Constance Grady
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Why is personal style so hard?
This is something that I spent most of my life not thinking about at all. I'm pretty normie when it comes to clothes. I'm just like, I will wear my jeans and a T-shirt, tell me what width the jeans are supposed to be, and I am good to go. After lockdown, once I was vaccinated and starting to get out into the world again, I felt like none of my clothes felt right for me anymore.
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Why is personal style so hard?
You know, I had all of these like business casual dresses and leftover skinny jeans and I just looked at them and I was like, this doesn't seem quite right anymore. Now that I've had this year of not dressing for other people, I've changed who I am and my clothes haven't changed in a way that will keep up with that. And it was so weird to try to think about
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Why is personal style so hard?
getting a whole year's worth of changes done to my wardrobe in one fell swoop that I ended up feeling like maybe it was time to be more intentional and figure out what I wanted from my clothes. But when I thought about it, I had all these really contradictory desires. You know, I wanted to look thin and also not care about looking thin.
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Why is personal style so hard?
I wanted to buy really high quality things and not spend all that much money. I had a lot of desires from my clothes that realistically I didn't think could actually be met by them.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Well, once I had decided that this was something I was going to try to be more intentional about, I kept poking through the personal style universe. And that's when I fell way down the David Kibbe rabbit hole.
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Why is personal style so hard?
He's this personal stylist who was very big in the 80s and kind of had a renaissance on social media.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Find your kibbe body type in two minutes. We'll start with bone structure. Let's talk about Kibbe's style IDs and how they relate to the costumes of Ever After. And getting into his work is like getting into astrology. Like you have to learn this really esoteric system with all these weird rules.
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Why is personal style so hard?
It's all about the shapes that fabric makes when it's draped over your body and figuring out how to buy clothes that will suit those shapes best and then what kind of style vibe that leads to. Which is very fun for a certain type of personality, which includes me, but does also, I think, get a little exhausting and also leads to fixating on your body in maybe kind of weird ways.
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Why is personal style so hard?
I did watch What Not to Wear religiously. And I think a big part of the appeal was that it was telling you, yeah, there are very strict clothing rules. Here's what they are. And if you follow them, you'll look great. And if you don't follow them, you'll look like an idiot and we'll all make fun of you on hidden cameras. Right?
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Why is personal style so hard?
It really teaches you that there's a correct way to wear your sensible wrap dress and your blazer. And we are going to walk you through what that is.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Yeah, this is also something where you and I working in digital media is a blessing and a curse for us because I have definitely taken meetings with people who are barefoot at our mutual office. I talked to a bunch of fashion experts about this. I was so fascinated by this question. In part because Clinton and Stacey have swung the other way too, right?
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Why is personal style so hard?
They're reuniting for a new show and it's called Wear Whatever the F You Want.
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Why is personal style so hard?
This is a journey we're like all taking as a culture. So I talked to a bunch of fashion experts about this and I have three reasons for this swing. One that is cultural, one that is economic, and one that is more material. So culturally, over the past 10, 15 years, there's been a lot more space on the internet for the movements of body positivity, body neutrality, and fat acceptance.
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Why is personal style so hard?
I used to be self-conscious about my legs, but I've recently realized it's none of my business what people think I look like.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Do you know what? I've just accepted I'm a big girl. All of which I think has kind of helped make space for people to think, OK, maybe the point of clothes isn't always to make me look as thin as they possibly can. You know, maybe this can be a place for more joyful self-expression that doesn't involve trying to conform to a very specific standard of beauty. Economically,
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Why is personal style so hard?
As fast fashion has taken off, the trend cycle has sped up so much that it is actually kind of impossible now to keep pace with trends the way you might have been able to 10 or 20 years before. So the idea of finding your personal style becomes really attractive in that situation because it's a way of releasing yourself from the trend cycle and from the textile waste that goes along with it.
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Why is personal style so hard?
The final reason I have is more materials-based. This is one that comes from Kibbe himself, who I cannot escape, which is that around the 1980s, we started to put a lot more elastic in clothing than we used to before. And this has fundamentally changed the way fabric looks on our bodies.
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Why is personal style so hard?
So what Kibbe says is that with elastic in our clothing, the silhouette stops being about the externally imposed shape of the clothes on our bodies and starts being about the way our bodies are shaping the clothes we wear.
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Why is personal style so hard?
