Allison
Appearances
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
This is where I think I think we've talked about this many times in the past, but like all organizations have a natural tendency to grow. They want to grow. They're not like, find me one nonprofit or find me one university or find me one company or one government agency that's ever said, my job is to shrink myself. It's never happened. So why does that happen?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Well, if you look at the day-to-day operating role of each individual, over time, like all individuals, they want to do more. They wanna have a bigger impact. They wanna have more scale. They wanna have more leverage. So there's this natural set of incentives that drives a lot of choices and operating procedures on the ground
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
that create more structure, more scale, more leverage and drive more hiring. Everyone wants to become a manager of people. They don't want to just be doing the same IC job forever, individual contributor job forever. So if they want to be a manager, they got to find more stuff to do. And then they got to hire people to do that stuff.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So all of these organizations, whether again, and we've all been on boards of nonprofits, I'm sure. And we've all been involved in this sort of thing. There's always this like, incentive to raise more capital to hire more people to do more stuff that sort of It's really unclear until you really dig into the psychology of each individual person working there why this is happening.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I don't think that the federal government is any different. Each of these people feel they want to be more important, they want to have a bigger role, they want to have a bigger impact.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
If your job directionally is to regulate, then what's the scalar on regulation? More regulation. So therefore to do more, you have to regulate more. There's no regulator that says, I wanna regulate less over time, because we've created a system that's one directional. So you have to have these resets.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
If you don't have them naturally, they're gonna happen unnaturally in the form of social unrest and breakdowns of the economy and collapse of social structures, all these other things that happen way, way down.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Or as Chamath is pointing out in California, in the economic structure of California, which I think is happening on a kind of national scale because of the outsized role the federal government plays in our national economy here today. So you have to have these unnatural forces come in and do this readjustment from time to time. Otherwise, it's just going to break on its own.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I feel like America is Neo from the Matrix where there was like a thousand bullets being shot at America and we like literally had to dodge every single one of them in order to get to this point. Again, I am so shocked and surprised in a positive way that we ended up on this particular timeline. Look, everything had to go the way it went for this to have happened.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Biden decided to run for reelection. Biden stayed in too long. They didn't run a primary. They put Kamala in.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Elon decided to throw $100 million at the problem. Elon bought Twitter. China had a real estate bubble.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I mean, you can go down the list of things that had to go right for us to get to this very moment where a small group of people have recognized the fiscal death spiral that the United States federal government has been in and have the authority and the capacity and the skills to be able to go and execute against a solution I have no idea how this could have been architected.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Maybe Sax knew all along and I convinced him two years ago that this was how things had to go and he's been designing it like Emperor Palpatine.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
As we remember, when we talk with Dalio about this, he's like, there have been a handful. And also around the relationship with China, which I think this is all very tightly related, we may have dodged a lot of bullets. And if the United States can get its house in order, reduce federal spending while increasing economic activity, it can be a tremendous unlock for the US and for world peace.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So because again, I think that conflict arises when we don't have our own fiscal house in order. And so I feel very positive, more surprised and positive than I was a year ago, six months ago. It's just amazing we're on this timeline. And I do think the United States as NIO dodged a lot of bullets here.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
A couple billion.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I mean, if you can't... I just wish it weren't political, right? I want all Americans and Democrats to stand up and say, this is the right thing for the United States.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
