Dave White
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Episode 667: The Zodiac Killer (Part 1)
Hey, weirdos, if Ash and Elena's episode on Ken McElroy left you wondering how someone could become so cruel, manipulative and untouchable, you'll want to hear my psychological breakdown of this case on my podcast, Killer Psyche. I examined the twisted mindset behind McElroy's reign of terror, how he exploited fear, used charm as a weapon and turned an entire town into his victims.
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Episode 667: The Zodiac Killer (Part 1)
Understanding what made him tick is exactly the kind of insight I bring on Killer Psyche, where I use my experience profiling criminals for the FBI to uncover what drives people like Ken McElroy to become predators. So if you're curious about the mind behind the mayhem, join me for an inside look at the psychology of a man who got away with everything until he didn't.
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Episode 667: The Zodiac Killer (Part 1)
Follow Killer Psyche on the Wondery app or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you listen to this show, you know that men's mental health throughout history has been a little stigmatized, not been prioritized. It is okay to struggle. Real strength, though, comes from opening up about what you're carrying and doing something about it so that you can be at your best for yourself and everybody else in your life.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Do it. So that was delightful. That was super fun. It was a nice little treat yourself day. Yeah, it was. What else is going on?
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I can focus on what matters, rest easier, and go about my day knowing that SimpliSafe has my back in a crisis. And I want you to have that same confidence too, because it's not just the mundane day-to-days. We all go on vacation. Sometimes you're away from your home for like a full week. And what I love about SimpliSafe is that you can be at home with the click of a button.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Especially back then when you had no resources really to count on as far as therapy and mental health help.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
That must have been real scary.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And we can say, Pope Liar.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Because you know what you're doing is wrong. And you're not even just... To have the wherewithal to think... Like that clearly while beating someone.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Glenn seems like the best guy.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Yeah, that's what I feel. And I think the Celtics, we just have to hope and pray that they're going to make history for another year. Yeah. This is all on purpose. It's not at all, but I know. I just became a fan, so let me have this. I'm sitting here in my brand new Celtics sweatshirt.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
That's terrifying because it sounds like Christmas. Yeah. Yeah. If you're listening to this podcast, you know that a day can change in an instant. How many stories have we told where one little thing just snowballed out of control and led down some really dark paths? Well, you know what? We need some nourishment so that we can stay sharp and out of danger.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And Kachava whole body meal shakes will keep your body and mind nourished all day and ready for anything. Here's the deal. When I first heard about cachava, I said, yeah, sure, that sounds great, but I've tasted a million gajillion protein drinks and they all taste pretty yucky. Not. Cachava, I'm so happy I gave it a chance because this drink is actually delicious.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I've tried greens powders before. i've tried different protein powders and i've never really liked any of them until i tried cachava they have so many flavors to choose from there's chocolate vanilla chai matcha and coconut acai personally i like to mix the vanilla and the chai together i do a scoop of each it's delicious and i love that it has 25 grams of plant protein that is
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
It's a personal finance app that helps find and cancel your unwanted subscriptions, monitors your spending, and helps you lower your bills so that you can grow your savings. What's awesome is that you can see all of your subscriptions in one place. It's all consolidated so you know exactly where your money is going.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I'm a fan no matter how it's going. It's true.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
You had to do a blood test?
