Daniel Pink

I don't want to banish negative emotion. I want to actually reckon with them. I like what you said at the top of the show, Hala, is that there's evidence here, okay? This is not some kind of philosophy of mine. We have 50 or 60 years of evidence telling us that when you line up the emotions, all right, when you line up our negative emotions, we're going to do a little police lineup.

So they believe in this philosophy that you should always be positive, never be negative, always look forward, never look back. They believe in this credo, this philosophy so ferociously, they have the message enshrined on their bodies. That's a commitment, man, all right? Like you got to believe in something to have it tattooed on your body, right? But here's the thing.

So they believe in this philosophy that you should always be positive, never be negative, always look forward, never look back. They believe in this credo, this philosophy so ferociously, they have the message enshrined on their bodies. That's a commitment, man, all right? Like you got to believe in something to have it tattooed on your body, right? But here's the thing.

So they believe in this philosophy that you should always be positive, never be negative, always look forward, never look back. They believe in this credo, this philosophy so ferociously, they have the message enshrined on their bodies. That's a commitment, man, all right? Like you got to believe in something to have it tattooed on your body, right? But here's the thing.

So they believe in this philosophy that you should always be positive, never be negative, always look forward, never look back. They believe in this credo, this philosophy so ferociously, they have the message enshrined on their bodies. That's a commitment, man, all right? Like you got to believe in something to have it tattooed on your body, right? But here's the thing.

So they believe in this philosophy that you should always be positive, never be negative, always look forward, never look back. They believe in this credo, this philosophy so ferociously, they have the message enshrined on their bodies. That's a commitment, man, all right? Like you got to believe in something to have it tattooed on your body, right? But here's the thing.

Fear, guilt, shame, you know, but that regret ends up being the most common and the most useful if we treat it right, if we treat it right. And again, we haven't been treating it right because what's happened is we're totally over index and positivity. We think we have to be positive all the time. And when we're not, especially younger people,

Fear, guilt, shame, you know, but that regret ends up being the most common and the most useful if we treat it right, if we treat it right. And again, we haven't been treating it right because what's happened is we're totally over index and positivity. We think we have to be positive all the time. And when we're not, especially younger people,

Fear, guilt, shame, you know, but that regret ends up being the most common and the most useful if we treat it right, if we treat it right. And again, we haven't been treating it right because what's happened is we're totally over index and positivity. We think we have to be positive all the time. And when we're not, especially younger people,

Fear, guilt, shame, you know, but that regret ends up being the most common and the most useful if we treat it right, if we treat it right. And again, we haven't been treating it right because what's happened is we're totally over index and positivity. We think we have to be positive all the time. And when we're not, especially younger people,

Fear, guilt, shame, you know, but that regret ends up being the most common and the most useful if we treat it right, if we treat it right. And again, we haven't been treating it right because what's happened is we're totally over index and positivity. We think we have to be positive all the time. And when we're not, especially younger people,

If you say no regrets, you say, I never look backward. You might as well get a tattoo that says no growth, no learning, no progress. Nobody's getting tattoos like that. And so it's really, really misguided. The key here is what we do with our regrets. And this is, I think, a bigger problem that we have, Hala, which is this. And I think it's an American problem more than others.

If you say no regrets, you say, I never look backward. You might as well get a tattoo that says no growth, no learning, no progress. Nobody's getting tattoos like that. And so it's really, really misguided. The key here is what we do with our regrets. And this is, I think, a bigger problem that we have, Hala, which is this. And I think it's an American problem more than others.

If you say no regrets, you say, I never look backward. You might as well get a tattoo that says no growth, no learning, no progress. Nobody's getting tattoos like that. And so it's really, really misguided. The key here is what we do with our regrets. And this is, I think, a bigger problem that we have, Hala, which is this. And I think it's an American problem more than others.

If you say no regrets, you say, I never look backward. You might as well get a tattoo that says no growth, no learning, no progress. Nobody's getting tattoos like that. And so it's really, really misguided. The key here is what we do with our regrets. And this is, I think, a bigger problem that we have, Hala, which is this. And I think it's an American problem more than others.

If you say no regrets, you say, I never look backward. You might as well get a tattoo that says no growth, no learning, no progress. Nobody's getting tattoos like that. And so it's really, really misguided. The key here is what we do with our regrets. And this is, I think, a bigger problem that we have, Hala, which is this. And I think it's an American problem more than others.

When they say, when they feel negative, they feel regret, they feel bad, they say, wait a second, I'm feeling regret, I'm feeling bad. That's terrible because not only is it inherently unpleasant, but I look around and everybody else is perfect. There must be something wrong with me. And they get brought down by that rather than saying, A negative emotion is a knock at the door.

When they say, when they feel negative, they feel regret, they feel bad, they say, wait a second, I'm feeling regret, I'm feeling bad. That's terrible because not only is it inherently unpleasant, but I look around and everybody else is perfect. There must be something wrong with me. And they get brought down by that rather than saying, A negative emotion is a knock at the door.

When they say, when they feel negative, they feel regret, they feel bad, they say, wait a second, I'm feeling regret, I'm feeling bad. That's terrible because not only is it inherently unpleasant, but I look around and everybody else is perfect. There must be something wrong with me. And they get brought down by that rather than saying, A negative emotion is a knock at the door.

When they say, when they feel negative, they feel regret, they feel bad, they say, wait a second, I'm feeling regret, I'm feeling bad. That's terrible because not only is it inherently unpleasant, but I look around and everybody else is perfect. There must be something wrong with me. And they get brought down by that rather than saying, A negative emotion is a knock at the door.