Amber Boone
Appearances
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
The only contribution you want to have and make is that of positivity and just uplifting other people so they can get to that place you're at, period.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
No, I feel like the only way it is going to survive is if we don't have a child. Okay. So here's, there's a couple of different things that play into this. Number one, you know, obviously I had a kid at 14 years old, got married and was like, we're going to be together forever. I don't want to have multiple partners. I was like, I only want one person my whole life.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I want all my children to have the same father. I want this picture perfect, like thing that I was told I was supposed to have. And I was like, I'm going to have that. Okay. And so I stayed with a person for far too long because I thought that's what I was supposed to do. And he was a shit person. And it was like, wait, why am I doing this?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So we stayed together far too long because we had kids and because we were married and because that was the right thing to do. And it was, like, a lot involved in that. So when I finally, you know, ended that situation and started building my life and then I – came across another boy and, you know, did the whole baby and marriage thing again. And we were together for 10 years.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And once again, I felt like we were together far longer than I believe we would have been had we not had a child. And I think a lot of the us staying together was we really want he was also a teen parent. So, you know, he had an older daughter. And so it was just like we wanted to provide our son with what we were unable to provide our older children with.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And we wanted to provide them with this like family. And we did like we achieved the American dream. We bought the house with the picket fence in the suburbs and did all the things. And there was something like that still just it wasn't it. So I said after that, I was just like, I don't want to ever be in a relationship again or a marriage.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I really didn't want to get married again because I was just like, I want to be in a situation. I want to be with a person that we wake up every day and we just choose each other because of who the person is and not because, oh, well, damn, we have assets tied together or we're married and it's too much of a pain to go through a divorce or we have kids or this and that. Because I feel like
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I always found these reasons to hold on that had nothing to do with the person that I was with. And I feel like those are not good reasons to stay in a relationship or marriage or anything. So, yeah. So when I met my husband, I was like, I don't want another reason to stay with you if I don't want to stay with you. And if I have a kid and even us being married, it was just like we did it.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I didn't think I was ever going to get married, but we did it. And I'm just like, just so you know, I have no problems getting a divorce. Like, this paper is just, I don't know, it's good for, like, taxes and logistical shit. But outside of that, like, I have no problem divorcing her. It's just so we're very clear. Because I'm not having shit hold me here. Like, I don't want to be here.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Well, because it's more than just like marriage. Again, I think marriage is a lot easier to dissolve. You can't dissolve a kid like the kid. Right. So I'm just like, I think for me, that was my little safety net. If we lived in a world where divorce was not legal or something, then I probably wouldn't be married. But because I know I have that out, if I need it, I'm good. Yeah.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But with a kid like he wanted to have a baby. And first of all, he has five children. He needs no more. We need no more. Period. We have like 10 between the two of us, between our kids and grandkids. There are 10 underneath us that we are responsible for in some way, shape or form. And that's a lot. So I was like, you know, first of all, we don't we don't need any more. You don't need any more.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But I'm the one who got to go through that. I don't listen. Listen, I, I, I feel like I never even got to see my body fully achieved. Like my boobs never fully came in my butt. You know what I'm saying? Like I never got a full woman body because I ruined it before I even came by getting pregnant.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So I finally am at a time in my life now where I am confident and I feel sexy and like even, you know, I got stretch marks on my belly or whatever. My titties finally came in in my thirties. I don't know how, I don't know why, but I'm so thankful there. So I'm like, if you think I'm about to ruin this, absolutely not.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Well, I think like, I think it was just, we had several conversations over time and I, you know, from our first date and I continue to reiterate, like, I don't want, but what happened, I think ultimately I did end up, I would, he knew like I was fighting to get my, my youngest grandbaby when we were dating and stuff. So,
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I think once we got her or once I got her and then like he was, you know, more involved in our lives and everything, I think that was kind of like, well, this is like our baby because we're going to raise her together. So even though we don't like have a baby that shares, you know, our features and things like that, we still have a child that we can raise together.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So that's kind of like we get the best of both worlds, I guess.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
depends on the day and her mood. Cause she calls, she calls me mom and she calls him dad mostly. And she knows us as mom and dad, but she knows we're also, I don't know how she knows. Like I think, well, because her, when her sister visits, she calls me grandma. So she also knows to call me grandma sometimes, but then, you know, his kids call me miss Amber.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So then sometimes she calls me by my name, but she's starting, she's three now she's in preschool. She's very smart. And I think she's starting to realize like, My family's a little different and I'm not really sure why. Like she doesn't really understand who is what and all of that.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