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
But I hope it upticks. I also hope that. We are on the precipice of game three. We'll let you know, guys. I know. But of course, happy Mother's Day, everybody. Mother's Day weekend, we have to like go do stuff. There's a Celtics game. I'm like... Gosh darn it. I'm going to be like that sports bro at the table with my phone. Watching it on your phone. I know.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Also, I wonder why second degree.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
The projection here is wild.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Because I wonder what he would have required aside from something wheelchair accessible. I think that's enough. That's it, right? I think that's enough for it. And they didn't have anything.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
We don't have any like cool traditions.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
She didn't do anything wrong.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And those were the only two of the daughters left in his care, right? Because Deborah had moved out early on. And she was older.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
It's a very sad situation. I'm sure being in a relationship like that, like, fucking alters your brain chemistry.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And have children with somebody and love them.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Like, that's just a level. For your father to kill your husband, like, days before you're to marry him.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Not go to prison because of all the different circumstances. Finally get away from him, even though, like, his family thinks that it's your fault. Then you get to go live with your mother again. And she brings that man back into your life.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Because that's just such, like, trauma on top of trauma on top of trauma.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
So we might have a Leo dynasty happening. Jesus's word will be pretty lit for the next 20 years. It will be pretty lit for a while.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
So she goes back, and does he step out again? Yeah.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I can understand, I'm sure, like, I can't understand it. No. But I'm sure in her mind... It was important for them to have their father.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And we have to remember that we're looking at this through a lens where like we know so much. about so much now that we didn't know about back then.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Well, I think when you have such a shitty parent, like you, all you want is for them to be better. Yeah. And all you want, like abandonment issues are insane. Like these, I can't imagine what these kids must have felt.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Yeah. And they do. And they do. Like I, I'm fine. I'm very well adjusted, but like I still struggle with that shit. I'm sure. So if you, if your parent is actually making the effort, that's all you want. So of course you're going to go along with it. I mean, obviously I've just never been in a position of somebody making effort.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Well, no, they're always your parents when your parents suck. I think it's so hard to make those kind of decisions like when somebody is making an effort because you're always their child.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And you go back into the role of being the child.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And feeling the things that you felt when you were a child, like wanting your parent.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I'm just thinking of how therapy just was not a thing back then. Not really at all. I would be so different if I hadn't done years and years of therapy.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
That's the thing with Donna.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And you're supposed to protect her.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I also think it's probably – and I'm sure people listening feel this way. It's so – again, I can't understand, but I can have empathy. But it is hard to have empathy in a situation like this. Oh, my God, yeah. I haven't even gone through something similar to that. Exactly. At all. But like – When somebody wrongs their child and you're a child who's been wronged, you're just like, God damn it.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
You think of your kids? And like, frankly, like just for everybody who thinks that me and Elena have a weird relationship, Elena's my protector. Like genuinely, like you're people's protector and the other people in your life who have gone through similar things, you're their protector. So you're like, don't wrong them. I'm like, I'm going to fuck you up if you are this kid. That's the thing.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
So that's why you feel that way because you're the safe space.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
How can you love somebody like a father when they're not a father to you? He was never a father to them. And when they take away somebody who finally did protect you.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
That is truly tragic for everyone involved.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Okay. And he's not Grady's child.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
So I can only imagine how Grady felt about that.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
That's always the worst feeling because then you're like, have I done this?
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I knew it was headed that way.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And remember, this kid, Glenn, has watched his mother be beaten by this man his entire life. While his father was held down with a shotgun. His entire life. Uh-huh. Just saying.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Yeah. Especially when she really didn't.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
I mean, this is clearly an abusive man. He was literally on parole for killing his daughter's fiance.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Was he born with the condition? No, because he wasn't his child's son. I didn't know if it was complications from that maybe or something.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And Glenn just like, Glennie lost his adult life.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Because obviously, again, he made a poor decision.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
And how desperate she was to not do anything to stop it. Yeah. Yeah.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
He better be. He was really reading me for filth.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Oh, man. Oh, man. I know. Go touch grass, everyone. Go touch grass. If you have a good parent, tell them how much you appreciate them for not being so fucking terrible.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Go be a safe place for them. And then go donate to like domestic violence causes.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
You're one of my goobins. It's cool to know that you can break the cycle. I think that's a very empowering thing to lean on if you want to. But it won't be easy. No. And it shouldn't. It's not easy.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
So there we go. God damn. Well, we hope you keep listening. Yeah, we hope you do. We hope you. And we hope you keep it weird. Just not so weird that you abuse people you love. Keep your fucking hands to yourself. Yeah. Stop hitting people. Don't get married if you don't like the person.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
You know, we all have free will. Don't hurt people. Do good with your free will.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Oh, so we should do some bitty banter at the beginning? Yeah, we should prep everybody ahead of time. Well, let's see. We all in this office have brand new tattoos. We do. We went to Black Veil in Salem, of course. Saw Matt and Ryan, our besties. If you ever need a tattoo, you need to go to Black Veil. You do. You just have to.
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Episode 675: The Life and Death of “Lobster Boy”, Grady Stiles Jr.
Like he... It was people who understood his struggles.