been so full so full and this has been for the past maybe
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Three or four years, I've just been full. And so I don't feel the lack of there not being a presence of my husband and my kids.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
So by the time the husband does get here, I'm choosing again from my fullness. I'm not choosing from my deficit.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I'm telling you, anything you ask,
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
You know, to your point, it's funny. The doctor told you you were too old. The doctor had been telling me, let's freeze your eggs. You have eight follicles over here and you have 11 follicles over here. Let's do it.
Keep it Positive, Sweetie
The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
But see, and then that's what I mean by just people going to get...
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The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I mean, I have a team, I'm telling you, because we have a real marriage where marriage is not about Kumbaya, it's about commitment. It's about, I said I was going to lock in with you, Crystal, and be your best friend. And no matter what happens, I already forgive you. And no matter what happens, I'm going to talk it out. I'm going to have a conversation. And divorce ain't an option.
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To see the eggs are pulling out. Yes, it is.
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The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I know. You know what? So if I do decide to do it natural without, I ain't frozen eggs yet. But I do know that I told God, you know, we'll see if God aligns with my plan. He usually does it. But I tried it. I tried it. I did say by the end of next year.
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I want to be in a place of where I'm doing the do with someone who is going to be my forever do. And we're just in our baby making season. But I told God I don't want it until it's on his time.
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But to sustain me, keep me topped off because I love it here. I just, I love it here. So I'm like, I keep it here. And I, and I, it's easier for me to stay directly in your will.
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yeah i love that similar to your father my dad was just the daddy of the year you know he was um again a street dude and so i was i'm a product of a street dude at that time when i was young so you know he was providing for sure yeah we had the street money he was definitely protecting because he was a very well respected og in his neighborhood um and so the provision the protection
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was there, but he was a womanizer. He always had multiple women. He didn't hide that to me or my siblings. He wasn't the daddy who would hide his hand, but tell you something else, he was very transparent. And what I love most about him is he would always tell me, If a man looks like me, speaks like me, smells like me, does anything like me, no, red flag. Do not date him.
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It's a no, and you damn sure better not bring him home.
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Because somebody will end up dead or in jail. Don't do it. And I stuck to that, but I remember there was one time I was dating a guy, and he was a street guy. Mm-hmm. I really was liking him. And I was like, ooh, daddy. And he did give me the daddy vibes. I mean, my daddy vibes. And I remember my dad seeing a picture and was like, no. And my dad called me every day, Crystal, for two weeks.
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Two or three times a day. Get rid of him.
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Of course, I got rid of him. But it wasn't because my dad said it. It was because my dad was right. He was right. And so for me... I just feel like when you start to create all these houses that are homeless, I think it's a self-projection of men who are overcompensating for what they've been missing.
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I think that they are projecting onto all these houses, which is a whole generation of kiddos and women, their mommy issues, their daddy issues, and their own inadequacies. I think it's unfair to the kids. And no matter how good of a father you are, just like your father, You can't be in the home with all of us. And so I'm not waking up on Christmas morning with you.
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So we have no other option but to bring resolve in this friendship. And if my friendships aren't on that foundation, guess what? I don't want them.
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I'm still having to either travel to you or you to me. And it's just unfair to all the other kids. There's seven of us and we're all close for the most part. My sister, who is not, she's my father's daughter. She's not my mother's daughter. she's at my home now with my mom staying there because she lives in Vegas, but she has a new job in LA and she calls my mom, mama. My mom cooks for her.
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My mom cleans behind her. My mom packs her lunch to go to work. Crystal, my mama, they go get massaged. When I, they FaceTime me, it's her and mama. And so I love this. This is where the oxymoron comes on. I love that it's seven of us. And I love that I'm the oldest. And I love that my mama is the mama to all of them. But I tell my mom, you have to be built a certain way to do that.
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Marriage is not about kumbaya, it's about commitment. It's about, I said I was going to lock in with you, Crystal, and be your best friend. And no matter what happens, I already forgive you. And no matter what happens, I'm going to talk it out. I'm going to have a conversation. And divorce ain't an option. So we have no other option but to bring resolve in this friendship.
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And she always says, yeah, but I was the first baby mama. And I said, that's right, mama. She said, if I wasn't the first, I wouldn't have did it, shy. She says, so mama agrees with you. Go get you a man. Like I thought I had with your dad where there's no kids and starts your own family. She said, all I wanted was a family. didn't know he was gonna go out and have multiple kids.
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So I just feel like it's a disservice to everybody who's involved until everyone gets to a place of maturity and becoming older and we're able to process how do we blend and how do we all equally get our love and our time with this parent.