We had to do, we did a lot of therapy with her when she, I mean, she just graduated therapy recently, but up until then we were doing therapy and part of the therapy was
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
her calling me mom because when she was starting to talk she um started saying like mama and stuff and I'm like whoa at this point I hadn't even adopted her so I'm like like slow your roll and we were going through therapy the therapist is like so well what do you how does she get your attention if she needs you and I was like well she usually just says like give me a hug like she doesn't call me anything like she had names for my son she had names for everybody and
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But for me, she, I, because I didn't respond to mama or I would like shut it down. She would just be like, I want a hug. And that was how she got my attention. And the therapist was like, well, what do you, what do you think a mom is? So I went through the whole, you know, what I think a mom is. And she was like, and what are you to her? And I was just like, yeah, but this is weird. Whatever.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I've had that. Which is like weird, because I swear we'd be at the same places. I'm like, how do I keep missing him? Yeah. Do you live anywhere near 8 Mile? No. Actually, I used to live right off 8 Mile for years, but I no longer do. Yeah. It's not like everyone's like, 8 Mile, the movie. I'm like, it's just the divider of the city, really.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
We went a lot of back and forth, but ultimately. Like the therapist kind of helped me be okay with her calling me mom, because as the, it came apparent that adoption was going to happen. I'm going to be mom on the birth certificate. When we take her to school, they're going to call me mom. You know, as we're, you know, I had her in like swim classes and stuff. And they're like, go to mommy.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like these people don't know. So they automatically just refer to me as mommy. And I'm not going to be like, oh, well, let me tell you my whole life story because actually I'm not her mom. I'm a grandma. Right. And then it's like this whole thing. So I just let it be what it is. And as she ages, I will age appropriately, answer any questions that she has.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah. They don't really have much of a relationship. She has never really been in my daughter's care other than when she was first born. So she was recently reintroduced to her life. And again, with like a little bit of guidance and how to properly reintroduce her. But my daughter is in the process of like getting her shit together.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
She's in the process of trying recovery and like all of these things that she needs to do. So it's, When they have seen each other, like it's usually like, oh, let's go to an event or something like something that's like public. And there's a lot of people there. So it's not like very intimate and like weird. You know, they have a good time. My granddaughter loves everybody.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So she's super lovey, super happy, super social, all of the things. And she's no different with her mom. But she just doesn't know like the I think the depth of what it is. You know what I mean? She's like, oh, she's like another cool person.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah. And that's, I mean, we we've had so many conversations over the years about it and how it would look and everything. And ultimately like we viewed it from that standpoint, well, we're just going to be in it together. And this is like, we're going to raise her together and like all of these things. But every, every new day, every new thing that happens is like, Oh, dang.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like you never know what to expect. Like now that my daughter is cleaning and recovery, it's like I have all of these emotions that I didn't see coming. So I now I'm I was like really angry with her at first. And then I was really I'm just going to love you through it. I'm just going to be compassionate and I'm just going to be like so selfless, unconditionally loving to you.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And now I'm like, wait a minute. I'm mad again because. I'm actually having angry feelings. And so I recently enrolled in this, like it's families against narcotics. And I have like basically my own 12 step program where I have a coach and I go through these 12 steps of like recovery, even though I'm not the addict, I'm like the mother of an addict.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But as you know, that comes with so many emotions and so many life changes. And You know, I never know what to be prepared for. And I thought when my daughter got clean, like everything was just going to be good again. It was just going to be great. And I was just like, okay, let's do this. And I realized that that's just the beginning of it. And recovery is not like cut and dry.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
It is a long process. And there's a lot of things that come with that. And I was like, holy crap, it all hit me kind of hard. And my husband was really worried about me. So he like, Did some research and found this place and I got enrolled in this program. So I'm doing it now. And I'm like really excited because I don't want to be angry.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But yeah, it freaking I just said like, I honestly like what the hell man raising kids. I've been doing this shit since I was 14. I am tired. I'm so tired.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I think it's because I have a second to be angry. I think that when she was in active addiction, I was so busy worrying about her and so busy like, you know, is she safe? Oh my God, save her, save her. And also I couldn't because once I got the baby, I had to focus on the baby. So before I had the baby, I was knocking on hotel doors. I was chasing her down.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I was like doing all of the things to try to legitimately like literally save her. And then I got the baby and I had to focus on my energy and the baby. So then all of my like emotional stuff and my mental stuff, my worries, my dreams, like everything was around my daughter. Is she safe? Is she alive? Is she okay? Oh my God, what's going on?