Daniel Pink

So at one point I had a chapter called the rules of regret, where I was going to say, here's how regret works. Like we're basically pull up the hood. These are the rules of regret. This is how regret works. Okay. And I was like, okay, should there be five rules or seven rules or whatever? So I had this like these giant bulging folders of research and I was like, okay, I'm going to crack the code.

I regret that I didn't stand up to an injustice. That's what we regret, inaction over action as we get older.

I regret that I didn't stand up to an injustice. That's what we regret, inaction over action as we get older.

I regret that I didn't stand up to an injustice. That's what we regret, inaction over action as we get older.

I regret that I didn't stand up to an injustice. That's what we regret, inaction over action as we get older.

I regret that I didn't stand up to an injustice. That's what we regret, inaction over action as we get older.

I'm going to figure out the rules of regret. And I started going through the research and I'm like, oh, there's one rule. And the rule is, there's a big difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction. Everything comes back to that difference.

I'm going to figure out the rules of regret. And I started going through the research and I'm like, oh, there's one rule. And the rule is, there's a big difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction. Everything comes back to that difference.

I'm going to figure out the rules of regret. And I started going through the research and I'm like, oh, there's one rule. And the rule is, there's a big difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction. Everything comes back to that difference.

I'm going to figure out the rules of regret. And I started going through the research and I'm like, oh, there's one rule. And the rule is, there's a big difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction. Everything comes back to that difference.

I'm going to figure out the rules of regret. And I started going through the research and I'm like, oh, there's one rule. And the rule is, there's a big difference between regrets of action and regrets of inaction. Everything comes back to that difference.

And the architecture of regret, the difference between regrets of action, I regret what I did, and regrets of inaction, I regret what I didn't do, is huge. And here, there is a distinct difference in age. In my American Regret Project, which is a giant public opinion poll, I put together such a large sample in order to try to find demographic differences in what people regretted.

And the architecture of regret, the difference between regrets of action, I regret what I did, and regrets of inaction, I regret what I didn't do, is huge. And here, there is a distinct difference in age. In my American Regret Project, which is a giant public opinion poll, I put together such a large sample in order to try to find demographic differences in what people regretted.

And the architecture of regret, the difference between regrets of action, I regret what I did, and regrets of inaction, I regret what I didn't do, is huge. And here, there is a distinct difference in age. In my American Regret Project, which is a giant public opinion poll, I put together such a large sample in order to try to find demographic differences in what people regretted.

And the architecture of regret, the difference between regrets of action, I regret what I did, and regrets of inaction, I regret what I didn't do, is huge. And here, there is a distinct difference in age. In my American Regret Project, which is a giant public opinion poll, I put together such a large sample in order to try to find demographic differences in what people regretted.

And the architecture of regret, the difference between regrets of action, I regret what I did, and regrets of inaction, I regret what I didn't do, is huge. And here, there is a distinct difference in age. In my American Regret Project, which is a giant public opinion poll, I put together such a large sample in order to try to find demographic differences in what people regretted.

I'll tell you a few of them. I mean, you hinted at one of them just a few moments ago, Hala, which is that, let's take these connection regrets. This is my philosophy now, okay? So let's say you're at a juncture and you're wondering, ah, should I reach out to this person or should I not reach out to this person? If you have arrived at that juncture, you have the answer to the question. Reach out.

I'll tell you a few of them. I mean, you hinted at one of them just a few moments ago, Hala, which is that, let's take these connection regrets. This is my philosophy now, okay? So let's say you're at a juncture and you're wondering, ah, should I reach out to this person or should I not reach out to this person? If you have arrived at that juncture, you have the answer to the question. Reach out.

I'll tell you a few of them. I mean, you hinted at one of them just a few moments ago, Hala, which is that, let's take these connection regrets. This is my philosophy now, okay? So let's say you're at a juncture and you're wondering, ah, should I reach out to this person or should I not reach out to this person? If you have arrived at that juncture, you have the answer to the question. Reach out.

I'll tell you a few of them. I mean, you hinted at one of them just a few moments ago, Hala, which is that, let's take these connection regrets. This is my philosophy now, okay? So let's say you're at a juncture and you're wondering, ah, should I reach out to this person or should I not reach out to this person? If you have arrived at that juncture, you have the answer to the question. Reach out.