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Truly honored to be the NAACP president of the law in Los Angeles for I think it's been like 12 years now I was like the young girl years I was the youngest president to come in and with in my sitting in my branch Yeah, and I was the first woman we had all male leaderships who did a great job before me by the way Yeah, but I just happened to come in and continue to do their great work but I think most importantly is
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The messages to Kamala is that, you know, says, you know, you ran the best election you could run. But I think that her leadership can't stop with this loss of the election. I think that she has to still mobilize our people. I think she should still be speaking to us as a leader. I think she should still be
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Because I tell my girls all the time, my best friend may be like, you didn't have to say it like that. I said, girl, what were we going to do to get over it?
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putting together different, not policies, but different call of actions for us as a community to continue to be inspired. Leadership doesn't stop when you take an L. Leadership continues if you're really in it for the right reasons. I know she didn't show up at Howard, H-U, which is her alumni. to address those kids and people who supported her.
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I didn't think that was a good leadership characteristic. I'm just going to say it. Even though, you know, I supported Kamala, I voted for her, I just think that wasn't a good leadership role for her to take. And then she sent a man, a black man, out there to do her job.
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To me, that reinforced the people who aren't ready to have a woman president and a black woman president that says, look, she sent a man out there to do her job. Oof. You see, and so that's the rhetoric, right? But I think that that conversation, I think that people like yourself, people like me, you don't need a title to be a leader. You don't need education to be a leader.
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If you feel passionate about something, you are a leader. Take that passion, create a committee, create a group, start the conversation, and really start to try to mobilize people around what you're passionate about within your community, and then join your local NAACP BRANCHES, JOIN ANOTHER ORGANIZATION THAT YOU FEEL IS BLACK, BROWN MINORITY THAT CAN PUSH SOME THINGS OUT.
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AND I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT WE CONTINUE TO DO THAT. AND MORE THAN THAT THOUGH, KRISTAL, I FEEL LIKE AS A COMMUNITY OF BLACK PEOPLE, NOT REPUBLICANS OR DEMOCRATS, BUT BLACK PEOPLE, WE NEED TO BECOME STRATEGIC.
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listen um i must go there white people are very strategic in their politics they're very strategic in their business ticks yes so they are planning things out trump appointed a superior court judge four years ago he sure did who was pardoning him four years later for all of his felons he had someone write up qualified immunity for him as a president yeah i mean this that's our strategy yes we have to become a very strategic uh
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community and not just a very here and now what's going on. Now we got to start to strategize. Well, who's the next young council woman or man who's black that's going to run for our local cities? Who's going to be our next black Senate? Because we also didn't take the House or the seats. Who is going to be the person who's going to run for president?
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I always joke and say it might be me in four years, but it might be a joke, not a joke. I might have a belly on baby number two and a husband by then running for office.
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Vote for me. But we got to figure out. And then when, say Kamala, she didn't get an office, but she needs to set up this young black leadership and start to groom them. See, grooming sometimes is done in the wrong way. We need to groom in the right, positive way and strategize who we put in an office from Senate to city council to Congress all the way through, even down to police chiefs.
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of our communities can we get a black woman can we get a black young man someone in their 30s yeah let's groom these folks so that they are mobilized they are inspired to do more and we have to support them one thing about um one of my co-hosts brie renee she's a millennial she's always screaming yeah she's always screaming no one supports us i'm like girl y'all just lazy but
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To her point, there are some that are just lazy, but to her point, they do need support. They do need the people who came before them, who are running organizations like myself, who are speaking at big schools, who are going to the capital to say, all right, so what are you passionate about? Like I told Bri, you can join my NAACP. I will give you an entire committee to put together.
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I'll put you on the executive board. What you going to do with it? I want to see you run something. And so we have to be able to be willing to put them in position and not be this crabs in a bucket. Because we're not crabs in a bucket. You know, there's room for all of us and we don't have to be in competition with each other.
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We need leadership more now than
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I either FaceTime my mom or my little brother Shane. And if he doesn't answer, I'm sending him all kinds of emojis like, what the hell are you doing? That's my detail. I get to poke at him. He's 11 years younger than me. Or meditating. And then
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As crazy as it sounds, I have a, you know, and I say this with all humility, I have a beautiful, really big home right Our lot, not the property, our lot is 24,000 square feet. We're a horse zone. We got a pool, a pool house, a game room. And we didn't always have that. I always say we went from the hood to the heels.
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what umbrellas all of that is i put on a good bishop jakes i love him i don't play about my bishop listen listen yeah and if i choose you i'm rolling with you i'm i told you i'm committed like that with friendships oh well whatever going on bishop going on but you my bishop i put on sermons from 25 years ago up until 10 years ago
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And I play that or I go to a really good Abraham Hicks video on YouTube where she talks about law of attraction. And she talks about the belief and your responsibility. And she also ties in the Bible verse, which is one of my favorite. Think only on these things that are good, that are prosperous and keeping that are praiseworthy. And so I remind myself, shy. Would you pray for this?