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And it's like, once all of that is like lowered because now she's in recovery and she is safe and you know, she's good. And then it's like, Okay. Okay. So now you're safe and you're good, but why did you do this? Like, what the heck? You know what I mean? Like, and it's frustrating too, because mind you, I kind of started going through all this publicly because I did share it.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And so then people ask me questions, which sometimes makes me think things that I maybe haven't thought of before. And people, you know, say a lot of really mean things. Oh, obviously you were a horrible mom. Obviously you, you inflicted trauma on her and it's your fault. And like all these things that I'm like, Oh, my God. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think it's my fault.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
No, I'm not in the city anymore. I'm in the birds now.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like, even if people tell me that or not, I'm always – I will literally be sitting there like, you know, I wonder if I didn't ground her in the eighth grade for calling that boy if she would have – you know what I mean? I literally – I think – and I've had the conversation with my daughter. Like, do you think it's because you got in trouble that one time? Remember when I yelled at you?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
You think, like – I just ask her, like, why? Because – Your kid is 13, 14 years old right now, like your oldest. So think about when I raised her, like I said, we achieved like this picture perfect thing. I was like, oh my God, like the person that people look to like, wow, you did it. My daughter was on the honor roll. She got good grades. She was in church.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
She was on the cheerleading team, like picture perfect. Okay. She was like amazing. She graduated at 16 years old, did all the things. Right.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Right. And that's why I do share publicly because I'm just like, if y'all, if I would have had this platform 10 years ago, we'd be having a completely different conversation. You're just like, Oh my gosh, look at her. They're just so cute. Like, yeah, everything was good. Then life happens. And I know sometimes we don't know why it happens. And I have my theories and you know, a lot of it.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I believe she had postpartum depression really bad after she had my oldest granddaughter. And, um, Something happened. Like there was a switch in her. And I know because I was up, I was driving at the time I'm in Detroit. They was up in the Lansing area.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And so I was making that hour and a half drive, like three, four times a week, spending the night, like all the things just to help out with the baby and everything. And yeah, We had so many conversations. I was just like, what is going on with you? And she's like, I don't know. Like, I'm not myself. I was like, you need to go to the doctor. And she just kept refusing.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
She had a really bad case of sepsis. Like she had blood infection after she had the baby. She was in the hospital for a while. And it was like after she got home from that, things were just different. And I just, we had so many conversations where I was just like, what is going on? Are you okay? She didn't feel like herself. She's like, I don't know what's going on with me.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And she was searching for something. And I think like self-medicating and trying to figure out what that was led down a crazy road that got us to where we are today. But I mean, No one really, really knows. And I think until she does – she goes through, like, the full recovery process and she comes to kind of some of those answers herself, like, all I can do is really speculate. But it just sucks.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I am, in fact, a grandmother of two.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like, this isn't the life that I had pictured for any of us. And, no, I didn't know that I was going to be – I thought I was going to just be a grandma. Like, yeah, send the babies on the weekends. Like, let me smell them and cuddle them. And, like, that's it. And then send them back. And then send them back.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah, like, you just, oh. Yesterday, I was like, I want a pretzel. I'm sitting on my couch. I was like, I just want a pretzel so bad right now. I was like, I'm about to go to, like, the pretzel place and get a pretzel. I was like, Lord Jesus, I got to get this. Girl, get your shoes on. I got to do all this. I got to go back in the house and get your blanket.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And I told my husband, I was like, I really miss. There's only, like, a few months of my life where I can just get up and go, but I miss that.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
wow of two yeah you have the little girl um i don't know if you ever say her name or not so i don't i do just like casually her name is elena but yeah so i have her she's three and then her older sister yesenia is five okay do you have both of them or you just have the little one i just have the little one the older one's with her dad because i know everyone always asks me where's the older one unless she's with her dad she's
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