What Chamath just said is so important. There's a great interview. I've mentioned this in the past between Tim Ferriss and Charles Koch from a couple of years ago, where he brings up this exact example about how regulatory burdens make it difficult for women to become hairdressers. It's like $7,000. So they don't have the capital to do that because of the regulatory burden to get there.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Think about building your home or, you know, like, let's say you want to put a shower in your bathroom, change the shower in your bathroom. You don't want to spend $15,000 on all the permitting regulatory stuff to make that happen. It's going to unlock value for everyone. That's a small example of kind of a regulatory problem. But this benefits everyone.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And the cost of transportation will come down.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It would be a downer to me if they were still pushing a $7.2 trillion federal budget next year. That would be a downer. And by the way, I think that there's a deeply linked relationship between social issues, economic issues, political policies, and foreign conflict. They all seem like they're four different things, but they're so tightly interwound.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And it's interesting how everything kind of moves together with this shift in who ended up winning this election cycle. And I think it really speaks to the relationship between the four.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It used to be that Democrats were progressive. Progressive means progress, looking forward. And the last decade, the last couple of years in particular, I think a lot of people that I know that are former Democrats, and Chamath, you can speak for yourself, feel like the Democrats stopped looking forward. And it was all about trying to like recast the past.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And all of a sudden, you've got guys like Elon promoting themselves as Republicans, highlighting that this is the party that looks forward. This is the party that drives progress. It's an amazing shift. I don't know if there's been anything like it that's happened this quickly.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
That would be a huge win, right? Look, if the federal budget gets to $3 trillion... And regulation gets cut. If you get 50% of the regulations in federal agencies cut, I think you unleash an economic sonic boom.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I mean, how much do you guys stock with companies?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
The regulatory stuff is brutal, man. I mean, it's legit brain-melting shit.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Real estate, construction, energy, infrastructure.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Look, Doge has probably 18 months to do what they can do before the midterms, and there's gonna be an inevitable amount of recoil and backlash that's gonna arise from the actions that they're gonna try and take and President Trump's gonna try and take under the recommendations provided by Doge.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
freedom to operate, just freedom to do stuff you want to do.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So they need to move fast and aggressively, and that's only gonna cause the recoil to be harder and faster. There's gonna be a ton of litigation. Obviously, everything's gonna go to court It's going to be incredibly politicized. What is frustrating and challenging to me is that there is nothing that they said that doesn't seem obvious and right.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I don't know how you can politicize the points that they're making. Put aside their party. Put aside who they are individually. Put aside how we got here. At the end of the day, this federal government needs to be run more efficiently, more effectively.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It is unfair and it is a tax on every one of us to have money thrown away, to have wasted capital, to have bureaucracy that gets in the way of people being able to do their jobs. It is a tax on all of us and our kids and our future. It needs to be fixed. If it doesn't get fixed, as I've said countless times before, we are in an arithmetic debt-death spiral. There is no way out of it.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Putin is not a dummy. He has heard and seen Trump's campaign rhetoric and sacks. I don't know if this has been publicly reported that he had a call with Trump after the election victory. Does Putin not see that in a couple of weeks, a couple of months, there will be new leadership in the White House and there's going to be a path to a resolution here?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
She grabbed my computer and she looked at it and it was an essay.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Like, does that not give us all a little bit of reprieve that this is not going to escalate because everyone's waiting for January 20th?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So by resolving both the inefficiency, reducing the bureaucracy, stopping the wasteful spending, having accountability in the government, we can actually get the United States another 50 years, 100 years, whatever long we want. But we were literally in a death spiral leading up to this moment. And I have no idea how we ended up on this timeline.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
But you only win a dollar. So you could be betting, you know, 80, you know, 40 bucks, 80 bucks, $160, $320. And then you finally win and you win a dollar.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
That's why all casinos have a max. Yeah, exactly.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Oh, no.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
In our college years, early 20s, we would go to drink for free at the casino. You just sit at the blackjack table and just keep going.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
This was a long time ago. This happened last year. Well, I mean, if you bet a dollar and then you bet two bucks, you can just keep drinking for free for like two or three hours and then go out and enjoy your night. You've made 15 bucks and call it a night.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
I was over the moon and shocked when I read all of the progress over the last couple of weeks and putting this thing together. I did not know that this is where we were end up. I couldn't be more happy with what I think is going to happen with Doge and its effect on, if not actually making the changes, shining a light on the issues that need to be addressed.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
You guys want to do science corner? I got one for you.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
All right. I will give you guys.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Here's a depressing paper that was published in the journal Nature just this week. Research team out of Switzerland. going over to the Swiss, where they are conducting extraordinary research in the epigenetics of fat cells in obesity.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