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If it's a hard no. Next thought. If it's a yes, I penetrate that thought. And so I go to these, for me, the bishops. And sometimes Sarah, because she's been preaching more for him now. But I'm still a bishop. I'm still like the old school bishop. He just has a way about me, the voice and the presence. I do that. You know, I like me time. I find that it's solitude.
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So I can sit for 45 minutes, just be in my solitude. And I also find that that's a way for me to allow God to speak to me. And the relationship that we have is very humorous. There's a lot of...
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you know who's your daddy i told you so and i'm always laughing at him and when you build a relationship with god that's past principles past biblical past church past religion um you get to meet yourself yeah in him the true essence of who you are and it's really beautiful and it's really light and it's really fun and um that's where you become extremely fearless too.
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Love that. So I have my new talk show, True Talks on Fox. So Monday through Friday, 8 p.m. Eastern. I have my new book called The Divine Wilderness that should be out next year for sure. It's y'all. This book we use. I'm using, listen, the Moses journey metaphor with the rest and the promise on the wilderness.
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Yeah, I'm going to have to be ready for this book. My goodness.
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The Strength In Submission w/Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
I have my online hybrid certification program where I certify other existing therapists and psychologists and coaches and new coaches on how to apply my hybrid modality, which is, you know, therapy and coaching, because I started off as a marriage family child therapist, transitioned into a life coach, psychology expert. So I couple that and it's called a hybrid effect.
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So anyways, I have my online school that Registration has just opened up and we have a lot of students who have taken the course and have really amazing, successful practices where they're healing and changing lives just like me. And they're just maybe not on these huge platforms, but they're doing it just as good as me, if not better. I mean, I'm so proud of my students.
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And my favorite place, it's like a retreat there to vacation, and I have the big mama houses at home with my mom. And we have a pool day, and my friends and family come over, and my bishop comes over, and my pastor comes over with First Lady. And we have board games, and we drink our wine, and we have our drink.
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I have my speaking tour every weekend for the next year. What? I am on a speaking tour every weekend. So I am on tonight's conversation speaking tour coupled with my own Dr. Brian speaking tour. I have my own Chicago outside of tonight's conversation. I have Iowa. I have Michigan again, Detroit. We have LA and this is outside tonight's conversation. But then we also have their tour.
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So I've co-mingled them too. Wow. Yeah, I have a lot of stuff. You are busy. And hopefully, you know, I have the husband and the kids.
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And thank you for having this platform because I've watched some of your some of your episodes, and they have all been so informative, so emotionally just inclined, so touching. And I stick to the Bishop Jakes and the Abraham Hicks because it's hard for me to learn a lot. I resonate with a lot, but I don't learn a lot because of how much I do read and how much I am doing what I do every day.
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But I've learned a lot from watching your episodes, seriously, and your podcast. when they were poking at me to be on the show, I'm like, go tell her I'm waiting and I'm waiting.
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So thank you for having this platform, because whether you know it or not, and I believe you know it, You're changing lives because a lot of women can relate to you. They are relating to you. And you're so vulnerable about just your journey of the single woman and wanting to be a mom. And that is more of our story than a lot of women know.
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And you're giving women a space to feel heard, to feel understood and to feel valued without having to be a mom or a wife. And that's huge. We need that. It is. And that in itself is what leadership looks like.
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we're just shooting the shit, literally, and talking loud, and having a good time, and my hair's in a bird's nest, and I'm running around in a bathing suit, and everybody is at home. And as crazy as that sounds, that's my vacation.
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And then being with my, with my, uh, my mother, She is a ball of energy. She is hilarious. She's catering. She's loving. So for me, like she creates this space, right? Like I always say, I bought the, I did, I bought the house, but my mama makes it a home. She really does. And so, but for me, that's where I go home and I'm just like, mommy, mama, you know? And so that's my vacation.
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And so, I mean, we got a planned vacation, but my mom, she's like, if it's over four hours, I'm not traveling no effing way.
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And she's like just stalling on getting her passport. It's so cute. So we took her to Hawaii and she hit about that third hour on that flight. She was fussing and cutting up.
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And also I'm in session from 8 a.m. to 5 p.m. I leave at 5.15 to go on set at 6 to film my new talk show. And then I'm home at 11.30. And it's Truth Talks. It's called Truth Talks on Fox.
