Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
#510 One Thing That Separates Top Performers + How to Say No Without Offending People, A Solo Episode Mashup with Heather!
Tue, 08 Apr 2025
How do you know when to lean into uncertainty and take risks for the opportunities on the other side? In this special solo episode mashup, I’m bringing back parts of two top solo episodes about how to visualize your full potential, navigate (and find opportunities in) uncertain times, and how to say no to “good” when you know it isn’t in alignment with the “great” you’re working towards. In This Episode You Will Learn About: How you can bounce back with positive thoughts after a setback. Ways to EMBRACE uncertainty to overcome challenges. How to embrace UNCERTAINTY to open the door for OPPORTUNITIES. What happens if you stop WORRYING and focus on what you can CONTROL. How prioritizing YOURSELF helps you step into your BEST SELF. Why you should choose GRATITUDE over CHAOS to protect your peace. Resources + Links Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Download the CFO’s Guide to AI and Machine Learning at NetSuite.com/MONAHAN. Want to do more and spend less like Uber, 8x8, and Databricks Mosaic? Take a free test drive of OCI at oracle.com/MONAHAN. Get 10% off your first Mitopure order at timeline.com/CONFIDENCE. Get 15% off your first order when you use code CONFIDENCE15 at checkout at jennikayne.com. Call my digital clone at 201-897-2553! Visit heathermonahan.com Sign up for my mailing list: heathermonahan.com/mailing-list/ Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Follow Heather on Instagram & LinkedIn
Chapter 1: What key factors separate top performers in sports?
The skill set's the same. The talents are very similar. The coaching's very similar. The situations are very similar. There's no big smoking gun you can point at. What made these top three the top three, and why consistently were they winning? Well, guess what they found. This is so cool, so interesting. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our
tomorrow i'm ready for my close-up hi and welcome back i'm so glad you're back here with me this week okay so a couple of things that came up that i thought might add value to you or might be helpful in some way in wherever you are today right we all have good days we all have challenging days we're all faced with different situations but i'll tell you this one thing i know for sure
If you're on the hamster wheel and just reliving Groundhog Day over and over, you are in trouble. Please pump the brakes, do something different. That is a death trap. That's called circling the proverbial bottom of the sink. Like you're going nowhere but down, right? No, we are not meant for that. We are meant for so much more.
So I'm going to challenge you, whatever it may be, sign up for a new class, join a new program, you know, commit to an accountability partner. Do something to get you, like one small thing can jumpstart everything and start you down a completely different path of change, growth, personal growth, and potential within you. And that's what we're all here for is to live that potential within us.
And far too many cemeteries are full of potential that was never realized. Don't let that be you. Don't let that be me. No, we got to push each other to go for more to make this world a better place. And anything can change in an instant. It's up to you. Okay. I'm hopefully going to give you some good solutions on how you can make some change and you can do that today.
So two different things that came up that I wanted to share with you. One, I was watching a video, a really successful guy, actually local in South Florida. He was talking about some research that he had accessed from a professional tennis coach. And the professional tennis coach was looking at the absolute top, top, top three of the best world champions in tennis.
and then looking at the difference between them and the top 25, right? So if you're the top 25 in the world in tennis, I wouldn't think there's probably all that much difference, but he had found some very specific things, something very specific actually, that made these individuals perform better, differently, and above the top 25, right?
So, you know, most people would think like, oh, it's obviously one person's more skilled than the other, you know, obviously one person had a better coach, Better parents started younger. They practice more. They've had more in-person tournaments. I'm sure there's a million reasons. But what is interesting to me is none of those were the determining factor.
In fact, he said it didn't matter what age they started at. Didn't matter necessarily, you know, who had the most prestigious coach or went to this school or had the wealthiest parents.
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Chapter 2: How can you break free from routine and embrace change?
And whenever you wake up, just let me know how you're doing. So I wake up in the morning, I look right away at my phone and it looks to me like maybe the hurricane moved a little more north. And so I said, you know what? I'm just going to go to the airport. And so I got dressed, ran to the airport.
And when I tell you I got to the airport and there wasn't a soul in there, it was the wildest thing ever. There was a handful of people there. No lines at the Miami airport. What? Said no one ever. Usually it's pure chaos. No lines, no people. Got right to my gate. Said my flight was on time. Boarded my flight. I think there was a total of five people on the airplane. It was completely empty.
It was the most surreal situation. And a few people said to me, well, aren't you scared to fly? I was not because I knew, listen, this is what these people do for a living. If it was that bad and they couldn't fly around it, they're going to cancel the flight, right? And I just know that, I know if we're boarding the plane, we're going to be fine. And so boarded the flight.
It was literally the easiest trip to the airport, easiest flight of my entire career. And we got in 45 minutes early because there was no air traffic issues. You know, there was no problems at all because there's no planes leaving Miami. And I guess everybody else had, you know, decided that flights weren't going to be going.
So anyhow, point is this, I get in so early, I can't get into my hotel room. So there was like this whole backlog of other domino effect problems that occurred because I never thought I was even actually going to be there. And then I was and then I couldn't get into the hotel and then I had to get ready for the event and blah, blah, blah. First world problem after first world problem.
However, like you're in it, let's make it work. And we did. And it ended up being a great trip. And I'm so grateful I got to be there. In any moment that you get the chance to show up for people that show up for you, you got to do it, right? Like whenever you can, you really want to, because it means so much, you know, just a special thing. It doesn't happen every time, right?
There's plenty of times that we can't make it to somebody's event. I was so grateful to be able to be there for her, to show up for somebody who shows up for me all the time. Okay, so during this time before I was heading out, a number of people were reaching out to me saying, I think you should cancel on both of your events for your friend and for your partner because it's too dangerous.
It doesn't look good, right? Like worrying, worrying, worrying. And again, listen, I get it, right? But I was trying not to do that. I want to expect the best and put that out there and then just handle it as it comes. I wanted to walk you through
a couple of different ways you can handle something if you do want to decline, because there are going to be times you can't be, listen, the reality is if the hurricane hit, I was not leaving my kid here. It wasn't even if I could get out, right? I was, if he was not going to be safe, I was not leaving. And I'm not going to apologize for that. That was like the one thing I was clear on.
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