No, we're actually gonna understand perhaps why it is difficult for people that have been overweight
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
To keep the weight off.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It is really incredible. So remember, we've talked about this many times in the past, but every cell has all your DNA, all your genes. And certain genes are turned on or off in different cells. And those genes being on or off differentiates those cells and causes them to act differently.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
That's the difference between an eye cell and a skin cell and a heart cell is they have different genes that are upregulated, downregulated, turned on and turned off. And even when you have different kinds of cells, you have certain genes that are overexpressed or underexpressed or overregulated or upregulated or downregulated.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So that means that those genes are turning, pumping out certain proteins that do certain things in that particular cell. So what these folks did is they wanted to understand what is the epigenome, meaning what are the genes that are turned on or off or upregulated or downregulated in fat tissue and fat cells. And does the epigenome change
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
when an individual loses weight, so once they're obese and they lose weight, do the fat cells actually change their epigenome or do they have an epigenetic memory? Meaning that those cells, even though the person has lost weight, those cells still continue to act as if that person were obese.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So I'll tell you, in humans, they basically took five individuals that were obese and lost more than 25% BMI. And they looked at the epigenome, they looked at the markers of what genes are upregulated and downregulated before and after they lost the weight.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And I will say it is unfair to Americans for this to be politicized. The Democrats shouldn't make this a Republican issue. This is not about Republicans doing damage. This is about doing the right thing for the government and for the country. And the Democrats had an opportunity to own this issue, and instead they've chosen to oppose it, which makes no sense.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
After they lost the weight, there were a set of markers that were still upregulated that are associated with poor metabolism and increased fibrosis and increased cellular death. So these are inflammatory genes. These are genes that are associated with the cells being inefficient at utilizing glucose to create energy.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And so these cells continue to act like slow dying cells, even after the person lost weight. And they did the same thing in mice and they found similar results that they caused these mice to gain weight, looked at the epigenome of the fat cells, and then looked at the epigenome after they lost the weight. And again, the mouse epigenome continued to act as if the mouse was obese.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And what this means is that the metabolism remained reduced, fibrosis remained elevated and likelihood of cell death remained elevated. So now they applied glucose in a petri dish to those cells, and they saw that the glucose had a harder time being fully being appropriately utilized from a healthy fat cell that hadn't been obese.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
So it actually permanently alters and creates an epigenetic memory in the fat cells after obesity. And this could explain pretty significantly why when people that have been obese lose the weight, they are more likely to gain the weight back and have a hard time keeping the weight off.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Well, the problem, what we do see in all those results, that when you go off of the GLP-1 agonist drugs, you gain the weight back very quickly. This is some amount of the weight.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It's a pretty significant bounce back effect. And this is pretty well documented. And so I think that it speaks to the why. Now, it also introduces an opportunity. There are molecules that can turn certain genes on or off, can now be identified and utilized to change that epigenetic memory.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
This could arise from things like increased exercise. It turns out that when you do significant amounts of cardiovascular exercise, There are certain genes that are expressed that trigger other genes to switch on or off.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And so we can start to identify those particular molecules and produce either supplements or additional drugs or combo therapies that can both knock the weight off and keep it off by changing the epigenetic memory in those cells.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
And so it introduces a whole new class of opportunity for folks to explore how do we help folks that are obese lose the weight and then flip the switch that they can keep the weight off.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
It is frustrating and challenging to me as an American to think that this is even a political point. This should be a what's right for America point. It's almost like we're going to war, war with ourselves, with our bureaucracy, with the morass that's been built up over the last couple of decades. And I'm thrilled that this is happening. And frankly, put the people aside.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Well, I think his nighttime erection rate is pretty impressive. Not three hours and eight minutes for a nighttime erection.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Maybe it's the fact that you need people that are as outspoken, as challenging, as difficult as these two particular individuals are going to run this group. but that might be what it takes for it to happen in the small 18 month window that they have. So I don't know, that's my rant on it.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