You know, that scale is like the interesting thing. And I think that's part of the frustration is I was just finding that. I was just finding that out when I got my grandbaby. So like, you know, you when you're young, you have kids. I literally gave up my life. I mean, like I was wild. Like I was 13 years old doing things like that. Grown people should not even be doing.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And then I got pregnant and I was like, I'm done. I'm done doing all of the things. I'm going to be a good mom. I'm going to be the mom that I wanted. I'm going to be a great mom. And I dedicated my life to just doing everything I thought would make me a good mom. And my whole life was centered around my kids.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Let me tell you, like, my jobs that I picked, they were jobs that I, where I could make sure I got my kids to school and get them home from school. And on their lunch hour, I was up there volunteering at the book fair. And then I was taking them to, you know, cheerleading, football, soccer, whatever. And, like, all the things. My whole life was them. And then it was, like, as they got older, okay.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I finished my college degree. I started, you know, working and like developing like a brand and like a corporate persona and all of this stuff. And I was like, okay, cool. But still it was somewhat revolved around my kids or whatever, but it was just like, but I started to realize as my kids got older, I was like, oh my God, they're going to leave. And then what am I going to do?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And that's when I started looking at my husband at the time differently. Cause I was just like, when the kids are gone, are we going to choose each other when they're not here? Cause I don't, I'm like, so like, So it was like this identity crisis. And I started finding myself. I got divorced, you know, like all of the things. And I literally I started a podcast, got 30 Flirty and Thriving.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I was like on top of the world, finding myself, exploring what I liked, what I didn't like, because when I got divorced from my husband. I had to get a new car and I was like, I don't even know what kind of car I want or like because every decision I've ever made has always been tied to my husband or the person I was with.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And like, what's going to be good for all the kids that we have to lug around? I never was just like, oh, this is the car I want. And that was like...
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
mind-blowing for me like I don't even know what kind of car to get um and so yeah so that was like 30 flirty and thriving I'm in my early 30s I'm thriving I'm figuring myself out I'm learning who I am bam back into this bullshit so now I'm like like I'm still trying to figure it out like I I feel like I meant for something so incredible and maybe this is it right maybe maybe my persona is always really tied into being a mom and a grandma and caring for others but like
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I just feel like I'm meant for something. And it's so hard to just keep my eyes focused on just building and building and building and figure out who I am when I'm literally always like have to be available. Like you said, like it was a crazy day today. You have packets and all this stuff. Like literally before we got on, I'm like my daughter's calling me with some craziness.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And like I just had to be available for like all of these outside things. And I was like, how the hell do people just do their thing? Like imagine if I just could do my thing. I was like, does mom's energy go off?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And do they get together? Yes, yes. So I get her. I used to get her a lot more, but she's in school now. She's in kindergarten. She has a whole life of her own. So I get her a little bit less often. But, you know, the part of me getting my younger granddaughter was, like, to preserve that sibling bond despite whatever is happening with their parents.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So that's my point. So, like, it's funny, because when Teen Mom came out, I watched the first season and the part of the second season. You're on the second season, right? Like, the OGs? Yeah. I stopped watching after you, because I was like, but... I was like, it was also frustrating.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Cause I was, but anyways, nonetheless, my point is that as I was watching that, I was just like, at the time I was already well into raising my kids, like in my twenties. But I was like, I wish there was like a teen moms all grown up.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like I, I mean, I had this thing like teen moms all grown up because for me, the hardest part about being a teen parent was not figuring out how to buy diapers at 15, but it's like, it's buying your kid braces when they're 12. It's figuring out.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah. And, and that's, and that's my point. Like teen mom, all grown. It's like the hardest part comes later on when you are just starting to figure out who you are as a human being, while your kids are growing into human beings and you're trying to like get them to be a good human being, but like, you don't even really know yourself. You're just figuring it out.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So like, it's really, it's difficult. in so many other ways. And now, yeah. So no matter how long I live, my grandma's 87 years old and she's still independent. Damn it. If I live that way, I get exhausted even thinking about living that long. I'm like, Oh my God, if I got 50 more years,
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Listen, I'm like, I want, you know, of course, hopefully I live a long, healthy life. Just let my grandma be independent. But that's the point. I want to... Man. If I have the 50 years of parenting and grandparenting and great-grandparenting and maybe great-great-grandparenting, like, I just get so tired. Like, it makes me cry when I think about it because I'm just like, oh, my God, it's so much.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like, I will never not be a parent. I will never, ever in my entire, if you get one shot at life, one. And this is why.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
promoting pregnancy like listen to me one shot at this shit and i will never know what it's like to not be a parent i will never know what it's like to not be responsible for a human another human being financially mentally emotionally like and anyway i will always this is all i will ever know so yeah don't wait just wait to have kids please lord jesus oh i tell people all the time don't have kids like my my two oldest they tell me they don't want kids and i'm like good go explore the world go travel like
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And that's the thing. And, you know, I used to tell my daughter that I'm like, you know, I have a lot of friends who like one of my really my best friends I've had since I was eight. She's having her first baby now at 37. She's got to have her any day now. But like growing up, my daughter, she's watching all my friends. I'm like, do you see how beautiful my friends are?
