Billy Billingham
Appearances
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
It's good to now be into your arena.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
It's been challenging. It's been brutal. I use that word a lot, but it has. And it gets more and more intense every time we do it. Not to take away from all the people like yourselves, your course, but every time we do it, it does get more intense. And the reason that is because we follow the ethos of the real special forces.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And every time we do a job, a task, a course, we look at what could we have done to make it better. Generally, that means make it harder. Wow. And to get them, it's all about getting the most out of the people that come on it. That's what it's about. And we look at, we analyze every task we do, everything we do and go, right, you know what? That didn't work too great this time. Let's add this.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So it's more intense, I think. And I think it works on both sides. For us, we make it better if we can. The camera people team who now, you know, get more experience, look at, they realize what worked and didn't, what they caught, what they didn't. So it does. The whole thing evolves literally to a better pace every time we do it.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Not to say it's any... The experience for the people on it is as odd as it always will be. There's no compensation for anything, male, female, weight. Everybody does exactly the same.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
You're right. Thinking about it now, Nick, you'll look at the... Our course is harder than theirs. It was tougher when we did it. That's what we always say. And everybody does the same. When I first joined the army, their selection was harder than ours. Their war fighting was harder than ours. You're like, whatever. Now I'm doing it to the younger generation.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Okay, so I'm Mark Billy Billingham, British, born in the UK, born into a family of five in the West Midlands, a very poor family. I was the middle child, which means I'm different. Middle children are different. We are rogue, and I was rogue. So where I grew up, it was all gangs at the time, and I gravitated. Peaky blinders?
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I gravitated towards that, thinking that was, you know, those guys with a name in the street, and everyone knew him, and I thought, I want to be like that guy. Of course, looking back, I was wrong, but that's where I was going. At the age of nine, I joined a gang and I ended up stealing from an old man who kind of changed my life even at an early age.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Rather than giving me a good hiding, he took me to the side and said, listen, there's something about you. I want you to come to my boxing gym at the age of nine. And I went, you know, if you could imagine a nine-year-old today doing what I did, you've got to think about this.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I stole from an old man who, rather than giving me a night, tells me to go to a boxing club, which is in the pub, downtown, three miles from my house, in the snow, in February, pitch black. I'm nine years old, walking down to meet an old man at the back of a pub that I stole a hat from.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
He took me in the gym, taught me all about boxing and I won't go too deep into all this, but what he said to me was boxing is not a sport of brutality. Boxing is a poor man's game of chess. It's about reading what's in front of you, having respect for what's in front of you, having respect for yourself, the sport. It's about anticipating the next move and always being one step ahead.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And his final words to me said, no matter how good you are or think you are, you will have a moment where it's going to be hard and you'll feel you can't do it. You've got to say to yourself, I can go always a little further. And you will. And it's the reason we do what on the show. 20 years later, I joined the SAS.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
On the clock tower, which is a tower where people's names go on if you don't survive. All my unfallen comrades are on there. You know, you have to beat the clock. That's a saying. On the day I joined the SES, I went and read the collect and the final words underneath was always a little further. And I went back to be nine years old and the air's on the back of my neck. And that's my mantra. Wow.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I've gone off at a tangent. That's how I was growing up. 13, I got thrown out of school. 11, I was in juvenile court for being in a gang, fighting. I was shaming on my family. I was putting a lot of pressure on my mom and dad. And I knew I was. My mom, as every mom does, he got in with her own crowd. I was their own crowd. I knew what I was doing. And kids do know. So there's lesson one.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Don't let people make excuses for you. Own it. 11 in court, 13, I have a great idea in school to be the hero. I glued the maths teacher to the chair. It didn't go down very well, true. And I got thrown out of school. So my education stopped at 13 years old. I ended up working in a factory illegally at 15, earning money. And then at 15 again, my whole life changed. The fighting got out of control.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I got stabbed and nearly died. And when I was recovering from that, I remember looking at my mum and dad and my family who'd been told he's probably going to die. And I could hear everything going on inside my head, but I couldn't react to it. And I just said to myself, I've got to change my life. I need new direction. I've got to go to the military.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So when I recovered a little bit later, it took a while. Then I got injured working in a factory, which I won't go into. I then joined the army at 17. And the army, day one of joining the army, I'd left my hometown where I thought was a big fish in a small pond. I had a reputation. I was now stood in front of real men. My instructor, I remember looking at him on day one.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