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Thank you. So I don't think I've really been getting out. I know at home in L.A. I have this thing where I practice what I preach. I've committed to get out minimum twice a week to do something non-work related and super social and be in the environment with the men who I would want to date. And so I make sure I do that at home in L.A. But in Atlanta, I haven't done it.
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But also, I'm like, where do I go? I don't have any friends. I don't know anyone. But I don't see a lot of just men out where I'm like, ooh, I want to flirt back.
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Wait, looking to date, you ain't dating no more?
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Oh, girl, you know, so I do rooftops. I love your rooftops. I know. I do rooftops. I'm president of NAACP in Los Angeles. And so I go to a lot of political events. I do. I go to a lot of... This was election year, so I was at a lot of different campaigns that my Cal group put together fundraisers.
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We did fundraisers for our mayor, Karen Bass, and there were a lot of really good-looking men there who were contributors to the campaign, so we know they got the money to contribute. Come on.
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we know they know their politics so they're intelligent you know they can do some good pillow talk so i was there and met a couple guys went on some dates and i do have guys that i go on dates with and no disrespect to them because they're all amazing men but there hasn't been anyone that i've been on dates with that I wanna just continue to date for the rest of my life.
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And so I've been saying for the past, since I turned 42 in September, I'm like, I'm in my choosing stage, I'm gonna choose. But I ain't got no one come that I wanna choose. And it's not to say they're not, And they're not really good men. What's missing? What are those things that you're like, that's what I'm looking for? I love this. I love this.
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So I have this thing where I tell my clients this all the time, even the ones who are already married. I said, did you choose marriage or did you choose him or her? Because, see, I'm not a woman who's choosing marriage, right? I had a father, and no pun intended to the fatherless girls, because that's a hard space to navigate.
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And I don't understand that personally, but I understand that because I've been helping women navigate that for 16 plus years. But I had a father. He was participatory. He was my best friend. He doted on me. He loved me. I was his everything. I was one of his biggest investments besides all the other six of us that he has. But I said that to say, so...
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I'm not choosing marriage because I need a title validation or something that I can just hang up like an ornament I'm really choosing a person and so when you choose a person that's when marriage lasts because if I'm choosing you I'm plugged into you and that means that I literally can't go outside of you and find another you but if I choose marriage I can take that title and put that on anybody right so that's how marriage is able to dissipate so quick and the divorce rate is so high because it's like look I was choosing marriage to begin with
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I never chose you anyway, so I can just go choose me another pretty thing like you put marriage on her and be in a marriage, but not in a relationship. And so when I'm out with men, I'm like, Two things. Would I want my son to be like you? If it's a no, then it's a no. Can I really choose you? Like when things get hard, am I willing to just forgive you about everything?
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Because I'm not leaving my husband. And that's why I don't think women or men who stay through anything except abuse, of course, are dumb. You know, I don't think, Envy asked me on Breakfast Club, he said, do you think if a woman stays in a marriage after she's been cheated on, she's dumb? I said, I don't think she's dumb.
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no that's her husband that's her family if she wants to stay I think she needs to get the right tools to learn how to be in an infidelity relationship right because there's that takes a shift in who you are as a woman that so that you could still be submissive to this man and still treat him as a king and not see him as less valuable in that so for me it's just it's like do well I
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God forbid you end up stepping out on me or doing things that dishonor me because you're human, not because you're a bad man. well, I want to work that out with you because you're just my person. When that presents itself, I'm locking in. I'm having babies. And I don't condone the cheating, but I'm not leaving my husband.
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Folks have been married 15 20 30 40 years. They're not teaching you how to be happy They're teaching you how to stick through the BS that's gonna come with life Whether you're single or married right right no matter what you're doing life is gone life And they're teaching you that when y'all get to this space when you get to this Red Sea yeah don't get weary in well doing, it'll split.
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And so it's telling you, when you get to the other side, there's a promised land or a wilderness depending on what you choose. And if you choose to complain after the Red Sea has split, God will give you manna and water to help you sustain that wilderness, but he'll put you in that wilderness for 40 years before you get to the promised land.
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and so that's why i said it's not about a woman or a man being dumb for staying through anything in their marriage or even relationship it's about do you have the effective tools to not end up in a wilderness 20 30 more years in your marriage because you're resentful for staying with this person for what you know they did yeah how do you actively forgive because forgiveness is an action word yeah and how can you still love them and honor them
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when they just dishonored you. Cause that's real.
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And so I'm working on that before I get into that. And I feel like me coming in open-minded, without all of these conditions in compartmentalizing like I did in my younger days when I was engaged, coming in with these conditions, if this happens, if this happens, I'm done. Well, baby, you already done.
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And if you have this fairytale ideology, fairytales end at some point.