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Do you see how amazing their bodies are? Do you see how much they're traveling and how much fun they're having? Be like them. Do you see me? I haven't washed my hair in three weeks.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like you finally get to a place where you're like good. And then you're like, oh, I have another baby.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Girl, you better get your man or one of y'all, like, just, like, close up shop. So I had to do my husband. I was like, no, you need to because, yeah, and he did because I'm like, there's no way. I can't. Mm-mm.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah. I mean, I knew that was where that was going from jumps. He sounds like, he sounds like he heard about the, the run on sentence.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
It would have been easier to just put up a bunch of red flags. He could have kept all of those words, just red flag emojis, and that's it.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
You hit girls, that means you like them.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So it would have been easier for him to just say, I pay for punani. Because clearly you ain't getting it for free. Yep.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
No, but it's that projection. It's that projection. They are upset with themselves. They have this hatred towards women. They're upset with themselves because they're gay and they can't just admit it. So instead, they project their hate of themselves onto women.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I know, and it's crazy because now my son's 14, my youngest is 14, and I'm like, you could never.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So I have so many things. Okay. So first and foremost, if you're in Michigan, you're looking for a realtor. I'm a licensed realtor. And if you already are a realtor, I teach continuing education class. You can get your credits with me. That's how you got to get them anyway. I teach people how to use social media to grow the real estate business. I also do social media consultations.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And that was actually my day job. Like long before I actually started growing myself on social media, I helped other people grow on social media. And amberboom.net is my website.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Well, thank you for coming on Barely Famous. Thank you so much for having me. I was so excited to talk to you.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Go ahead. I see the kids like I see kids that age every time, even when my daughter, when she was in the eighth grade, I just I would stare at her every single day like, oh, God, oh, God, this is what happened. Like, please, Lord, no, there's no way. Thank you. Like she didn't. But like, yeah, her whole eighth grade year, every day I just woke up like in a state of a panic.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah. Yeah. I think it's probably a combination. Cause I was the same way raising my daughter. Like she, she couldn't blink without me knowing, like I was on her, I was on everything, which probably backfired later. But when she was a kid and under my care, baby, she was on point. Cause I was on top of everything. I knew everything.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
All of her friends, parents were significantly older and they didn't know what the hell was going on. And their kids were too scared to talk to them. So my daughter would come and tell me things and I'm like, their parents don't know about this. Like, what am I doing? But, like, I was the young mom, you know, so people would talk to me, even her friends. Like, I was the person that they came to.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Man, them parents ain't know nothing that was going on.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah, don't do that. Oh, my God. Every time I post, everyone's like, stop encouraging this. I'm like, I'm not. Trust me. And we're not. Yeah.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah, so I had my daughter at 14. At 16. We got married to her dad. And we got pregnant, like immediately after we were married. So I had my son at 17.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
That was crazy. And for me, it was normal. People ask me that all the time. I'm like, I don't know. It was just my life. You know what I mean? I don't know the alternative, really. That was it for me. But at the time, like you said, you were young. Your parents wasn't really paying attention to what you were doing. You were kind of wilding out. Same thing. So...