DOGE unveils a roadmap, Unlocking GDP Growth, WW3 escalation, Fat cell memory
Yeah, there's going to be a live stream. Thanks to Zoom for setting this up for us. It's kind of interesting. They're doing this thing where you could kind of, you know, get access to live events. So they're helping us get this set up. If you want to watch the stream live. On Zoom? Anything's possible. It could be spicy.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Good. So I am one of the OG 17 and we are excited because next month we get to go see you at the money and relationship tour in Louisville.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Oh, that would be amazing. Thank you so much.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
All right, so what's up? So I have my question, and I wrote back. I wrote out some background for context because I get nervous.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Go for it. So my question is, how can I be a more fun parent while still raising good kids? The background is, for context, I am married to an amazing guy. He's the father of both of our kids. We share the responsibilities of raising and disciplining our kiddos when need be. But my husband is super creative when it comes to playing with the kids where I am more tightly wound.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
And I cannot seem to relax. I've taken advice from your show. We've purchased the Questions for Humans family edition, incorporated biweekly breakfast dates before school with the kiddos. I purchased books. But there are times during my one-on-ones with my kids that I feel like my body is just pulling me away and just shutting down.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
So I want my kids to see that I can also relax and be fun and not just be dad.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Thanks. I don't feel like it some days.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
I mean, if we were talking from his perspective, that would be every day. His comment is a lot of times that I'm a sight for sore eyes, and I'm like, I don't see that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Oh, gosh. I honestly can't pinpoint. I don't. Like if we go out for a date night, like, you know, obviously I've been, I'll put more effort into getting dressed up and, you know, making myself look nice. So, I mean, like if we're going to pinpoint something, I could say that for sure.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Um, that would probably be like on a random day that I will text him like, okay, like, Hey, when we get home, this is the plan for tonight. Like kids need to go to bed early. Like we've, we've taken those cues from your show and tried to incorporate that because you know, having two kids is hectic.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Oh, he does. He plays right back with him.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Okay. No, my husband is more like you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
I think it's, When I can just see my kids more gravitate towards my husband for, like, the fun outlet, I'm more the one they come to for the conversations of, like, I like somebody in school or I'm having difficulty in school with a particular individual. So I think we're both safe spaces, but it seems like they'll gravitate more towards him for the fun. Yeah.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
And sometimes I feel like I kind of get left out.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
Can you ask me that a different way?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
I think it's going back to constantly having conversations with them of, you know, you can tell me anything. Um, I may be upset, but I'm never going to be angry.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
No, not all the time. I, I, I do like the role, but occasionally it's, I realized that like, that's where dad maybe shines. Like I'll come home and there's boxes all over the living room and they've made a tunnel and I'm just like, And I'm like, that's awesome. But then I feel like, oh, I wish I could have thought of that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
I would 100% say it comes from my childhood of not having a present parental figure who wanted to play with me. It was always like, hey, you need to go on your own and figure things out or go find friends. And so for me, I feel like I'm lacking in that area.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
I didn't think about it like that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Husband Was Arrested for Assaulting Me
No, I think you're right because I've placed myself in that role with being a type A personality where I have to be in control and I have to see all of, like you said, the finances and the doctor's appointments and dentist appointments that sometimes I forget that he can also carry that weight.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
That's a great question. Definitely the first one. We thought that she might be diminishing mentally. I still hold that opinion. There are other family members that think she's just the way she's always been. Is there anything left? She told me there's about $5,000 of my grandmother's money left. My grandmother does have income, and that's going to cover her nursing home expenses.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
She's actually in hospice now, and I do feel like my grandmother's going to be okay. We've been working with the nursing home to make sure that they're going to continue her care, and it's not going to be too much longer.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
My grandmother. My grandmother. Because my mother is a power of attorney for my grandmother, which is how this came out, because I'm like the second in line for a power of attorney. I forget that term right now.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
No, she's really in denial at the moment. I've tried to send her budgets. I've tried, you know, stuff from from your website.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
Yeah. It's almost like an addict behavior, like I'm kind of waiting for her to hit bottom, and then I'm going to try to scoot her some resources, which is...