And that means that there's suddenly this huge possibility of what clothes can look like on us that has totally shifted the way that we can even let ourselves think about fashion.
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Why is personal style so hard?
I don't really know that I found my personal style. I learned a lot about the kinds of shapes and colors and fabrics that I like. I think the main thing that I figured out was what fantasy the idea of finding your personal style is serving. For me, I think that fantasy is the idea of having some control over your individuality.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Because fashion is a space where the ways in which we lack control over our lives become really clear in such an intimate way. You know, there are all these... billionaires deciding what you should wear. There are all these marketers deciding how you should feel about your one human body.
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Why is personal style so hard?
There are all these people who will see you every day and make their assumptions about you based on how you look. So I think when we talk about finding our personal style, we're talking about this kind of dream of finding ways to steal control away from those people and back towards ourselves.
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Why is personal style so hard?
Yeah, how about pants that fit? This is a journey we're, like, all taking as a culture.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
Weinstein is currently facing retrial in New York State. He was found guilty of rape and sexual assault here in 2020. But last year, the verdict was overturned because of a procedural issue.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
In the 2020 trial, the judge allowed prosecutors to present testimony from women who had accused Weinstein of sexual assault but who weren't pressing charges against him in that trial.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
So at the time, the argument was that their testimony would establish a pattern of behavior from Weinstein. But in the appeal last year, the judge was like, if you don't have enough evidence to actually charge him with the specific crimes that these women say he committed, then you really just shouldn't be presenting testimony about it at all.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
So now the whole trial has been invalidated and they're doing it over again without that corroborating testimony.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
In a lot of ways, she is making a very similar argument to the one his lawyers are making.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
They both involve a lot of just like the most spurious bad faith possible interpretations of everything that the women accusing Weinstein have done.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
Candace Owens has basically two central arguments in Weinstein's defense. The first one is 130 women.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
I do want to quickly name. She has said that he was convicted on the basis of three women's stories. That's not correct. He was convicted on the basis of three women's stories in New York and five stories in L.A. So that's eight women's total. For most people, that would be a lot. But it is true that for Weinstein, that's only about 10 percent of his accusers who made it to the courtroom.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
She is making a lot out of the fact that a lot of the women who have accused Weinstein stayed in contact with him after their alleged attacks. How does someone get raped over five years? Some of them sent him friendly or affectionate messages, or they asked for professional favors. So Candace Owens' take is that this proves that they were being what she calls sugar babies.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
And that they were they had a quid pro quo set up of asking for professional advancement in exchange for sexual favors.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
He said that he used to believe that Weinstein was guilty and that Candace Owens has convinced him otherwise.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
She has two big demographics that are compelled by her story. And they're actually kind of similar to Joe Rogan's audience, but maybe more feminine leaning. So she has a lot of people who identify as sort of quote unquote free thinkers who don't like the narratives that are offered by the media and are maybe susceptible to some conspiratorial thinking.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
She's also got an audience of young women who are not particularly engaged with politics and are kind of just there for her takes on celebrities.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
Yeah, so Weinstein actually said that he originally tried to dissuade her from getting involved because of her history of anti-Semitism.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
But he has said that since then, after having a lot of conversations with her, he has changed his mind and he thinks that she's a star.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
This is something that I think we see happen a fair amount. Susan Faludi is a feminist scholar who first identified this phenomenon. She talks about it in her book, Backlash, which came out in the early 90s.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
Essentially, every time that in American culture it looks as though women are making some sort of social or political progress, that's very rapidly followed by a period of intense backlash where people announce that this movement has gone too far, it's overreached, we have to roll it back and go back to a time when things are more sensible.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
One of the things that Susan Faludi says that I think is important to note here is that It really doesn't matter whether the feminist movement actually made any gains in this moment of apparent overreach. It's just that people think that things are changing. So in the MeToo movement, there weren't any real legislative changes. There were a few high-profile arrests.
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The Harvey Weinstein apologist
There were a lot of think pieces. But it's hard to say that there was a big material shift in how American culture works. But the perception that there might have been is enough to drive this kind of backlash.
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Snow White and the Seven Controversies
There is a big focus on her love story with a guy who literally stalks her. Weird. Weird. So we didn't do that this time. She told Entertainment Weekly that the original film was extremely dated when it comes to the ideas of women being in roles of power.