He had a big scar across his face. He'd been shot in the Falklands. He was still healing. But there was an aura of respect all around him. And I remember looking at him thinking, I want people to feel about me the way I feel about that man there. And I said to myself, this is going to be horrendous. I was the youngest, I was the skinniest, and I was the mouthiest. That hasn't changed.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And I thought to myself, there's no way I'm going out that gate unless they throw me out or I die. I've got to do this. And I did. And we started with 70, 7-0, and we finished with 7. And I was one of those 7. And then I had a great career with the parachute regiment, joined this regiment, came to Belize, my very first trip. I'd never been... To America. Yeah, I've never been out my hometown.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
The only time I've ever seen an aircraft is when it flew overhead. I've now been on an aircraft nine times and never landed once. I've been thrown out the frigging door. And then all of a sudden, I'm landing in an aircraft in a place called Belize, Central America. Now, when I got told I'm going to my battalion... And they're in America. That's all I heard. I didn't hear Central America.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I just heard America. I thought, ooh, chicks, sun, beer. This is it. I've made it. I'm coming to California.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So I called my mum and I said, mum, I'm going to America. She said, that's fantastic. Where about? And I went, Central America? She goes, okay, calm down. Central America? Where exactly? I went, Belize? She went, you clown. You're going to the jungle. I went, what? If you'd have gone to school and learned geography, you'd know where you're going.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So I end up in Belize, and I came to America for the first time at 17 years old, 18 years old. And I went to Fort Lauderdale. There was a thing called the Strip. Is it still the same? I don't know. Oh, man, it was chaotic. I was 17, and I was drunk as a skunk, and obviously you're not supposed to drink until you're 21. I had a great time. First trip to America.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Followed these people who'd all been to war and conflict, and I learned a lot from these people. And then I climbed the ladder over a nine-year period. I'd been in conflict myself now. I'd led operations.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I was, yeah. That was later on, though. And then, nine years, I kind of reached my ceiling with that regiment. They were fantastic. I say reached my ceiling. I wanted more challenge. I wanted to go somewhere different. Didn't know a lot about special forces, which most people don't. I knew enough to say it's a challenge, I want to do it. So I did. Went on selection in 92, beginning of 92.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
283 of us started, seven of us finished. And I went to a squadron called B Squadron, which is famous for the Iranian embassy. I don't know if you know all about that. That was the first time special forces were ever heard of on TV and around the nation. So I went to that squadron and I had a wonderful career.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I did everything from hostage release to indicting people for war crimes to whatever, and decorated by the Queen a couple of times and stuff like that. But it was great. It was just a wild, crazy career. That's incredible.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Yeah, yeah. I'd say Prisoner of War. I got I got kidnapped, taken, basically, in Bosnia.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And no two situations are ever the same. On the course, they teach you how to resist and survive. That is one key element that is in every situation, I guess, but how people treat you is never going to be the same. If you're in the wrong hands at the wrong time, you ain't going to last.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I can't go too deep into it because of operational security, but we ended up taking hostages of people who had taken me hostage at an higher level. It was a meeting coming together where they'd taken me and someone else, and I think they're going to use us as human shields, put us in front of buildings that we, friendly forces, were going to bomb, so we didn't bomb it.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I think that's what they were going to do. but we ended up having control of some of their people. And it was like, if you don't release them, we're not releasing them. It was one of those sketches. Lucky, very lucky. So yeah, that was my life and my military career. And what about you, Rudy?
