Corvin
Appearances
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
So my question here is, how can I get my wife to contribute financially and see the importance of working together as a team in that regard? Oh, man. You're close to the edge, aren't you?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yeah, it's... It's been wild. I mean, we've been together for about six years now. And the first five years... she, she didn't work right. Um, mind you, she's fully capable, no limitations. She doesn't have any restrictions to be able to work. She's, she's capable and she, she's bright too. She's, um, you know, she's, she's pretty sharp.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Um, and around year two, I recognize that, you know, we got to work together financially. Part of our relationship is not just the commitment and the loyalty. I mean, finances is part of our livelihood. We got to work together. Um, So somewhere around year two, I told her, you got to start working on something, whether you want to start a new career or start a new education process, something.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
And for the three or four years thereafter, it was just excuses as to why I couldn't, why I can't do it because of this, I can't do it because of that. And about six months ago, I roughly just kind of threw in the towel, just emotionally. I was like, you know what? I mean, I can't argue with this about you anymore. I can't. I try to be nice. I try to be rude. I try to, um, different ways.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Like, Hey, I'm going to change our, our phone plan to a more cheaper plan. And maybe you'll get the message that way. Just nothing, nothing really processed to through to her. And so now our relationship, um, I mean, we don't argue anymore, which is a good thing, but I think it's, yeah, you're out. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
No, we're doing okay. I mean, we're covering all of our bills.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yeah. I mean, it's funny too. Cause when I was talking to her dad about a blessing for us to get married, he looked me right in the eyes and he says, you know, she needs a lot of support. Right. And I didn't, I mean, I understood what he meant to an extent, but I didn't know that he meant this. And,
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
For her, I think it's just always the expectation that somebody else is supposed to take care of my finances. And then, you know, it took me this many years to realize that she meant that. Like, you take care of it. And I just feel, I feel abandoned.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
No, besides that, I mean, the place is clean. We're not struggling financially. I do well enough to take care of us. But the thing is, we're getting older. I mean, retirement's coming up. What are we going to do?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yeah, I tried that, and she shuts down. She'll either start crying or she'll get frustrated and just be like, I can't have this conversation with you. Yeah, that's a move. That's a move. Yeah, that's a total move.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
She's working now, but she's almost 40 years old, and she makes, if I had to guess, because she won't really let me into her finances, if I had to guess, she probably makes $10,000 a year. And I'm looking at her like, you can do better than this.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yeah, and it's just, you know, these golden opportunities. I mean, we're a little older now, but many moons ago, her dad was like, you know what, your education, just pick somewhere to go that you like, and, you know, I'll fund it, and we got to get you prepared for the, you know, for the workplace. Yeah, but do you realize how stupid that logic is?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Well, I mean, as far as just being trained on something.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yeah, and that's the thing. When we got together, I kind of gave her the same thing. Like, I'll take care of the bills. You just apply yourself somewhere. I don't really care where. Just show me that even if it's something that doesn't make you money, but it's good for you. Like, show me something, some kind of application. that you're willing to put in the effort somewhere.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
And it's always just, I'm in first gear. I'll get there when I get there. You worry about it. And I just, it's, I've had it. I don't know. I don't know.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I mean, and the next thing you know, she's over there watching The Real Housewives of Weber. And I'm like, I think you see yourself in that show and it's not your life. I mean, I don't play for the NBA. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
And then to be fair, I mean, she does plenty around the house. And so she takes care of herself. She's not a slob by any means. She spends a lot of time in front of the mirror. But I could catch her on a Tuesday afternoon and I'm like, are you going to do something today? She said, it's my day off. And I'm like, you make X amount. You shouldn't have a day off. Where is this day off coming from?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Focus on something, please. And she's just like, no, I can't. That's your job to worry about the finances. And I'm just like, you know.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Ultimately, no. But as part of it, I think that's kind of the end result.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yep. I think that's what it is. She knows that dad's going to be there for whatever, if the whole thing falls apart. I don't know. It's like, that's fine for you.