Caller Three (Unnamed)
Appearances
The Viall Files
E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah, I get you. I also am someone who, like you clocked me, like I avoid things that I know will bring me discomfort, pain, just because I don't want to feel those things. But again, I know it's something I want to do and I want to be better at, which is obviously why I'm talking to you now. It's just a matter of like getting myself to do it.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah, for sure. It definitely is. It feels good having it come from someone else because I talked to my sister. I talked to like my friends to try and like not hold me accountable, but just like, I'll tell them and every time I'm like, sorry, I couldn't do it.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah. I mean, I do definitely get disappointed in myself when I do that because I'm like in my head, I'm like, okay, it's a week away. I'll do it. I'll be fine.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Honestly, it really is just the potential of it being extremely awkward, challenged to talk to him, ask questions, just,
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah, definitely. Well, I just need to, like you said, do it anyways, because I'll overthink and overthink and,
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
and then stop planning it a week ahead okay yeah okay yeah no no because that is so true because there will be times where like I'm like oh I don't have plans like I would love to like do something or tomorrow you know what I mean like go on a date like that would be fun but then I'm like I don't really have I don't know who to literally I mean at this point you literally just go on the app and just ask anyone this is not about meeting your guy this is about you like learning how to meet strangers yeah
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah, that's, that's a good point. And also I just, when you said that, it reminded me of something. I feel like that is also where fear comes from. It's almost like if I, uh, match with a guy on hinge and like, I don't give my number out a lot, but here and there, and we text for like a day or two, or I, I feel like I have, I don't know. It's, it's just like a mental thing. I feel safer.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
I don't, obviously there's no like, uh, nothing logical behind that other than just my brain versus meeting someone directly on the app. I don't know why it feels like more of a stranger to me. It's, that's just a me problem, but that definitely is something also that.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah. Well, I mean, yeah, I just feel like I need that. Like, well, like you said, I could do FaceTime.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
But yeah. And I would say that subconsciously definitely plays a role, but at the same time, like I know who I am and I know that I wouldn't like not, I don't want to say settle, but like if someone made me feel bad for that, I know it's no reflection of me. If that makes sense. Like it wouldn't bother me. I mean, yeah. Okay. That's a lie.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
It probably would bother me, but that's not something that necessarily like stopping me because I know like for the right guy, it'd be fine.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Yeah, for sure. That definitely is like, because I want to date because I want to like, experience it, like learn who I am in that aspect of my life, not necessarily to get a boyfriend right now. Or it's more so just for the experience of it all until like, I guess learn more about myself and like experience things that I have not before. So yeah.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
First step is a FaceTime date or a FaceTime conversation.
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E909 Ask Nick - I'm Dating A Married Man
Okay. Well, this was definitely helpful and encouraging.