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
yeah that accurate yeah it is yeah i um i was here actually in la i left the military just prior to leaving the military like we all do you kind of lost it's it's intimidating i've been in the military for 27 years that's all i knew now i've got to get out and get a proper job and i didn't know what that meant sure i was like how do i do this and a friend of mine said look hey can you help me out we did a bit of moonlighting prior to stepping out i did a bit a friend calls me up and he was running a security company he said do you could you do a bit of bodyguarding for me i went
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
sure who and it was tom cruise so he was the first guy i looked after i met tom and i went he's the deal you know this is what i can do what do you want and we worked it worked good i thought this is okay i could do this continue with the rest of my military career for you know still trying to find my feet and then i got asked would you consider working with a family for security and okay long story short i left the military that's a great story to tell one day how i left
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
But I left the military and ended up as the bodyguard for Brad and Angelina. And yeah, spent 17 months or so with them all over the globe. A little bit of time here in LA, New York, Europe on different films and all that sort of stuff. So yeah. And then my life changed again.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Actually, Sean Penn, who is a very good friend of mine, invited me like he does, sends me a cryptic message to go to Barcelona. And I'm like, for what? And he wouldn't tell me. And long story short, he got me a part in a movie called The Gunman. Oh. I don't know if you've seen it. You've got to watch it. I know about it. It's a good little movie.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I don't act. I'm not an actor. I've got a script. And I'm like, what the forklift truck is this? I'm like, what am I supposed to be? I'm an actor. All of a sudden, you know, we've Aldous Alba and...
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Mark Rylance and all these people and I'm like okay so we ended up in Barcelona he gave me a script and I looked and I went I wouldn't say that he goes well what would you say fuck that script and I just did my own thing and as you'll see it's just me being me and I enjoyed it and you get to see me semi-naked from the waist down Yeah. Anyway, you'll have to watch it.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So I got sort of introduced to it going from this side of the camera to that side of the camera. Then I got asked, would I do this show? Would I do that? And I wasn't really interested. And then around about 2008 or 9, a producer hounded me He said, look, we've got this show called Unbreakable. We'd really like you to present it. I went, what is it? He says, it's about breaking people.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I went, that wouldn't be too difficult. He went, no, no, no, you don't understand. I went, really? These are the fittest eight people in the UK, six men, two women. I went, right. And what do you want me to do? He said, take them to the jungle and try and break them. I went, let me educate to someone. SAS guys break in the jungle. I'll break them. No, no, no, no, you don't understand.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So we're going back and forth and I was a little bit uncomfortable. Okay, no problem. So I went out to the jungle, British Guiana, never been to this place before, not done any wreckage, straight into the jungle and guess what? 40 minutes into it, I've broke all of them. And then I look at him and go, oh shit, now what do we do? I went, yeah, what do we do?
