Asher
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The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Appreciate your call, man. What's up? Cool deal. So I guess my concise version of the question is, would it be wrong or such a bad thing to make enough money to just afford cheap food and gasoline and just live in my car again? And I'll elaborate on that in a little bit if you... Yeah, I'd love to dig in.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Yeah, so last month I was in between living situations for about two weeks. What does that mean? What does that mean? What does that mean? Uh, uh, just like, uh, the lease on my other place ended before the next one started. Okay. So, uh, you know, nowhere to go for just a little bit, not, not super long, just like two weeks and all that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
But the options were, uh, uh, either get like a hotel and pay the two week, uh, pay two weeks of that, or just live in my car for that period of time. And I chose the latter and, you know, people kind of, I guess, uh, maybe you're like, like fear that and stuff like that. It was not that bad at all. It wasn't, it wasn't that bad really.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
And, um, you know, I just, um, I'm in my new apartment now and it's a pretty nice place in the city and everything like that. Um, but I'm kind of like ruminating on like during those two weeks, I felt like I was just kind of living in a box, like parking lot to parking lot and And now it just kind of feels like I'm living in a slightly bigger box, but paying a whole bunch of money for it.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Does that make sense? Yeah, totally. So how old are you? I'm 26. Okay, cool. No family or anything. Sure, sure, sure. No one depending on me. Yeah. If I did have people that, if I did have dependents, this would be a completely different story, but it's not, so.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Uh, I had a good job. Um, I'm a kind of, kind of in the, in between my like career path right now. I have a background in software sales. Okay. But, um, the thing is I've like, I'm three years out of college and I've blown through five of those jobs in the course of three years. Yes.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
And, uh, I've just, um, during that time I've just been doing like little odd jobs, like little things on Craigslist that people need, need done, uh, driving DoorDash, like just any, any little thing. And, um, uh,
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
During my time in, like, software sales and stuff like that, I would just, like, I would go to work, get up at the same time, and, like, kind of just grind it out to be able to, like, you know, keep the lights on, pay rent, and stuff like that. And I don't really have that high of standards. I don't really need a whole lot.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
So, like, I just, I've been in the state of mind right now where it's just, like, Like, okay, like, like, like you get up and do all that. Like, like why you don't, you don't need it. And sure.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Like the other stuff feels futile. I don't, and it seems like, I think the kind of genesis of where this all is coming from is that like, um, like, uh, find, finding a meaningful career. That's not only, not only something that you like doing, but it's also able to support a family and like maybe, uh, uh, maybe burned out a mortgage eventually.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
It's just, it's something that everybody, everybody else is doing. And it's so strange to me. It's so, it's so predictable. I don't, and I don't know. It's, it's, it's very easy to get like winded from that. The more that you think about it, I guess. And that's kind of, kind of where I've been.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
so I'll give you an example. My brother and, uh, best friend are the main people that I talk to and they're moving on with different stages of their life, getting married and all that stuff. And I see them a lot, a lot less now. And, uh, you know, I, I, I get that they have different priorities now and everything like that. But, uh, it just, the things that they want are basically the same.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
And, uh, None of them really sound that exciting at all.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
I understand what you're saying. Yeah, I get that. That'd be cool.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
I don't know. When I was kind of late college, I used to tutor people as a side hustle and stuff like that. And it was cool seeing, I would have parents review me and stuff like that. And it wasn't just like, my kid has a B instead of a C now. It was like, Yeah, he has a little more confidence now.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
It was kind of cool just having someone to just talk to, not only about school stuff, but also about ways of thinking about things. And that was way more rewarding than anything that I did in tech sales, even though it made more money.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Oh, not much. I do, before I get into my question, I do want to just give you guys some gratitude and say I appreciate all you do. Found your show like a year ago, and it got me through some pretty rough stuff. So I appreciate all that you do, and I'm excited to talk to you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
What's up? Yeah, so I wanted to call. So I've got one of my ride-or-dies 15-plus year-long friendships. Um, he, I was in his wedding a couple of years ago and, uh, he found out probably a couple of weeks ago now that his wife has cancer and it's pretty heavy. And I just want to, uh, I want to figure out how I can support him and her obviously.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Um, cause I just like, this is luckily the first time in my life that, uh, I've had someone that I know this close that has been diagnosed, uh, Um, and I just like, I don't know how to help my friend. And that's, that's really what I want to do.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Um, so they're gonna, they're gonna treat it and, um, We'll go from there.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Yeah. I haven't asked. Okay. Like, try not to poke too much. It's like that weird... you know, like where you want to be supportive, but you like, they're going through it and they're, I mean, we're, or they're right in the thick of it. So I don't want to pry for too much information. Um, we do live like five or six hours apart, so I haven't been able to see him yet, but just phone calls.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Yeah, that... Yeah, I mean, that actually resonates pretty hard. I know they've obviously had a bunch of family coming into town, and obviously there's just a lot going on for them. This is one of the first times, like I said, he's I mean, to use your words, one of the in-the-vault friends for sure. And this is one of the first times he's called me and kind of broken down to me.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
He's just first responder, ultimate tough guy. There you go. Awesome, awesome dude.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Yep. Yeah, I know that. So we... He called me two Fridays ago now. Um, and I, that was my first response. It was like, Hey man, I'm getting in the car. It's five hours. It's, it's not going to take me very much time. Like let's hammer out a day that works for you guys in the next week. Um, and then they, they had some additional family come in.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Um, so we paused that and then I'm actually on a work vacation right now, but I land, I go back, uh, Friday, uh, And then, uh, I have a flight booked for the next week. They don't know I have a flight booked yet, but, um, I just, it was one of those, I'm going to, I'm going to do it and show up.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
And I think that's the right thing to do, but you know, you just like with a situation like this, you never really know what is right and what is wrong.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Okay. Yeah, that's, I mean, that, I mean, so we're like a couple weeks into this now, and that is, I have felt myself being like, dude, I don't know what to say. Like, nothing I can physically say is going to make the situation any better.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Yeah. Your presence will. It gives me a lot of, I don't want to say permission, but it gives me relief that just keeping our friendship going like it's gone for the last 15 years is... will bring some sort of maybe relief or distraction, if you will. Um, something like that, that will just, you know, give them a break from all that they're going through.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Divorced Me Because I Watched Porn
Cause yeah, that's the last thing I want to do is like, they don't need to make me feel better about it. Um, I'm sad for them. I'm sad for my friend, but the last thing I need them to do is to console me. Like that's right.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Hello. Um, so I just wanted, yeah, I was calling in because I have problems with like impulsive spending.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
Yeah. Like, but it's, it's bad. Like I'm 20 years old. This is the first job that I've had and it's not making me much. It's only like 200 bucks a week. but I'm living with my parents, so it's not like I have to pay rent or anything like that. You in school? I've been working.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
I'm only making $200 a week because I don't have a license because I got into it too late, and I'm still trying to get it now. I'm trying to get it now.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
So there was a whole thing that happened with my Social Security card getting lost, and so I had to get that renewed, and that took like two years.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
We do have it, but they told me I needed a Social Security card, which we got it all figured out.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
I'm getting... The people at the... The Department of Motor Vehicles? Yeah.
The Ramsey Show
Don't Chase Money, Chase Freedom
I'm getting $200 a week. I've been working maybe four and a half months now. I've been spending it all on... really spending it all on online games and food, which is obviously not good, and I know it's not good, and I need to get out of this rut. I just haven't been able to figure out the best way to do that. Okay.