AJ Berlin
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Folsom Berlin is not Folsom SF. Folsom Berlin definitely is much more geared towards gay men and is in many ways, kind of, it has many of the events are kind of by queer people for queer people.
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Well, it depends how you're defining, if you're throwing gay men in with queer people, how you're defining the gay scene versus the queer scene here. We might need more time to go into that more specifically.
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The vast majority of events are by gay men for gay men. Yeah, that's true.
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They have created these events. And so I think they're allowed to create an event and have that event. Yeah.
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Absolutely. I mean, Folsom Berlin or Folsom Europe, as it's commonly called, is the street fair is absolutely welcoming to people from all backgrounds in the same way that it is in San Francisco. And and so A lot of the default venues around the street fair are the kinky gay men's bars. And they are not welcoming to people from all backgrounds.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
And many of the bars explicitly do not allow women or trans people. So I've had conversations with them about that. And you are welcome to also talk to them about that.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
Absolutely. Yeah, Krellgeist is often a role model for a BDSM and kink venue which does things like exactly how we want them to be, like fully inclusive of trans people, you self-identify at the door, there's no questioning, and you can also be at a men's night and wear feminine clothing and do what you like.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
A lot of the bars in Schöneberg, which surround the street fair, I've heard bar managers walk up to people who don't look like cis men and say, hey, no women, no trans, out, in places like Prinzkenest and New Action and things like that.
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Yeah, in my experience, I mean, I was in there in Folsom. I mean, I was having a drink outside there at Folsom Berlin last year, and the bar manager was kicking people out who weren't cis men. So I find that quite difficult to deal with, to be honest. And I welcome people to have conversations with them about that.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
Absolutely. Yeah. And the street fair is absolutely welcoming to people from all different backgrounds, especially, uh, people who have more alternative kinks and are playing with things like pony play and ABDL. and things like this that, you know, in, in other places you might get some looks and stuff like that. The street fair absolutely welcomes people like this.
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Yeah, I mean, firstly, I would say if you're like, let's say a hetero presenting couple, the two main big clubs which you would go to in Berlin are the famous Kit Kat Club, especially their Saturday night party, the Carnival Bazaar. It's huge and well known. It's been running for a couple of decades. And Insomnia is the other one that people often go to.
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Having said that, you can delve a bit deeper. Those are more kinky club nights sort of thing where there's more dancing than anything else. But there are there is a lot of sex and some BDSM happening. If BDSM is your focus and you're really going hard with the kink, then there are nights and all of the nights are clearly labelled as well. You might just have to do some more digging.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
But the Felgeist, for example, on the Monday before and after Folsom, they have a party called Blue Monday, which is a hetero and mixed party. And the Kvalgeist is, you know, like a very well-equipped dungeon club with all of the dungeon equipment that you can dream of, such as even things like a Victorian stretching rack and a bondage wheel and a padded cell.
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So there are one or two other venues as well. Like Sin Berlin is like a small dungeon club. And there's Club Culture House, which hosts things like bisexual parties and stuff like that. And, you know, there are flinter parties that are happening as well. female, lesbian, intersex, non-binary, trans and agender, FLINTA. So they use it as like a female inclusive acronym.
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And like there are, you know, there's nights such as Honey and Spice at Fall Guys, which it'll be like FLINTA, like women inclusive only. Femme Fatalities at Boozer Bourbon. And one of my favorite names of the week is Squirt de Soleil as well.
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Yeah. Cis men are not invited to flinter parties. No, they will go and have fun at their own spaces.
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I think, I think trans people, in my opinion, belong in all of these spaces. And this is a hotly debated topic. Even I have arguments all the time with my friends about this. I am personally, you know, very experienced with the kink scene and very happy when mixed spaces. And I wish everyone could go into all of these spaces and And I'm very happy.
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Like, for example, I've been at places where it's been like vast majority gay men and then there's some lesbians in the sling next to me and we're all having a great time next to each other. And so I'm very happy with mixed sex spaces. There's something about single sex spaces on the men's side or the on the women's side. that it creates an energy that you will only get in single sex spaces.
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And that I think is, you know, for me personally, I'm actually comfortable with doing that type of behavior in mixed spaces as well. I know, like, even probably the majority of people are not. So, however, I do also respect that marginalized people on all sides of spectrums here have created a space themselves and have said, this is by us, for us, and we have to respect that.
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Savage Lovecast Episode 931
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