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And this program had to, you know, this was the first episode. It was meant to last four days and I've smashed them all in 40 minutes. So I then revive them all and then spend all day teaching them skills of living in the jungle and 20 minutes of each day screaming and shouting so they can get some footage.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So it kind of put me off, you know, the fact that producers weren't listening and it made me uncomfortable and put me in a vulnerable position because I nearly killed these people. I thought, I don't like this. And then I got asked and asked, will you do this? I didn't want to do it. All I wanted to do, if I was going to do anything in front of a camera again, was something with deprived kids.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Where I go spend time with deprived kids, then take them into my world. I've always wanted to do it, you know, to try and give back. And nothing really came off. But then I got asked, a program's been put together called SES Who Dares Wins. And I won't boy to death with that. But I got asked would I be part of the team, initial team to do that.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And I looked at it and I thought the title put me off. There was no real direction. They didn't know where it was going to go. So I said no. So the first episode went out in the UK. Foxy was actually on it. And the second series, it did well. I didn't watch it. I don't watch TV. The producers hounded me. I said, look, we really wanted to come on the show. I went, well, you don't even know me.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Long story short, he came to my house in Hereford after putting the phone down in London, sat and told me what it was all about. And it's not about 4DS, it's about the people. It's about giving back. And I went, okay, yeah, that sounds something I'd like. And that's where it started for me. So I did SAS UK series two and loved it. And then just went with it, kind of grew into what the program was.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
No one really knew still what it was about. Is it about just punishing people? Is it about self-gain? What is it? And then I started to grow into the mirror rooms, I believe, is what the show is all about. It really gets to the core of what's behind you, what we can do to help, and how we grow. But initially, I hated it. I hated the mirror rooms. I got so angry in there.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I was about a bunch of people and all sorts of stuff. I didn't know where I was going. It turned into an argument. I was like, hang on a minute. But now I've grown with it and the program's evolved and I've learned what the program's all about. And then eventually the Americans came up across and watched it and said, right, we copy this.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
They came back to the US and copied the show and called it Selection, I think. And it failed. It just didn't work. And then later on, after Rudy got brought on towards the end, Rudy came across, replaced a guy that looked very much like Rudy, actually. And then America got interest again. And then we then formed Special Forces or Fox did. And that's where we are today. And I love it.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And I love it because I get to make people like you cry.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I'll get to use all the experience and knowledge that we've had over the years to give somebody an experience. And I always say to make a better version of themselves. And you can tell us what you got from it.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Yeah. Out of that mirror room, you walk out of there standing tall. You've got the world off your shoulder. You've got a name now. You've got something to go for. But what took me a long time to realize is people watching that, indirectly, there's thousands of young kids, particularly, who will look and go, we follow you. You're their role model. And go, wow.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
If Nick can show his vulnerable, I can. And I can tell you now, and he'll tell you, the night the show goes out, no sort of mirror room things are covered, our phones go mental. A lot of young people who are in dark spaces. That's right. And it really helps. And I'll tell you what, it's a great feeling to know indirectly that show is so therapeutic to so many people. And you don't realize.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And what it is, the way the world is today, let's all be honest, the world's upside down. It's a mess. And people are looking at role models and direction. And that show is, as you know, it's real. It's not bullshit. It's brutal. It's so real. And for a reason. Now, I'll go back to your interview. I already knew where I was going to... We watch you...
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
every single one of you we're observing you always very close every night which you never show on the don't really show on the TV we'll sit in the mirror in the prayers as we call it prayers we go right Nick how's it right okay this is where we think we're at you were at break I'll tell you now you were about to quit You physically, mentally, emotionally felt you're done.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
We knew you weren't done. And if we didn't do something, put a rocket up your ass to give you that last little, to prove that you could go further, I think you probably wouldn't have got to the end. Oh no, yeah, I wouldn't have. You were at that point. You felt you got enough out of it, which maybe you had, but for us, we knew you had more. I use a tactic on you like my daddy did on me.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
My daddy, well, the day I joined the army, my dad says, you'll be home in no time. And he goes, he said, and one thing that he said to me, which I don't tell a lot of people about, he said, what happens if you get injured? And I went, then I get injured. He goes, what happens if you get killed? And I went, then you bury me. He says, yeah, me and your mom, we bury you.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And I went to bed that night thinking, I can't join the military. Jeez, I can't put on my family. But I thought, you know what?