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
For me, I was just like, I'm grown. What are you talking about? Like, I'm married. I have kids. I'm living an adult life. Like, what's the big deal? But yeah, but their dad was kind of a dick. Can I say that? He was kind of a dick. And like, so it just it wasn't a good marriage. It wasn't a good relationship. He wasn't a good dad. We were very different people.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But it's hard to know when you're a teenager. really what type of person you are. And you usually like just develop so quickly in those later teen years into like the person you're going to be. And we were just growing in complete opposite directions. So, um, by the time I was 19 years old, I was done and finally left him. Yeah. And that was it. So then I was 19 and single with two kids. It's,
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I don't understand when people make comments. I'm always so blown away. I forget that TikTok is like the whole world and it's people that whose whole world is TikTok and they literally don't go outside of their bedrooms. They don't know what the hell's happening in the real world. But when I grew up. You know, it was I grew up in Lansing, Michigan. So it's about an hour and a half from Detroit.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
That's where I went to school and everything. And it's not just diverse. It's very integrated. Like everybody is mixed. Everybody's working together, playing together, going to school together. So, you know, I don't even know. It was a melting pot. It was not uncommon at all. You didn't think twice about it. So, yeah, my first two children are Puerto Rican and Colombian and white.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So technically their race is white, but their ethnicity is Hispanic. And then after, you know, I had divorced their dad a few years later, I met my second husband and had, you know, a biracial son, which again, to me, whatever, like I'm not picking people for their race. I'm just like, Hey, you're a cool person or a good dude or whatever. Like you could be purple Asian. I don't care.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
I didn't care. So I mean like at this point we can do the rainbow. I don't care. Like it makes no difference to me, but yeah, people seem to, um, take issue with that.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Yeah, no, I don't understand what the fascination with me and race is, but there is some fascination, which also kind of was like a whole other leg of my TikTok journey was, oh, my gosh, you know, there were some really large creators that were coming for me. like unprovoked and unnecessarily so. And it was an issue for her. I had a whole stalker.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Like she was like stalking every single social media that I had and was like blowing me up, sending me messages, like tagging me, like going crazy. My whole, her whole page was like videos of me. It was insane. It was insane.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
No, that one wasn't. But the people, the reason how she found me was because a big creator did a video on me. And I like clapped back and it was like a whole thing. The videos have all, to my knowledge, been deleted or the original video was deleted that the large creator came after me or whatever. Yeah, but again, just...
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
No. Apparently, I have a black scent.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
A black accent. I don't know. So it's the whole like, it's an insinuation that I try to be black or I want to be black or that I'm doing it for clout or that I'm appropriating culture or I'm like, oh, she thinks she has a black kid or a black man so she can da da da da da da. People forget that I existed before the Internet and I existed before TikTok.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So I've been a whole human being before all these things came to play. And just because you see me now doesn't mean that I'm trying to appropriate something I saw on this app because I've literally been the same person since before the app existed. But people get stuck on that. So originally what happened was a creator called Aunt Karen, which that's a real name.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But she, uh, did, she took a video. She found a video of me talking about something positive. I was just talking about some, I don't know, happy, smiley, happy shit. And she took that video and made a duet or a stitch or something and was like, but why the black scent and dah, dah, dah, dah. And it was just like going in on me and everybody.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So I don't even know, like, how does this even happen with TikTok? I randomly, you know, did a video about somebody. I don't know. I don't even know. I did a video talking about something and someone left a comment like, grandma, like, aren't you like 27? And I responded like, 27, girl? Like, you know, so I just like genuinely, like,
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And I happened to see it like within 10 minutes of her posting it. And I looked at her follow count, like 1.6 million followers. I was like, what? to like have happen or be known for or whatever. And so I, I was busy. So I like took a screenshot real quick. So I remember to go back to it because at the time I had a lot of notifications and I just couldn't keep up.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
So I'm like, okay, screenshot, I'll go, whatever. Well, next thing I know when I go to go back to respond, it was deleted because the comments that she was getting were all like, why are you doing this? What are you talking about? They were like supportive of me. And I think it didn't get the reaction that she wanted. So she deleted the video.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But I decided to still go ahead and respond to her because I was just like, you can't falsely call things like this out because you have a large platform that you could be using for good. And calling people out for stuff that's not actually wrong or they're not actually doing anything wrong, like, that's bullshit. And then it, like, went on this whole thing.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
And then the girl found me and then she started stalking me. It was, like, crazy.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
Well, and I think I think a lot of it has to do with that people, people really and I've just learned this, especially since being and you've been dealing with this for a long time, obviously, because of just being in the public eye and the media and everything.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But, you know, people love to point out the flaws or perceived flaws and others because it makes them somehow feel better about their own insecurities. It really is projection. It really and I hate like. Being this, I don't know, like, in this world where everyone's like, oh, using these big therapeutic words like narcissist and da-da-da-da and this and that.
Barely Famous
Best of Episode: Teen Mom: All Grown Up with Amber Boone
But, I mean, no, I really do believe that people – happy people genuinely do not go and shit on other people. If you are sincerely at peace with yourself, you are not shitting on someone else. Even if you don't like something, you're moving along. Because when you're genuinely at peace and happy with yourself –