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
Right. I think they're aware because of the conversation I understand with the bank. I do think she's on. I've researched all this. I think she's on. There's like a list. So I think it has been reported to the FBI. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
Hi, thanks for taking my call. I appreciate all the education that you guys provide. Um, my question today is about how to help my mother recover from a romance scam. Um, she recently found out that there's about $1.2 million missing from hers and my grandmother's, um, estate. Um, and it's gone. Uh,
The Ramsey Show
Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
And I know I'm not responsible for my mother's spending, but there's just very few resources out there to help someone as they recover from this kind of scam.
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Don’t Wait for Someone Else To Fix Your Life
Yeah, I don't even think she met him in person. So this got flagged from her bank after she transferred $300,000, and they flagged that. But that was only the biggest transfer. There were a lot of other smaller transactions totaling that I'm aware of, about $1.2 million. How old is your mom?
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Well, okay, I'm just going to be quick about this. My husband passed away. I'm sorry. Yes, you know what? You had to love him or you had to hate him. It was one or the other. My question is, he hid everything from me. The day he died, I found out we had a sheriff's sale also on that day for my home, and I had absolutely no clue. He hid all the paperwork, everything. Sent me to Atlantic City.
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Like we had nothing wrong. And so I'm in a pickle. I'm not really sure what I should do about this.
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September 17th. I also moved my father into my home six weeks prior to that. He was in Colorado. He's been there 56 years. I just moved him back here. And then this happened. So.
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Yeah, I felt like I got hit by a two-by-four. He's knocked out to the ground. Oh, Allison. Yeah, and I have my three-year-old grandson lives with me and two of my adult daughters because it's very expensive here, you know. The taxes are really, my taxes are 10 grand. I don't even have a quarter of an acre. You know, it's just really expensive. Yes.
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Okay. I believe he was in the rears for eighty six thousand. He was in a bankruptcy for three years to save the home when he was in the hospital a couple of years ago. And that was fine. He was paying thirty seven hundred dollars into the bankruptcy and twenty four to a regular mortgage. And I guess he just ran out of money and never told me.
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Well, I have, I don't believe that I owe what they're saying. I know. I understand there's interest in all that. Um, but they, they kind of put us in that position. It's a cop. It's a servicer that has been taken to court many times and, uh, had to pay out millions of dollars for wrongfully taking people's homes. And, um,
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This is what I was battling for a few years before I stumbled on that when he was in the hospital. So I just wanted to know what is the bottom line? Like, what can I pay to get it out of foreclosure and then possibly just keeping the mortgage and paying that off? I don't even know what I think. How far behind are you?
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Well, he stopped paying that mortgage or the mortgage and the bankruptcy in January. Okay.
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I get physically ill opening those statements because of what happened five years ago. They actually told me they couldn't talk to me because I wasn't on the mortgage, but... I was on the mortgage, so they made me behind even more time. And you're sure that you're on it at this point? Oh, I'm positive. I got my own paperwork hidden. It was hidden in the closet.
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My, my, what I would like to do is at least keep it so that I can sell it because I have, it's worth 620 and I owe, what they say I owe is 320. My mortgage was for 340, 315 years ago.
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No, I'm not, because I was taking care of my uncle who passed away last Christmas. He was dropped off at my grandson's birthday party. And they're saying, here you go. You get to take care of him. I took care of him for two years, so I didn't work.
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And I guess I don't know how well that works, but I get 20 grand every September for six years and I can roll it back into it or, you know, use it or whatever.