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
fuck you I'm gonna prove I'm gonna prove to you I can fucking do it that was the rocket I needed up my ass yeah every single day I wanted to quit I followed those words yeah and it was at the end my dad told me why he did it he says because I'd have not done that to you you'd had an option to come home and you'd have walked away and I would have yeah Slightly different.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So I put that on you to want to kind of hate me to give you that last little spark. But two, because we knew. You were a front runner by that stage.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
You were almost going to fall by the way. Had we been soft with you and gone... you'd have probably gone, I'm done.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And for us, because we've got you to this point now. You need that last bit. That's right. And it weren't going to be a cuddly, hey, come on. Yeah. Get your ass out there and get on with it.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Yeah.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Well, I mean, it came about because we're talking about children and family. And the most important thing in life is time. And you've got to make the most of it because we don't know how much we've got. That became very apparent to me, you know, after this particular night.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
The story Nick's talking about, so one night, it was only about five, six years ago, I'm in town with a bunch of military guys and friends in a pub, having a few beers, and I like a lot of beer. And I'd had a few too many, so I couldn't drive, so I called my daughter up. And I said, Kayleigh, can you come and pick me up? Yeah, Dad, no problem.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
So Kayleigh comes down, and I am a nightmare when we have drinks. I have a thing called One for the Road, and it's a long fucking road. So we drink for hours after. So my daughter's turned up, waiting to take me home, and now three hours have gone past because I'm still drinking. And we're all having conversations. We saw a little of that last night.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And we're talking about military stuff I've done and this. And people go, how did you walk away from this? And all these stories.
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E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
She stood next to us in the car waiting for me to leave. Quiet. Just listening. So anyway, eventually we leave. And we're in the car. She's driving me home. And I'm kind of half drunk. And I look at her. And I can see tears running down her face. And I'm like, I said, Kay, look, I'm sorry I kept you three hours longer. And she just looked at me and says, no, Dad.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
i don't know you i've just realized i don't know you me and my sisters and bro we don't know you i went what do you mean and she said um for three hours i've just heard stories about my dad that none of us know anything about says i really feel and he i sobered up immediately and i thought wow
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Because of the life I had in the military, my life when I joined the SAS was constant war fighting for the whole time, all over the globe. I wasn't home a lot. And the time I was home, I didn't spend enough time with my kids and my family, which I wish if I could turn back time, I would. I'd change it. That's exactly what I would do. I could never really get that.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
But when she said those words to me, it sobered me up immediately. And I thought, wow, that led to me writing my memoirs down and actually writing a book. Because I've been asked many times, write a book. I don't want to write a book. But I wrote my book, which I've given you, my autobiography. I've cut out a lot of the military stuff. It's about who I was and where I was.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And it's everything, water and oil, you know, being a bad kid, being an asshole, failing. But that was the reason I did it that very night. You know, I went home, I sobered up in her car, thinking about what she'd said to me. And she was right. The kids knew nothing about my life. And again, it led me to, we always say, let's do it tomorrow. And this is my lesson to people.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Never say, let's do it tomorrow. Do it. If you're going to do something, fucking do it. I used to say to my father, my dad, when I joined the SAS, he made out he didn't know I was in the SAS. He made out he didn't know anything about what I was doing. Well, actually he didn't because we didn't tell him.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
I always said to him, when I got decorated by the queen and he turned up and he's listening to why I'm getting this medal from the queen and my dad's looking at my mom going, he did what? And mom's going, I don't know. He's never told me. So he's listening to these stories. And I said, dad, I'll tell you. I'll come and have a beer with you. And I'll tell you. I'll come down next week.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Of course, next week comes by. I didn't go down. I didn't do it. So on and so forth. And I never got around to doing it. Long story short, I get a phone call, middle of the night. At the time, my mom had cancer. So I was expecting her to die anyway. But my dad had died. So it was a complete shock to me. Whoa, whoa. My dad's died? And then three weeks later, my mom died.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
And I never had the chance to sit down and tell them those stories. And it was relived in my head when my daughter said that to me. So the importance of time and doing the right thing and spending and saying what you really want to say when you've got the opportunity to do it, do it. That's what it was.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
You're part of that brotherhood and family now, you know? Yeah. One lesson you'll take away from this is the camaraderie of you guys. You met for the first time in this billet, all watching each other and wondering, and then all of a sudden that bond becomes really strong. And it'll be like that forever now.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
That lunatic, crazy family run by the inmates.
The Viall Files
E872 - Bachelor Cast w/ Mayim Bialik, Baldoni Footage, Special Forces Billy + Rudy, LIB Split, and RHOBH
Incredible. Well, we appreciate you guys.