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The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
But I feel so guilty asking because he's already doing so much.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Hi, John. How are you?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
How are you? I'm doing all right. I'm doing all right. So I'm feeling a little nervous, honestly. I didn't think I would feel that way.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Is it awful of me that like, you know, say it's scheduled, right? And I get home and I'm like, it's on the calendar or whatever. And then I get home. I'm like, you know what? I changed my mind. It was a really bad day. Is that awful?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I hear you say that all the time and I'm like, that's a good idea and we've never done that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I'm trying to convince myself.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
It's me, not you. No, I think it's both of us. All right, good. It's all you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
How can I help? I'll take it. So my question is, how can my husband and I Resolve our conflict over sex frequency with our busy life.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Okay, so I have a two and a three-year-old.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
A constant bomb, a constant bomb. I mean, it's a beautiful bomb, but... But it's still a bomb. It's still a bomb. All right, you have a three and a two-year-old.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Yes, I'm a first-grade teacher.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
It's a lot of little people, yeah. And it's wonderful, and my husband's wonderful. So it's not necessarily a, quote, relationship issue, necessarily. It's just a... It's a time and I guess like a time management thing and a I'm overwhelmed, touched out, feelings out. I don't even know how to express it. And I want my husband, but there's moments that I don't want anything, if that makes any sense.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Well, we listen to you a lot. So to be perfectly frank, so this, me even calling into you, it all stemmed from, we were arguing about this issue, right? And my husband was like, just call Dr. John. And I didn't, he was joking, right? And I, so what I did is what I called you, right? Yeah. And I told him, I said, Hey, I'm going to talk to Dr. John. He's like, are you serious? I'm like, yes, I am.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Um, here we are. Yeah. And so we've tried the whole scheduling it out and he doesn't like that because it feels inorganic and it's not sexy or anything. Right. Um, He feels guilty when he tries to initiate it because he knows that I'm tired or that he doesn't want to get rejected, okay? There's times that maybe I want sex, but I don't want it to be a wham, bam, thank you, ma'am type of situation.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I want love, you know?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Um, but then there's also times where I'm like, Hey, let's, it's gotta be quick. I'm tired. Cause I want to please him. So we can't come to this solution. I mean, and the poor man, I mean, he wants it every day. Yeah. And I don't, I tell him like in this season that we're in, I don't, I don't have the capacity to give that. Yeah. Would it shock you? And I feel wrong for saying that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
How can my husband and I resolve our conflict over sex frequency with our busy life? We were arguing about this issue, right? And my husband was like, just call Dr. John.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Well, yeah. I mean, even just yesterday, we know while I'm making dinner, he just looks at me and he tells me, you know, I miss you. That's it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
It's... And then it's the mom guilt of like, okay, yeah, I miss you too, but... I only have this part of my kids for so long and then they grow up, you know?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
How do I say that? How do you?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Oh, yeah. One of them has already and it's great.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Foreign concept. Exactly.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Can I add something? And maybe you can help me there.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
He, he doesn't have friends.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
He doesn't have family.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
It's so hard. Like, being his age, or I guess you can say our age. It's a nightmare.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I'm 37. He's 45. Yeah, it's a nightmare.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
And I'm not saying that's your family.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
He's a freaking rock star at home. Like he like, he does, I have to tell him to not do, you know what I mean? Like I have to tell, I have to force him to sit down. Um, I, I don't know.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
Oh man. Yeah, I guess so.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I don't know. I don't know.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Says He Needs Sex Everyday (I’m Exhausted)
I feel like I'm failing him because this seems to be such an important part of his universe. You know? I feel like there's not peace in my extended family and I feel like I'm the peacemaker for everywhere and I'm not able to make that happen. But that's a whole nother can of worms.